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Hey...today is my birthday (16th)..and my parents said i could probably get my belly button pierced for it.

I found a trustworthy place to get it done...but rumor has gone around that theres a new law in Pennsylvania that you have to be 18 (even if you have your parents with you) to get it done. Has anyone else heard this.

Also...if any of you have yours pierced...could you give me any disadvantages of getting it done...? I am active (soccer and basketball)...so will it get infected constantly?

Thanks!!

In Pennsylvania you have to be the minimum of 16 yrs. old to get any piercings/ or tattoos. But you can get this done, as long as you have your parent/ guardian only to sign for the piercing and you MUST bring your i.d. or birth certificate or proof. No one, other than your parents/ guardians are allowed to consent to this. That means, no brothers/sisters/friends who are 18 or older. If they are other than your parents you must bring, documented papers or emancipation papers. But To be sure this is correct you may want to ask a reliable source.

You have to keep it cleaned, cleanse it out with alcohol after you get it done, but do not remove it. But if you play a sport, and you already have it done, I suggest you take it out, ONLY for that time being, and then put it back in.
But you may want to look at the disadvantages before you get it done. If you take out constantly it can get infected. Playing sports, it can get ripped out and can leave a scar. And it takes nearly up to a yr. before it heals.
But if you be careful, really careful you won't have any disadvantages at all :) Hope I helped.

omggg i really like this guy alott!! and its werid cus his two friends like me, and i could easily have them...but for some reason i want him, maybe because he dusnt act really flirty..i duno. hes like super shy, so i cant tell if he likes me or not, and its killling me!! cus i dont want to 'bug' him if he dusnt like me the least way...ive tried snooping, but got nothing....anyone know how to tell if a shy guy likes you?

(and its not as easy as "hes shy around you so he likes you" cus hes shy around all girls)

thanks in advance :]

Does he know you like him? Let him know.

If he is PAINFULLY a really shy guy then you may have to take intiative to go up to him. See how he reacts, and if he doesn't talk try talking to him, just in any way just don't scare him off.

1)Shy guys look at you when you're not looking.
Then when you catch him at it, he turns the other way.
2) He talks to EVERYBODY else BUT you.
He chokes on his words, and turns silent when you come around.
3)Smile at you from afar but when closer to you he won't look.
4)If his face turns red or his face is all flustered ,sweaty like.
5) He follows you,you see him in the same line, etc.
6) He mirror images you. If a guy likes you, he imitates what your doing. Ex: You have your hands folded, he has his hands folded. You cross your legs, he crosses his.
7) He fixes his clothes, mess with his hair,belt, touch his face.

To be sure, ask his friends if he likes you or ask his friends who likes and take it from there.

Hope this helps.

why are people always like "oh you shouldnt have sex you're too young, wait for marriage." just because one person believes you should wait til marriage doesnt mean everyone else does and has to abide by that. people shouldnt be judged on what age they want to have sex at. it is THEIR opinion. and if they regret it, at least they learned from it. everyone makes mistakes. it is their OWN lives and people shouldnt tell them how to live or what to do.
i know I HATE when people tell me what to do.
i can make my own decisions.

Well people are entitled to their own opinions. We're all diffrent people, and diffrent people have diffrent views, points, and opinions about something. In the US we are entitled to express our opinions, we're very fortunate to have that cause look in other countries they'll literally cut your head off just for expressing your own opinions.

Some people have diffrent beliefs, because of religion. Some people have the same beliefs , so when you're like say 12-19 yrs. old you're still a teenager you're most likely to hear grown-ups and their kids (which is why some of us say the same things because its learned from their parents and other people) that your to young to be having sex. Those ages in your life your still learning and are learning to become an adult. And most kids those ages 12-19 are still living with their parents so making a rational decision to have sex has MAJOR consequences; You just have to look at the outcomes.
JUST KNOW THIS:
1. There is always gonna be consequences for every decision or action you make, you just have to weigh them out and see which one has less.
2. Yes, EVERYONE is entitled to their own opinion, but there is ALWAYS going to be someone to tell you what to do.
Your going to have a job, if you don't already have one, you'll have one soon to support yourself. Your boss is going to tell you what to do, and you can't just throw that out cause he more than likley fire you.

3.If a person regretted a situation and learned from it thats okay but you just you want to be able to keep yourself from making these kind of mistakes, you can learn from other peoples mistakes, and prevent yourself from making that mistake.

4. Yes, you can make your own decisions but just think about the consequences and the outcomes.
If you are mature enough to think things through then I'm sure you're mature enough to make your own decisions.

5. There is ALWAYS going to be someone in your life who is going to tell you what to do, Thats all a part of life, you just have to deal with it.

Like when friends come and go, or someone is jealous of you, thats life. People have their opinions and they're diffrent, that's life.

Think things through before you get pissed off at someone telling you what to do, everyone has diffrent opinions and more than likely if you jsut listen to what people have to say, there is somewhere going to be a person that you'll likely to reason with.

hokayy.
here goes.
i like a guy.
everyone tells me i shouldnt.
cause hes a major player.
but he understands me like no other.
ive hung out w/ him a couple times.
it was hella fun.
my closest friends say go for it.
everyone else says no.
but next time i see him.
im gonna tell him how i feel.
i get mixed signals though.
now hes no virgin.
hes gonna be 15 in a couple days.
i turn 14 in january.
:D
i just dont know.
help?

Well thats your clue that he's already gonna be not so great boyfriend:

HE'S A MAJOR PLAYER.

If you've heard that most likely it is true.
He may understand you and stuff like that but
it'd be safe for you to keep him as a friend.
He could be a really good friend for you,but not as a boyfriend. These "mixed" signs need to be ignored, if he really likes you he'd be the first to initiate things, I don't think he would be shy cause keyword: MAJOR PLAYER. Let him be the first to intiate things, then you'll know if he really likes you.

Also, think about this, if you know hes not a virgin then he's more than likely not going to take things slow with you when you're alone with him and you also don't know how many girls hes been with or who so look at it from this perspective.

I'd tell you to follow your heart, but sometimes when you follow your heart, your mind is blinded into thinking things that are right when they really aren't.

Take him as a really good friend, you love to hang out with. Hope things work out for the best.

hi im sam. im 10 and i shaved my arms and i reallllly regret it. how can i make the hair grow back normal again? i picked a ranom category

When you shave your arms, they usually grow back fairly quickly, and your arm hairs will be thick and dark. So don't worry they will grow back in no time flat. Take it from me I shave my arms, but I shave them everyday just to keep it from being prickly. I also use nair removal, its great for the arms. Another suggestion is to wax it. But if you really like your arm hairs, then it will grow back fairly quickly, don't shave them again, and your arm hairs will grow back but sometimes they grow back darker and thicker. If you wait for your arm hairs to grow back and they appear darker, then you can bleach them, you can find this home kit at wal-mart in the hair removal section. Hope I helped.

How quickly after you have sex should there start to be symptoms of pregnancy?

symptoms of pregnancy :
missed period
tiredness, sore or enlarged breasts
headaches
nausea
and frequent trips to the bathroom
throwing up.

Some notice pregnancy symptoms as early as a week pregnancy begins — when a fertilized egg attaches to the wall of a girls uterus. Other girls don't notice symptoms until a few months into their pregnancy.

Taking a pregnancy test is the only way a you will know for sure ,so take one to be sure.
Hope I helped!.

Ok so some people say that if you put eyeshadow on your eyebrow bone ( below eye brows but above your crease ) then it looks good... but then some people say it looks bad. opinions????

for my eyelashes, when I put mascara on... it looks pretty and everything, but they're too spaced out so you can't see them from far. so how do I get them to clump a little together. Not a lot of clump, just a little so that it's more visible. When I do that with my mascara wand, more mascara gets on it and it just looks really messy. help!!!

for my eyebrows, well the shape is like this (
except face up... lol
and i don't know, it's just really bushy and when I try to tweeze them, they get so messed up and un even...... I hate waxing!!
I asked my mom to help me but she says later and always forgets (also she thinks i'm too young to tweeze my eyebrows... i'm turning 15 in a 3 months) So any advice??

for my hair, I am dying it permanently...but my mom is so insecure and she think's that if I dye my hair at this age, i won't stop dying it and it will fall out eventually.

Also for my hair, it's medium thick (so not totally thick) I straighten it a lot and its naturally straight, but poofy and frizzy. So I'm thnking about getting front layers, to thin it out a little. I need good shampoo and conditioner that helps my hair be healthy, not damaged, not dry, smooth, smelley and shiney.

i'm sorry if this was really long, I just need a make-over before school starts. thank you in advance

Yeah for some people it looks, bad. Sometimes it works sometimes it don't. And for me it doesn't.

Mascara: Before you use mascara use a lash curler, and a lash brush, asn then put on the mascara but light touches, not to much because they could easily spread out.

Eyebrows: Don't tweeze its really bad, some of that hair won't grow back if you keep tweezing them, and you have to draw them, I have to now cause my hair won't grow back. And you don't want to have to deal with that. So take some cuticle scissors (the ones you use when you get your hair cut) and push your hair with your index finger upwards and any hair that sticks out you snip that little bit out. It'll keep that polished look. Also, if you have to, you can draw on your eyebrows using a eyebrow powder, using a eyebrow pencil will be too harsh and follow along your your natural hair line.

Hair: Try using a semi-permananent dye since permanent can fry out your hair. Like clairol natural instincts http://www.clairol.co.uk/m/semi_permanent_hair_colour.htm
Clairol also comes with a semi- dye that is mousse like, you spray in your hair.

I personally use Garnier frutice products it has vitamins in it. And it smeels rellu good. Then when you straighten your hair try using John Frieda's hair serum to tame the frizz. Its about $4 for small bottle and & $7 for the big bottle. But totally worth the money hope I helped.

What is the average weight and body fat for a 17 year old female who is 5'5"?

You can check out your body mass index
here and it will tell you if you're at
the right weight. I personally use this
site, to see if I'm right where I'm at.
http://www.kidshealth.org/teen/food_fitness/dieting/weight_height.html Hope I helped! :)

At the begining of the school year last year , there was a guy in my Spanish class. Gradually we became really close friends, and the more I hung out with him, the more I relized that I really liked him. At both of my best friends pressuring, I told him that I liked him.

How I told him is that I wrote a note telling him. I know it was very childish to do so but I am happy now that I did not tell him in person.

His response to me telleing him was that 'He would never consider being more than friends with a black person.' His words exactly, then after a few days of me fuming and wanting to kill him, he says that he only said that to spare my feelings. He said that he really did not like me the way I liked him, but I think he was lying. Now I feel a little uncomfortable around him, should I tell him how I feel about him now? Or should I leave well enough alone. I'll take any advice. I am an African American female, and he is a white male.
We have currenlty (well he believes we have) settled down and are now still good friends, although I am not sure that the hurt I feel will ever go away, and I am not sure that our friendship can last. I thought he was a very nice guy, and besides what he said he has been a very good friend to me.

My friend thought that by saying he does not like black people, he would hurt my feelings less than if he said he did not like me. I find this very stupid, andhe should have said he just does not like me, and like a stated before, i think he lied about that because he only said it when I said I did not want to be friends with him anymore.. Even now, long after the sutuation 'ended' I still don't feel as comfortable around him as I used to. Please help. He has been a really good friend to me, I'm just not sure if I can stay friends with him.

((I've asked this question before. I did not get many answers though.))

Did he like you? Even if he said that? Regardless, maybe he thinks of you only as a friend, but it is rude that he would say something like that to your face. If you think he was lying you possibly could be correct,but its not reliable. If he was lying, I think he did this just to cover up he has feelings for you, because he's thinking of what other people might be thinking with of the both of you being together because yall are a diffrent race. I myself have experienced that. I'm half black, the guy was white and he said to my friend in a note : I like her, but only if she wasn't black.
It hurt,for awhile but I moved on. Diffrent people take a situation diffrently, and me personally just simply took it for what it was.
I just accepted him as a friend anyway it was better than nothing and I thought if he really liked me like he said he did, he wouldn't care what people thought of us regardless of what others think or their parents. I know alot of parents that don't agree with interracial dating and their kids will feel like they've betrayed their parents if they do, so they shy away from it. You'll find someone, a person that doesn't look at race, and likes you for who you are.The more people you meet, the better your chances of finding someone right for you. Meet them in quantity and you'll find someone of quality. I It may be uncomfortable to you to be around him but try,really hard this time. See where it goes, a friendship can last a longtime,better than him not being a friend at all. But if it doesn't work out, but if its really that uncomfortable then just drop,talk to him less. I don't think you have to cut him outta of your life completely, just make it less. Better than nothing, Hope I helped, if any :]

i'm 5'2 and 106 pounds, i know you might say this is normal for my height but i don't like my body at all. what are some excercises that i can do?

You're at the right weight for your heighth. To keep a good toned healthy body do 50 sit-ups before breakfeast, lunch, and dinner. And have a balanced nutrition. To be sure, check out this site to assure you : http://www.kidshealth.org/teen/food_fitness/dieting/weight_height.html , hope this helps. :)

i am a little chubby.
not, like. REALLY overweight.

im about 5'2 and 103-105.

i really want to lose 5-8 pounds

so my first question is-

is that possible to do in 2 months or maybe a little less with proper diet and excersise?

&

what kind of diet and excersise should i do?

thanks in advance.
!

You're at the right weight, you're not overweight. I'm same as you, but to keep fit I do crunches, and 100 sit-ups before breakfeast, lunch, and dinner. Also, you can check out your Body Mass Index and right weight for your age here:

:http://www.kidshealth.org/teen/food_fitness/dieting/weight_height.html

Hope I helped! :)

this guy i was talking to on AIM he's not a stranger but a friend of a friend and i found out he liked me. kay so when i found it out i rly liked him. well i liked his personality

then i saw his myspace pics omg he was ugly!
i know i am shallow but man if u saw him.
i know he cant help it guys cant wear makeup
and he rly likes me what do i do?
help?
please?

Well if you really don't like him, don't lead him on to think that you do like him when you really don't. Just simply tell him that you like him only as a friend. That will be the mature thing to do, leading him on only hurts that persons feelings. He should take it rationally, after all its better than not having you as a friend right? You like his personality, but you don't like him, so tell him you like him as a friend, see how it goes from there.
++ Looks do matter sometimes, but in the long run they don't, especially if the person has great personality. :) Hope I helped.

ok im 15 1/2 almost 16
and my bf is 18
i want to have sex with him because i love him and trust him
and i know all the consequences
but because he is 18 he doesnt want to have sex because it is "illegal"
is that right .
can someone please help me
i have been with him for 3 years and i love him with all my heart and i just think it is about time for sex . but is there really a low about age and sex ?
i hear something aobut 5 year difference
but i just want the truth

Well it depends on the sate you live in sweetie.
And its a 4 yr. diffrence. Some states its 16 in which thats the legal age you can have consented sex and the guy has to be 4 yrs. prior to your age. Look over these sites, for which state you fit in.
http://www.cga.ct.gov/2003/olrdata/jud/rpt/2003-R-0376.htm
http://www.actwin.com/eatonohio/gay/consent.htm

my two close friends are really "out there" like sexual and act really slutty, and whenever were out anywhere i feel like i dont fit in with them because i dont act like that. i have a lot of guy friends and i flirt but im not all sexual like them. i feel a lot uglier kinda beside them, so i hesitate to go up to guys with them. i dont know how i should look at the situation...

any advice/opinions would be great, thanks guys :]

You're okay. You just don't percieve yourself that way. You're diffrent, and being diffrent in this case is a good way. Be comfortable on how you are. These girls who put themselves out,most guys will say that they don't see them as girls who'd they'd want a relationship with anyway, these girls are there for hook-ups. Dressing sexy, acting sexual sends guys the wrong message, the message that you are easy to get to even if you may not want it that way, this will only cause problems and heartache for them later + plus, you only attract all the WRONG guys. Luckily, for you guys will see you as a girl they'd like to settle down with. Don't feel ugly beside them, you're beautiful in a classy way. Take it from me, I used to feel that way but I learned that it just proves I have more self-respect for myself. The way how your percieve yourself, it just means that you have more class and self-respect and that is a very beautiful thing. Just know that you don't have to dress sexy or act that way to get noticed by guys, you just have to have a boost of self- confidence in yourself, thats what guys notice, be funny, outgoing, you dont have to be sexual. Guys notice girls who take a stand for themselves.
Also, ++ being this way, you're a great rolemodel for the younger kids out there your'e sending them a good message. :)
Your'e a really great person, I'm sure and I know that others see you that way. Hope this helps, and be true to yourself!

i just need a vote. which do you think is more popular, or do you like more?

straight or curly

thankss :D

I have curly hair, and so I NOW prefer curly hair over straight. I think it has more personality to it than straight hair, but I straighten it if I want a more polished look.

well, im a 17 year old female and very mature for my age. i dont hangout with much people my age or from my school. i started hooking up with this guy, he just turned 24. we both like eachother and it sucks, because we already discussed we cant date because im just 17. since 18 is the legal age he says he wishes i was 18 but would prfer 20. it just really sucks cuz i like him alot now. and we talked about what we would do if we find other people or start hooking up with someone else, and he told me he`d probably not say anything, just stop talking to me. and yeah that sucks, but the worst part is , is that i`d be really hurt if that actually happened. what should i do and what can i say to him? i never get like this, never end up like guys, especially like this, i am not a clingy person

Age ain't nothing but a number. If you really like each other, you don't really see age as an issue. You say yall can't date because you're only 17, who says you can't date a guy whos 24?.
The law can't do something about that. It is only is an issue if yall have sex and tell. If yall do lay down low, it'll be trouble for him if you will tell.. It's not anyone elses buisness to be up in your buisness. + PLUS your close to the age of 18, if he can wait for you til you turn 18 to have sex, than he's a keeper.
You're not clingy at all if you think you are, you just found someone you really like, thats all and if its mutual and both of yall agree on things, then yall could pursue into a healthy relationship. So listen to your heart feels you should do

15/f

Okay, I realllly like this guy. & sometimes I wonder if he likes me back.
He acts like he does but then we dont talk for a long time. I met him about a month ago at an amusement park. But I kinda knew him before.
Anyways, he messaged me on myspace maybe 2 or 3 days ago. & he said that he was in Tenn. & that he would come over to my house when he got back the next day. But he didnt? & then I messaged him back telling him that he was supposed to come over, i noticed that he read it, but he never replyed. It kinda pissed me off and I really like him alot. & He said all I want to do is hold you and kiss you, im not going to try to do anything that you dont want to do. and I thought that that was really sweet and not a lot of guys do that. Ever since that I cant stop thinking about him, literally and its breaking my heart. What do I do?

Thanks in advance and sorry its long.

He acts like he does and then don't talk to you for a long time? To me thats already pointing out the sign of a red flag right there.

He's playing a game with you. And wants to see if you WILL be willing to hookup with him anyways because he probably knows that you like him.

"I'm not going to try to do anything that you don't want to do".

That usually means he will try, and he is trying this on you already anyway, thats why he never replied back to you that one time, he's trying to see if you'll say " I will do it". Don't this guy is totally not worth it.

Save yourself from any more of an heartache in the future, don't fall for these guys with tiny little skeems so you can give up your innocence.
Its harsh and cruel but its true that alot of guys play on the "I like you card" and "You're too cute" when they don't really mean it. They just want a hook-up , and if you let them have it, they'll see you as an easy girl and trust me you don't want that.

Your still young, just be careful theres guys out there who want to take advantage of you. But don't let them. You deserve a better guy, whos surreal in what he's saying. You'll find a good guy, you just have to be patient, you have your whole life ahead of you, Hope this helps!

Ok well everyone tell me im a veyr healthy person and even the doctors and stuff but I have a TINY dark spot under ym eye kinda like bags but I always get good sleep and stuff but it wont go away.

I'm not stresed and I'm 13.

I tried sleeping more but it won't go away and i don't want to wear make up to cover it up because I'm a natural person and don't use make up.

And my skin is very healthy and looks the same everywhere so even though it's a little, it's still pretty noticeable.

Is this normal for people who don't wear make up?

Is this the reason why people start wearing make up, to hide things like these and when more things come up they depend on make up even more?

Or is it something different?

These could be the reasons:
1.It could be heredity, does it run in your family?
2.Or it could be that you're not getting enough protein.
3. Sleep, you're spose to get 9 hrs. at least, thats the healthiest
4.Do you have allergies? Allergies maybe the cause of that discoloration, you can take over the counter medications for those, or take a vitamin that has alot of vitamins if it has to do with allergies. Example: Soymilk has vitamins.

To help:
To help you can use a face mask that goes overnight, that can help reduce the discoloration. Tea bags to your eyes, cool tea bags that is or cucumbers to your eyes.
Eat healthy, reduce salt it can cause your vessels to turn blue.
Drink plenty and plenty of water.
It is normal if people do not like make-up if they like to be natural.
But you can still be natural even if you put make-up under your eyes. Use a CONCEALER that blends in with your skin, and thats all that you have to use. I don't consider concealer make-up cause you can hardly see it on your face. You use it to hide dark circles under your eyes, even if it is a tiny bit. I know plenty of women who just apply concealer and nothing else. It will be hard to tell if you had it on anyway.
Look at this site: http://www.maybelline.com/Product/Face/Concealer/pure-concealer.htm

That is 1. reason why people wear make-up to hide imperfections.And there is nothing wrong with that, everybody has imperfections. The other is to maybe feel good about yourself and impress others by the way you look. You can look natural even by wearing make-up too, you just use less, and just have to know how to apply it. These are the most definite reasons why people wear make-up, Hope this helps!

I really really want to be popular and I get so jealous at all of the pretty, popular, perfect gurls. How can I overcome this jealousy?

When you're still in school, being popular you think, is the most important thing but I've come to realize its not. It's all about having self-confidence in yourself. Talk to people, be nice to everyone, but don't be fake. If people see that you are a nice person to other people you will most certainly get respect, and most importantly you'll have respect for yourself.
And when you build self -confidence then you consider yourself popular. And also, noone on this world is PERFECT, their is no such thing.
++ Try talking to these girls maybe that will help break barriers, say hey. That's all you have to say or comment on their outfit their wearing. This can help.
Being popular isn't everything its cracked up to be. Just be happy with yourself and hang out with whoever your comfortable with. Hope this helps.

so i got my period like 3 weeks ago and its still going. sometimes its heavy sometimes its not.. and at one point i actually thought it was done with and then it came back. this isnt my first time getting it but i do have abnormal periods.

16/f

should i be concerned? whats going on?

Yes you should be concerned, and having period that lasts longer than 3 weeks is abnormal. You should see a doctor, you may have hemophilia, get an exam blood test, the treament you should get for this is based on the results.

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