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Hey, I might be going to meet Nicky Hilton tommorrow [if you don't believe me don't bother commenting because I will not rate you highly]. What should I wear? I was going to wear my THAT'S HOT tshirt with a Juicy sweatsuit set, but I thought it might be cheesy, considering Paris says that! Thanks ♥ (link)
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Be yourself I guess. *shrugs*
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Well me and my boyfriend have exsperimented "below" the belt. He never said anything before, but now hes complaining about me not shaving. I shaved once before, now i usually just trim. When i shved i hated it i couldnt stand it, it itched and hurt and it was annoying. What should i do? (link)
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He doesnt HAVE to touch you there..am I right?
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im 16 and had a baby 3 months ago today.my mum and dad are strict catholics and demanded that me and my baby)s father to get married.well me and the babys father split. so my mum and dad were like "i told u so". i left home and moved into a council flat.i have got exams this yaer and im finding it so hard.even tho i have paid childcare thoughtout the day im so tired to do anything.my mum said that i had her and so shes my responsability.im getting desperate now and even thought about adoption.has anyone got any good advica on how to cope. the last thing i want to do is say to my mum that she was right.sorry its long. (link)
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Okay, I know you dread admitting to your mom that she was right, but you have a baby now, and believe it or not some things your mother says may be something you could learn from. (Whether it's what you want to hear or not)..but I mean she could end up changing her point of view (whether you think so or not) and she may be there for you more than you think. I mean I know the budget may be tight at this time, but like you said you had childcare throughout the day. You can rely on that for now as you get through school and things like that, and having a steady job.
You can do this. It's just a matter of gaining the strength.
I wish you all the luck in the world.
`jessie
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i hate liars and my boyfrined lies constantly.. not so much to me.. but sometimes to me.. i cant always tell if hes telling the truth.. i guess sometimes his lies are for my benefit? we also really like eachother.. what should i do (link)
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I'd give it a little time, and if it happens like one or two more times or something..I would break up with him if I were you. That's just my opinion though. I mean, it's not like you're in love but I know it would be hard still because you really like eachother. But maybe if you STRESS to him how important it is that he is honest, and as long as you're completely honest with him, see how it goes from there.
Good Luck.
`jessie
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i'm 15/f. i was at my aunt/uncles house today. me & my cousin were in the basement. her dad came down to look at his cellphone, then went back upstairs. once he left, my cousin said "i think my dad is having an affair." she opened up the text messages on his cell & they were from the same woman. they said "yeah what we're doing is so wrong i hope no one finds out" etc. my aunt & uncle have always had marriage problems, but as of now, me and my cousin are the only ones who knows about his affair. I asked my cousin if she's going to tell her mom and she said "NO WAY I'LL GET IN SO MUCH TROUBLE FOR LOOKING THRU HIS PHONE AND I DON'T WANT TO CAUSE ANY PROBLEMS!" She doesnt seem to care tho, but i'm so freaked out and my question is, what should i do, (should i do anything at all...?) (link)
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Talk to YOUR parents. Maybe they can find some way to keep it clean yet honest.
I hope I helped.
Good Luck
`jessie
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i have figured out what i have gotten for my other teachers except of science. but we took a final that empacted on our report card grade. but i am not sure if i did well on the test. what should i do to calm myself down? (link)
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I'm the same exact way as you. I get very worried about my grades and feel incredibly pressured, it's like ENDLESS or something.. But yeah -- just sit back, relax..maybe ask your teacher your grade on it and see where it goes from there. Just do the best you can (which I'm sure you do)..but there's really not much else to do but stay calm so you don't feel overworked or anything..because that can leead to so much stress and other things.
Good luck
`jessie
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ok well i have a boyfriend and i like him a lot we talk on line and sometimes on the phone (i always call him he never calls me) and at school we don't talk at all. i am his first girl friend he has ever had but i can't stand not talking to him. i want to talk to him at school but i'm shy and hes shy not good not good at all. i was just wondering what i should do? i rate high (link)
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Um..no offense and I know you are shy and stuff, but I mean, why would you guys start dating if you're not going to converse ya know? You have the right to talk to him. Don't feel awkward, I mean..he's your BOYFRIEND.
And don't worry, obviously if he hasn't broken up with you by now you must mean SOMETHING to him. I mean I know sometimes you can get nervous and stuff, but if you both aren't comfortable around eachother then you should really get to know each other as friends and hang out as friends before you start dating.
Either that or just go up to him and say "hey"..and ask him how he's been doing and stuff...or ask him if he wants to go to the movies (could be with a group of people too if it's more comfortable)...
good luck.
`jessie
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hey im 15 f, are most teenage girls out there depressed? is it just a faze we go through or is it just certain individuals that are insane.. its not like i have had a hard life but i am always sad and pessimistic about everything. i feel like i dont deserve anything and no one likes me. i have been diagnosed with 'anorexia' i think they are wrong tho, i am a heavy drinker and i smoke pot often, and people are starting to notice the scars on my arms and wrists from cutting.. i put on a front when i with people but when i am by myself all i can think about is death.. i dont know why i am like this i dont have a reason to be, i was just wondering does anyone else feel this way!? (link)
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A lot of times it's just a phase..but then again there are teenagers out there who have reasons to be depressed (not that its good) and who have had difficult pasts and are still trying to get over them.
I feel the same exact way. When I'm with my friends I can be sooo happy and stuff. But then when I'm alone I'll cut, steal (stuff from stores), and all I could think about it death/suicide (not saying Im suicidal, I just think about it)..and hurting myself.
You may want to talk to someone about it. Yes I know, you probably don't want to, but I mean it's amazing how certain people can drag you out of the emotional bubbles around you. It's happened to me before. I mean that's why when I'm around people I feel a little better if we have serious conversations, but then again sometimes I'll feel sooo incredibly lonely no matter who I'm around. I could be around my best friends in the world and my relatives and still feel this empty hole inside of me, and it doesn't go away. If it does it comes back most times...
But there's a lot more people like this then you think, so try talking to someone who you trust and who you know won't judge you.
I really hope I helped. Don't worry if you take care of yourself and confide in someone or find someway to get your mind off if it, you'll be fine.
good luck..
`jessie
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i think i have social anxiety. i have loads of the symptoms from this site i went on, like i'm scared to be anxious, and also when a teacher tells us we can ask for help, i can't, incase anyone is watching or listening and i might make myself look stupid, or something. but the thing is, my mum doesn't believe me, i broke down in tears in the car today and i said i probably have social anxiety (i'm scared because i have to do work experience, i've been placed in an estate agent and i don't want to BE an estate agent). she thinks i'm just shy, but the thing is, on this site it says people will often say you are just shy, but it's worse than that, i do want to be all social but i get scared i'll make a fool out of myself. what can i do about it, cos it's affecting my education and i don't have a social life =( thanks xo (link)
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i/m me I know about this stuff.
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I feel like the worst person in the world. On March 17 me and my boyfriend of 3 years got into a huuuge fight because he cheated on me. Our relationship was sooo good and we always got told that we were the role model for couples, well anyways..we got into a huge fight and we said things that we didnt mean and I told him that I wish he wasnt in my life and he would just die because I hated him so much, those were my exact words. Later that night at 11:26 I got a phone call from his sister (we were really close, she was like a little sister to me) she was crying really hard and she told me that she had found him in his room laying on the floor, dead. I didnt even know what to do with myself. He had taken a gun to his head. She read me a note that he left and it said "I'm so sorry, I love you so much" thats all it said, and he had the date that we started going out until forever carved into his arm. That night when my parents found out they tried to comfort me and all that but I just didnt want to be around anyone. I went to my room and I cut myself so bad and my mom walked in and stopped me and just held me and I cried for hours, with my wrists bleeding, and I fell asleep crying in my moms arms. I'm getting help now. I went to his funeral and it was the hardest thing I've ever had to do in my life, I fell to the floor when I went up to his casket at the wake and his mom had to pick me up and just hold me while we cried. I go to his house all the time and talk to his family and just tell them how sorry I am and we talk about all of our memories. I havent slept since the night it happened, and I havent been to school, the doctors say I probably wont go to school for about another month, I might be homeschooled. I can't even look at myself anymore. I can't beleive those hateful words were the last words I ever got to tell the love of my life. I'm sorry it is really long but does anyone have any advice on how to help me get through this? (link)
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*crying* I really am..not joking.
He loves you, don't you worry...he loves you and it says so in the note. I mean the note wasn't for a good purpose at all, but don't worry because if he didn't care about you and if he didn't forgive you he wouldn't have written that he loved you.
He probably had his own internal emotions that he's been hiding for a while. It was not your fault. You didn't make him turn the gun on himself, and you didn't hurt him phsically. We all say things we don't mean, but you didn't make him commit suicide. Don't think that, and you're not a horrible person. If you were a horrible person do you honestly believe you'd always be apologizing to him and his family every
time you see them? And you do honestly believe you'd be crying over him? If you were a horrible person you'd just shake it off and move on immediately..which you didn't.
You're a great person...you don't run away from this problem like it never happened. You don't just forget. You face it and are truly distraught by it. You love him, and you wouldn't intentionally hurt him.
You're not a bad person. Remember that.
`jessie
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sometimes when im in the car i imagen getting in a car wreck and dying. and i also imagen other ways that i could die but there all normal...(not like sucide or anything.) is this normal?
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very normal. Dude, I'll like walk down my hallway and it will be really dark or sometimes I'll be walking down the road and then I like flip out inside because I imagine a guy jumping out and grabbing me or trying to rape me. *pause* haha.. so yeah it's compleltely normal.
`jeSsie
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im petrified of dying,evry time i think about it i have butterflys in my stomach and i feel sick. i usally think about it wen im about to go to bed then i carnt sleep.how can i stop feeling so scared of dying?i dont wana see a therepyst.is this normal?
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This is completely normal. I know how you feel. I used to be like that, only I used to freak out in my mind when I thought about OTHER people dying. It made me sick too.
If you think a therapist will help, then go right ahead. Nothing wrong with that.
It's not abnormal to be afraid of this..or even to be petrefied of this. It's a normal part of life...
How long have you been this petrefied for??
good luck - it will be okay.
`jessie
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Hey well none of my parents are home and I have like really bad swollen glands, and I was wondering if like I could take an ibprofin or whatever they are called? (sorry I can't spell) Because they hurt and I can bearly move my neck and head. (link)
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Hmm..well I mean if you're able to call your parents when they're out, call them. If not gargle with warm salt water. I know, gross...but it helps after a while. Also drink tea (with limited amount of sugar).. and possibly get some rest if you have head, or other aches.
hope I helped.
`jeSsie
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I have been having sever pain around my bladder and that area. I know I have a cyst on both of my overies, and they could be getting bigger. I am scared to go to the doctor, because I don't like getting invaded. Should I go no matter what? (link)
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*nods* yes. You'd regret it if it got worse. Plus, if it DOES end up being something serious and you waited really long for it to get checked out, you're gonna get more invaded then you could imagine..
good luck
`jeSsie
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Ok, about a month ago I noticed a small lump around my crotch.. I have just noticed it getting bigger.. Its about 5mm long, and 2mm high.. what do you think it is? could it possibly be cancer? if so.. what sort?
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Doctors.. they're known for that sorta stuff. ;)
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ok well whenever i go to the bathroom, i look at my underwear and theres this like clear slimy gooey discharge and i havent gotten my period yet ... what is this ? im 13/f HELP! (link)
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That means you should get your period soon, actually. So if I were you I'd start wearing a pad for now.
good luck
`jeSsie
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Ok, Im in love with this girl Renee. She is the greatest thing that ever happened to me. I went away with her for a weekend and I was really happy... she was really happy.. We kissed and stuff. We fell asleep in each others arms. The next day when we were heading home she was kind of distant. I noticed it and asked her if she was having second thoughts. she said she didnt like me as much as I like her and that the feelings the felt that night had gone away.. I still love her, deeply, I think about her all the time, and we still talk, but I dont want to love her but I cant help it and its killing me, I'm afraid if I stop loving her, I'll stop liking her all together, and I really dont want that to happen.. Im not entirely convinced that her feelings for me are gone, I think she is just hiding them, not wanting to be hurt... but I'd never hurt her!
What can I do? Should I just keep trying to get over her? Should I persist? Could my theorys be true that she is just hiding her true feelings? HELP!!
17/m (link)
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You're theory could definitely be true. Maybe she's been hurt in the past. I know I'm like that.. I mean, I'm one of those girls who has trust issues in a way. Like I'm always afraid I'll be holding people back if they're around me. Either that or I'm afraid I'll get hurt and I cant afford anymore hurt right now, but I don't know why I feel/think this way.
Maybe that's how Renee feels. It's just something inside that pulls at you..you just have to be the best person you can be for her, respect her (which you do)..and like you said, never hurt her. But I know exactly what you're saying, and she could very well be hiding her feelings she has for you. But at the same time she could be telling the truth. It's a complicated situation...and if you love her, like truly love her, then cherish her whether she loves you back now or not..because you never know what could happen in the future.
lots of luck --
`jeSsie
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My boyfriend and i have been dating for the past 5 months. We go to the same high school, but next year he is going to a public school and leaving me at the private school we both go to now. He has had sex before and i havent. He wants me to but i tell him im not ready and he says he can wait. I love him so much and he tells me he loves me to, i just am nervous to have sex with him and then he will leave. and i dont want the condom to break and im stuck having a kid. Plus the main promblem is what will god think of me? Please Help!!!!!!!!! (link)
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You're one of those girls who respects herself arent you??..*pause*
AWESOME!! =D
But if you're not ready, then you're not ready. You're actually being smart unlike most girls, and you're actually THINKING about the fact that he could leave you or you could be stuck with a kid. (not that he WOULD leave you..Im just saying)..you've thought out every aspect and if you're thinking about these things now, then maybe you're NOT ready. But that's not a bad thing.
Plus, you have a good guy, whose sticking by you whether you loose your virginity to him or not. When you're ready you'll know, dont worry.
`jeSsie
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ok im 13 female and i started cutting because family and friend problems and i stopped 4 like 2 weeks and then i got so mad and deprest i cut again and now i want to really bad but i promised myself i wouldnt do it again because im scared someones going to find out about it and send me to a mental home or something beause of it and i have thought about killing myself one or twice but i havent gone threw with it yet but i trie to hide it from my mom and my teachers so i dont wear shorts or anything and i wear a jacket most the time so that no one see the scares but i really need help and i was going to tell someone about it but im to scared so can anyone give me advise because i could really use some right now??? please help (link)
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I cut too. Haven't in 16 days though because I'm trying realllyyy hard to stop. I wear long sleeve shirts and Im ALWAYS wearing pants because of this, you wont catch me wearing shorts.
I know how hard it is, but you don't need it. I'm trying to figure that out for myself still. My parents know about me, I'm not gonna lie my mom was FLIPPING OUT.. but my parents didn't put me into a mental hospital or anything. (thank god).. but when they found out I actually suggested therapy for myself. Yes I know, odd. But it's better than them always being worried about me. And I figured it'd be away to just talk out my problems instead of being so angry adn depressed all the time.
Just tell your parents you're really DOWN a lot, and you think it would be a good idea to start group therapy with a bunch of kids who have personal problems, that way you can talk your problems out before they grow into something bigger. (you dont have to tell your parents you cut in order to go to group therapy..unless you wanted to (which you dont)
Also, if you start group therapy, it won't only sneak by your parents but it really WILL help you, because I've been going there for like 2 months now. Once every week and it's been really helpful, and everyone listens and stuff and lets out their problems.
It makes you not feel ignored for once.
Either that or you can stop cutting on your own. Willing to try?
good luck with everything.. it'll be okay.
`jeSsie
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i really like this guy, K, and i think he likes me, but i m 2 shy to ask. my friend, E, has found out, or so she thinks that he likes me, but i dont know for sure. i m so worried that if he asks me out and i have to say no, cause im not allowed to go out that he willl stop liking me!!! if that happens, i wont survive!!!! wat should i do??? sorry its soo long!!! (link)
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It's really not that long of a question, =)
but yeah..Um..if you cant date then you cant date ya know?
I dont know what else to say, because I know how difficult parents can be. But I mean you can go out with a group of friends sometimes and he could be in that group. That way your parents wouldn't know, and I mean, it's not like it would hurt, and you two would still be able to be a couple... just hang out a little differently until you're allowed to date.
Really hope I helped.
`jeSsie
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