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Should i wait
My boyfriend and i have been dating for the past 5 months. We go to the same high school, but next year he is going to a public school and leaving me at the private school we both go to now. He has had sex before and i havent. He wants me to but i tell him im not ready and he says he can wait. I love him so much and he tells me he loves me to, i just am nervous to have sex with him and then he will leave. and i dont want the condom to break and im stuck having a kid. Plus the main promblem is what will god think of me? Please Help!!!!!!!!!
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First of all how old are u?
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What will God think? God intended sex for marriage, and for only married people. Your boyfriend, however judgemental this sounds, seems like a typical guy, just going for the sex. Yu have sex with him, he meets someone better at his new school, dumps you, and what are you left with? Potential diseases, and the lifelong regret of you "first time" being with a total jerk. Sorry if thats too harsh, but i hope i helped!
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follow what ur heart says to do if you dont feel comfortable w/ it then dont do it!
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"True love waits"
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hey! well i havent been put in this situation, but you can love someone without showing your efections by having sex. if u dont want to, tell him, ig he really loves you, he will understand, i dont think you should. God will be right there watching you, and honestly i think uwill have guilt for the rest of your life if you are a true Christian! but God can always forgive, but to make the right choice i would wait until you are married. but u can still love him by showing other sexual moves but just not having sex.
hope i helped
<33
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If your not ready to have sex then dont even think about it! just because he says he cant wait does not mean you should compramise what you believe about yourself. by sayingthathe is presuring you and he shouldntbe doing that. heshould respect that yousaid that you are not ready.
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There's only like one good answer for this...Dont do anything you dont want to do. If you're having second thought about it, and you're very nervous about the whole thing, dont do it. Wait until you can handle the responsibility and consequences of sex. Dont let your boyfriend pressure you into anything. Believe me, guys ask me all the time for sex, bjs, hjs and stuff like that and i just say no because well, let me just say, it doesnt seem like its all its made out to be. And, its kind of gross if you think about it. About the God thing, Jesus died on the cross so you can have forgiveness of your sins. If you choose to do it, He will forgive you. I promise you. Hope I helped...
---sexisarabeara04---
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Okie dokie. If you are not 700% you're ready for sex- don't do it. Sex isn't really a bad thing so to say, because it can be a act of love. But it is bad if you are pressured into it. Sit him down and tell him you're not ready at all. Try to tell him how you feel about it.
And personally, relgion has a lot of different perspectives. But really, what I think is you should wait until you are in love (and not that dumb love that people always say they are in and they know they really could give two shxts if that person died. The 'bible' says to wait until you're married... Just wait until you're ready. If you're morals are that not to have sex until you're married tell him that. If you are afraid he will leave you once you do (which is how I am all of the time and the reason why I'm a virgin ;D)just...don't. do. it. ;D Good luck.
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Your situation sounds a little hard, but I am thinking that you want to have sex just to say that you've had sex. You don't sound ready, though you worry about him leaving before you get to do it, and then you are afraid that he will leave you with a kid by yourself, which wouldn't happen. If this guy, and his parenrs cared, they would put their lives into the childs' life too, but that isn't the point. God loves everyone, and even if you did have a kid or had sex at a young age, there would be a lot of teen girls that God wouldn't be happy with. But thats not how it is, he will love you no matter what. So, you still need to wait, the only problem that I see you have is, what are your plans when he goes to a different school?
-TheTeenGirl
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You're not ready to have sex. That's it. If you have even the slighest doubt about having sex you shouldn't go through with it. If your boyfriend loves you he'll be ok with waiting until you're ready. If he's not ok with waiting he's not worth having, especially if he can't respect your choice.
<3Jules
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You're still in school so unless you want to quit (a bad idea) you should hold off. So what if he's had sex? It's not a race. As a reformed young punk, I've had my share of conquests and that's what they were - conquests. Wham, bam, thank you ma'am. After the deed was done, I cared not once what happened to the girl. If you think about the long run, you will most likely have another boyfriend before thoughts of settling down get to you so there's no rush. True love can wait while lust waits for no one. In response to your side question: God gave you a brain for a reason - use it. It pisses me off that a lot of ppl blindly follow what is in the Bible without understanding the reasoning behind it. God says you may do this and God says you may do that. But few will actually listen to what God has actually said and taken into account that what the Bible is (to steal a phrase from Pirates of the Caribbean) is a set of guidelines as opposed to actual laws. As said before, you were given a brain - use it. God also gave you the concept of free will - the able to do whatever you want. But with that free will comes responsibility. You must be responsible for your actions.
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Ideas and fantasies dreamt with human whimsy do not think of you.
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I'm sorry to say, but if you boyfriend really loved you and respected you, he wouldn't force you to have sex. Have sex when your're ready, not when you're pressured. I'm being honest, and I don't want you to end up being hurt...but, I think he just wants to get in your pants. But you should sit down and talk to him and explain to him that you're not ready. And if hes a butt-hole about it, hes really not the one for you, because he doesn't respect your wishes or your body.
MAd love,
Victoria
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i think you need to wait. The bible says you need to wait until you are married. Its not right to have sex before you are married, but most people do. Sorry if this is not much, hope it helped.
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You're one of those girls who respects herself arent you??..*pause*
AWESOME!! =D
But if you're not ready, then you're not ready. You're actually being smart unlike most girls, and you're actually THINKING about the fact that he could leave you or you could be stuck with a kid. (not that he WOULD leave you..Im just saying)..you've thought out every aspect and if you're thinking about these things now, then maybe you're NOT ready. But that's not a bad thing.
Plus, you have a good guy, whose sticking by you whether you loose your virginity to him or not. When you're ready you'll know, dont worry.
`jeSsie
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wait, im sure there is nothing worse than being a preggie teen, if he really loves you he will wait until you are ready and still stay commited to you when you are at different schools. if you do decide to have sex, get on the pill and use a condom, just to be safe :o)
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well first of all if he loves you enough then he would care enough about your feelings and would wait on you until you are ready to have sex. now sex is a big thing.. you shouldnt do it with just anyone, especially if its your first time! you will know when your ready.. trust me.. and you should wait for a person that you love and truly care about and they feel the same way about you.
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if ur not ready he should leave it at that it is ur dicision and if he isnt fine wit that then he isnt a good bf...
*~brit~*
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Hun you should wait..you apparently arent ready for this..you are stressing yourself out over this and it shouldnt be like this.. you shouldnt have to worry about him leaving you after you have sex you should be more confident bout this whole thing.. and if he loves you he'd be more respectful bout this and wouldnt rush you.. maybe get on birth control or something before having sex with him.. so you dont worry about the whole condom and baby thing.. and being nervous is pretty normal cause it would your first time.. um i think you should wait i mean i understand you love him and everything but your worrying about too many things..much luv dez x0x0
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i think you should wait. if hes had sex before, obviously hes not with the girl anymore. think about that. did he dump her right after.5 months isnt really thatlong.if the time is right you wont be nervous it will just feel right.
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dont have sex till ur married...its in the bible.
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If you don't feel as if you are 101% ready, then DON'T. I'm not trying to preach, but five month old relationships in high school really aren't too promising. If you have ANY doubts in your mind, then you are clearly not ready for this type of committment - which isn't necessarily a bad thing.
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You dont want to and your not ready so dont do it. He said he'll wait, so he'll wait. If you dont want to do it at all, then tell him that. Dont lead him on. God says in the bible that your body is a temple for God, and that its not even your body. It's Gods, he created it. He says that you should wait until marraige, and if not...you commit sin. Sins are forgiven yes, but that doesnt give us the right to blow off God and sin! Hope I helped ! And if he doesnt like you anymore because you wont have sex with him...then hes not that good of a guy to go out with!
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just stick your ground... he sounds like he respects your opinion cauz he said he'll wait... if he asks you to have sex again just say... "i love you... but there are so many consquemces and things could go wrong... plus its not a good thing for my religion." tell him everything you feel.. if he really loves you... he'll understand.
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