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social anxiety.
i think i have social anxiety. i have loads of the symptoms from this site i went on, like i'm scared to be anxious, and also when a teacher tells us we can ask for help, i can't, incase anyone is watching or listening and i might make myself look stupid, or something. but the thing is, my mum doesn't believe me, i broke down in tears in the car today and i said i probably have social anxiety (i'm scared because i have to do work experience, i've been placed in an estate agent and i don't want to BE an estate agent). she thinks i'm just shy, but the thing is, on this site it says people will often say you are just shy, but it's worse than that, i do want to be all social but i get scared i'll make a fool out of myself. what can i do about it, cos it's affecting my education and i don't have a social life =( thanks xo
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Talk to a doctor, first and foremost. ONLY someone with medical knowledge can diagnose disorders, so while you may or may not have SAD, your physician will know for sure. If this is something you're really concerned about, then tell your mom that you want to see a doctor about this--be insistent, and if she won't do it, then you may have to set an appointment up by yourself.
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You problem with not asking for help because you fear of looking stupid, is the most common fear in school. But, heres the thing, you don't have to ask them in front of everyone, but I am going to tip you on something. A lot of times when you sit in class, you can name the slackers, and then you have the "nerds" the smart people. Now, slackers are also people who don't know the answer to what you are asking, and nerds ask people for help too, and they don't say anything when someone else is asking. When you go to raise your hand and ask for help for the first time, think of nerds and slackers, its sound goofy, but it will make it easier on you. Another very good thing you can do is after class, not only ask the teacher the question you were afraid to ask, but you can say, "I'm sorry about me asking this after class, but I am really having trouble with asking this in class in front of everyone."
Now, about your mom, shes just having a hard time believing this, because shes just being a mom, and I'm sure you understand this. But, I am suggesting to see the school counselor. They are usually nice, and they like to help, and they could probably help you, they could also help you with letting your mom know that this is very serious, its not being shy, its more. Now, you may not have social anxiety, who knows, but what you are telling me sounds like being shy, I'm not sure how old you are, but if you are a teen, you probably do not have social anxiety.
-TheTeenGirl
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If you need to ask questions, you can always go to people after class when no one is around. DOn't care about what other people think when you ask a question. People in your school probably feel the same way you do. You can always do some research for yourself and see what happens. Slowly make some friends and you can always talk about your problems with a counselor or someone you trust
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If you don't want to see a shrink, go to a regular doctor. Tell them what's going on and ask if they think Paxil will help you. If they can't help you they CAN reccemend you to someone who can. You do need help, and you are not alone. Big hug and much support!
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Let me note here: I am //NOT// a professional.
Is there any reason why you would be scared to make yourself look stupid? The reason why I ask this is because you said 'incase anyone is watching or listening'. It sounds like to me something in the past happened that made you felt embarrassed and you do not want it happening again. If there is a reason, there may be a possibility of being just hypervigilant(in other words, paranoid, except that is not the right word. It is very overused. Paranoia is part of psychosis, and I can tell you are not going through that right now. You would be having hallucinations and delusions.) from what happened in the past. But, if there is exactly no reason, or you think you are acting irrational, it sounds to me it is social anxiety. Are you having heart palpitations, sweating, or shaking while being near people? If so, I reccomend talking to your doctor. He may give you a referral to a specialist. You may not necessarily have it, but it is better getting this problem solved than suffering for years.
About your mom. She is not you. She does not understand what you are going through. You are the best judgement. If your mom does not allow you to see a doctor(I'm not sure how old you are. I am just guessing you are under 18) go to your school counselor. He may be able to convince your mom if he thinks you need to see someone about it.
Just remember this IF you are diagnosed. You are not alone. I am going through the same thing like you are. And that is one of the reasons why I see a psychiatrist and a therapist. I hope you get some help for this, because no one deserves to feel like that.
-ash
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My best friend has this same issue. What I'm about to suggest might sound like I'm putting you down but please don't take it that way. My best friend goes to therapy for it and it has helped her. Although she has just started almost a month ago she goes to group therapy and it really helps her. It also helps to find someone really out going and just to hang around them, thats what she does with me since I'm a loud mouth. It brings out her loud side or at least gets her more comfortable with the surrounding people since I'm making an ass out of myself it takes the whole spot light off her. So I would suggest therapy and or getting close to a loud mouth who makes an ass out of themselves in public ;) ... I hope it helps and again I hope you don't take the therapy thing the wrong way. Good luck and message me sometime if you like.
-Malicious
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