Hi everyone... I've got a Psychology degree so I like to think that i know a bit about how people think and why they do the things they do- maybe i don't know a thing, make up your own minds! Also i work with a youth group of girls aged 10-14 so that helps too! Anyway ask me anything no problem too big or too small and I'll do my best...
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Does anyone know where I can get a Juicy Couture sweat suit?..cheap? (link)
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http://search.ebay.com/juicy-couture-sweat-suit_W0QQfromZR40QQsojsZ1
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I am 15/f and I haven't had a crush in 2 years! Lately, I've been thinking, and I don't know if I am bi or straight! I want to be straight ..because everyone else is..and because it seems like the right way to live..but then my mind tells me that I could be bi..I am sooo CONFUSED! I really don't know what to do because I can't tell anyone! I mostly have girl-friends but I've never been attracted to any of them..sometime's I look at their butts and boobs..(but isn't that a normal thing that girls usually notice about eachother??) I am attracted to guys..sometimes when I saw a hot guy, I stare and tell my friends "Wow he's hot!" I'd like to think I'm straight but my mind keeps telling me I'm bi! I'm so confused! (link)
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Yeah its perfectly normal for girls to look at other girls when they're straight, the difference is when you're actually ATTRACTED to them. It sounds to me as if you're just going through a confusing phase in your life and maybe a major reason for why you're thinking like this is because you haven't had a crush in so long and therefore you think there's something wrong. And there isn't. This probably isn't much help but time will sort all this out. You'll work through this in your own time and the time will come when you really understand your sexuality- promise!! Good luck
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I'm almost 19 years old and everytime I have sex it still hurts. Not to sound weird but its like the first 4 inches dont hurt but as it goes in more it does. I've had it about 20+ times and tried different positions. Has this ever happened to anyone else or does anyone know why this still hurts? (link)
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Ignore all the stuff about you not having enough lubrication- they don't know what they're talking about! If that was the problem then it would hurt in the first four inches and you say it doesn't. Therefore i think you need to see your doctor because it sounds like theres something wrong internally. Probably nothing serious but you do need to see a doctor. It's embarrassing but doctors are so experienced with things like this and you'll get it sorted! Good luck
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I like this guy and he used to always look at me when i wasn't looking. When I turned we gazed into each other's eyes for a milisec. But now he doesn't really do that anymore. He knows that I like him because his sister told him. My friend likes him too, but he doesn't like her (thank god) lol. She doesn't really like him anymore, but whatever. I just want to get to know him and stuff like that, but I get a vibe thats like weird. I can talk to him, but I'm afraid of his reaction. He is also "talking" to another girl (I overheard him talking on the bus) Should I even bother liking him, but i still want to get to know him. I don't know what to do? Please help, I rate high.
~Linda
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It's that I just really want to get to know him and it is driving me insane (link)
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Just be wary- if you've got the vibe that maybe stuff is a bit weird and he's talking to another girl you don't want to get hurt. However you can still get to know him and then who knows what'll happen? Just start smiling at him and getting eye contact before anything. Then hopefully he'll respond to this, start talking to you and you'll end up getting to know him. Then maybe if he sees that you're interested in him he'll start liking you again. It may be the case that the only reason he doesn't seem to like you is because he doesn't think you're interested in him. Good luck
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My girlfriend broke up with me, and she said she still liked me. I still like her also obviously and she's is still like my best friend. How can i get her to really like me again, or get her to go back out with me? (link)
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Well if she has said that she still likes you this doesn't sound like too much of a problem! Just ask to talk to her alone and lay it out straight. Say that you still have feelings for her and that you'd like to make another go of it. If she has said that she still likes you you should get the response you're looking for! Good luck
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Hello, Im 28 and I was talking to a member of the opposite sex online one day, and I asked them what they were wearing at that time. They replied with the type of clothing they were wearing. They then unexpectedly turned the question around on me and said that since they had answered my question, I had to answer the same one for them. After some persuasion, I timidly admited that I was actually naked at that time. They did not take offence at knowing this. It felt risque at first, but afterwards, I felt kinda releaved to have been able to tell a member of the opposite sex that I was nude. Was it wrong to tell someone of the opposite sex about my nudity when chatting with them? Anyone else have any oppinions or suggestions? (link)
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It would only be wrong if that person was made to feel uncomfortable by what you said and it doens't sound like that was the case. Therefore don't worry about it although you probably shouldn't freely go around telling everyone you talk to online that you're naked! The way you did it was fine especially as you were persuaded into telling this girl the truth. Don't worry about this particular incident just be aware that not everyone may act in the same way!
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how sure are trojan condoms.. like what percentage?? (link)
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Use the extra strength ones and it'll be about 97% if you use them correctly.
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Ok so i am going out with this boy and its been 7 months and 20 days and he is moving to virginia and im still in florida and theres this boy named Doug and i really really like him a lot and i dont kno what to do??? do u stay with my bf which i dont see anymore or do i go for doug which i see every day????
-13/f if that helps (link)
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Go for the one you feel the most for. However at 13 you probably don't want to get into a long distance relationship although that is a possibility. Also it doesn't seem a good idea for you to be with your boyfriend if you've got feelings for someone else. Therefore, it's probably better for you to call it a day with your boyfriend. However don't immediately start something with Doug as you don't want it to be a rebound thing! At the end of the day just goes for what makes you the happiest!
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ok well i liked this boy for a really long time, and my friend told him i wanted to talk to him. Turns out he has a girlfriend but what got me was what he said. "I have a girlfriend now, but maybe when we break up." ok who says that? am i overreacting or something cause now i dont even wanna talk to him. Who thinks about when theyre gonna break up with the person they're with? does he think hes a pimp or something? ugh.. i jus wanna see someone elses view. thannks! (link)
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no you're right in thinking that- that's stupid whats the point in him going out with that girl if he's thinking about possibly going out with you? Then he'll probably just treat you the same as he's treating her if he goes out with you. It's refreshing to actually hear someone being sensible about the guy they fancy by the way!!!
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hey. im in desperate need of you to tell me everything you know about the low carb diet. I need to loose weight really fast. what foods can i eat and what foods cant i eat? how many pounds will i loose in the first week? summer is almost here and i htink i look horrible in a bathinsuit and i need to change that! please help!! (link)
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basically foods that are high in carbs are cake, biscuits, pasta, potatoes and bread- stodgy stuff! So try to avoid those and you should see results. As to how much weight you'll lose it depends on how overweight you are at the moment but it is possible to lose a max of about 6 pounds in the first week safely. Try just having fruit for breakfast or lunch that works really well for quick weight loss. Good luck
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hi i've been searching far and wide looking for downloadable mp3's from the band new order. i've tried dogpile, google, altavista, singingfish, just about anything you can imagine. the weirdest things is that dogpile used to have a load of links, but now the majority of the results aren't even relevant or play short clips of the songs.
does anyone know where i can find free downloadable mp3s to link back for background music? again, the band's name is new order.
thanks! (link)
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try limewire.com its great!
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where are some good places where i can download music onto my laptop?(it doesnt have to be free)and how does this work? if i want to listen to downloaded songs do i have to go on the website or do i not have to be on the internet? im asking because for my sweet 16 im thinking of doing the music from my laptop. is it continuous play or do i have to manually click the song? can i plug big speakers into the laptop? thank you for your help...5's to everyone somewhat helpful (link)
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go to limewire.com and download the program it is free and has absolutely every song you could possibly think if on it! You then choose the songs you want its so simple! Once the songs have downloaded onto the default media player on your laptop they stay there and you don't have to connect to listen to them. Also you can make it continuously play all the songs and yep you can plug speakers into the headphone socket on your laptop! aint technology grand??!!
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if a guy is 18...and im 15...doesnt that mean im "underage" for him or something like that? how does all that work? how old do i have to be until im not "underage"? and how am i "underage"? please just tell me how all this works....thanx :o) (link)
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Yes you're underage to have a sexual relationship with him and you will be underage until you turn 18. This is if you're talking about sex. Whether you're underage to have a non sexual relationship with him is a different matter but probably not a very good idea! All in all basically the law states that it is illegal to have a sexual relationship if you are under 18 in the USA. So therefore you are underage for him!
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I met a guy at a club and i went up to him first and danced all nite w/him and he asked for my number first. An hour after the club he called me saying he still wanted to chill with me, but i said im pretty tired for the nite, so he said to call him later on the day. So i called him, and we chilled for a little at the beach. But soon after he had to go and said that he had run arrands with his friends and if me and my friends were still at the beach later on to call him, other wise he can always visit me in LA since he lives in SD and he visits LA ocassionally. Any way almost a week is up and he still hasnt called me but acouple of days ago i text him saying, hello and what he has been up to.. he text me back an hour later saying that sorry for not getting back, hes been busy but he'll call me later. Its been 2-3 days since that text and he still hasnt called back. I called him today but got his voicemail. so what should i expect or do? he isnt interested, just just let it go..?
-confused need advice (link)
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It could be that he's just being male and annoying and it has slipped his mind but he's still into you! However you don't want to sound clingy as he'll quickly lose interest so i'd leave it for perhaps a week and see if anything happens. Then after a week send him a text asking if he is interested in meeting up again at some point or whether he'd prefer just to drop it as you were wondering if he was still interested! Its blunt and to the point but atleast it'll get the message across. Also if he is still interested it'll worry him into doing something about it as you're basically saying that you're going to stop contacting him if he doesn't reply. (which by the way is what i suggest you do if he doesn't reply!!) good luck
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Can anyone help me find information on Teen Pregnancy? (link)
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http://teenadvice.about.com/od/teenpregnancy/
http://www.pregnancy-info.net/teenage_pregnancy.html
http://www.pregnancy-place.com/teen_parents.php
http://www.teenwire.com/index.asp
Theres some places to have a look at!
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Ok guys here's the scope I got this girl that has had a crush on me for like all year. We got to know each other and after like 6 months we decided to get ingaged, but we were hiding it from her mother. I am in the army and I believe in being up front with ppl. She is to scared to even tell her mother we were going to start dating and now this. I am leaving to go to some training in like 3 weeks, and I can't wait for her to get some courage and tell her mother what's what. I decided that she must be ashamed of me, I broke up with her and called off the engagment. I did this because i don't really know her like I would like to and every thing seems to be an issue with her. Ok guys do your thing. And don't worry I always rate my ppl good. If you ever need some personal avdive you can talk to me I'm always straight forward. l8er (link)
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She's not ashamed of you- if she was ashamed of you she wouldn't have stayed with you this long! I bet all her friends know about the relationship so it can't be that she's ashamed of you. It sounds as if she's just scared that maybe her mum isn't going to like her having such a serious relationship with someone. Well that's my view on it me being female and all! So basically i think you need to talk to her about this. Ask her straight out why she won't tell her mum about your relationship. When you know that you can then think about whether you want to be with her or not. However, should you really have been engaged to a girl who you don't feel you know very well? Just a thought! Anyway talk to her! Good luck
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Im 16 years old and i just recently started dating a guy that i have known all my life since like the 6th grade and we are juniors now and never before have we looked at ecah other in the way of i like you but through some friends we started dating and we are happy. i mean i say that and we have only been together about a week. so as for right now we are happy. but hes really shy and i am really not shy. so when it comes to him kissing me and things like that he doesnt know what to do but i know he wants to because of the way he acts and our friends have told me this but hes just to shy to make the frist move hes just to shy. and he hasnt even held my hand or put his arm around me or anything and one of my other firends told me to spend more time together so we can be more comfortable around each other and we will hang out this weekend and we will just see what happends but if any one has any advice please tell me!!
heather
16 female
texas
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He just needs a bit of encouragement. Why not simply hold hands with him to begin with? Then maybe put your hand on the small of his back to encourage him to out his arm around you. Maybe give him a kiss on the cheek and see where it leads. He just needs you to make the first move and then he'll be fine. He's just really nervous bless him!
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My best friend is ALWAYS with her boyfriend. I'm never alone with her, hes alwas with her. Well, my grandma died on Tuesday. Wednesday I went to school and then to a baseball game with my best friend after. We didn't talk about my grandma at all. Thursday and Friday I was at the funeral and viewing. I wanted to see her Friday night and I find out shes going to a baseball game with her boyfriend. Is that ignorent or what? If his grandma died shed be spending even more time with him, she doesn't care about me and I just started crying my eyes out. I wasn't even crying at the funeral, I cried because she wasnt there for me. We've been so close for 3 years, and her boyfriend and her have been going out for 6 months. Am I being sensitive or am I right? What should I do? (link)
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You're right friends should always come before boy friends. To be honest and to give her the benefit of the doubt she probably doesn't realise she's doing it. She needs to be told gently otherwise you're going to continue to be unhappy. You need to sit her down and calmly explain that you've felt a bit left out recently and she wasn't there for you when you needed her. Don't turn it into an argument just quietly explain it. If you don't want to talk to her about it send her an email or write her a letter. She's your best friend she'll come to her senses soon enough!
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Hey. Im 14 and im in 9th grade.
I have 3 best friends and everything was great, until I started hanging out with this one girl, i'll call her Ashley. Well, I felt really bad for Ashley because her best friends,which are my friends too, stopped liking her because she REALLY got on their nerves. I thought that was wrong for them to not like her, but now im starting to see why. She is VERY annoying and shes just mean to her friends and follows people all the time. I can't be her friend anymore because when I was, my 3 best friends thought I liked her better. I also can't be friends with her because she is a total GEEK! I know this is mean but I tried telling her I couldn't be her friend and she didn't really get the message. Instead she asked me to go to an amusment park with her 2 days later. I don't want to hurt her feelings but I just can't be friends with her! What should I do?
*--Emily--* (link)
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You shouldn't not want to be someones friend just because everyone esle doesn't like her but i suppose if she's mean to people thats a pretty valid reason so here goes: Don't tell her again that you don't want to be her friend as obviously that didn't work last time. Everytime she invites you somewhere just make an excuse and if she tries to talk to you obviously talk to her and be civilised as it'd be out of order not to but don't talk to her as much as you used to. She'll get the message and soon find friends that like her for who she is!
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I usually don't have much trouble with my love life but I honestly don't know what to do right now.
The beginning of this year, this guy in my Physics class, Mark, and I got really close. We were both falling for each other. Well, we kept getting mad at each other for stupid reason and we're both stubborn. So, stuff happened and we never dated.
About a month after we got over each other, he gets a girlfriend. This girl is one of my good friends. I was extremely happy for them because they make just about the cutest couple ever.
After they're one month, he and I started getting close again. We were still friend but we were starting to flirt and play around more (not sexually but like tickling each other and cute things like that). At first I thought it was harmless. It probably is harmless but he's starting to act like he did when we had a thing for each other. And well, I think my feeling for him might be coming back also.
I feel terrible because I am such good friends with his girlfriend and I'd never want to hurt her. I think she might have an idea about Mark and me because on Saturday, she tried to set me up with a friend of hers. We double dated but Mark and I were paying more attention to each other more than the other 2.
Any advice on what I should do?
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OK you're going to have to try really hard not to flirt with him. It sounds hard and it will be but it will be worth it in the end. You don't want to lose this girl as your friend and at the end of the day she hasn't done anything wrong as you know. Just try staying friendly towards him because ignoring him altogether will mean that things will never happen with you two as he is going to think that you have lost interest in him. If you stay as you are and carry on being nice to him (and not flirting!) there relatioship is bound to fizzle out. Mark isn't going to spend much longer with your friend if he's got feelings for you anyway. This way you won't hurt anybody and hopefully you'll get what you want! Good luck
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