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LoL An advisor asking for advise. Lmao My G/F is driving me
Ok guys here's the scope I got this girl that has had a crush on me for like all year. We got to know each other and after like 6 months we decided to get ingaged, but we were hiding it from her mother. I am in the army and I believe in being up front with ppl. She is to scared to even tell her mother we were going to start dating and now this. I am leaving to go to some training in like 3 weeks, and I can't wait for her to get some courage and tell her mother what's what. I decided that she must be ashamed of me, I broke up with her and called off the engagment. I did this because i don't really know her like I would like to and every thing seems to be an issue with her. Ok guys do your thing. And don't worry I always rate my ppl good. If you ever need some personal avdive you can talk to me I'm always straight forward. l8er
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You did the right thing, by breaking up with her. If you two do get married, and she has something important to tell you, she may put it off like she did with her mother. It could end up effecting your future. However, If you two do decide to get engaged again, wait a year or two to get married. During that time period you should be able to get to know her better than before. However, it is the same with any couple. The engagement is the second hardest part...and marriage is the hardest. If you can't handle the engagement TOGETHER than obviously you two werent meant to be. Hope I was helpful...
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I think you did the right thing calling off the engagement. I don't know why she wouldn't tell her parents but, if she couldn't be honest enough with you to give you a darn good reason for not saying anything...
I really doubt that she was ashamed of you but siomething wasn't right. Good luck with your training. :)
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She's not ashamed of you- if she was ashamed of you she wouldn't have stayed with you this long! I bet all her friends know about the relationship so it can't be that she's ashamed of you. It sounds as if she's just scared that maybe her mum isn't going to like her having such a serious relationship with someone. Well that's my view on it me being female and all! So basically i think you need to talk to her about this. Ask her straight out why she won't tell her mum about your relationship. When you know that you can then think about whether you want to be with her or not. However, should you really have been engaged to a girl who you don't feel you know very well? Just a thought! Anyway talk to her! Good luck
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or maybe she just didnt want to tell her mom she was engaged? maybe she comes from a strict household? but really if you dont really know her why are you getting engaged? marriege is a serious thing. but yeah i reccomend going back to her and appoligizing, but i dont reccomend getting married until you know her better.
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You should talk to her and ask her why she wouldn't tell her mother about the engagement.
If she apologizes (And had a good reason about not telling her mom, like if she's shy, etc.) and you think the relationship will work, I think that you two should get back together if you both still love each other.
If the "everything being an issue to her" thing bothers you a lot, then I would talk to her about that, too. If she doesn't see it and she doesn't change her ways, it doesn't seem like it would work out and I would reconsider the relationship.
You two need to sit down and talk about your relationship.
But since you said you don't know her like you'd want to, I think you should keep dating if you get back together. 6 months isn't a very long time, so I would wait a while to get to know her better before getting engaged again.
I hope I helped and if you need any more help, feel free to leave a question in my inbox!
*Manders*
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