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Hey everyone!My name is Brina,I've been on this site for a few years, after not being on for a while, I figured I'd start up again, having more knowledge then before! I'm 19 years old and am going to be a sophomore in college this coming fall! Please feel free to ask me anything!


I'VE BEEN VERY BUSY WITH SCHOOL SO MY APOLOGIES IF I DON'T GET TO YOUR QUESTIONS RIGHT AWAY!

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Okay so I'm going to take a crack at this advice thing. I'm female.

I want to know what the heck is wrong with me. I dont think I am completely ugly and I even lost weight thinking that if I did that then maybe someone would be interested in me. I'm getting older and I am in high school. I've never even been asked out/ been liked.

Are all guys into blonde, stick thin, popular, sort of slutty type of girls?

I'm tired of seeing all my friends have relationships and stuff and im sitting on the sidelines. I hate this feeling. I dont want the advice that i just need to talk to guys and be friendly, because that doesn't work. Because I do talk to guys.

Maybe I'm just unlikeable. I have no clue.

Your not unlikeable. Not all guys are into that blonde stereotype, do all of your friends that have boyfriends look like that? I didnt think so. Your not the same as anyone else, and their will be guys out there for you. They just havent came around yet. You a fishy in the sea, and their are many othr fishys out their, so just be patient. Talking to guys actually is a good step, most guys think its cool if a girl is brave, say by asking them out. Guys arent the only ones that need to ask people out, it must kinda sucks for them, thinking they have to. Go to a teen club or something, or a party, and introduce yourself to some guys. You don't have to change yourself for any guy.

Hope I helped!

-Brina

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hey. well, i'm 14/f. and i'm going to be starting high school. now, in middle school and stuff, i totally had my own style. like, i didn't wear hollister and ae, and pricy brands like that. i got things from like, charlotte russe, and the buckle, and wet seal and stuff. well, over the summer, that sorta changed. i got a few shirts from hollister, and a few shirts from ae. but idk if thats what i wanna do. i mean, i still wear clothes from wet seal and stuff. but i kinda liked having clothes that were just cute and not all brands. i mean, i don't really care what people think of me. but i'm not sure what to do. i really like clothes like Miley Cyrus, Ashley Tisdale, Lauren Conrad, and Audrina Patridge (from The Hills on mtv). i really like the style of clothes they wear. should i just like save up money so i can buy cute clothes on the internet like at Forever 21, Alloy, and Delia's?? cause i dont have those kinda stores around me. what should i do??? please don't tell me to wear what i want, because i know how to do that, i just want someones opinion. thanks!

You could save up your money and buy clothes online, thats fine. Find stuff that you like to wear that looks like what they wear. I think that its ok if you want to look like someone else...I dont necissarily, but if you do, do whatever the heck you want! Hope I helped! Happy Summer!

-Brina

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There's this guy who I met at this campsite, and he is so cute and I love him to death. At first I am pretty sure that he didn't like me. He was flirting for a little while, and he smiled at me a lot. At the end of the trip, before I left, he asked for my number. I gave it to him, why not? Let's just say it took him about 4 months to call me, and when he did, I almost had a heart attack. I was daydreaming about him all 4 months before he called me. I got tongue tied when I heard his voice. I was so nervous talking to him, so all our conversations consisted of texting. He started telling me I was beautiful, and then he said "i love you." i replied "i love you too" and we would say that every day, and I meant it. I wasn't sure if he did though. Then he told me right after his "i love you" he said, "o and by the way i asked a girl out today..." i was shocked. i had wanted to ask him out all the days we had talked, but i couldn't. He stopped talking to me after announcing that he got a gf. then he finally said hi after announcing that they had broke up. I love him so much, and i cant keep my mind off him, and i dont have eyes for anyone else but him, but if i ask him out he will say no, because i got close, asking him if he sees us as a couple. and he said, no, i think we are "distant friends." and yet right after that he talks about how when we see each other again at the camping place where we met, he is going to kiss me under the stars. I am so stuck on him, please help me!!! :-(((

HE'S MILKIN IT! Milkin it a.k.a he's trying to do this to you, to see how far he can push you to see the feelings you have for him. Do you know why you love him? You may want to re think this. It seem like he's using you. Talking to you, getting a girlfriend, not talking to you....then talking to you when they break up? Thats not even a friendship! i think its a phase, you think you "love" him,but you really dont, and it'll go away soon. Theirs other fish in the sea. Hope I helped! Happy Summer!

-Brina

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hey. i am trying out for a highschool field hockey team in a couple weeks and for tryouts we have to run three miles a day. i want to try to get a time around 22-25 minutes. right now i can run a 7.5 minute mile. is there any advice or things i can do or practice to make myself go faster for 3 miles?
thanks!!!

Just keep on running. Ever hear of the saying, Practice makes perfect? If you never have, now you did! :-D. People on track teams practice running to get faster...so thats what you should do. Good Luck, Hope I helped, Happy Summer!

-Brina

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hi, well i liked this girl that i was good friends with, and today i told her. suprisingly she told me that she felt the same way, and on friday we are going to meet up and talk, because we are not sure whether to stay freinds, or risk our really good freindship and get together. ok so what i need help with is this, what do i talk to her about, after we've decided what to do. if we decide to get together, what do i say to her and what do i do? and if she says no, just be normal or what? thanks a lot guys! :)

You two need to do whatever you feel comfortable with. Maybe you guys will stay together for a long time, maybe you won't. No matter what, you should always be friends. Theirs nothing wrong with just being friends for if you two did break up, it went fine before ay? Talk to her about stuff that she likes, ex. her fav color, food, season. Theirs tons of thigs you probably didnt konw about her as "just friends". If you decide to get together, let her know how you feel, like if your happy, or whatever. If she says no, its not the end of the world. Tell her your happy with being just friends instead of being nothing at all. Hope I helped! Happy Summer!

-Brina

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Please read all of this. I really do need help and a second opinion, and I have no one to talk to.

I'm 15, 5'1 and 135 pounds. I have a petite frame, and obesity runs in my family. I used to weigh less, and I know it shows that I am heavier than I used to be but when I look in the mirror I don't see myself as fat and obese. I just don't know if others see me that way and I just don't realize it. I went to the doctor three weeks ago when they told me how much I weighed and how tall I was. The nurse said my weight was perfect for my height, but the frantic research that I've done says otherwise. Sometimes I get really down on myself and begin to see it, but I don't know.

I think I've gained weight because during school I ate a lot because of stress and the cafeteria, but this summer I've been cutting back A LOT. I've been ordering healthier items when I eat out, I've stopped eating between meals, and I've stopped eating when I'm not hungry. Sometimes I slip, but... overall I think I'm doing a decent job. Hopefully, I've lost at least 2 to 3 pounds but I have no way to be sure since I have no clue where the scale in my house is.

Bottom line is, I don't want to beat around the bush or anything so I'm just going to ask. Do you think I'm "fat?" I've been really sad lately because I've been accessing these internet BMI calculating websites that have been mostly saying "I'm at risk of being overweight." One even said I was overweight by 25 pounds. But according to one of my friends, they thought I looked around 110 or so.

I don't know if it's all relative or not. Do people just carry their weight differently? My friend is 5'6 and weighs 140. She also eats much more unhealthy than I do, and no offense at all to her, but she does look somewhat heavier than I do. Not but much, but she does. But she only weighs 5 pounds more than I do and she's 5 inches taller. I just don't understand.

Thanks in advance, God bless.

Your are at a perfectly fine weight. Stop researching the weight sites and charts and all of that junk. The doctor/nurse is a perfect person to find out the truth from, she said it was a fine weight, and it is. Exspecially for your height. People do carry their weight differently. Taller people shouldnt weigh in between 100 and 130 because they'll look like toothpicks! No joke, my doc told me the normal weight for a really tall person was like, in between 130 - 180. {For the average tall teen}. Your weight and height mesh well. YOUR JEAN SIZE IS A 0-2 WHAT IN THE WORLD ARE YOU WORRYING ABOUT? Your not fat. If you want to stay fit, or maybe shed a few pounds {which you dont need to shed anymore, but it never hurts} make sure you eat healthy, and exercise. And stop looking at those darn tootin charts! There no help, and they could be false. Hope I helped! Happy Summer!

-Brina

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where can i get jeans like this - (the medium bleach wash one) --

http://www.abercrombie.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/ProductDisplay?storeId=10051&catalogId=10901&productId=290290&langId=-1&categoryId=12261&parentCategoryId=12203&colorSequence=05


for like, 40$ or less? thankss

Hey, deffinitly check out:
www.rue21.com
www.oldnavy.com
www.americaneagleoutfitters.com
www.jcpenny.com


Hope I helped!Happy Summer!


-Brina

P.S -Those jeans are wicked awesome :) Hope You find them!

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I want to put a love quote/poem in my info for my boyfriend, but the problem is I can't find any. I've found millions of pages on xanga, but all of them were depressing. Anyone know any GOOD places? Thanks!

Hmm. I deffinitly suggest these sites and songs:

http://www.lovepoemsandquotes.com/

http://www.lovepoemsandquotes.com/

http://www.best-love-poems.com/love_quotes.htm

Songs:
One and Only -Teitur
Be Be Your Love - Rachael Yamagata
Hey their Dalila - Plain White T's

Hope I helped! Happy Summer!

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okay. so i'm 5'4 and a half, 145lbs. i want to weigh 130lbs by September or sooner. i was thinking of a low-fat, healthy diet with 5 nights of excersise.
my diet plan is this:
breakfast- oatmeal, bannana + yogurt, water.
OR english muffin, bannana + yogurt, water.
OR Instand Breakfast Smoothie (instand breakfast mix, bannana, nonfat yogurt, milk, + ice)
snack- watermelon, or some fruit.
lunch- slimfast bar and carrots.
snack- pretzals, veggies, or fruit
dinner- chicken with rice and corn
OR Lean Cousine, Healthy Choice.

what foods should i avoid?
cheese? or what?

do you think i can do it if i eat that and work out for an hour 5x a week?

It sounds like a good plan, except for lunch. Lunch you need to eat more then a slimfast bar and carrots. Make a sandwich, like turkey with lettuce and mustard. Deffinitly avoid fried foods, which i'm sure you know. Dont totally stay away from carbs. Theirs wheat pasta that is less fattening then regular. If you eat healthy and work out you should reach your goal weight. Your can mix it up a little with dinner too, just make sure the porportions are correct. Say you have steak or something, make it like only 4 oz. of meat. Hope I helped! Happy Summer!

-Brina

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14/f
i like this guy, he says he likes me. hes great. perfect :). one problem...he just told me that he smokes cigarettes...and i dont like it, but i still like him. like, it doesnt bother me enough to stop likin him. he says hes quitting soon though. i mean we still like each other like A LOT but its sooo gross...

Well, if he likes you as much as he says he does, he'll stop smoking or he'll brush his teeth and chew some gum before he sees you. Cigarettes are gross, and its good that he says he'll quit. Ask him if he wants help quiting. Chewing gum can be a way to stop, or sucking on mints, or getting a stress ball and squeezing it when he wnats to smoke. Let him know about those. Hope I helped! Happy Summer!

-Brina

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Okay I have two question.
1.How do you become less shy,like I wanted to give a guy my number but I never talked to him and then so then when it came time to leave I did NOTHING. about it and I was just wondering how do I become like not as shy,like is there any east tips or something?

2.I am going to a different school and I'm going to be a freshman,and I was just wondering if its HARD to go into a different school,because the school I use to go to I've been going to for a long time.

Help me? Please.

Becoming less shy is easy. Mostly it has to do with confronting or talking with people i'm assuming? Either they like you or they don't. Say what you want to say, and do what you want to do. Shyness is a self issue. Don't be quiet, if you want to do something, go for it. Try something like going someweres, like a mountain or such, and scream as loud as you can. Different schools can sometimes be tough. But theres actually some nice people still in the world :-p. Join some clubs, introduce yourself to people. Your shyness might take over when your going to approach new people, but just be yourself. Just say, hey, my name is .....i'm new here, whats your name? Simple as that. Hope I helped!Happy Summer!

-Brina

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So right now all I wear is white tennis shoes
And I really need cute shoes
(that aren’t flipflops, my feet are…not able to be viewed. At least most of them isn’t)
that work with skirts annnnd jeans annnnnnnd capris
links please??
(im a 8 1/2-9 womens... big feet ='[)

Oh man, I know how this goes, i wear a size 11 shoe! Try on some addidas, nike, Converses, and ballet flats. Even though addidas and nike are more for sports, there deffinitly cute with any outfit. Payless has awesome shoes for low prices. Hope I helped! Happy Summer!

-Brina

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is there any way to heal a small cavity without going to a dentist? i'm going to one, i just DREAD having to go through the process of getting it filled, because i've never had one before.

Theirs no way to heal a cavity unfortunately. I've only had one cavity in my life, and I was scared at first too. Their is NOTHING to be scared of, its not painful to get it filled at all. My Uncles a dentist, so he told me all about it before I got it done. You can prevent getting cavitys bye not drinking a lot of soda and eating a lot of junk food. Of course you can still eat/drink that kind of stuff, but make sure its not a ritual diet thing you do. Hope I helped! Good Luck, I'm sure it'll be fine.

Happy Summer!

-Brina

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my friend ryan committed suicide about two weeks ago and i just can't get over it. just seeing him in that casket made me sick to my stomach and burst into tears. it's so wrong to see a 15 year old in a casket.. it's just wrong. everything reminds me of him cuz he was the coolest person in the world. plz tell me how to overcome this or help me to be at peace with his death. i miss him so much

I'm so sorry. You probably will never get over it, you'll feel better, but you'll never come to the fact of loosing one of your friends.Just remember all of the times you two shared, and how he impacted your life. Take your time feeling better at this, it probably will take time. Its ok to feel this way and to miss him, he wsa your friend, how else would you feel? Talk with a counselor, or other friends to make you feel better. Just remember there are a lot of great people out there to help you cope with this. Hope I helped.

-Brina

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When you have mono, when can you start kissing again?? Thanks!!

You shouldnt start kissing people again until your 100% positive that you dont have mono anymore. I'd wait longer when you find out though, because you never know, there could still be mono in your system. Hope I helped! Happy Summer! Feel better!

-Brina

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I'm going to make a playlist to listen to because I am beyond bored. What are some of your favorite songs? I like punk, indie, and country punk? I'm not sure if thats what it's called... but I like Limbeck and Ben Kweller. Things like that. But other things are great too I am really up for anything.

Oh my, my favorite topic, MUSIC! Haha. Alrighty, heres a good list i think in my opinion.

Imogen Heap
Weezer
Boys Like Girls
Red Hot Chili Peppers
Ridlin' Kids
Snow Patrol
Jimmy Eat World
ARCTIC MONKEYS
the beatles, i know, there old, but, the beatles will never die!
If you need more let me know!

Hope I helped, Happy Summer!

-Brina

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where can i find clubs near where i live? 16/17 yrs old

You could mapquest it, or google, or any other search sites, just put Clubs in .... werever you live.
Hope I Helped! Happy Clubbing/Summer!

-Brina

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Hi I am 16 and I am going to get both of my ears pierced in one day somewhere, I'm not sure where yet... I have been doing some research and I have heard that the piercing guns suck! and they screw up a lot... Do you think I should just get my ears pierced by a gun, or by hand at a professional piercing or tattoo shop?

I have 8 ear piercings, 4 in each ear in various places, and all from a piercing gun!!! They usually put a spot on your ear with a washable marker before they do it so that they get it in the right spot. But, whatever you feel the best about you should do. By hand might hurt more, but i've never gotten it done by hand. Good Luck! Hope I helped, i'm sure it'll turn out great.

Happy Summer :)

-Brina

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Well i like this boy right im 15 and his 14 were both in eyar 9 and his a little bit shorter like 4 cm and my friend always tell me its wrong to like him but i dont judge people by there height or age (As long as its not 10 years lol) i really like him do you think its wrong to like him ?

Its not wrong at all! Like whoever you want. Unless he's some 40 year old :-p. Height doesnt matter, age does sometimes, but in this case, go for it. Hope I helped! Happy Summer!

-Brina

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I asked my best friend who I trust everything with if she thinks I'm a slut. In the past she's said no but I asked her to please be honest with me yesterday and answer me the truth. So she said yes, she also said it was very very hard for her to say. I told another friend what was said and he said that if she was a real freiend she would understand and not think i was a slut. He also said if not, there is one good thing to come out of it; I found out that she wasnt a true friend.
So what do I believe? That she did the right thing telling me truthfully that she thinks I am a slut? Or she did the wrong thing in thinking that of her best friend?
She's always been there for me but now I'm confused.
I feel like I can't tell her anything now without feeling like I'm driving her away. She said it doesnt make her like me any less though and that it's my decision.
Can anyone help me?

You asked her to tell her because you told her she was your best friend and wanted to hear the truth. And she said it was really hard for her, so you really shouldnt be this upet with her, considering you asked for it.She loves you no matter how you act/are. By a slut, do you mean sleeping around with people, or just dressing slutty and flirting with guys all the time? You should be a bit mre specific, maybe she thought you meant soething else when you asked her if you thought that...Shes your friend, and would never intentionally hurt you. Hope I helped! Happpy Summer!

-Brina

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