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I'm Jessie. I've been on here on and off for about 7 years. I'm 22 :) I am currently in my final year of college studying English and new media
I'm from Ireland I dye my hair way too much. I've been blonde,brown,brown with blonde,black,red,and blonde again!I love helping people I found advicenators when I was just 15 and didn't understand the world! I feel I have matured with this site. The people on here are amazing and I love coming on here in my spare time to be there for people in need. I won't tell you what you want to hear because that's not advice it's just fooling yourself. I try to help in whatever way I can I try not to judge and try to relate to a situation if I can. :) If you don't like honesty then you won't like my advice.
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hey im looking for simple life episodes

ive only seen one episode and the show doesnt come on anymore. where can i go to watch episodes?

http://www.tvduck.com/The-Simple-Life.html


There you go. :) If that doesn't work google it around. You could try project free tv. Tv links or let me watch this. They are good sites.

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My best friend has been getting into drugs the last month, and she is now addicted to Cocaine. Her parents and sister know, as well as me and almost everyone in school. She doesn't know how much we all want to help her, and shes getting out of control. She ran out of her house the other day because her mom said she had to do the laundry, she flipped off her mom before she left. Her mom ended up calling me crying asking me questions about her and whats been going on. I explained everything.

I told her she was addicted to Cocaine. Which she already found out. I told her that she doesn't care about anything anymore.

She has always told me that I'm her best friend and she cares so much about me, but now she says that she hates me and I am a hypocrite (She told me this after I said I want her to be healthy again). I get that the drugs are messing with her head, but is there Anything I can do to make her see how much she needs to smarten up?

She has to be able to want the help first, I understand this, but I don't know if she will even talk to me anymore..?

Help???

Hey there,
I understand this is a very tough and painful situation but I think it's time you think about taking a step back. Like you said she has to WANT the help first. No amount of pleading with her is going to make her see that. From first hand experience (uncle was on drugs for years)
You have to let them hit rock bottom. It's horrible and painful to watch but once she realizes she has managed to push everyone away then she will reach out.
The best you can do is let her know how much you love her and will always be there for her. Let her know how scary and out of control her behaviour is. That if she doesn't seek help she is going to end up dead. Try one last attempt at an intervention. Lay it all out. Suggest rehab and counselling. After that the ball is really in her court. There is only so much you can do for someone without becoming emotionally drained yourself.
You shouldn't feel like you are giving up on her either you're just giving her the time she needs to hopefully come to her senses. You will be there for her when she does.
Good luck and I'm sorry I couldn't be of more specific help.
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Is there anyone out there that feels as lonely as i do? Due to the job I do I have sustained a lot of stress and as a result I have lost most if not all of my friendships. I feel upset that I don't have any females friends who I can chill with and talk about stuff with. I want to know if I am the only other female feeling this way.

Hey there,
You are not alone. Everyone feels lonely from time to time. It's only natural. I currently feel the same way as you do. All my friends left for college last September while I decided to take a year out.They have since moved on and made new friends. I still talk to them via twitter text and facebook and we meet up from time to time but it's not the same.
I sometimes feel isolated during the week until the weekends when I have the possibility of seeing them.
Maybe you need to consider the benefits of this job. Is all the stress really worth it?Especially if it's making you lose your friendships. It's not healthy for one to be consumed with work and in the meantime become cut off from almost everyone around them.
I know you need your job. Especially in the current economic state,but is there any way you could possibly reconnect with your old friends?
Organize to see them again explain the pressure and stress you felt due to your workload? surely they are bound to understand. It happens to the best of us.
Also why don't you try doing some things to relieve stress?reading walking,listening to music,baking,yoga,shopping among the endless possibilities. you need to make time for yourself and your relationships. If your job is preventing it I would consider looking for a new one or speaking to your boss about reducing your work load perhaps. Friends are really the greatest de-stressers. If you don't have them you're just going to become more stressed.
If re connecting with your old friends isn't an option why not try and make some new ones?
Take up a new hobby? or night course.
Something to get you socializing.
good luck and I hope I helped.
If you ever need someone to talk to my inbox is always open.
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I'm 16/f and in year 12 at college.

Theres this girl in my business class...
The thing is she bitches about me and my friends alot in buisness.

At first it was my friend, so what I did was I wrote down all of what she said behind her back and typed it up-I have evidence.

I'm quiet in class, and today she was having a right bitchy session about me with her friend. Bassically, bringing me down to the size of a pea.

I don't give a damn about what she thinks about me, but It's improtant for me to stand up for myself.

Tommorrow I have got a meeting with my personal tutor. Should I tell him about this? Is it just bitchyness not bullying and is it my fault for overhearing? Also I don't know if I should show him the other evidence I have. Help please :)

Hey there,
Okay your definitely right to stand up for yourself. What this girl is doing is petty.
However the problem I see with going to your personal tutor is it really comes down to her word against yours. I know you have evidence as you say but who's to say you didn't make it up?That's what she will more than likely claim.
I think you should definitely tell him you over heard her so maybe he can keep an eye out for it himself.
But perhaps leave the evidence side out of it as it might bring on more trouble than it's worth.
Have you considered confronting the girl herself?
Letting her know you know what she has been saying about you and your friends and you're not going to tolerate it.
I mean what reasons does she have to talk you down like that? It can be viewed as a type of verbal bullying yes. It's definitely not your fault for overhearing its not like you set out to hear those nasty things being said about you. If's she is truly that conniving she probably orchestrated it so that you would hear.
Is there any way you could possibly record it discretely with your phone? that's an option if your set on getting evidence. But yes definitely bring this to the attention of your tutor. In the mean time think about having words with her yourself. You never know she might back off.
Good luck and I hope I helped. My inbox is always open
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Ok so 13/f and my boyfriend is 14. At my school, we have 2 recesses and he usually hangs out with me at both of them. He's going to high school next year so I understand why he wants to spend so much time with me as he can but my friends dont really get along with him and I havent hung out with my friends for a long time. I asked my boyfriend if I can spend time with my friends and he said "Yea sure we can hang out with them for a recess" and I seriously banged my head against the wall. Like what do I do?

Hey there,
Okay you need to sit him down and tell that as much as you care for him you need time for yourself also.
It's not healthy to spend ALL your time with your boyfriend. You become withdrawn and isolated from your friends. It's already starting to happen as you are seeing them less.
You need to explain to him that you need "you" time especially with your friends on your own.
In the meantime explain to your friends how you're feeling so they don't think you are ditching them intentionally.
Maybe organize to see them outside school when your boyfriend isn't around?Invite them to your house or go to the mall etc.
If your boyfriend doesn't understand then you really need to rethink the relationship. You don't want someone who is going to cling to you and suffocate you. And literally cannot go anywhere without you. That's just exhausting. Does he see his own friends much? maybe suggest he does something with them.
Boyfriends and girlfriends need time apart from each other and time to themselves. It also allows time to miss one another so the next time you see each other will be extra special.
Talk to him. It's really the only way.
Good luck and I hope I helped.
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to commit suside i don't want to live please tell
the painless methods

Hey there,
I hate to disappoint but nobody on here is going to give you "tips" and a precise way to kill yourself. That's just crazy what kind of people would we be if we did that?
No matter how bad things get there is always a way of dealing with your problems BESIDES suicide. It's awful how people feel so trapped that they need to end their life.
Seek help. Talk to someone. Why would you deny yourself the wonderful opportunities life has to offer?
There is always a solution no matter how bad things get. Don't end your life. Start living. Make friends. there's college get a job,make money set goals travel do something crazy.
all you are going to get is people telling you not to do it.

http://www.metanoia.org/suicide/
Read that. It will only take a minute but please please do. Ending life which is so precious is never the answer.
So many people would give anything for a second chance at life who are on their death bed. Im not trying to make you feel guilty but please value life no matter how bad things are they will always get better.
God bless you and much

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I am a sophomore in college. Last year I guess I had a little too much fun. i had sex with a lot of guys and i regret
it. i was never given the time of day from boys in highschool and the fact that guys wanted to hook up with me actually
made me feel good about myself. but my self confidence is a different problem. my friends are awful to me and always make fun of my past sex life and keep asking how many
people ive had sex with. i dont want to tell them but i dont
know what to say. i know what i did was wrong but ive changed and i regret it and im sick of being disrespected. i know they are awful friends and i should find new ones
but i want to gain my friends respect. whenever i try to stick up for myself they dont take me seriously. what can i say to stick up for myself that will actually make them stop?

Hey there,
Okay so you made a mistake. We all do we're only human. The fact that you recognized it and have learned from it says a hell of a lot.
You should never have to justify yourself to anyone.
No one should have to be reminded of their past mistakes and regrets and made feel bad about it continuously.
You hit the nail on the head when you said you need to find new friends. Why should you have to prove yourself to anyone? Is it worth sucking up to these people in attempt to gain respect?when you can find people who will respect you straight off the bat?
If they were true friends they would understand that what they are doing is hurting your feelings and stop.
Sure everyone can take a joke or a tease about stuff but there is a fine line.
I'm sure they have done stuff in the past that they are not proud of. I would tell you to throw something back in their faces but that would be lowering yourself to that standard.
Walk away. It really isn't worth constantly trying to defend yourself.
Remember you don't need to sleep around to feel good or wanted. As I'm sure you know. The right guy will come along who will make you feel the way you should just by loving you.
Good luck and I hope this helped.
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~ Female
~ 15
******Mostly Guys Answer Please*******

This might sound weird but.. I'm just curious 'bout this that's all. I just don't want to sound really childish in this question. So, I guess what my question is that how can u tell if a guy likes you?? Like what are the signs that a guy likes you??
Hopefully I don't seem childish by these questions--I'm just curious!!

Hey there,
I'm not a guy but generally there are some obvious signs to look out for.
Does he flirt with you a lot? Does he initiate conversation first? Do you text a lot? Watch his body language does he brush up against you or touch you. Does he smile a lot?
Does he seem to have a genuine interest in you.
It's always hard to tell whether a guy likes you as they say one thing and mean another. But one way of trying to figure it out is to just flirt and see if they respond.
good luck hope this helps much

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I apologize if this should be in the Virginity section but to me it doesn't fit in that.

Anyways, this weekend my girlfriend wants to have some "fun" and by this she means a hand job and then me fingering her.

I have never gone past making out with a girl, i'm nervous especially because she has done stuff before but with only one other guy, that is what she said and i believe her. But as i am a guy and have masturbated before i have noticed I can only orgasm when i'm in a certain position..

When i lay down my feet kind of go farther then shoulder length apart.. and i tense up in the legs, more of a flexing of my muscles..
When I am standing up i can only if i get more on the tips of my toes and my muscles in the legs are flexing again..

Now i am very self conscious about this and have low self esteem and stuff.. I was wondering if this is normal.. and if i should tell her that is how i am or what i can do to be more "normal" I have seen porn and those guys just seem to be flat footed and stuff and just shoot it like nothing. I feel very embarrassed for even asking this, what do i do?

I told her it is my first time with this she said it is okay and that i probably would be good but wouldn't give me a reason why she just said that i would be and that she is fine with it.

So any help is appreciated and please reply before this weekend, if it is after i will still look and think about it!

Thank you guys

Hey there,
Okay let me start by saying you are normal. Everyone is different and everyone has a certain way of masturbating. Something that feels good only for them. What works for you might not work for others. That's just the way it is.
I'm a girl and like you when I masturbate I can only do it a certain way. I too tense my leg muscles. I have done some research and quite a lot of people do that too.
Don't compare yourself to the guys in porn. All that is glamorized to make sex LOOK better. It's not how it really is trust me. You need to just relax and trust your girlfriend. Of course she is going to be understanding and that this is your first time with all this stuff. Just relax and clear your head. If you get all stressed and have a million things running around in your head then it's not going to be good anyway. Communication Is key. Tell her what works for you. And likewise she can guide you. It's all about exploring and experimenting until you get it right. It took my boyfriend and I a while to get to know each others bodies.
Good luck and I hope this helps :)
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I'm 13 and there's white stuff coming out of my vagina, I'm really worried I had it for about 1 year now.. All my pants have sticky white slime... Please help me I'm really worried! HELP!


From Rebecca

Hey there,
Okay don't worry this is completely normal! It's called discharge. Have you started your period yet?
Discharge is usually your bodies way of getting ready for your period.
If you have already gotten your period it's still pretty normal also. Some women produce a lot of discharge some next to none.
If you're concerned perhaps a visit to your doctor could help you feel more at ease?
Is it a thick consistency? does it smell funny? If so this could be an indication of an underlying infection and you should see your doctor. Usually it's completely fine though!
So try not to worry.
Good luck hope this helps
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I'm 13 and when I was about 11 I got appendicitis and I began having excessive amount of some kind of discharge. I'm not sure what it is and I'm too afraid to talk to my "foster" parents. Also my labia manora is very large and hangs low from my labia majora. I'm not sure but I feel ugly down there. Ive searched about having a large labia manora, everyone alwas says it's normal. But mine is hangs VERY low and it's uncomfortable, also I'm still a virgin. I'm so afraid my BF wont like me when he sees it? Any help on this?

Hey there,
About the discharge I'm not sure if that's related to the appendicitis or purely coincidental. Only a doctor will be able to clear that up. However some women just have excessive discharge it's totally normal. Unless it is a rather thick consistency and smells funny. Then it can be an indication of an infection or underlying problem. You should really get it checked out.
As for your labia it is completely normal! Every women is different. If it's uncomfortable again it's something you can talk to your doctor about. It's just a part of your body your going to have to learn to accept unfortunately. We all have our insecurities and parts of our bodies we are uncomfortable with.
Don't worry about what your boyfriend thinks! If he truly loves and cares for you then those silly things won't matter. Trust me when you are with someone you care about all that stuff goes out the window because you feel so comfortable and safe with that person. Like for instance I was very paranoid about stretch marks I had on my thighs and was afraid of my boyfriend seeing them. He didn't even notice and I actually noticed he had some too. It works both ways he will probably have parts he is insecure about too!
Trust me men don't care what a vagina looks like.
it's irrelevant.
So try to relax a little :)
Hope this helps
good luck and much

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k , im 12 turning 13 in may and very skinny like weirdly skinny i've always hated my body i could never be like the other kids and wear shorts or anything or i would be bullied and called chicken legs and or etc anyways i've been thinking of suicid lately because i've recently moved to a new school because cause i've had anxiety at my old school and skipped over 30 days anyways i have barely made any friends im very depressed he but i told my mom i really wanted to move so i dont wanna tell her i havent really been making friends but other then that i like the school and also i havent gotten my period yet and like everyone i know whos my age has and i wanna get it cause i have a sister and shea 10 and been devolping fast and already has bigger boobs then me -_-' and i think (shes gonna get her period before mine. and theirs alot more that i hate about my like right now but dont wanna keep going on already wrote to much ( sorry about any typo's to lazy to proof read )

hey there,
Okay firstly It's normal to feel insecure about your body especially at your age. its a difficult stage. You need to learn to accept yourself and love yourself. Don't compare yourself to anyone else you are who you are and that's what differentiates you. If we were all the same it would be a very boring world. Don't listen to pathetic people who have nothing better to do than to put people down.
Please no matter how bad you think things are suicide is never the answer. It is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. You have so much to live for. You are soo young you have your whole life ahead of you. Don't throw away life which is so precious. You only live once. Think of the people who are in a much much worse situation. People who are terminally ill, homeless,starving. You are so lucky. You can overcome your problems with help and support. The key is to talk. Don't bottle things up. Confide in your mom it's what she is there for! She needs to know what is going on in your life otherwise she won't be able to help. About making friends does your school have any clubs or societies? extra curricular activities?They are a great way to meet new people.
Put yourself out there. Talk to people show them your personality. Of course it's always hard to move to a new place and make new friends but the longer you leave it the harder it becomes. Reach out to people.
about your period relax! Every girl is different we all develop at different stages. It's just the way it is. Some of my friends didn't get their period until they were 15 16. Others earlier.
It will come in time. Enjoy being young. Don't be in such a rush to grow up! Don't compare yourself to your sister you are a completely different person. It's unlikely she will get her period before you.
start thinking positively and things will turn around.
Talk to your mom you will be surprised how much it will help.
My inbox is always open.
good luck and much

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i'm really good friends with this guy and i don't know if he has feelings for me or if i'm just reading to much into it. he always has my back and is there for me like every friend is but he also teases me a lot, which i know may not be a big deal, but sometimes at random moments he tells me how beautiful i am and how i have an amazing personality and looks out for me.....is he just being a good friend?
i am 16 and a female

Hey there,
No one can tell you for sure as only he knows the answer.
It's always tough trying to guess if a guy likes you or what's going on in his head. They say one thing and mean another half the time.
Telling you you're beautiful and have an amazing personality is a great indication.
Does he flirt with you a lot?
You could try sending him one of those fun questionnaire things through text. My friend and I used to do that a lot. You the ones that ask name age how we met what you like most about me would you date me would you kiss me..That sort of thing. That way you can take note of his answers.
Or you could always just come right out and ask him. As nerve racking as that is. But you have nothing to lose. Especially if you have feelings for him yourself. Be bold.
Hope this helps
good luck and much

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My boyfriend loves me and cares about me a lot. The other day we were hanging out and he sat on my chest and pulled down his pants, sticking his dick in my face. He wanted a blowjob but I had previously told him I didn't want to do that. Ive given him a handjob before and hes fingered me, but I don't like doing stuff so ive told him to stop before but some how we keep ending up doing sexual things. Should I break up with him since he promised me he would never push me into something I didn't want to do? Or do I give him another chance? 15/female

Hey there,
Okay you should NEVER let a guy pressure you into doing anything! No matter how much you may love or care for them. It's not right. If he really cared for you he would respect you and wait until you're ready. Not force himself on you and stick his penis in your face.
How do you know that if you give into all his sexual desires that is all he is after?
Don't demoralize yourself for him. If you don't want to do something you don't want to do it. Period. It's your body it's your decision.
If I were you I would break up with him. Since he obviously doesn't respect you enough to listen to you. You deserve better. Trust me I've been there done that.
Good luck and much

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Im a lire if u've seen that other question, im 11 (i felt embarrassed to say)My mum started her period between 12 and 13. I'm 12 and a couple of days, i started getting Milky discharge about a year ago. isn't that as long before you start your period? Ive hit puberty aswell, and started developing breasts. Quite allot of my friends have started and when people ask me i lie and say yes because im scared that they'll think im strange.- how long will i have to wait for it to start? And should i tell people the truth? Please help.

Hey there,
The truth is every girl is different. There is no set age for you to get your period.
I got mine at 12. Some of my friends didn't get theirs until they were 15 or 16. My cousin was 14. It varies between girls. You are completely normal. Don't worry about being strange! Everyone develops at different rates and stages.
The discharge is a sign that your period is on it's way as are your breasts. If you have developed pubic hair aswell that can be a good indication or if your breasts are sore or tender to touch.
Telling people whether you have your period or not is completely your discretion. You don't have to lie as I said there is nothing to be ashamed about.
Trust me enjoy your time without it! once you have it you will be wishing you don't!
Relax. It will come :)
Good luck and much

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This might be a really weird question, and I'd love it if a guy answered this question.. I'm 16/f and I was wondering if a boy would enjoy it more if I spat on my hands before giving him a hand job to make it wet and smooth, if you know what I mean, any advice? I know every boy is different, will this turn a boy on or is it just gross!?

Hey there,
Okay well I just asked my boyfriend this question and his reply "It would be a bit sick"
so there you have it. Haha but of course every guy is different.
You could always try giving him a blow job if you're into it. Guys generally enjoy it more.
Or if you want like the last answer you could try lube.
best of luck and much

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So when is the right time to ask a girl to be your girlfriend? I'v been friends with this girl for a couple of months now - we went out to the movies about 4 times, we text occasionally, chat on Facebook etc. She obviously likes to hang out with me but I'm not sure if her intentions are purely friendly or I might have a shot. Anyway... On one hand, I hear people say you must NEVER get into the "friend zone" because you're never getting out of it; on the other hand, a friend of mine told me it takes TIME for a woman to grow attached to a man, meaning that being friends first is somewhat necessary. So should I wait for a couple of months more or go for it? I don't wanna blow it by asking her to soon, and I don't wanna wait too long either...

Any help appreciated.

(And we are both 21, for what it's worth).

Thanks!

Hey there,
Well I would agree with your friend about forming a friendship. It's great to have that time to get to know each other first. It makes it easier to build a relationship on.
My boyfiend and I knew each other for a couple of months then we officially started dating for a month like going to the cinema etc then he asked me out the following month.
You don't want to leave it too long because if she does have mutual feelings she will start to get impatient.
In my opinion seeing as you have gone on a good few dates known her for a couple of months I would say go for it.
Do you guys flirt a lot? that can be a great indication.
Put yourself out there you will never know unless you take the chance. If it feels like the right time do it :)
hope this helps
Best of luck and much

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how can you tell if a man is wanting more than friendship from you

Hey there,
Well I guess if you two talk a lot. Does he flirt with you?make eye contact? smile much?
Take notice of his body language also. Does he brush up against you? find excuses to touch you?
start flirting with him and gage his responses. Text him ask him out to the movies or something
The only full sure way to know is to come right out and ask but of course that can be a little nerve racking.
good luck!
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Okay, I'm 16/f and straight and things have been happening lately with a guy and I think we may lose our virginity because to be quite honest all we've been doing is 'sexting' for weeks and he seriously asked what contraception we should use. We've been really mature about it and we know we' re ready. Thing is I am a bit worried about my cherry popping and it bleeding all over the sheets, especially at his house! Any advice? (I know I can't stop it from happening obviously)

Hey there,
Okay well to answer your initial question will it hurt?
Well everyone's different. For me sex didn't hurt at all the first time because I think my bf had popped my cherry from fingering a lot beforehand.
But as I said everyone's different. Sex is definitely a little awkward and uncomfortable the first time because you're new to it and don't quite know what you're doing. But don't worry it's natural.
Don't be worried about your cherry popping its going to happen so just relax and try not to think about it. If you stress you will just tense up and not enjoy the experience as much as you should.
He won't care about blood on his sheets. There won't be that much anyway :)
Good luck and I hope this helps
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i will start right from the beging.:/
i know this girl who i went to primary school, danielle got in contact with me and we decided to meet up as i havnt seen her in ages. well i meet all her friends and that when i meet carlton. he is an amazing wonderful kind boy. well anyone we had such a good time we all meet again. we went to the beach this time tho and we kicking sand at each other just playing around just me and him. but my mum rang and wanted me home blah blah... so i went on facebook and we were talking all the time this went on for about 4-5 weeks we used to stay up till 3 in the morning just talking but then i would fall asleep at 3:L but anyway. i was going to scotland for 3 weeks my dad lives up there and he was getting married so i had to go. so it was the night before i left and it was about 12 and al his mate were asking me to go up to his and spend my last night with him as he wont get to see me but i said no, in mind it was like 1 in the morning anyway it got to 3 and i fell asleep and woke up with about 10 messages from him saying please wake up i want to ask you summin...so i texted him asking what and he wouldnt tell me so i got to the air port and he then text me saying will you be my girlfriend blah blah and i said yes. so i was in scotland texting every second wouldnt put my phone down..so when i got back from there i said hello to my mum and me and my mate went to go see him..and it was really akward and first but we got over it and we went to hes with everyone...and watched a movie..we have our first kiss and mine. so over the next month he came to meet my family came to family things with me and we told each other we not gunna say i love you till we mean it. and we had lucy and hes best mate liam around they were playing fighting on the floor and we were going the same on the bed.. but he whispered i love you in my ear...i could do anything i was in shock but i kissed him and thats when i realised i loved him too. so i said it back..and i lost my v with him he alreaddy lost his to a girl before me but there were two other girl before me one of them is now dating his friend...the other he was with a year. she cheat on him with danielle boyfriend. thats when they broke up and 4 months after he met me. they didnt really talk..but as soon as he got with me nicole started telling him she still loves him and wnats him back so after about 4 months he broke up with me. and got back with nicole after i think wat was 3 weeks after we broken up..i didnt eat:/ sleeep:/ or get out if my bed:/ hardly wents to school:/ but they been going out for aboout 2 months and we started talking again..he been telling me that she doesnt make him happy anymore she treats him like a bit of dust on her shoes..he says he feels invisible, she annoys him and she lies alot to him but he loves her:/ and then he came to my house the other night he seds "he was in the neighbourhood so he thought he pop round to see everyone" he lives on the other side of town:/ so a week after of talking ( he also broke up with her within a week of us talking again) i told him that my feeling never went and that i still love him but he hasnt told me anything nicole has gone away for a week and she is back tonight he told me to see what happens tonight as he doesnt know if there togther or not and he wants to find out so he can sort this mess out but as soon as there are toghter which they will be..i am out of the window again, it feel as if he picking her over me. which he is.. and its annoying he messages my mum and stepdad on facebook to see how everyone is..as he was really close to my family..he says he misses everyone including me..but i just dont know what do to..i cant go a day without thinking about him even when we werent toghter...but i feel like my heart has been ribed out of my body. i know you probly get this all the time but i am 15..16 in may and i feel like this has been the most hardest time in my life i dont know what i have done to get this:/ so if anyone has a comment please do i need all the help i can get right now:( btw alot more has happend than that^^ this is like a really really short toke of it all. all happends like over a year.

Hey there,
Okay this was really hard to comprehend and very unclear and all over the place but I'll do my best to answer.
It seems like this guy doesn't know what he wants.
He is going back and forward between you and this other girl while toying with your feelings and emotions in the meantime.
As soon as this Nicole girl showed any interest in him he dumped you without a second thought. What's to say he won't do that in the future?
You deserve better than that. Don't set yourself up for a fall.
I know it's hard right now because you have unresolved feelings for him but you have to be strong.
trust me this guy is a player. He tells you all the right things makes you fall hook line and sinker for you then he ditches you.
and the worst thing is he knows you will be there waiting if he ever feels like running back to you.
Don't give him the satisfaction. Don't wait around while he goes from one girl to the next.
You are only 15 I know it may seem like hes the only guy you'll ever love but trust me he's not.
There are plenty more respectable guys out there who won't treat you like this.
Cut yourself off from this guy. Tell him to stop talking to your family if he's gonna treat you that way.
Keep yourself busy surround yourself with friends immerse yourself in hobbies and in time you will soon forget about him.
trust me its best.
Good luck and much

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