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Female/17. OK. i have this older guy friend n i had a crush on him for awhile n he was crushin on me back. It just went back n forth. Now its back to us crushing on each other. When I finally kissed him, it was good. But a couple days later my best friend asked me if i had sex with him? I told her no, and she told me that he said that n was telling people we did!I was shocked. Cuz I didnt think he would actually do that. A few days later I confronted him about it, and he told me that my best friend was the one saying it!? So then I kinda believed it cuz she can be a b**ch. She has been one to me plenty of times. Then just recently I was talking to another friend n he told me that my older guy friend was the one that was saying it! I dont know what to do!? I feel like I just wanna be done with him. I dont know who to believe. Advice would be nice.

This same thing has happened to me. Forget about this guy, he's only in this to "help his reputation". He will keep telling people you had sex with him until you confront him about it.

-Jessica 15/f

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I play sports, and i'm just going to come right out and say this, IT'S SO NASTY WEARING PADS!

I tried a tampon today.

The smallest theyve got.

And I was kind of struggling to get it in, but afterwards everything was great.

But when I went to take it out, it hurt SO bad.

My friends say it hurts the first few times, but not to the point where it brings me to tears.
I need help, and I can't stand pads any longer!

I'm a virgin too, if that helps any?
Thanks!

Your friend is right, it only hurts for a while, but you get used to it. However, if the pain is really too bad, you can try changing your tampon more often. The only reason it hurts when you take it out is because it absorbs the blood inside you so it gets bigger. If you change it more often, it won't absorb as much blood and it won't get as big :) I hope I helped!

-Jessica 15/f

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This guy who is two years older than me (i have known him for 2 years)Well we started talking and then we started talking about him fingering me or me giving him oral...I have seriously been considering letting him finger me..So what do you guys think.I would prefer comments that arnt saying im to young cause i think i am ready.I have a good head on my shoulders..Anyway what does it feel like and what do i do to be ready fer it?

Thanks :]

If he's experienced, he'll probably know what to do and it most likely won't feel weird. However, if he's never done it before, he'll probably be a little rough so you need to speak up and tell him if something is too uncomfortable or else he won't know and he won't be able to fix it :)

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f/teen
So my hole family cousins sisters brother aunts uncles etc, all belevie in waiting till marraige and so do i Its hard cause you get tempted but i stick through it.
I know that is what god wants everyone to do and its the right way to do it.

So i was wondering on how you feel about waiting to have sex and doing other things with them?
(besides kissing and makeingout)No fingering bj all that stuff how do you feel about it?

I personally believe that having sex (or anything else) before marriage is fine as long as you love the person and you and that person are both fully prepared to take on any emotional of physical consequences. Remember, just because you were brought up believing one thing, doesn't mean you can't develop your own opinion about it later :) Hope I helped!

-Jessica 15/f

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I have been thinking, and I want to know if Im the only one, anyway its just sickening to me the generation we are in. What happened to the nice old fashioned guys, and clean tv. Has anyone seen music videos lately? On mtv? I feel disgusted. Im 17 and I most certaintally don't want my future kids to grow up this way. I just heard a song the other day that said "cream on the inside, clean on the outside" are you kidding me?! And what is up with the under aged drinking? I know so many people that just feel like its okay to just drink their brains out and get completely wasted, and just "do it" at such young ages and with whoever they want. I realize not everyone is like this, I most definately am not, but it just makes me sad and I feel like almost nobody cares, and some people think its okay. :-(

No, you're not the only person that thinks about these things, trust me, you are not alone. The thing is, that's just how our generation is. And the REALLY sade thing is, there's nothing you can do. So you basically have to watch as our future crashes and burns and you can't do anything about it because not enough teenagers actually care. Yes, it's very sad, but you really just have to accept that this is how it is and no one can change it :( the best thing you can do is teach your future children to have strong morals and a consience[sp?]...Sorry to say it, but you're right. Almost nobody cares :( and that's what's so hard to accept. Almost nobody cares, so nothing is changing.

-Jessica 15/f

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Who is the world's shortest volleyball player

Me! haha just kidding :) here's another question similar to this:

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=547833

-Jessica 15/f

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I was thinking- Would buying an acre of land on the moon be a worthwhile investment? I heard that people will be able to live on the moon at some point. How long untill that happens?

I know its improbable that it would happen in my lifetime, but....i guess i could pass it on to my kids? any thoughts? thanks.

Why would you want to own land on the moon? You can't live there...there's no oxygen. No one can predict the future, so no one can tell you when, if ever, you can live on the moon. And even if you could, I don't see why it would be a desirable place to live. There wouldn't be any plants or animals or oceans or anything else that makes a planet beautiful. It's just rocky wasteland :/ So no, I don't think it would be a "wise investment". It would be a waste of money, in my opinion.

-Jessica 15/f

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Im a junior in high school, and I play volleyball all year around. We just got all new coaches for JV and Varsity (the only teams we have.) Anyway, (I swear Im not bragging) Im a really versitile player, and the high school Im in doesnt have talented players (litterally.) Tryouts start monday. I have played middle, outside, and opposite. I love opposite and Im especially good at it. the thing is my coach needs setters and im the best we have. So Im his new ideal setter. We have two other possible setters, but they arent as good as me appariently. Im so upset to be setter, Im a hitter at heart, and its what Im good at. How do I talk to my coach about my position change? Im so upset please help!

I play volleyball too :) Here's the thing... despite what you WANT to play, you need to play where your coach wants you. If you're are truly one of the best setters and you actually want to win, you need to follow your coach's instructions and be a setter. It's all about what will benefit the TEAM, not yourself. Kinda like that "there's no I in team thing :) I know you don't want to be the setter, I've been in that position before when I really didn't want to play middle but I had to suck it up and play my best so our team could win. So that's what you have to do too...just take one for the team. Plus, if the other setters aren't as good, then really you would have to be hitting bad sets, which both of us know doesn't feel NEARLY as hitting a straight shot to the corner or cramming it down the opponet's throat off a perfect set :) Goodluck!

-Jessica 15/f

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Okay, so I had the idea of starting some sort of 'business'. I was going to start selling bracelets, like those little friendship bracelets made from embroidery string. I just wanted to know what I should have done. Like, what about inventory? Just anything that would help me out.

Please and thank you!
Lyssa 14/f

Yeah, bracelets sound like a good idea :) when I was in 7th grade I sold these at a school fair.

http://www.buttonzjewelry.com/images/about/button_bracelets.jpg

They're called "button bracelets"...everyone wanted them they were SO cute :) and whatever you decide on making, you can sell them on Etsy.com. It's kindof a buying/selling website for homemade stuff :) hope I helped!

Jessica 15/f

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i'm waiting in the dark
can't approach what seems so big
i forgot every scar
so don't ask what i just did
it's 1:32 a.m.
i'm not afraid of heights
i've got a ripped up brainstem
paralyzed in flight

please put it in the ground
it's bleeding on the floor
the skeletons prance around
like they're welcome anymore
"dear God, i can't feel a thing"
dear God, that's just not me
i'll listen to every song you sing
suonato bella, banshee

addicted to the glittery glow,
i can't tear my eyes away
maybe i should go
what did i just say?
i'm drowning in moonlight
hopeless smiles, hopeless hair
it's getting too damn bright
like all i wanted was always there

i can't remember
much of that awkward, dizzy waltz
kids carry this stuff forever
i feel like it's my fault
i can't accept the truth
i gave up on wishing away
i wasn't raised like you
but it really is okay
everything's okay




What do you get from this poem? Anything that comes to mind at all. Opinion the quality, interesting observations, what you think about the writer, etc. Anything it reminds you of or makes you think of..? Also whether you think it could be a song.







Honestly it sounds like one of those depressing poems "goth" kids write. No offense to anyone, of course, but it just does :/ very depressing, doesn't seem to have a strong message behind it. It's just about general pain and suffering, without any description as to HOW the author suffered. That's my opinion.

15/f
Jessica

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So I think I might have a serious problem. Whenever I get up from sitting on a couch, or laying on my bed, I black out. Its like when I get up, I feel wierd, then I try to hold onto something to keep me from falling, and then there is a ringing in my ear, and it feels like Im in a whole different place, like Im not aware of what's going on around me until the episode stops. I would say it lasts about a minute. Today I hurt myself because I let go of what I was holding onto, I hit my head, hurt my arm, and hurt my leg. It's starting to scare me. I have tried getting out of bed slower, but that doesn't help. Can anyone help me? Im desperate.

Don't worry, this happens to me too. My doctor said it was just a low blood sugar problem, so just be sure to keep your blood sugar level stable :) hope I helped!

-jessica 15/f

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15/F

I want to get ear gauges. However, my parents think it's a dumb idea and I won't ever be able to get a job with them. They believe that they won't heal back if I decide to take them out. They say I can have them when I move out, but I know I won't want them then.

How do I convince my parents to let me get them?

Hi, I'm 15/f as well and I've had ear gauges before. Honestly, I'm agreeing with your parents :/ they didn't seem so cool when I had them and they just felt weird. I always felt like people were staring at them... not to mention, depending on how big you want them, they can take a long time to get to the size you want. You can't just put in a size 2. You have to start out small and get up to a bigger size. Also, if you don't think you'll want them when you get older, why bother with them now? Depending on the size, they can do permanent stretching and then if you don't want them when you get older, you'll just have big holes in your ears. Really, there isn't a way to 'convince' your parents about this. Almost all parents would be against this idea, and there really aren't any 'good benefits' you get for them... so I say you should just wait. If you still want them when you get older, then you can get them :) hope I helped a little...

jessica 15/f

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I swear it was love at first sight, because ever since the first day I met jason he's the only guy I ever thought about. The problem is we're in a non dating relationship and its his choice! One day I went to see him and ran into a few of his freinds who said he was with this really hot girl and I never said anything to him about it because we're not official. But he knows I care about him more than anything in the world but he will not cave he is not going to have a real relationship with me now and maybe ever. I feel like the girl he can fall back on but he says its not like that. He says that he cares about me and im the only girl he does anything with but he's not ready to commit. Now there is this other guy chris he is my ex and we just started talking again like a month ago. He told me the first day we started talking again that he missed me so much and when I told him about jason he said he would wait until I realized we were meant for eachother. and he is doing exactly that! chris calls me every day and we talk on the phone for hours, he drops his plans for me every time I want to see him, and he tells me every single time we talk that he loves me. This is so hard I love jason and he's the one I really want but I dont think I will ever be abled to have him. Then there is chris my first real love and best friend who does everything for me and makes me feel so special, but sometimes when were together I cant help but think he's not right cause he's not jason. What should I do?

Ok, so you're trying to decide between a guy who won't date you because he's too busy hanging out with hot girls or a guy who tells you he loves you but won't even hang out with you? If I were in your position, I'd forget them both. It sounds like they're just using you. Forget them both, go on a "girls night out" with some of your friends, or even your mom if you two are close. Unfortunately, there are guys like these all over the place. You'll have to suffer a lot of heart break due to the idiocy of men, but when you finally find THE ONE, you'll know. And don't worry, you have plenty of time to find him :) So go out and meet some new guys and if a guy really likes you and isn't just using you, he'll WANT to date you and he'll WANT to hang out. Don't worry about it, you'll find the right guy :) it just takes patience. Hope I helped!

-Jessica 15/f

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ok well this is going to sound very stupid but what does it mean when you go to second base and what does it mean when you go to third base with a guy?

I believe it goes like this:

1st: kissing
2nd: feeling up or fingering
3rd: oral sex


At least that's how I always understood it :) hope I helped!

-Jessica 15/f

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so i'm barely 16 (girl), and really old guys try to hit on me all the time, its really creepy. i don't need any warnings about "stay away," blah blah blah, because that's obvious, and the oldest guy i'd date or even think about hooking up with is 18, maybe 19. but like so many guys give you that "i want you in bed" stare (hahaha;) & theyre like 30s or even in their 40s! its disgusting. like im short so im obviously no older than 17, i mean some days i could pass for legal but probably not. like i know when a guy is interested in you, he turns his torso to face you. i know this could be coincidental at times but i had a teacher last year that always sat on desks and (not to be gross) spread his legs to slump down with his elbows on his knees, and i know that when a guy points his you-know-what at you, hes interested in you. (its a natural mating instinct, don't believe me if you dont want to.) this teacher was like 30 and he always faced me. like i made a point to move to avoid him and move to different seats across the entire room and he still always faced me, every single day. like i know its just one incident but so many old guys give me creepy stares. i just want other peoples experiences to make sure im not the only one hahaha and maybe some advice to keep the creepers away ;)
thankss

haha... this isn't exactly rare for attractive teenage girls. And there isn't really anything you can do about it. Just ignore it :)

-Jessica 15/f

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Michael Jackson died today and he was only 50 years old. It really took me by surprise, but it wasn't as if I didn't expect it sometime fairly soon. There have been rumors flying around for some time now about his health problems. As a matter of fact, when Michael was on trial, one day he was late because of health problems. Obviously, the judge didn't feel that Michael's health was all that important because he threatened to have Michael Jackson jailed unless he made an appearance in the courtroom. Michael showed up in his pajamas. Does anyone else remember that?

People made it out to seem as if he was faking. Some people even made it seem like he was crazy and would do ANYTHING as he was suddenly "extremely unpredictable" and all. I guess he wasn't kidding or faking about having health problems, huh?

I'm going to miss Michael Jackson. He was a man who set out to hurt no one, but the world seemed hell-bent upon hurting him. Michael Jackson was seriously the King of Pop in so many ways. Maybe he's better off wherever he is since we trashed his good name without even giving him a chance to speak. I choose to believe that he is now seated up in Heaven, seeing God for the first time.

Does anyone feel like me about Michael Jackson or am I alone in this? When I was growing up Michael Jackson was such a big role model. Sure, he was a little weird but he seemed to care and love. I'm really hurt that Michael Jackson is dead :( almost like a large portion of my childhood has been abandoned.

I'm with you on this :( oddly enough, it seemed like the entire world was always critisizing him and insulting him when he was alive, but now that he's gone, everyone's extremely upset by it. I think I am depressed by his death because he seemed like a genuinly good guy with a couple screws loose. But then again, aren't the majority of us a little bit like that too? However, he was a celebrity and people notice everything you do when youre famous. I guess he kind of expected the ridicule when doing all the things he did because it really just comes with that high status. He was a brave guy though, not letting it get to him so much :) I think he's in heaven too, still making wonderful music of course. You shouldn't feel alone in this because I don't really think anyone actually thought this would happen so soon. I find comfort in just remembering how he was and all the wonderful music he made :) Hope I helped!

-Jessica 15/f

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My boyfriend started touching my breast and also my vagina and licking and biting my hands. We didn't have sex (no penetration)!!

P.S. We were clothed(he was wearing thin denim and I was wearing a skirt)

When he was touching and licking me, I think I had sexual arousal and I could feel wet underwear. When I went to the bathroom I saw discharge. Could it be that I was excited and had sexual arousal or was it semen?

He didn't lay on top of me or something, but I'm worrying a bit. My period is due in 10 days.

Could sperm enter my vagina through clothes?

Any suggestions please??

No you aren't pregnant. You can only get pregnant if his sperm gets INSIDE your vagina, which didn't happen. Hope I helped.

-Jessica 15/f

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Hey guys, thanks for reading. I am starting a prank war with my friend. Recently he got all of my friends, and my mom's help and they strung yarn ALL over my room, and attatched bells and cute little notes all over it. I was really surprised, and I thought it was really fun!

NOW! I need to know how to get him back! I don't want it to be messy or gross, just BIG. What should I do?

here are a few ideas, but you most definitely want his parent's consent on these, since most of these are quite messy lol

-fill a few styrafoam cups with confetti and tape/rubber band them to his fan blades. Then when he turns the fan on, confetti will go everywhere :)

-fill a cabinet or a closet with ping pong balls. Just make sure his family is in on it too so that they won't open it up instead!

-Set all of the alarms in the house to 2:30 in the morning. At 2:30, be knocking at their window/door and calling their phone. Again, make sure the victim's parents are in on this one. You do NOT want angry parents waking up at 2:30

and here's another sight with a LOT of funny pranks:

http://www.funnypracticaljokes.com/funny-pranks.php

haha hope I helped! Goodluck! :)

-Jessica 15/f

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I've been bored lately. What are really fun games to play on the internet?

I usually go to Miniclip.com. Or you could just go to Google and search "free online games" or somthing :) hope I helped!

-Jessica 15/f

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hi, well latley ive been feeling really down about myself. i mean i have amzing friends and i do a lot just that nothing feels like its going right. this isnt the first time either. im just cought in between a hole bunch of stuff and i dont know what to do about any of it. im confused and so scared about what people will think of me if i told people about what im going through. i just need someone to go to that i can look to for advice. i just dont know how i can come forward with my problem just yet. so what should i do ?

Pretty much everyone feels this at some point in their life, usually more then once. It's not uncommon to feel like there's somthing you're going through that you can't tell anyone else because, even if you did tell them, they might not understand because they're not going through the same thing. I've been through this many many many times and here are some things that helped me:

- I got a journal. I know, I know, it sounds like something a therapist would recommend. But in all honesty, it really helps a LOT. Just make sure you keep it safe from other people :)

- I chose my most understanding friend and started telling her what was going on with me. At first, it was kinda weird since I'd kept it all bottled up for so long, but eventually I got to the point where we'd just talk for hours and hours about life. And it just felt good to have someone there to listen to my problems and help me out

- I expressed all my feelings through my art. This may not be your kind of thing, but I've been drawing and painting since I was a kid and it gives me a sense of contentment when I draw or paint. Like I said, it may not be your thing, but maybe there are other ways to express your feelings for you :)

Also, if your problem is serious enough to need some proffesional help, please dont hesitate to go see a therapist or doctor. If you keep things bottled up too long, it could lead to some mental issues that are a real pain to deal with later on :/ hope I helped!!!

-Jessica 15/f

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