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Help Im confused and hurt
I swear it was love at first sight, because ever since the first day I met jason he's the only guy I ever thought about. The problem is we're in a non dating relationship and its his choice! One day I went to see him and ran into a few of his freinds who said he was with this really hot girl and I never said anything to him about it because we're not official. But he knows I care about him more than anything in the world but he will not cave he is not going to have a real relationship with me now and maybe ever. I feel like the girl he can fall back on but he says its not like that. He says that he cares about me and im the only girl he does anything with but he's not ready to commit. Now there is this other guy chris he is my ex and we just started talking again like a month ago. He told me the first day we started talking again that he missed me so much and when I told him about jason he said he would wait until I realized we were meant for eachother. and he is doing exactly that! chris calls me every day and we talk on the phone for hours, he drops his plans for me every time I want to see him, and he tells me every single time we talk that he loves me. This is so hard I love jason and he's the one I really want but I dont think I will ever be abled to have him. Then there is chris my first real love and best friend who does everything for me and makes me feel so special, but sometimes when were together I cant help but think he's not right cause he's not jason. What should I do?
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okay Jason may be the one you want to be with but that doesn't look like it is with him. he seems to be the player than a romantic. and he is wrong he will always fall back on you saying oh my new hot girlfriend who i only dated to make you jealous dumped me can we go out again.
one never go out with the same person twice because he is only falling back on you and is going to leave you once he finds someone else.
two if he really loves you and you are the only girl he cares about then ask yourself this, why isn't he with you? so he has commitment issues what man doesn't but that never means leaving if he truly loves you.
Chris i like him, he will drop all of his plans just to hang out with you and he tells you he loves you. how does that make you feel when he says it special right, does Jason make you feel special or do you just want him?
okay i know i said that you should never redate someone but when you think this is this thought coming from your head or your heart. your heart truly knows what best and only wants the best for you. if you like Chris then go out with him if he makes you feel like you should be when your with a man when you love him then date him.
Jason only wants you to see that he is only going to be there for you when it has something to do with him.
waiting for you two to be with each other, the only thing a man waits for is food if he is waiting for you that should tell you something, he is still in love with you.
but really no one can truly tell who to love or date or marry, it is harder than it sounds but you got to listen to your heart and if this Chris guy makes you laugh and weak in the knees or just plain happy isn't that like a sign telling you that you should at least give him another chance.
i hoped this helped you and good luck
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Ok, so you're trying to decide between a guy who won't date you because he's too busy hanging out with hot girls or a guy who tells you he loves you but won't even hang out with you? If I were in your position, I'd forget them both. It sounds like they're just using you. Forget them both, go on a "girls night out" with some of your friends, or even your mom if you two are close. Unfortunately, there are guys like these all over the place. You'll have to suffer a lot of heart break due to the idiocy of men, but when you finally find THE ONE, you'll know. And don't worry, you have plenty of time to find him :) So go out and meet some new guys and if a guy really likes you and isn't just using you, he'll WANT to date you and he'll WANT to hang out. Don't worry about it, you'll find the right guy :) it just takes patience. Hope I helped!
-Jessica 15/f
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Honestly,
It sounds like Jason doesn't want to be in a relationship with you, As hard as that is for you to hear he IS in a relationship with another girl. What he might mean is, He likes you just not in that way. As far as Chris goes hey if you think you two should hook up again go for it but here is the question..."Why is Chris your ex?" If you two broke up for a good reason than I would second guess taking him back. Afterall you did say that you and Chris are not offical...but if he is dating another girl it's hard to even say you two are offical at all.
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well obviously chris cares alot for you. if you like him and it sounds like you do then i think you should stick with him. About Jason, he's not ready to commit so why waste your time. Maybe in the future if you and chris arent together and Jason is ready for a real relationship he will realize what he has been missing out on. But if you and chris are still dating then stick with that. Hoped i help.
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Ok, it sounds to me like neither of them are the right choice for you. Hate to be the one to break it to you, but if this guy Jason doesn't want to commit to you know, he most likely won't ever. To be brutally honest, stop waiting for something that most likely won't come. I know it may be really hard, but you need to distance yourself from him, and soon. Don't be that girl that follows him around waiting for him to notice you. You're better then that...you don't need him.
And as for your ex boyfriend, he sounds like a great guy, but it also sounds like you're not that into him. And you need to be honest with him, because right now you're doing to him exactly what this other kid is doing to you. Don't settle! If you believe theres someone out there thats more compatible for you then their probably is, and its your responsibility to yourself to find the best for you.
So the bottom line, let go of both of them. Your ex sounds like a great friend, and if you want, stay friends with him. Just let him know your true intentions.
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You already know in your heart who you want to be with, I can tell just by what you've told me. You want to be with chris. You might think that Jason is the one you want, but honestly, he's not. He doesn't treat you right, and to him, you're just the "other girl" or the "back-up plan" and no guy should ever treat a girl that way. Just by the way you talk about chris and how he's always here for you, I can tell puts a smile on your face, now compare the way chris makes you feel [at this moment] to the way jason does ... I'm gonna bet that thinking of jason doesn't really give you warm fizzy feelings haha. Think about it, who would you rather be with, some jerk who is giving you the excuse of "not wanting to commit" but is really going around and finding other girls besides you or a nice guy who loves and ACTUALLY means it when he says he cares about you and proves it by sticking with you and comforting you through this hard time. I think the answer is clear as day.. but it's up to you to make that decision. Things with jason didn't work out, he's an asshole, obviously, and you shouldnt wait around for a guy who isn't waiting for you. You deserve better, someone like chris.
And it's gonna be hard to get over jason, it is. I'm not gonna lie. But you can do it. Spend more time with chris. yes, jason will always be in your heart, but there is plenty of room for other people in there too. Give chris another shot, see if he's worth it, and it's totally normal if sometimes when youre with chris you get that sad empty feeling because hes not who you want him to be, but that will pass, because in time, you'll realize that you're soooo much better off without jerks like jason and that you're one of the very lucky people who have found someone that truly cares about them [like chris]
hope i helped ! and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me. I'd love to know what your decision will be and how everything works out [which it will work out fine, i promise.] good luck hun ! xxo. :]
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