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help!
theres this guy, but we would only talk online. i feel uncomfortable talking on the phone. know what i mean?
and we never have anything to say.
he asked me out, i said yes.
and it's the summer.
what am i supposed to do!!
help me please!
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its okay to feel uncomfortable talking on the phone until you really get to know him. i've been there, haha. when you guys are talking online, ask to make plans to hangout or go on a date or something, just get to know him and what he likes, it will make things alot more comfortable for you and you will soon have plenty of things to talk about. i'm almost positive he won't say no since he asked you out already. alls i can really tell you is to just keep hanging out with him and soon enough you will get more comfortable with him and talking on the phone and texting and all that other relationship talk will just come as it does :)
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I have been there and done thaaat. Technology has its perks, but also its downfalls. I know you feel more comfortable only talking to him online because you can think about what you say before you say it and you'll "always" have something to talk about, but if you can't talk to him on the phone, this relationship is going to go no where. The first step is getting over your fear. When you're talking online, bring up talking to him on the phone something like, "Hey, you should call me tonight because I'm not gonna be able to go on the computer, and I like talking to you :]" If you tell him that, he'll be sure to keep any conversation going because of the fact that you like talking to him. But you need to call him, and then after you call him, you guys need to hang out in person. If you don't feel comfortable just hanging out with him alone at first, invite a group of friends out somehwere, maybe your house or the movie.. bowling? mall.. ? sometimes its better to be doing something, liek bowling, because you can have playful competition haha :]
When you call him, and you're afraid you won't have anything to talk about, make a list on a piece of paper of topics you can talk about, it'll make you feel more comfortable. You could also tell him that you wanna play the game 20 questions over the phone.. if you don't know what that is, both of you ask a question to eachother, back and forth. or you can ask him a bunch of "what ifs" or "would you rathers" it always make the conversation more fun.
But you just have to go for it, and talk to him. just dial his number and get over your fear, it's the only way :] I promise it won't be bad or scary. so don't be nervous, you got this.
good luck ! have fun, hope i helped and if you need anythign else feel free to inbox me :] xxo.
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