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I am crying & depressed. Please help me...
so i like this guy verrry verry much and he said he liked me a whole lot. he seemed like the right one for me.. we had so much in common, he sent me the sweetest text messages.. whole package.
earlier today, we were talking and i told him (to be open with him), that i had sexual intercourse with a girl 4 years ago, drunk, disoriented, and "went with it" like drunks do during sex.... and when i told him, he freaked and said it wouldn't work, i am disgusting, i am not good enough.. a few mins later he deleted me off myspace and is ignoring me
i wanted to tell him to prove to him i don't want to hide anything from him.. and i looked past his flaws. but when i mention 1 flaw he dumps me.
what did i do wrong? what can i do?? please help!
i of course regret doing that.. it was a party.. and i never did it again! now he makes me just want to repeatedly hit my head against the wall and repeatedly call me stupid.
please, don't tell me what i did was wrong about with the girl.. it was years ago, and i thought he wouldn't mind b/c he didn't mind anything else i told him.
anything would help =[
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honestly, if he judges you because of that then he ISNT WORTH YOUR TIME AT ALL. thats completely idiotic on his part. i think you should stop spendin your time on this asshole and move on. if you cant tell him somethin about your past 4 years ago then how can you tell him anythin recently ?
my opinion, you didnt do anythin wrong ! hes just way to judmental, and a complete jerk. please forget about him. i know itd be hard, especially if you like him as much as you say. but you dont need to be wastin your time on him.
if you still wanna talk to him, speak your mind. tell him that you think its not fair for him to stop talkin to you because of that. if he doesnt talk back or doesnt agree, i proved my point.
sorry hun, feel better, because youll find someone better :)
x sweeethoney
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sometimes you just gotta keep something to yourself...he doesnt have to know everything. But if your that type of girl who dont like to keep nothing from someone then i suggest that you get with a guy who accept you for who you are.
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You didn't do anything wrong. Not with this guy.
You were honest, but you hit a deal breaker for him. We all have deal breakers, things we just can't accept from people.
Some of them are rational and 'fair', like not being able to accept drug use, or people who've cheated in the past. Others are sort of stupid, like not being able to deal with someone who hates dogs, or who thinks Scream2 was a good movie...
With this guy, you simply tripped over a stupid deal breaker, and it is his right to have a stupid reason. It is also his problem and his mistake, not yours.
There are lots of fantastic people out there who have made drunken errors years in ago, and he is going to miss out on all of them, because he's made up his mind on a stupid, irrational, and unfair deal breaker.
Take a deep breath and remind yourself that someone, no matter how nice they seemed to be, who cuts you off because of a mistake long in your past, is someone who is probably prone to doing other stupid, selfish and intolerant things as well. Let him go. Cry it out, and be grateful he showed his true colours now, rather then months from now.
And please don't let one judgemental ass keep you from taking the risk of trusting someone else.
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