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17/f. So there's this guy that I've liked for awhile now, and I just want to get over him. I mean, he's a good guy and all, but I just don't really feel like I have a reason to like him anymore.
This whole summer, I've been making an effort to hang out with him, but we haven't hung out once, so obviously he doesn't like me back.
Whenever we talk online, he talks about himself alot and always takes a long time to respond whenever I'm talking, and sometimes when I talk to him I feel like I don't like him.
I'm probably not going to see him school next year, and I'm sick of being upset that I haven't seen him in a really long time and that he most likely does not feel the same way about me.
So why can't I get over him? Any ideas on how to get over him? =/

Some guys are like that, they are soo slow, and also oblivious to the fact that someone likes them. He could still like you, especially if he cares about what you have to say. But .. he's not the only guy who cares what you have to say. I know there are more guys. Its hard to get over someone I know, because I'm almost in the same boat you are. But the thing is, don't waste your energy over someone who wont waste their energy on you either. Soooner or later a guy who will be begging you for YOUR time will come a long, and this will all seem so silly. Just focus on the main things in life, you dont need a guy to make you happy, I'm sure you already know that.
But if you put your effort into hangingout with him and he still doesnt want to. Theres not a lto you can do.

God Bless.

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So, I'm 15/f and he's 15/m and we've been friends since 6th & he's one of the bffls that you love but never do anything together? Haha, weird friendship, I know.

Anywhos. Well, since 6th grade, I began to like him and in 7th grade he turned me down when I asked him to go to the dance with me. Ever since I've accepted that we're just friends and nothing more. I was really starting to get over him during the summer after 8th grade [We didn't have an classes together since that one class in 6th grade]. But during our 9th grade, he was in few of my classes [both Pre-IB kids so we're gonna be in the same classes a lot from now on] and we instantly became better bffl's if that makes sense. Like we created a lot of inside jokes & we were like partners for everything like labs, checking work, writing, class work, and basically everything. And then my feelings for him started to come back and it's been on and off [my liking for him that is] And out of no where, he's called me cutie a few times & I'm confused as to if he's just being friendly or jokingly or what? Cliche sounding but he's already broken my heart several times [esp when he kept on making himself to his now ex-gf for the longest time] & I don't know what I'm suppose to take the "cutie" thing as. I'm probably over thinking it. But do you think he's just saying that in a friend manner or more? Thanks =)

Well aw, I think that is so cute. I wish I had a guy best friend, ahah it would give me some perspective on more things. But I think it may be he's just being nice. You know? Since you explained that he's a rocker dude, I know guys like that, and this sounds cliche too, but some of them just do that, and not saying that they all do. But the ones I know, have said it, and def not mean it in a 'i like you' kind of way. Just wait until something more obvious comes up,
pay attention on if he pays attention to you.
But careful so you dont wreck the friendship

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I want people's opinions on this. Do you think people should wait to have sex until their married. Do you think People would regret it? I mean because like youve waited and now your wondering like "what would it feel like with someone else?" On the other hand i hear people having sex when there 14 and having STDS and they probably should've waited. idk

Opinions?

In my opinion and belief,
I think its best to wait until marriage.
I dont care if a person is 17 years old and claims to be in love and mature. Sex will always CHANGE everything. People take it too lightly. It changes the relationship two people have so drasticly. Sometimes for the better and sometimes for the worse. If you are both virgins when you get married you will not have to worry about being compared to someone else. Its a very personal thing, physcially (obviously) but also emotionally. I personally think if you wait, you wont regre it. If you are wondering once you're married what it would be like with someone else, maybe you shouldnt have married that person, but then again, minds do wander and have fantasies. Young kids having sex, dumb idea. Aids is infecting millions of young and old people, and STDS there are over 100+ types, and some dont even have cures. There are just so many risks of having sex before married I think, so its just better to wait, but thats my opinion.

God Bless.

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well I rreaaally like this guy; but i moved 3 hours away. We liked each other for a while and went out for a couple of days but i broke up with him which was really stupid. I told him that i missed him and he just said gtg. i dont know what to do! Please help me.

You've got to remember, guys can be absent minded sometimes, and sometimes not.
Its hard to tell with them. He probably liked you a lot, and when you broke up with him, it really did hurt his feelings. And the fact that you told him you missed him, was opening the doors again to potential heart damage for him, and maybe he doesn't want to deal with that again? I'm not sure, maybe talk to him again but tell him you are sorry for breaking up with him and that you dont know why you did it, and that you really do like him, and miss his company.
But dont do it if you really dont plan on making it work, because 3 hours away is a long ways, for a relationship, and he probably know that.
Think about it.
God bless.

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my friends grandfather died this morning. hes really hurt. but i dont know what to say to him. im scared ill say something wrong. what should i tell him?

With death and dying there is never anything specific to say. I've been through loved ones dying, and nothing people say really help because after a while you've heard it all. Just comfort him as best you can, hug him, hold on to him, and be there for him. Tell him you will always be there for him if he needs anything, be with him even if he needs you or not. Just be honest with him, tell him how you feel, and how you dont know exactly what to say, but that you love him very much.
I lost a friend recently, and I didnt want to talk about it with anyone really, because it hurt too much, and it was jsut too soon, for a lot of us it was just too soon. But the memories started pouring out, and the love for him started pouring out, it was obvious. But remind him he had a good life, and it meant a whole lot to a ton of people, it wasnt just meaningless.

God bless.

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What would you do iuf you hurt someone's feelings (someone in your family) and you apologize but they don't want to forgive you?

It depends on what you did..
Somethings even in a family, can hurt SO bad.
Sometimes even more, because it was a family member that said it.
Honestly time can only tell, give the person time, to heal, and to really forgive.

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Okay, a year ago, me and my boyfriend, blake, broke up. I found out he cheated on me and I was cheating on him, but he kinda physically hurt me. He moved, but eveyrbody sasy he's coming back, and he swore he'd come back this coming skool year. I'm freaked cuz last night, I had a dream about him (won't go into details). I think I still like him ,but I don't know if I do cuz every time I hear his name my skin crawls. Could somebody help me? I wanna know what to do!

You made a mistake cheating on him,
as did he cheating on you.
And 'kinda' physically hurt you? That could turn into an abusive relationship if you got into it again. Why would you like someone who hurt you, and isnt faithful to you? Just think about that. If he does come back, keep your distance, I guess follow your heart, and weigh the consequences.

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Ok so here it is.
me and my BFF have been best friends for 7 years
I moved away from where I use to live like 3 years ago...so me and her live an hour and a half away but still are very close well I met this guy and we started going out and I love him to death but I think my BFF is kinda jealouse of my bf cuz he gets to see me all the time adn we do stuff together alot and I tend to talk about him alot I try not to but idk..anywayz...what should I do should I do should I stop hanging with him so much....and should My bff be close to me then My bf???.......PLEASE HELP

Always remember bestfriends over boyfriends. Chicks before dicks. Etc you know. Friends should always come first, now your boyfriend has the advantage by living close to you. But your best friend was there for you before your boyfriend came into the picture correct? You shouldnt stop hanging out with him, he you love him, keep the relationship strong. Just dont let your friendship with your BFF go to waste. Make time to hang out with her, explain to her that gas is expensive, and living an hour and a half away is still expensive. But really she just needs to deal with the fact that you've moved away, maybe not that far, but now you are closer to someone else, and just because she is jealous doesnt mean she should stop you from hanging out with your boyfriend.
Good luck!

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I want to entertain in the field of singing. I'm not after fame: I actually wouldn't welcome it. I just want a bit of recognition for my ability and I'm yearning to inspire others with my voice as I have been by hearing other singers. Where do I get my start?

School musicals, singing at churches, singing for good causes, charities, singing the national anthem at baseball games, - all those can be inspiring and get you out there :)
Also choose your songs wisely.
good luck

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14/f

In 2 facebook groups, there are pictures of me. Nothing bad, just some random pictures. Is it dangerous to keep those pictures on the groups?

Thanks

Nope, if its a private group for your network only you should be fun. But if its public that means other people from around the world could see it. I dont think anyone would try to cause you danger, but you never know.

Over all though - I don't think its a big deal, and its pretty harmless, just be careful what groups you put your pictures in!

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i have a mac, and it might tbe the same on windows but how do you make it on the sims 2 so that you can set your own music to play on the radio or stereo or movies to be played on the tv?

Go in to your documents,
click the EAgames folder,
click the sims 2 folder,
then click the folder that says music,
and it will give you a bunch of folders with different genres.
All you have to do now,
is go to your music folder, or wherever your mp3s or music is located, and right click the song you want, and click send to my documents,
and then you can drag it into the EAgames folder, and then drag it into the sims 2 folder, and then into the music folder and put it in any music genre folder you want it to. And you can also send more than one song at a time, but highlighting the songs you want and then right clicking and sending to your documents.

Hope I helped,
if you still don't understand,
drop me a line in the inbox!

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My whole life I've been told and thought I'm stupid. Because I'm not school-book smart. I don't get good grades in the "smart subjects" like science, math and so on. I am so sick of believing this. I'm a different type of smart. I know I can make something of myself.

I am especially good at 3 things; public speaking & reaching out to people, languages (I know 4 different languages and intend on learning several more) and I sympathize, more than anything. People always turn to me because of that, I long to help. More than anything.

I've researched at least a hundred different professions in my attempt to find a major that will equip me with the right tools to help save the innocent from the corrupt and ultimatley change the world. I need a profession that will make me come alive. I have a picture of myself speaking infront of thousands of people, touching their hearts, or working at a homless shelter, somehow helping those who have been used, or anything of that kind. But in BIG levels, it wouldn't mean anything to me as a doctor or anything like that. It's not the kind of thing that would make me come alive, it wouldn't matter to me. I don't want to help one person at a time, I want to help thousands.. at once. I want to do something that would end homelessness and stimulate world peace!

I am compassionate and am able to provide stability in people's lives when they are shaken up. I am 16 years old, female, and more than anything.. I want to do something with my life.

No one believes in me, because I am not suited for the typical "good jobs" I will never have the grades to become a Lawyer, Doctor, Journalist or any of the sort.

Help me, what can I become? And how do I get there?

Thank you so much! And please, don't read this and think "what a dreamer, everyone thinks they'll save the world.. this one doesn't even have good enough grades.. she doesn't even know how to spell" Please, I have enough people thinking that way, if you can't help me, fine. But I'm begging you, don't think like that.

Hey! I'm sixteen too, and I'm exactly like you. Well I think like you. I also am not book smart. I'm better with helping people by listening and solving their problems, you know. I take it you are a girl with an AMAZING heart, and you care for people, and are probably quite perceptive.
You have 3 qualities that WILL get you very far in life. I believe in you!! This makes me so happy actually! If more people were like you, this world could be so much better. I'm not good at suggesting what you should do really, but I would just like to say, that I support you, and I know you can make it. With an attitude like yours and the heart and soul to help others, you will make a HUGE difference in so many people's lives. I'm sorry I didnt really answer your question, but what you wrote really made me happy, I love that you care for others and its not just all about you. God bless!

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there's this boy i like and i found out my friends other friend like him 2 and it seems like my friend is wit the other girl side. so wat should about it? o yea and the girl who also likes him gets 2 see him more than me cuz there in the same grade so that is also a problem

It doesnt matter who likes him.
The guy gets to decide if he wants either of you.

Guys are not "property".

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There is this song on some girl's myspace page that i love. It's a techno song. And no asking her is not an option. Yes, i did try google.
Anyone have any idea what it can be? here are some lyrics:

It starts off..

*baby when i'm falling asleep i think about you do you think about me // tell me if you wanna get closer to the fire closer to me

waiting by the telephone // let me be the one you call when you go down // shine on me and help me catch the morning star // don't you wanna get me tonight // i'm still here don't be shy //

Its called
Morning Star - Cooler kids

I just gooogled it too..

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Okay... this is going to be long but I REALLY need help. So thanks to anyone who takes this seriously and actually reads it and TRIES to help me.
So there's this boy.
He is SO cute.
He has brown hair, bright blue eyes, muscles... just, the whole enchilada.
Anndd... I have liked him for SOO long.
Since the beginning of this year.
And like, he used to like me but whatever.
Andd... on Valentines day of THIS year, it was 6th period on a Wednesday and I asked the teacher if I could go to the bathroom and so I went and his class is right next to mine. So as I walking back to class, I see AJ [the guy] walking towards me and my heart skips a beat. He is just, TOO cute. And we stopped by the lockers and we were talking or whatever. And he KISSED me. And pretty soon, we were making out and everything was SO great.
He was my first kiss.
I loved it.
And that night, I snuck out for him and got my ass caught and yeahh. Anywaysss...
he told me be liked me and everything. And we were talking about going out.
Well then, there comes BARBIE. She's a wannabe barbie, anyways. Well yeah, she was new to the school and AJ helped her out and now they're going out. wtf. I don't get how he could possibly do that: like me one second and then have a girlfriend the next. Fucking stupid. So anyways, I started liking this kid, Charles. And he liked me a lot and now, he won't talk to me at all for NO reason. And I was all depressed and vulnerable Saturday night [last Saturday night] and AJ started IMing me. [he was sober]
And we were joking around about blowjobs. Like, here's pretty much how the converation went.
AJ: SUCK IT.
ME: haha nahh. I don't feel like it.
AJ: haha well not now nigga.
ME: haha okay.
AJ: maybe tuesday?
ME: i dont know. I may be booked. haha
AJ: mann thats fucked up. haha
ME: haha im kidding.

like, we were joking and stuff and flirting ALOT. And him and his girlfriend were fighting. And he told me that I was prettier and that I would be a better girlfriend. And that she was an ugly whore. And everything. It was like, woah. I couldn't believe it.
So then, that night, he got fucked up on everclear, bars, coke&jack, and bud light. So yeah... I'm surprised he didn't die... seriously.
Anyways,
he was telling me I was beautiful and making me feel really good. And he started asking me to send him pictures of my boobs and I didn't wanna do it. And I didn't but like, I didn't know what to tell him! I was scaredd. 'Cause he's the only guy I;ve ever actually done something sexual with. And then he started asking me to have phone sex and I would finger myself and he would jack off. :/
I thought it was really weird.
'Cause like, I've never fingered myself as weird as they may seem but whatever.
I didn't want to.
And I didn't.
And I told him I liked him and I wanted to do everything to make him happy but I can do that in other ways. And fucking isn't one of them. I could be there for him and make him feel good about himself and just... be a great girlfriend. He's the ONLY guy I wanna be with. Seriously. I can't picture myself with anyone else.
Only him.
I've pictured us together SO many times.
I just want it to happen so bad.
And it never has.
And now, he's completely ignoring me.
And I have no idea why.
And I dont want him mad at me. I wanna at least be friends if not more. But I don't even think he wants to be that.
I mean, he's a major PIMP. He gets ALOT of girls and like, most of them are more than willing to give it up to him. But I'm not. And I think that's part of the reason he's not talking to me.
And I know he's an asshole.
And I've heard a million times how stupid I am for falling for a guy like that. So you don't have to tell me...

I just wish he wasn't like that. Like, I want us to work SO bad. I want to be with him.
He just... i dont know. There's something about him.
I don't know what it is. But anyways, yeah.
I don't know what to do.
I'm not asking for actual advice because seriously, what can you do? I just need some reassuring thoughts. Something to take my mind off everything. SOMETHING. I'll give you credit for even TRYING to help.
Shit, I'll give you credit just for READING it.
haha
I just need SOMETHING.
Thanks guys.
Love yall.
:]

I don;t know why you would want guys to answer this. Honestly, just because you've liked him so long, doesnt mean anything. People have crushes on celebritys too, but that doesnt mean if they ever get the chance to go out, that everythign will be perfect. What you imagine in your mind, and what is reality is completely different. I honestly mean that, think about it. In your mind, you two would be perfect, you would hang out, and do fun stuff, but thats just stuff you could do with anyone. There is more to a relationship than physical things. It sounds to me like he wants that. And you are going to get yourself into a dangerous situation if you keep trying to persue him.

As you said yourself he's a pimp, why would you want to be with someone like that?


"Guys pretend to love to have sex, girls have sex to pretend to have love"

I dont know if you've ever heard that before,
but its true.
Girls want love, most girls are way more mature than guys.

So be careful,
and also, be mindful,
if this guy you like already had a girlfriend,
dont interfer with the relationship,
you wouldnt want someone doing that to you your relationship would you?
And if he called his girlfriend all those names, what makes you think he woudlnt turn his back towards you and do that to you?
Since obviously he already did, but leading you on and kissing you, then dating another girl.
You know?

I hope I'm not making you angry,
actually it doesnt matter if I am.
Becuase I am giving my opinion on this situation.

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I play in a band and we put on a bunch of shows, which is a huge passion of mine, and everyone I know knows it.
So everytime we play a show my closest, supposed "friends" always say they're going to come, but when the time of the show comes, none of them ever show up. At the last show only one of them showed up, but that was like at the middle of the very last song.
This bothers me because I think if these were my friends, they'd realize how important this is to me and give me support, like I have always been there for them. And I always feel like they makeup some lame excuse as to why they didn't come, or why they're late.
Am I wrong for feeling this way ????

No you arent wrong for feeling this way.
But honestly, maybe they are not interested.
Which obviously would suck, because its something you are passionate about.
Just stop asking them to come then, let them come on there own. People have excuses for a lot of things, and sometimes there reasoning isnt even a good excuse.
But theres not a lot you can do about it,
in my opinion, I would just confront them about it, and tell them what you said on here.

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i have this really good friend who is a boy(i'm 14/f)
he's so cute and nice. i hang out with him a lot and stuff. i really like him, but he doesn't like me more than a friend. i've never asked him out, but he's told me who he likes. what do i do? :`(

Well if he doesn't like you like that,
there really isnt a lot you can do.
Don't worry about it, I know your feelings are probably hurt. But, you are fourteen,
there is more to a person than what they look like and if they are 'nice', as you get older you will realize that.
It may be hard to understand what I'm trying to explain, but trust me, growing up you learn more and more about the opposite sex.

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26/f

My boyfriend is 29, we've been dating two years and we're getting married in three months. He has a nine year old daughter in another state. She doesn't know about me. He only visits her once or twice a year because she lives really far away, but he tries to call a lot and always sends money to her mom. I'm just scared because I've read articles about how a lot of kids have a harder time dealing with a parent getting remarried than they do dealing with their parents getting divorced in the first place! What's the right thing to do? I don't want to make her accept me as this new "mom" if she doesn't have to, but I also want to be honest, and I feel like I should get to know her if we're family now. The most important thing is that she's not emotionally traumatized... how can we do that?

Okay, I know a lot about this.
My dad remarried twice.
The first time I had a hard time accepting my new step 'mom'. It took honestly a few years until I really started to appreciate her, and the things she did. Now if he hardly sees her, technically she is his family, but not so much yours. If you both saw her more, that would be different. Anyways, my point is, I know a lot of step parents, think they have to be "tough" or "strict" on their new step kids. But please dont. Unless you want them to hate you. I dont mean be completely laid back and let them do anything. But I know what really caused friction between my step mom and I, was that she told me what to do, and that in her house it was different. She made me feel super uncomfortable.
She had rules, and in my opinion, you cant expect me to change all my rules that I live by, that my real mom tells me, just for her. You dont have 100% authority of the step child. I'm sure you know that, but use love, and care about her, it just takes time.

I do know what I'm talking about too,
because my dad remarried 3 times now.
Its not great, and just remember,
no matter how you treat your step daughter,
its really up to her, if she wants to accept you,
the more you push the worse it will be,
I'm not saying that you are giong to push her.
But .. its up to the kid, you know?

Good luck,
I wish you all the best,
because I was in this situation
but me being the step kid,
and I know how hard it can/is be.

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okay so i have been with this guy for awhile and ni love him and he loves me etc.... but suddenly he just ignores me and we never talk. he says he doesnt know and hes 'in a funk' he doesnt even know if he loves me anymore.
This was so sudden and he's been like this for over a week.
what do i do?

Well you may 'love' him,
but I'm almost positive he doesn't love you.
If someone has to question or "think" about if they love someone. Its not love at all.
Love is something you just know, as tacky as that sounds. You won't have to think about it, and despite moods you get in, you will still love that person. So if he's not even sure. Maybe a break would be good for you two?
I know its probably something you DON'T want to do. No one wants to. But dont settle for less than you deserve.

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My boyfriend and my best friend have been hanging out behind my back, which normally wouldn't bother me. However, they didn't tell me because they knew I'd get upset about it, which worries me more. I should trust them, I know. But she's cheated on her boyfriend one too many times. I talked to them both about me getting upset over it and they promised it wouldn't happen again. I found out today its still happening.

I've never had issues with trusting people, especially those so close to me. This is hard for me to deal with and I'm not sure what I can do to make this jealous feeling go away. Its ruining everything.

To be quite honest, there is ALWAYS a reason people have feelings. That gut feeling, that nervous feeling, that excited feeling.
We dont get them for nothing, not usually anyways.
If you feel jealous, or like something is going on, confront them again. Tell them you cant shake the feeling, and mention to your best friend that if she cheated on her boyfriend, what makes you think she woudlnt cheat on yours. She may get upset but why else would she just want to hang out with YOUR boyfriend, alone?

They shoudlnt have done it in the first place.
You know that too, well without your knowledge.
Sometimes jealously does get the best of people, but until you are 100% sure nothing is going on, is when it will go away.
If your boyfriend loves you, or really cares about you, he'll do what you say, you could even tell him to hang out with her less, because its upsetting you.

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