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Hi! My name is Kayla.. I'm 21. Through out life, I've had quite a bit of rocky roads and difficult dilemmas. They sucked at the time, but now I've become a call for help.I do it because I enjoy it.
If you send question in my inbox, you'll be answered FIRST.
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for the summer i want to have a book i can read like while im tanning or somethings.
im 15 soo nothing like too kidish or like whatever. :)
umm so have any ideas on some good books :) ?
Sure-- I have a few.
Pretty Little Liars by Sara Shepard. It's one of my favorite books, and it's followed by 3 others-- Flawless, Perfect, and Unbelievable.
What my mother doesn't know by Sonya Sones. This also has a sequel called What my Girlfriend doesn't know.
The Party room by Morgan Burke. Followed by After Hours and Closing time [I believe]
How to be popular: by Cabot. [Really hysterical]
Before I die by David Fickling
Other books who I don't have the author for--
Summer Boys series
The Lovely Bones
TTYL series
Confessions of a Boyfriend stealer.
I hope I helped.. let me know if you pick any of these. I'd love to hear your feedback on them!
okay, when i shave my vagina it hurts and starts bleeding in spots and i don't know why. i have a bad razor, and i think that it may be the problem.
does anyone know any REALLY good razors that will get ALL hair (like on my legs and armpits too) really well and has isn't bound to cut easily. and make me bleed down there..
or any other advice as of what would be causing me to get cuts (and they arn't cuts from just the razor. when i shave it hurts cause it's really sensitive and the hairs are prickly)
Hey there!
The same thing happens to a lot of my girl friends, you're skin is just sensitive, which is normal down there. I suggest that you don't shave everyday-- this can really irritate the skin.
Also I've heard of a cream called "Coochie".. if you google it you can get facts on it. It works magic.
I use Venus Divine-- and it's wonderful. It helps to keep your skin smooth long enough to not irritate it by shaving for a couple days.
Substitute gels or creams such as shampoos, soaps or body wash they won't help, either. So stay clear of them
The other girl who answered this answered well too, the better the products, the better the outcome.
Good luck.
I have just put one of my picture folders onto hidden and i dont know how to access it again. Have i just lost my pictures?
How can i access the folder again?
It is a Picture folder in My Documents > MY Pictures.
Please Help
The response below me is good.. but also, try going to start, search.. and click to search for Pictures only.
All of them should show up.
i am 15 year old girl and i want to know if he is using me for sex or what you think i have not been with him long about 2 weeks and he has already brought up sex and has said that he dont use comdoms and that, i have told him that i am going to make him wait and that if he wants me for me then hes got to prove it. i feel hes only with me when he wants to and when i want him there he dont answer my phone calls but he says he didnt hear it or left it at home, i know hes not cheating on me because he sits in his mates house with no girls there but i dont know what to do help please x
Trust your instinct- you already have the idea in your head that he may be using you. I suggest that you follow that because you're gut is always right.
If he's always bringing up sex, and you have to question his motives, then there's a clear reason or that. He in it for more than just your mind. =( I know it hurts to hear it, but it sounds to me like you may already know that.
You sound like a smart girl, and I think it's great that your holding off and respecting yourself. You don't want to regret any decisions that you make- so don't do anything you're heart doesn't agree with.
Let me know how it goes!
My 12 year old sister has been making moves on me for like 2 or 3 months now. She'll take any chance to rub her body against me, she has big breasts and they get in the way if we have any physical activities but she specifically likes to do weird stuff like smother my face with them if we wrestle or whatever.
I try to avoid her mostly but she comes to me like to play around or wrestle and if I don't play with her she will just get on top and ignore the fact that I'm ignoring her.
I'm 18 and I have a girlfriend so this feels wrong on so many different levels. I've told her to cut it out but she doesn't seem to be getting the message.
Your sister is young, and probably doesn't understand boundaries the way that you do. Since you've already tried ignoring her and now avoiding her, it's time you take it a step further.
At the age of 12, a girl goes through things that are difficult to understand. It's important that you look at things from her perspective. How is her school love? How do your parents treat her, and you? Maybe she's not getting enough attention elsewhere, so she feels that she needs to try to get it from you.
Her confusion is probably a faze, but it should be dealt with properly, so that she doesn't feel humiliated.
Try building a solid sibling relationship with her, so that you can trust in each other. My brother is my best friend, and I know I can go to him for anything. This may be difficult because she is young, but she needs to find a way to deal with the confusion she's facing.
If all else fails, you should probably tell the parent of your choice. You don't want to make your sister feel like a victim, but if there's nothing left, it's going to have to be brought up by someone who's always been disciplining her and teaching her right from wrong.
Good luck with your matter, and I commend you for seeking advice for something to personal to you.
is weed actually bad for you? if you only do it occasionaly, like every other weekend or something.
If you do research through government websites, you'll find that weed itself has never actually killed anybody.
But weed has done other things to damage lives. It's addicting, and may lead a person to drugs.
As much as I do not suggest a person to smoke weed, I'm not going to lie to you. Medically, and that means no accidents, it cannot kill you from what I've been taught.
Why do people believe that 9/11 was a conspiracy and was pulled off by the government just because they watched well edited movies like Loose Change and Zeitgeist? Doesn't anyone realize the lies and half truths they are being fed? Why doesn't anyone do any of their own research?
Thanks, I just want some reasoning to this disturbing trend in America's youth.
I have researched this conspiracy, and I'm not asking for a debate. I understand your side, and I'm completely open-minded. But, I had to do this research for a oral presentation-- and I can tell you why American's believe that the Government may have been pulled off and/or previously had knowledge of 9/11.
1. George Bush was giving a briefing just a few days before our building were hit. The cover of the papers stating that Bin Laden was planning to high jack our planes and send them into the World Trade Center buildings on 9/11. George Bush didn't even read this.
2. The Bush administration also deducted the finances on terrorism just 2 weeks before the planes struck.
3. In fact, George Bush didn't even attend ONE terrorism meeting until after the attack took place.
Other things to consider:
What can America do with the invasion of Iraq?
Why didn't Bush react when first hearing of the tragedy?
Is it Iraq or Afghanistan?
Where are these weapons of mass destruction?
I learned in sociology, that many people under the age of 40 follow the news through Comedy's Centrals' John Stewart, and Steven Colbert. It's amazing how little actual news has become a source. But, American's like to look passed what's fed to them. Which yes, explains Loose Change, Zeitgeist.. and the other MANY 9/11 conspiracy movies.
I love seeing different takes on the opinions that are brought up in debate, or even in conversation. Like I said, I'm a very open-minded person, and I respect your opinion, but I too believe that the government had prior knowledge. Maybe they didn't run the show, but they worked backstage.
Please down lower my rating for only answer your question. I really do think it's interesting that you brought up this question.
Take Care! =)
when losing your virginity theres like a little feeling kinda of cramp when he goes in far or whatever....
well like, the day after is it normal to have little cramps?
It's very normal to be sore. I would only worry about it if it continues to happen a few weeks during or after frequent sex.
Let me know if you need anything else,
Take care
nothing has gone right since dec of 07... i broke up with my bf for my ex who ended up hurting me more than he had in the beginning. i got back with the bf i broke up with jason and it was all good. then he left to iowa and then to basic. he got home from basic and all we did was fight he headed back to iowa for a while well the other day we got into a huge fight and broke up. i havent stopped thinkin of him and today he sent me a text saying sorry so i apologized back then he was like no im sorry i found a girl that i kinda like she is really cool. now there is nothign i can do about it... i love him so much and tried to tell him how this made me feel...but tears just fell too heavily and i just hung up. wat do i do
Well, it sounds to me like you need to find some positives in your life, since you feel it's hell. A boy should never alter your perspective on life. Life is never easier while dealing with a break up-- especially in the way that it was handed to you.
Fortunately, I have all the experience in the world with breaking up.
Right now, it's hard to keep your mind off of him, because you miss him so much. I know exactly what you're feeling. The best thing to do, though one of the hardest, is to keep yourself incredibly busy. One time I got dumped, and wrote an entire book of poetry during the summer days. I wasn't working enough yet, so I got up with old friends and sat back with new ones. The more people I had around me, the more I felt support even if the conversation wasn't about my break up.
If you find enough way to distract yourself, you be back on your game in no time. It sounds to me like even if you and this boy hadn't fought, you'd still be broken up. So don't blame yourself or your actions, and don't let him feel like he wins.
Come out over this, beyond it. It may take some pretending your happy when you're not and even some rebounds in the beginning, but it's going to work out for you.
When we get broken up with, our initial reaction is sadness-- even if we know it was bad for us to be in the relationship. I don't blame you for being sad, I only wish that you find your happiness.
Good luck!
Hello... I'm having boy troubles. I have a boyfriend and his bestfriend [who is a girl] likes him too. He is always hanging out with her more than with me. Should i ask him if he likes her or would that damage our relationship? Pleases help
Sincerely,
?LoVeStUcK?
Just remember-- if you're boyfriend wanted to be with this other friend of his, then he would do it.
If it's obvious enough to you that she likes him, then he must know it, too.
With that initiative, he'd could chose to stay with you, or start over with her. If it's still with you, you're what he wants. Don't let any insecurities change that for you.
If you really need reassurance, then ask him straight up if he may have feelings for someone else. I doubt he's stay with you if he wanted someone he could have.
Hope all goes well!
is it ok for a boy to nut in you if your on birth control
It's okay-- so long as you know that birth control doesn't protect you or him against STD's, if that's even the case.
Birth Control is 99% effective towards pregnancy- so you shouldn't have to worry about that really.
Good luck!
Okay,
I have this guy friend from High School whom I never really knew very well but we spoke here and there. It's been four years since I've graduated I haven't seen him. He just recently came to town to visit family and I went to spend time with him with a few "girl" friends of mine. Almost right away he started to flirt with me and get all obsessive over me. He would follow me, and say (I would be that boyfriend that would cuddle with you, protect you etc) and it got extremely annoying and I made it clear that I was in a relationship and seeing someone but I figured we could be friends so I gave him my phone number and he called me 15 times in one hour!...and I've told him to back off and that I no longer want to be his friend because he abused it.
What should I do??
Woooahh! Looks to me like he go a little over-excited about maybe pursuing something with you. If you've really made it clear to him that you're done, then he should back off. If it continues, you need to put your foot down because what your explaining is JUST ridiculous-- and furthermore, it's scary.
Say he doesn't stop?? It's time to tell somebody. It's not fair that you should have to deal with him calling and making you feel uncomfortable enough to look for some help on any website. That's just plain terrible!
Assure him again that you're over anything he had to offer-- if he overlooks this last attempt tell him your going to do whatever it take and take whatever precautions against him continuing his stalker ways. You owe it to yourself.
I'm sorry you had to go through all that-- damn.
Last year I discuss my best friend that I am bi sexual and that I have a crush on her. She is fine with it but she doesn’t like me in that way. Because she is unsure of her sexuality and not ready for a relationship (she is still unsure). After the talk we had she and I are still close friends and there were times she will seemed she is flirts or teasing me but I cant tell if it means she fancy me. She leans on me, touch me and close to me. Yesterday she and I and couple of our friends were in my room watching TV. I was on the left side of my bed and she the right. I lay in my head in the middle of the bed as she too. We ended up our heads touching together. I just don’t get why she is so touchy feely to me when she isn’t attracted to me.
It doesn't sound to me like she's just not attracted to you. In does in any case though, sound to me like she's exactly how you explained it-- unsure.
Give her some time-- because admitting and coming out to bi-sexuality is a big deal. I understand that you are bi-sexual so you've gone through all the realization and understanding steps-- she needs to go through the same process if in fact she in bi-sexual.
Take care!
I'm 18 and my bf is 19 we've dated off and on for 2 years.
Today we got in a huge fight and I said somethings I didnt mean. We had just got back from a weekend vacation and he was looking for his cds that I had put in the trunk. the trunk was packed with stuff and his cds were buried. he started digging around and I wanted him to take out my suitcase so we could find it. I guess I was yelling at him and he got angry and threw my suitcase out on the ground. I lost it. I was so mad. then I asked him "So are you going to act like this from now on" and he said yes so I said "well maybe we shouldnt be in a relationship then"
I regretted it as soon as I said it. I really didnt mean it. I was just mad at him for acting like a jerk. He is really really hurt and said he doesnt even know if i really love him. I do love him and I told him that but he is really hurt and wont talk to me. I apologized but I know it wont make up for what I said. What should I do. I really do love him and I didnt mean I wanted to break up.
People say things like this all the time in relationship. Honestly, I believe that when a person starts to question your feelings, they're really only asking that you're willing to show them. It's a test of love, and it's easier to beat it out when you're in love-- which it sounds to me that you are.
Your concern is genuine, and I doubt that one fight after a weekend vacation would really jeopardize a relationship that appears strong since it's been going for 2 years.
Let him cool off, and then explain to him that you do love him.. you love him enough to worry about the outcome of what happened. Should one suitcase throwing fight end 2 years?
Good luck, I hope I helped!
i know theres so many questions on here asking for help with love and there are more importtant problems out there. i wouldnt be asking this except its really interfering with my life. my sleep, the way im thinking, my friends, everything. im sorry this is so long.
if i seem noncholant about anything dont take it that way. ive just been thinking about things a lot and ive come to accept most of it.
im 14. hes 14 too.
so heres the story. 6th grade he asks me out in april, i didnt really know him or like him that much but he was cute and it was 6th grade so i said yes. we got along and talked a lot and got to know eachother a little bit. in may he told me he loved me, i said thanks. he went to camp in june, tried to kiss me before he left but i said no and he said okay. then he went to camp, wrote me letters every week saying he missed me. but the last week he didnt. i didnt mind, while he was gone i noticed i didnt miss him that much so i ended it when he got back. he said it was okay, he was gona end it anyway because he met someone else. so i was just like cool. yea i was kinda sad that night but after that i was just like whatever. and we really didnt talk after that.
then came 7th grade, and we went out twice. the second time we both sort of got bored with the relationship. the second time i ended it. i had just gotten surgery, and i was just like wow lifes too short to be with someone i didnt like in the first place. so we end it, we hooks up with random girls, i only miss the attention and wer all happy. oh i forgot the second time we kissed but it was kind of gross.
anyway, the point of this really long story is to show that thers a lot of history.
so now this year, 8th grade we dont go out but we've had two really serous things. and ive tried to end it so many times but he always talks me out of it.
i dont know how to end this without really hurting either of us. because heres the thing. ive really started liking him and it scares me. he thinks wer getting married and hes so nice. hes really a good guy but that makes it so hard on me because i dont want a relationship! my mom saw us walking today and thot we were dating. im just not intrested in anything so serous, but anything we have is serous because we've been dating on and off for three years. im 14, i dont know how to handle this. please any advice would be amazing. thank you so much.
I understand why you'd be concerned with getting involved too young with a guy.
I mean.. there's being in love, and we all know how down right rec hid that is. Come on now.. maybe it's okay to stay with a guy who cares for you THIS much.
Of course, I can't talk you out of a decision you've already made. If you really want to end this, then you need to be sure. No more mixed feeling, back on, back off for two of you. This time when things end, you need to be sure that you want them to so that he doesn't get hurt again, and you won't be in the position where you have to feel bad for hurting him again.
If you're absolutely sure about dumping him, then do it kindly. You have a long history and it's going to hurt you both really bad since now you both have feelings for one another.
But take it from a girl who's dealt with a lot of heart breaks and being the heart breaker herself-- do not sabotage a relationship simply because you are scared of never finding something better.
Of course, you never know what else is out there, but if this guy keeps coming in and out of your life-- then maybe there's a reason for that.
It takes a lot of strength to admit all this, and I think it's great that you can tell the difference between what is real and what's not as far as your feelings. That's a luxury! Take care and keep me updated!
everytime i have sex with my boyfriend, it feels good for him but not for me, why is that? it doesn't hurt or anything, i just don't get pleasure
All girls are different and get stimulated by different types of activity. Some girls enjoy it more to be touch on their clitoris instead of having sex.
Try more foreplay, an Just intercourse and different positions will not only help, but taking time. Another thing is expectations of amazing sex takes time. You're young.. and you'll have to learn to explore your own body.
Take time to chill out, too.. pleasure can definitely be effect by your nerves.
Hope I helped.
16/f
is it weird that i like like 20394823 guys? and i dont mean just a little crush. i have like a thing for a bunch of guys. and im not a whore. i dont like hook up with all of them or anything.. even though a lot of them like me back. i dont want to lead any of them on or anything. i just want to know what i should do. i think its because i see them all in different situations/environments. like they go to like 4 of 5 different schools. some are from my youth group. i dont know.. its like i like them when i hang out with them. but then i change my mind. theres like one guy that i ALWAYS like when i hang out with him though. i actually did hook up with this one but i decided that he was a bad choice because he liked me but he like is physically incapable of having a relationship.
what should i do? is it okay that i like so many guys? im only sixteen..
Having many love interests at 16 is not a bad thing.. and it doesn't make you a whore.
This only tells me that you're more selective about having an actual "boyfriend". Don't demean yourself or disrespect your body, and there's nothing at all to worry about. You've stated that you don't randomly hook up, which doesn't make you anything close to whorish.
You're young, and I say.. why not? If you're going to get into a relationship, have choice and options so that you don't have to deal with bad fights and difficult break ups.
You're doing nothing wrong so long as you have morals and mannerisms-- which it seems to me that you do.
Good luck!
16/f
okay so i have this friend.. and she's my best friend. but like she likes like 2235235 guys at once. and its totally unfair because that means that i like am not allowed to like any of them. and the guy that she hooked up with for the first time ever is really cute and like im really good friends with him too. i think he might be starting to like me because he was really nice to me yesterday and he was flirting a lot. it was raining and he like gave me his hat so my hair wouldnt get messed up (because i had straightened it) and he asked me if i wanted him to take off his shirt and give it to me because i looked cold. and everytime we got out of the car he like grabbed my hand to help me out. and there were like 10 other girls there and he only did that for me. i know this is how he acts when he likes a girl. and then theres this other guy that my friend says she doesnt like anymore but i know she does. anyways, he likes me too i think.. because he asked me out like a few months ago. and hes like really cute too. i know she would get mad if i went out with/ hooked up with either of these guys.. but its so unfair! like these are 2 guys that could potentially make great boyfriends/ hook ups but they're like off-limits. theres like a few other guys i'm interested in too or whatever but i just feel like she has 'claimed' so many guys. i mean theres only like so many guys.. even though we hang out with guys from like 4 different schools. ya know? so what should i do?
There's no such think as "claiming" a person. Your friend has no right to put any guy on hold so that other girls can't get a shot with them.
Why don't you tell her you want a boyfriend, and have her suggest a guy to you. If she honestly can't give you a name of a good guy, then I'd say forget it.. She's only thinking of herself. Then I'd tell her that you sort of already have an interest and that you don't exactly need her permission to have feelings for whoever you want. It is after, your life.
What if one of these guys are seriously great for you.. even perfect. She doesn't have the right, and as a friend she shouldn't even want to stop you from being happy with someone.
Approach her nicely, and don't let her victimize you. Know that you're better then all that. Keep your head up!!
what are the signs of being pregnant, and whats the soonest you can find out if you are?
Some early signs of being pregnant are a missed period[obviously], morning sickness, tender breasts, fatigue, frequent urination, and food cravings. These are among many varied symptoms-- and sometimes, they are the same symptoms of your period.
First Response is a newer pregnancy test which can tell you whether or not you're pregnant 5 days before your period.
Good luck and take care of yourself just in case.
So i absolutely HATEHATEHATE babies and anyone under the age of 10. they just really piss me off.
well my mom made me move in with her boyfriend who has 2 sons, one of which has a girlfriend who also lives with them. well she was pregnant. but they induced labor yesterday (gag) because she was a week overdue (big deal). and now its like everything revolves around that stupid thing, and its only been ONE DAY. my mom doesnt tell me i love you on the phone anymore she left me home alone all day today so she could go to the hospital and go see the repugnant thing, and i know that whenever my family comes over theyre not going to want to see me anymore its all gonna be about that monster.
so all im really asking is how do i make it through all this, and how do i not kill it, and deal with the crying, and all that shit. and most of all how do i get over my hate. because i seriously hate ALL kids.
You're going a little over the top judging this entire situation. You need to put yourself in the MOM'S shoes. Just because you have problems with babies, doesn't mean that she has too, as well.
The only way to get over your hate for them, is to learn how to love them. Help your family, and do what you can around to help the baby.
Tell your mom how you feel too, so that she knows that you're feeling ignored and left in the dist-- even though I believe in the nicest way possible that you merely jealous.
That's normal.
Hating the baby though, is not going to do anything good for you.
Take it easy.
Please note that this is an ADVICE website. Look at my column page, I always say it how it is. If you don't like the answer given to you, you should not write back filled with anger and swears. There's no reason for that. I can clearly see now that you create your own problems and you need to learn how to face them.
All people want to do on this site is HELP YOU. If you don't like a response, then just deal with it in a mature way.
I'm sorry if you felt I criticized you, that was never my intention. But the way that you wrote this only suggest that you think your the victim. It's only fair that you see things at different angles. I only tried to suggest that.
I wish you the best of luck, regardless your disrespect towards my opinion.