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Incest ?
My 12 year old sister has been making moves on me for like 2 or 3 months now. She'll take any chance to rub her body against me, she has big breasts and they get in the way if we have any physical activities but she specifically likes to do weird stuff like smother my face with them if we wrestle or whatever.
I try to avoid her mostly but she comes to me like to play around or wrestle and if I don't play with her she will just get on top and ignore the fact that I'm ignoring her.
I'm 18 and I have a girlfriend so this feels wrong on so many different levels. I've told her to cut it out but she doesn't seem to be getting the message.
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First, talk to your parents about your concerns and request a family meeting with EVERYONE including your sister's presence. Tell her how this makes you feel, how it looks and how innocence could compltely be mistaken for filthiness.
Her actions could be as a result of what's seen on television,the internet or wittnessed from her friends and their siblings. It could also be more serious that taken based on different things that she may have been introduced to unbeknowing to you or your family.
Being that you are 18, I would think you are on your way to college or to plan for life's journey. If not, I encourage you to do so. Be cautious, careful yet aware of all surroundings especially with females - regardless of age. This sort of thing goes on forever in life - including in the workplace (innocence mistaken for exact opposite). Also, your sister needs to be taught how to act as a young lady. If these actions aren't corrected NOW, it could really lead to something much more damaging to her life as she grows older and matures.
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I'm not going to give you advise, as much as a warning. Be real careful here and distance yourself from this behavior as quickly as possible. Absolutely do not wait to speak to someone about this behavior, you should have done so right away. You must find someone who will agree to do nothing immediately, mother or father or both, who can witness this behavior. You are 18 and you can't imagine how fast this can turn around on you and who do you think they will believe? An 18 year old boy, or a 12 year old innocent little girl? There is one other thing children that age are good at, lying. She turns this around on you, all of a sudden you are a child molester in prison. Personally, I would run as fast as I could out the door, you are 18, protect yourself, find another roof to live under.
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Your sister is young, and probably doesn't understand boundaries the way that you do. Since you've already tried ignoring her and now avoiding her, it's time you take it a step further.
At the age of 12, a girl goes through things that are difficult to understand. It's important that you look at things from her perspective. How is her school love? How do your parents treat her, and you? Maybe she's not getting enough attention elsewhere, so she feels that she needs to try to get it from you.
Her confusion is probably a faze, but it should be dealt with properly, so that she doesn't feel humiliated.
Try building a solid sibling relationship with her, so that you can trust in each other. My brother is my best friend, and I know I can go to him for anything. This may be difficult because she is young, but she needs to find a way to deal with the confusion she's facing.
If all else fails, you should probably tell the parent of your choice. You don't want to make your sister feel like a victim, but if there's nothing left, it's going to have to be brought up by someone who's always been disciplining her and teaching her right from wrong.
Good luck with your matter, and I commend you for seeking advice for something to personal to you.
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yeah, that is strange. it wouldnt be as strange if she was your TWIN. but since shes a younger sibling...
im having a thought here? but i might be wrong. you said you have a girlfriend, right? well, maybe your sister has seen the way you act around your gf or the way she acts around you. and maybe shes noticed that your gf gets special attention that your sister USED to get when you were single and when you guys were younger. this is the way it is with toddlers. they are attracted to the opposite sex parents. and when they see the same sex parents getting special attention from the opposite sex parents, they want that kind of attention, so they start acting like the opposite parent. get it? maybe your sister is trying to act like a girlfriend towards you to get special attention from you.
try spending time with her more. like maybe take her to a movie for some sibling time. let her pick the movie and you buy the candy and popcorn and stuff. just have fun with her every now and again, and if said "stuff" doesnt stop, talk to her about it, or talk to your parents. because this IS wrong on so many levels.
i hope it all works out! take care. :)
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