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love/friendship
16/f
okay so i have this friend.. and she's my best friend. but like she likes like 2235235 guys at once. and its totally unfair because that means that i like am not allowed to like any of them. and the guy that she hooked up with for the first time ever is really cute and like im really good friends with him too. i think he might be starting to like me because he was really nice to me yesterday and he was flirting a lot. it was raining and he like gave me his hat so my hair wouldnt get messed up (because i had straightened it) and he asked me if i wanted him to take off his shirt and give it to me because i looked cold. and everytime we got out of the car he like grabbed my hand to help me out. and there were like 10 other girls there and he only did that for me. i know this is how he acts when he likes a girl. and then theres this other guy that my friend says she doesnt like anymore but i know she does. anyways, he likes me too i think.. because he asked me out like a few months ago. and hes like really cute too. i know she would get mad if i went out with/ hooked up with either of these guys.. but its so unfair! like these are 2 guys that could potentially make great boyfriends/ hook ups but they're like off-limits. theres like a few other guys i'm interested in too or whatever but i just feel like she has 'claimed' so many guys. i mean theres only like so many guys.. even though we hang out with guys from like 4 different schools. ya know? so what should i do?
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Oh, how I hate that "rule" about girls not liking their friends' crushes. It's not fair to anyone. Like who you want to like. Hang out with who you want to hang out with. Tell your friend to pursue one guy at a time, it's not nice to string guys along (and its certainly not mature, either)- as will you.
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Well girls cannot claim people. They aren't property! The guys should get to choose who they want to be with. If they like each other then leave it alone, but if you like anyone else that she isnt dating anyone then go for it.
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There's no such think as "claiming" a person. Your friend has no right to put any guy on hold so that other girls can't get a shot with them.
Why don't you tell her you want a boyfriend, and have her suggest a guy to you. If she honestly can't give you a name of a good guy, then I'd say forget it.. She's only thinking of herself. Then I'd tell her that you sort of already have an interest and that you don't exactly need her permission to have feelings for whoever you want. It is after, your life.
What if one of these guys are seriously great for you.. even perfect. She doesn't have the right, and as a friend she shouldn't even want to stop you from being happy with someone.
Approach her nicely, and don't let her victimize you. Know that you're better then all that. Keep your head up!!
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