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So i absolutely HATEHATEHATE babies and anyone under the age of 10. they just really piss me off.
well my mom made me move in with her boyfriend who has 2 sons, one of which has a girlfriend who also lives with them. well she was pregnant. but they induced labor yesterday (gag) because she was a week overdue (big deal). and now its like everything revolves around that stupid thing, and its only been ONE DAY. my mom doesnt tell me i love you on the phone anymore she left me home alone all day today so she could go to the hospital and go see the repugnant thing, and i know that whenever my family comes over theyre not going to want to see me anymore its all gonna be about that monster.
so all im really asking is how do i make it through all this, and how do i not kill it, and deal with the crying, and all that shit. and most of all how do i get over my hate. because i seriously hate ALL kids.
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whoa! regin it in a bit; i'm getting a major overdose of anger. you say you're not jealous, but i'm sensing that you are. why do you hate kids so much? your mother's boyfriend's son (whew!) just had a baby, and your mother is supporting the son and his girlfriend. why do you feel threatened by this? with a new baby in the house things are going to be hetic for awhle; everything will settle down eventually. your mother sill loves, you're her daughter, and that'll never change.
whether you like it or not, your mother is involved in a serious relationship. she wants to share her life with someone, and you should be supporting her. immerse yourself with your new family (and yes, they are pretty much family at this point). the only one who's leaving you out on the sidelines is yourself.
also, stop refering to the baby as it. the child was given a name by his/her parents; use it.
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You asked for advice, and people answered. I read your question carefully and wrote what I thought should have been done in that situation on the other question that you posted. People are not going to make it G rated for your liking, no, we are going to answer it with the truth and advice that you deserve and need. You are, indeed, going a bit over the top with this and need to learn to except what life is giving to you. Sure, it is a hard change going from only child to other people around, but you should get used to it soon enough, and instead of turning it away, try excepting it.
So advice, take all the advice that is given to you and learn from it.
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Boo fucking hoo, you're acting like a sub-ten year old yourself. Are you so attention starved that you cannot get over the birth of a baby that has been alive for only a few hours? Do you know how ridiculous you sound when your only complaint is that your mom doesn't say she loves you on the phone anymore?
OBVIOUSLY everyone is fussing over this new life, what did you expect? If you thought things would go back to normal with everything being about you you you all of the time, you've grossly misjudged the situation in a way that is nothing short of pathetic.
I see you've already abused your rating privilege on the answers below, so let's go by this; the lower you rate me, the more truth there is to what I said.
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You're going a little over the top judging this entire situation. You need to put yourself in the MOM'S shoes. Just because you have problems with babies, doesn't mean that she has too, as well.
The only way to get over your hate for them, is to learn how to love them. Help your family, and do what you can around to help the baby.
Tell your mom how you feel too, so that she knows that you're feeling ignored and left in the dist-- even though I believe in the nicest way possible that you merely jealous.
That's normal.
Hating the baby though, is not going to do anything good for you.
Take it easy.
Please note that this is an ADVICE website. Look at my column page, I always say it how it is. If you don't like the answer given to you, you should not write back filled with anger and swears. There's no reason for that. I can clearly see now that you create your own problems and you need to learn how to face them.
All people want to do on this site is HELP YOU. If you don't like a response, then just deal with it in a mature way.
I'm sorry if you felt I criticized you, that was never my intention. But the way that you wrote this only suggest that you think your the victim. It's only fair that you see things at different angles. I only tried to suggest that.
I wish you the best of luck, regardless your disrespect towards my opinion.
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Dang i understand not liking kids, but dont you think you are taking it over board a little...i mean yeah kids are annoying i completely agree, i cant deal with kids that scream their heads off either. But i do have a neice and i would kill for her. And quite frankly it sounds like to me you are more jealous of this new baby than anything else. You just have to get over this jealousy. You have to be comfortable with you because you cant get to be this baby and get all of the attention. And actually a week over due CAN be a big deal believe it or not. And yeah everything WILL revolve around the baby for a while. It was just born. And if you didnt want your mom to leave you home all alone, why didnt you go with her?? why dont you at least try to get along with the baby, as their is nothing you can do about it. A baby is going to cry. It cant talk. Its not going to say "hey change me" or "im hungry"...it dont work that way. And i cant tell you what to do about your hate other than just scream into a pillow or get out of the house or something. I get it i seriously do but threatening the kid and calling it names is not going to get you anywhere except in trouble. All the kid do was be born. It has not hurt you in any way shape or form. The fact that your mom dont tell you she loves you anymore, yeah its her fault not the babys. The fact that your step brothers girlfriend or whatever you call it had a kid, yeah that aint the babys fault either...see the pattern. Dont be mad about the kid because quite frankly i dont care about the rating, i just try to get the truth out and you dont need to be placing all of your problems on a kid that hasnt done a thing to you...its just not right...i get that you dont like kids i really do, some people dont. But you havent even got to know this kid yet. I mean really.
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