Oh, do I relate to you...Lol
I'm sixteen too. My boyfriend just turned eighteen. We've been together for 8 months today. Lost the virginity thing, but don't regret it. Age is a state of mind, not being. People who don't know me talk to me and guess me in my laate teens or twenties.
My boyfriend and I have the connection you and you guy seem to. Love each other with every fiber of your being? Can you picture yourself with him forever? I do and can with my guy.
As I said, age is a state of mind. If you don't think you're too young, and you're ready for these emotions - you can handle the way they make you feel - then it doesn't matter if your sixteen or sixty. Hope I helped!
-Siren =)

Call the boy, find out what's going on with your relationship. Ask him why he hasn't called. Only way to get answers is to ask the questions!
-Siren =)

Phone calls, letters, IM...anything you can think of to keep in touch. My boy's away in Vegas for the summer and we're keeping in touch through phone calls for the most part...Hope I helped!
-Siren =)

Blood doesn't go everywhere. It's just like having your period, except it's actual blood, not menstrual blood. Guys should know this happens. If not, he's probably not ready for sex in the first place...Lol.
-Siren =)

Just be straightforward about it. Tell him you're just not ready to take that jump. I told my guy and he waited. When I was ready, we went for it, and I don't regret it at all. Needless to say, neither does he. Lol.
If he really cares about you, he'll wait for you. Good luck!
-Siren =)

Noooooooo! Don't cut them...bad...*shudders* pain...Lol
It's a bit abnormal, but I assure you you're not the only person who has this. Hope I helped!
-Siren =)

Yes!
Boot that jerk out of your life. All he's doing is hurting you, and you shouldn't stay with him, or keep getting back together with him. If your relationship isn't strong enough to withstand a little fight, then you need to just kill the relationship. It's not REALLY doing you any good, is it? Think it over and make your decision. It's, after all, yours to make.
-Siren =)

Aww, honey...*hug*
It's normal to feel incredibly hurt. I broke up with one of my guys, and he didn't act hurt, then one day he just IM'd me and he was, like going nuts. It's bad to keep your emotions bottled up.
If she won't talk to you on IM, or the phone, go over to her house and talk to her in person. It might be incredibly hard, but you want answers, don't you?
I mean, one guy broke up with me and the most important thing to me was figuring out why the hell he broke it off.
Tell her what's on your mind, but try to remain calm about it.
ASK her why she broke up with you. You seem like a really sweet kid. It might not have been you at all. It might have been the younger guy she likes. (Trust me, if she ends up with him, unless she's REALLY immature, and he's REALLY mature, that relationship will not last long.)
There are other girls out there, and if you're as sweet as I think you are, you won't have much trouble finding one. Leave your options open. Don't dwell on her. It'll just kill you.
After I got my heart stomped on, it took me 17 months to really get over him, but now I'm with a great guy and have never been happier.
Be open to finding someone else. Some great girl can patch your heart up fast. =)
If you need more help, I'm on every day/night. (SirenCytherea on AIM)
Hope I helped a little!
-Siren =)
-Siren =)

If you think you might be bi, then it's fine. It should be perfectly acceptable, and it's not wrong. Just let yourself be. That's all I can say...hope I helped!
-Siren =)

Well this guy obviously doesn't know what the word "love" means if he says he loves you and constantly goes for this other girl who's willing to put out for him.
Like...my guy really, truly loves me and doesn't even look at other girls, much less go have sex with someone else. You need to tell him to shove it. He can't keep doing this to you. That's just not cool. You've gotta leave him alone, chica. I know it sucks, but I had a guy who did this to me...except we were still going out when he cheated on me and hit on every living thing BESIDES me.
Don't let this guy do this to you. I suggest you just end it all. Hope I helped!
-Siren =)

Heh. My guy had that problem when our relationship just started to get...interesting. I never said anything, but it was - um - obvious. Lol...
Think about nonsexual things, if you can. Direct your thoughts to something totally obscure to get your subconscious off of sexual stuff.
Hope I helped!
-Siren =)

Distance shouldn't be a problem. Cars are a good thing. =)
Age is a state of mind, not being. My guy and I have a year and a half age difference. So what? I act a lot older than I am (as most girls do) and he acts a little younger than he is (as most guys do)
Speak up! ^_^
-Siren =)

If it were me, I would move on. He's playing with you and that's just not cool. He needs to understand that he can't do that to people, and you're gonna have to be the one to teach him. Tell him it's wrong, and no girl is going to stick with him if the word gets around that he does this. Move on, honey. All he's doing is hurting you. Hope I helped!
-Siren =)

If your voice isn't that great, did you get picked for a lead role? If not, and you're in the chorus, you have nothing to worry about. Your crush prob'ly won't be able to hear you. That's the way it should be in a chorus. One big sound, with no individual voices sticking out. Anyway,
Get soundtracks to musicals with music similar to the stuff you'll be singing and sing along with that for starters. To warm up your voice, go to a piano or a keyboard or whatever, and do fifth slides (C-G-C, C#-G#-C#, D-A-D, etc.) on "Ah," or whatever vowel your voice carries the best on. For me, it's actually "Ee". So do fifth slides until you get one whole step higher than the highest note you're gonna be singing in your pieces. If you have to sing a G, stop at an F on your first exercise, and go down from there. Go to an F sharp or a G on your next excercise, then an A on your last one. Then do descending fifths, and go one or two whole steps lower than your lowest note.
Then do octave slides.
After that, I suggest you try ninths. Like...do a fifth slide, up and down, then go up a ninth in one breath. Make sure you don't push your voice too much or you'll destroy it.
I have an aria I'm singing...I have to be able to hit a low A loud and a high B flat pianissimo. To get to the B flat, I sing at least to my high C.
Remember - if it hurts your throat or ANY part of your body, take a break, relax, take a drink or three of water and relax your throat muscles. Belt musical theater, supporting from your stomach, not your throat.
Okay, If I write anymore, this will be too long to read...Lol. I'm going to be a vocal performance major in college - I know a disgusting amount of stuff about voice. If you need more specific help, IM me. I'm SirenCytherea on AIM.
-Siren =)

In my math class, my guy and I got put into different groups for this thing, and this girl kept flirting with him. I glared daggers at her when her back was turned and he caught me once, so he came over and talked to me when the teacher left the room 'cause he knew it was bothering me. If he hadn't caught me glaring, he never would've known it bothered me. Guys can't read minds...
Tell your guy how much it bothers you that he lets her flirt and doesn't shove her away. Have you told him it bothers you that he ignores you to talk to her on line? Bring it to his attention. Your guy might be talking to her about how much he wants her to get off his case and stop bothering the two of you. I'd want to think that if I was in your case. I hope I helped!
-Siren =)

My Immortal by Evanescence made me sad the first time I heard it. Like, the version on the CD. The one on the CD is really calm and there's no guitar/rock stuff, really. It's just relaxing. It's good to meditate to, actually...Hope I helped, lol.
-Siren =)

Well, what she does it up to her, really. If she's not sleeping around, she can't really be called a slut. You can tell her if you want, but be prepared for her reaction. If someone were to tell me I should stop, I'd probably want to know if they had a valid reason, which they couldn't possibly have, and I'd probably get pissed off.
She is breaking the law, but still...it's really her choice, as long as neither set of parents press charges. *Shrug*
-Siren =)

I honestly think you're too young...but it's up to you, really. If you feel that you're ready to handle all the risks you'd be taking along with sex, then go for it. I have a friend who lost her virginity around your age and she doesn't regret it. *Shrug*
Just make sure you use adequate protection if you jump into it, and don't let him talk you into anything you don't want to do. Good luck!
-Siren =)

You can't really get a girl to like you. You just have to be yourself. Be sweet to her, be chivalrous...Girls respond to that. What struck me about my guy was that he was genuinely sweet. He held doors open for me, always knew what to say to make me smile, etc. Just be a sweetheart, but be yourself while you're doing that. Good luck!
-Siren =)

If I was in your situation, I wouldn't go for a guy who can't pick a girl. He'd make a bad boyfriend, with all the temptation he'll end up with. He'll be really tempted to cheat on you if he knows all these girls like him.
You can't do anything to make him like you. If he does, he'll make the choice. Spend more time with him, let him get to know you...and if he likes you, he likes you. =)
-Siren =)

I'm a laid-back 26 year old with a Psychology BA, starting my MA program, and working my way into the field as quickly as I can. It took me an extra Bachelor's degree (in vocal performance and creative writing) to figure it out, but I was put on this Earth to help, to heal, and to love.

I have made the decision to dedicate my life and career to helping others. I am here to do just that.

I've been a member since 2004, and since I signed up, I've gone through quite a lot and learned quite a lot from it. I'm here to give guidance where I had none; no one should have to go through the difficulties I went through alone.

Feel free to visit my website/blog, if you want to read my experience with domestic violence and my thoughts on it.

***While I do tend to answer mental health and other health-related or medicine-related questions, I am by NO MEANS a licensed physician or practitioner of any sort. Any and all advice I give for these questions is from my own experience or studies.***

If you need to get a hold of me quickly, my screen name on AIM is SirenCytherea. Just let me know you found me here.

I'm a strong believer in the idea that there are no stupid questions except the ones left unasked, so, please, keep an open mind, heart, and mouth.

Siren

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