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Only 14... help me
Hi, I am only 14 years old and I have been dating my boy friend for about 11 months. I know I love him and he loves me. We hang out all the time, so as you can imagine, sometimes it gets a little boring and I want to do sexual stuff really bad, but I fear I am too young. How much would be appropriate for some on my age? Please, don't give me the "What ever you feel like is right" because if I knew what was right, I wouldn't be asking. Thanks so much! <3
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hey girly I am kinda in your position I am a little older then you but not bye much I am in the position my cusin and i made a promise we both wouldnt lose are virginity till we got married and I really am in the position that I love my boyfrined probally as much as you do I think if you feel ready to do something sexual you should make the first move me and my boy friend did the first thing acually intimate the other day I was so happy you and your boyfriend have been going out alot longer then me and my boyfriend me and mine have only been going out for 3 months as of yesterday so ...you and him I think are old enough to do what you want intimate
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well, if you haven't kissed already, you should certainly do that. feeling each other up over the clothes is always a good idea. you seem mature, and if you're certain you love him and vice-versa, go for it. if you're craving it, then it's obvious that you don't have major disinclinations.
i had sex when i was fourteen, and have never regretted it. we truly loved each other, and talked and made the decision.
you seem ready for it. but is he? talk to him about it. a sexy, yet clean way to go about it is, when you're alone, to watch his reaction carefully and slowly move to touch him more intimately. ask constantly, "is this okay?" with basically every move, and mention, "i don't want to make you uncomfortable or rush anything, and i'm not suggesting we have sex, but i want you to know that i am ready for a little more intimacy, if you are."
you may even want to start with phone sex, if you haven't already. it is a completely safe way for each of you to slowly learn about the other's sexuality. just stay up late talking to him, quietly, and steer the conversation toward sex.
the most important thing is to be completely open and honest with him. try and take things in order, i.e., first base, second, third, manual, oral, etc. allow the both of you about a month to fully experience each step of intimacy. the slow buildup not only allows for further feelings of intimacy when/if the time comes, but also allows you both to go slowly, and do what you're comfortable with.
there is so much to learn, and if you go about smartly, with a smart boy, this could well be one of the best experiences of your life.
i would be happy to advise you further, if you like. my e-mail address is ppcrn@hotmail.com
au revoir, and good luck.
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well...i guess doing certain sexual things with ur bf would be ok. i def. would not have sex though, even if it is protected, if ne thing would happen n u would end up pregnant..u'd be screwed
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hey hun.. i think 14 is def. to young for sex.. but i saw that yu posted you werent thinkin abt that.. i think second base is okay.. i wouldnt tell anyone tho.. wouldnt wana getta bad name.. hope i helped! xOx ` Samantha
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When I'm with my boyfriend there are things that I feel are ok to do with him, then things that I know aren't right to do with him at this point in my life. Whatever you do, you have to think about the consequences, even doing something simple like a handjob could cause rumors to be spread. It really is what you feel is right. I know that doesn't help you much, but that's all I've got. Try talking to him to see how he feels about this subject. I definately wouldn't have sex, but handjobs and blowjobs (if you feel comfortable doing that) would be ok I guess. It depends for every person. Remeber to keep your self respect.
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Okay, first of all, I was never going to have sex with him! I was wondering about like second base, but we've decided to wait and it just isn't worth it because chances are, it would lead to things like sex that we definetly aren't ready for. Thank you all for your answers :)
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Its not very appropriate! but if u do decide to have some fun, use condoms! I dont want you getting pregnant now and im sure you dont want to.
*BROOKIE*
~rate me~
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Ok you are way too young to be doing sexual stuff with your b/f. I say you should wait till your older because you have your whole life ahead of you to be doing sexual things with your b/f. I think the most appropriate time is when your older about 17-18 because 14-16 is way too young to be doing sexual things.
*Zoe*
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ok you should talk it over with him.or maybe you can find other stuff to do.
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well how old is he?? im 15 and my bf is 19 and ive bin with him about 10-11months too but just tell him how u feel and tell him u wanna get a lil sexual...maybee he wants to too he maybee just dont want to make u feel uncomfortable!!! well i can help u out more if u want just ask me a ? on my column or sumthin if u want!!!
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Here's the jist.
At the age of 14, you make think that what you are feeling right now is real...well that can die down pretty quickly. Also, if you really loved him, then sexually activity wouldn't be necessary. You would just love spending time with him. In my opinion, sex is for two people are in love, without a doubt. No hesitations. Well, obviously you are hesitating bcause you are asking this question.
you are still maturing and still have a lot of learning to do before you go and have sex. who knows, you could find somebody else later on in life who is better and you will be sure of it. wouldnt you rather wait for somebody who you abosolutely know you will spend all of your life with rather than your current boyfriend at the age of 14? you wouldnt wanna give that up.
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Well u love him right? dont go and have sex with him... do u want to dave a baby!?.. didnt think so and also its not wrong to lay on his sholder or kiss him go as far as u want just dont let the sperm hit the egg..
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14 Is Way to young to do things like that..
and it wouldnt be the brightest candle in the cake to be doing, you can get STDS and you can get pregnant and you should wait til your older.
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there is no set age to do things im sry to say but it is whatever u feel is right. Well its more like whatever u feel comfortable with. If your not ready for somethin then dont rush into things n dont let any1 force u to do anything your not comfortable with.
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Maybe you should just tone down the love a little bit until your just a little older. I don't think family and friends would really trust you that much if you did get sexual with a guy at your age. Just do a little at a time and wait until your at least 2 years older.
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Well 14 is a very young age to be doing sexual stuff but I know what you mean by boring and 11 months is a long time to stay togeather with someone and at such a young age.So i imagine that this boy wants to take it further as well(of course becuase he is a boy)but if you dont know then you need to find out.And if he does then I suggest the usual french kissing but spice it up a bit! Maybe while your on your couch sit on his lap face to face!Then put your hands on his chest region and then slowly move to the shoulders,by doing this he might get the picture that you want him to do the same but stay in the chest region longer!Also that position is great for buttox grabbing..hehe!And dont forget mood music...check out AquaLung,H.I.M(Album-Razorbalde Romance),South,Snow Patrol...ect(im an emo kid)!Also you might wanna check out Cosmo Magazine it has some cool stuff but its also pretty racey and stuff for adults,but maybe you can get some ideas!But Just remember that your still young and even though you have been togeather for almost a year that doesnt mean you will be togeather forever and you dont wanna regret anything!
Hope I helped and that you have fun!
*Lacey
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I honestly think you're too young...but it's up to you, really. If you feel that you're ready to handle all the risks you'd be taking along with sex, then go for it. I have a friend who lost her virginity around your age and she doesn't regret it. *Shrug*
Just make sure you use adequate protection if you jump into it, and don't let him talk you into anything you don't want to do. Good luck!
-Siren =)
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personally i think that you are too young for sex...but only you can decided if you are..and if you decide the answer to that question is yes then just use protection..but you guys could do many things that arent sex related that are still fun and everything! but thats just me! *hope i helped* <3/Dakota
[RaTe Me PlEaSe AnD iF yOu NeEd Ne ThInG eLsE jUsT dRoP oNe In My InBoX]
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hi im 14 as u say u get some ideots who say as much as u fell like but in some views there write but heres my sugestion me 4 instence when i had a gf we had sex when we felt close or randy if i may say and we did it from 3 times a week to 12 so if u both want 2 have sex do it me and my ex did pretty much all the time and the relationship between us was brilliant and ud be suprised he will want sex more often than u all ways its the way boys r somet 2 do with hormones well some bull like that anyway if u want to chat my email is deancoe909@hotmail.com and if u want we can chat on msn just ether email me or text me ok ow ye my number is 07749384377 ok see ya then thats if ya want to of course
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If you two are really in a committed relationship, and you know he loves you for who you are and isn't just using you (which for going out for 11 months, I doubt he is using you), then I would say 2nd base is alright. At 14, you shouldn't go any furthur than that.
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Hey Sweetie. If he Loves you and You Love him like you say then its Ok. And if you know deep down in your heart he loves you the way he does and wil support you 100% just incase something happened then yeah its ok. But use protection and be safe. Because my friend was 13 and she had sex and they both felt it was right and stuff but the condom broke so Just be safe and make sure you both trust each other! Good Lucks Baybi Gurl!
-Stephanie
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