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sex....
ok me and my boyfriend have been together for about 4 months now, and hes been talkign baout having sex and whatever i try and blow it off because im still a virgin and I really dont think he is the one i wanna do it with but i dont wanna hurt his feelings, but at the same time I dont want him to think we are going to do it, i just wanna know a good way to tell him that i am just not ready...PLEASE HELP ME!!!
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Just talk to him about it and see what he says about you being a virgin. If he is okay with it and then just see what happens next. Hope I helped!
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I had the exact same problem with my best friend. Everyone knew he was gay but he just wasn't ready to tell. He eventually came out,and gained alot more respect for it. However, don't rush him into confessing anything, he'll do it eventually if he IS gay, it's not an easy thing for someone to come out and say. The best thing you can do is continue to be his friend, stick up for him when someoen calls him gay (EVEN IF YOU AGREE) and eventually he'll come out, when HE'S ready. We forced my friend too, and it's something I regret a whole bunch looking back on. Just don't hassle him about it...like I said, he'll come out some day, that is, if he's gay...he could just be feminine?
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Next time he brings it up tell him that you need to have a talk. You just need to explain that you are going to wait. Tell him that if doesn't like that then you don't want to be with him. And if he ever pressures you to do anything than end the relationship immediatly!
Hope i helped....Alina
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Just tell him you aren't ready. If he likes you then he will understand and wait with you. If not then all he wants is one thing and you just don't need that.
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Be "playful" about the subject. But keep your bounderies. If he ever trys to start doing it...tell him "Not tonight/today" if he ask "Then when?" then you say "idk" and then wink at him. Thats wat my mom did with her boyfriend in high school...you might as well try it
-Hope i helped-
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Just be straightforward about it. Tell him you're just not ready to take that jump. I told my guy and he waited. When I was ready, we went for it, and I don't regret it at all. Needless to say, neither does he. Lol.
If he really cares about you, he'll wait for you. Good luck!
-Siren =)
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You should just come out and tell him that you are not ready.And if he really loves you, he will accept the fact that you are not ready yet and wait until you are.
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Just tell him NO! Don't worry about hurting his feelings. HE should be the one concerned with hurting YOUR feelings. It's not right for him or anyone else to pressure you into something you don't feel comfortable taking part in. Sex is a big responisiblity. It's a huge commitment from both partners. It's just as much about YOU as it is about him. You should be able to tell your boyfriend anything! Perhaps you should rethink the entire relationship all together. I wish you the very best of luck. Please, use your head and stay safe! =D
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Just tell him that you aren't ready, it's as simple as that, and if he denies you for that, it won't matter much because then he obviously doesn't care about you, just your body. Also, you said you don't want him to be your first, so if he doesn't understand, it doesn't seem like such a big loss, sorry to be so harsh
Lizzy
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If you aren't ready, then you aren't ready. If this hurts his feelings (even though it shouldn't) and he keeps asking about it, then I'd dump him. You've stated what you want to do and if he doesn't respect and understand that, than he doesn't respect and understand you.
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Well,I think you should talk to him about it,tell him your not ready and you don't want to have sex. If he doesn't respect your opinion, than he doesnt respect you. Remember- don't do anything you dont want to just to look cool. A boy shouldnt pressure you into doing anything.
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same problem here .. if you dont want to give your virginity to him then sit down and talk to him about it! if he really likes you then he'll wait!! good luck!
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That's just it! Say "I'm not ready for this, It's to much for me right now" basically tell him that flat out.That's all, if he cant understand that,then he wont understand anything.
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There is no easy way to tell somebody this but just say you dont feel like you are ready and you want the time to be right
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TO: sex...
just go out and say it...i mean wat else can you do...tell him your not redy yet and wen you are you'll let him noe...also incloode thah it mehbe too soon to do it yet...i mean you would prolly want more time to noe him insted of just going on out and doing it...ya noe?
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if he tries to go past what you are comfortable with then thats when you should stop him and tell him that you arent really ready yet..
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you just need to be str8 up with him because he might be under the impression that you guys will do it.....i just feel that do it when your ready not just because he wants to it has to be up to you and if you feel right baout doing it...and if your not ready then dont do it
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