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help...
One of my very good friends is 14 and she is having sex with her boy friend. I don't think it's right, but who am I to judge. I highly doubt that they'll stay together and she say she likes it a lot... Do you think it's a little slutty of her? And should I tell her I think they should stop? Help me... please! Thanks! much <3
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it depends upon your friend's maturity level. if she's an immature little brat, then it's slutty of her and you should encourage her to stop. however, if she's one of the most mature people you know, i wouldn't worry one bit about what she does.
i had sex with my boyfriend at 14 and we stayed together for over a year. i matured incredibly quickly [mentally, not physically], and was very, very in love with the boy. he, too, was notably mature for his age, and we were very precautious about the whole affair.
if you suspect she's doing it simply for the physical sensation or attention, then it's the wrong reasons and you should make it known. however, if you think that she is genuinely mature enough to know what love is at her age - and it IS possible; if you think it's not, it's likely because you yourself weren't NEAR mature enough at that age, and everyone is not you - then don't worry your little head about her.
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heyy...well you can always tell sum1 your opinion but..it's her decision and if shes ready for sex then noones gonna stop her..and if shes really commited to this guy and their in love then I dont think its slutty...but its always good to tell someone how u feel even if it wont change their decision about something-- cOurt*
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ok i think it would be best for u to tell her before she gets hurt by her boyfriend, but u should break it to her easy b/c she might take it the wrong way nd get mad
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Tell your friend you wouldn't do what she's doing, and leave it at that. I know you're concerned, but just let her know of the consequences, then leave her alone to make her own desicion. If something serious happens, like she gets and STD or Herpes or gets Pregnant, anonymously tell her parents or a doctor immediatly
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*You are right, 14 years old and having sex is NOT right. It's not slutty of her to say she likes it because it's natural for people to. Aslo, she may think it's not your business to tell her what to do**
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*Well really it is her choice, so all you really can do is tell her how you feel about it! She may not stop just because you want her to but you have to respect that! Shes going to do what she wants! It's awesome that you care about her, but all you really can do is bring it to her attention and be supportive* xOxO Kaela <3
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i don't think it's slutty of her, but I think your friend is a little young to be doing those things, I think maybe you could bring it up but don't say that it's slutty or that people will talk about her. Tell her that you're worried it might be bad for her, or that she may regret it later.
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k well....if u reeli dont want her to and liek if ur worried about her then just tell her how u feel! how old is her bf and how long have they bin 2gether do u no? adn umm i dont no if its slutty it depends on like how long they bin 2gether and how old he is..but just talk to her and tell her how u feel and tell them TO USE PROTECTION!!! =)
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IF you were a good friend you would respect her and her decision. There's obviously nothing you can do to keep her from doing it, so just encourage her to be careful, use protection, and all that fun stuff. If you want to, you can tell her how you feel, but don't expect her to make a huge turnaround. Just be supportive.
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I think That its her life and if she feels shes ready to loose her virginity its her choice however if you are worried about her it might be best to tell her. And Just because other pepole do that stuff dont mean u gotta.
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I don't think it's slutty of her. She might not stay with her boyfriend forever, but she likes him now, and she likes to have sex. There is nothing wrong with liking sex. As long as she is being mature about it, mainly, using protection, and not having multiple partners, then I don't see anything wrong with it. I don't think it's your place to tell her to stop, but you could always talk to her and tell her how you feel about the situation. Don't make her feel like a slut, because she is not being a slut. She is doing what she likes to do. Just be there for her and, if anything, make sure she is being responsible and using protection.
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Well it is her choice, but you can bring it up to her and just ask her if she thinks what she is doing is right...if she regrets it later then thats her fault ya know! its SUPER sweet u care, but she is going to do what she wants.....maybe just bring it to her attention! xoxo
*~MALLY~*
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first of all, she's 14
then it's illegal
but it's mostly her choice, but since ur the 'FRIEND' involved, u should atleast talk to her
she mite get mad, and u would risk that, but not talkin to her could be riskful as in her gettin STD's or pregnant, i'd talk to my friend if that was happenin
and no unless she's sleepin wit more den 1 guy, she's not really being slutty
u should make sure she knows it's illegal, that could be a GREAT reason for her to stop
and tell her all the BAD things about having sex at a yooung age
if she got pregnant, she could die from child birth a 16yr old can die from child birth
make sure she knows the risks, and she knows that she has a good friend (you) that REALLY cares about her
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Well, what she does it up to her, really. If she's not sleeping around, she can't really be called a slut. You can tell her if you want, but be prepared for her reaction. If someone were to tell me I should stop, I'd probably want to know if they had a valid reason, which they couldn't possibly have, and I'd probably get pissed off.
She is breaking the law, but still...it's really her choice, as long as neither set of parents press charges. *Shrug*
-Siren =)
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well if she's 14 then she's breaking the law for a start and that's not good. is she using protection? like condoms or anything? if she is and she's being careful and she's not sleeping around, then i think you can safely say she knows what she's doing. you could try and talk to her but at the end of the day, it's her choice and as long as she's not hurting anyone or being irrisponisible about it, thens she's ok for now. hope i helped :D
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SHES ONLY 14. youll never be able to tell her what to do, but you can convice her that its not right. its not really "slutty" of her, its just that its wrong. she obviously thinks shes in love and will be with him forever, but she wont be. just tell her its better to wait a few years and find someone she knows that she will be with for a while and will love.
~Amber Jo
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14 is a very young age to be sexually active..more than likely they WONT stay toghether.. you cant tell her what to do.. but you can tell her how you feel and the risks she is taking for being at such a young age (pregnancy, STD'S,) TeLL her how you feel its the only thing you can do.. tell her not to do something she know she will REGRET in a couple years...
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