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I'm Jack/Jamie.

I'm 28 years old. I graduated from Michigan State University with my Bachelor of Science in Chemistry. GO GREEN! Now I'm a high school chemistry teacher in New York City living with my husband in a small studio apartment we pay way too much money for.

I've been on this site for 14 years as of March 23, 2020.
You may have seen me as CuxMiBeckNow7, but I've since shortened my name.


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Laura!




--Jack

advice

Okay, so, I am a fourteen year old female and has really never had bad acne besides a few white heads everyone once in awhile. Anyways, I have had random break outs and I'm guessing it's stress. But I've been getting huge [single] white heads in/under my nose. They are really sensitive and I'm not sure how to get rid of them. Help? Thanks.

First I want to say that ProActiv doesn't work. I've had many people tell me it doesn't.

Here's a question I've answered that will give you a lot of tips about acne treatment:

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=507367

=]

--Jack
(16/m)

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i got asked out by this guy that i really like about 2 weeks ago and he hasnt kissed me yet...we definetly act like we're dating but im definetly hinting that im ready to kiss and he kinda just sways away...and i know he really cares about me cause of the things he tells my friends...why wont he kiss me?

Take it from a guy, he's nervous, or he just doesn't want to ruin it.

Give him time and I promise you it will be ten times more special.

=]

--Jack
(16/m)

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ive never had a bf and i relly want one is there some tips on how to get guy to get "friendly" with you and start to like you

not just like be yourslef i know that!!!
something that makes them look at you and go "wow i want that girl!"




thanks

I was going to copy my answer from a question like this I've answered before, and you'll find it here if you care to look:

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=505520


I'm a guy. So therefore I know what impresses guys about a girl. And I know you said not to say be yourself, but if you're not going to be yourself, just exactly WHO are you going to be?

Well the answer is not yourself, and as obvious as that may be, guys do NOT like girls who are acting like someone who isn't themselves.

And if they do end up liking you, they're liking you for someone you're not.

Sure, you can flirt and whatnot, but if that's not something you would normally do, well then don't go so far out of your way.

Relationships as a teenager are mostly pointless anyway, and despite my cynicism, it's very true because they all end after a few months anyway.

What I suggest you do is, if it's in your nature to flirt, flounce, etc., well then go for it and be who you are, but if you're not, well then don't change that. It's perfectly alright to be yourself WITHOUT a boy.

But if you decide to completely ignore my advice [this is, after all, Advicenators], here's flirting tips:

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=543909

--Jack
(16/m)

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this might sound stupid but ive never kissed a guy and i just got a boyfriend and i dont know where to put my hands when we kiss can anyone help me or give me any kissing tips? thankss

You'll find more than enough kissing tips here:

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=542507

--Jack
(16/m)

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Ok, so really everyone does weed at least once in their life. Even if it's just a hit. I smoke weed, not alot but enough. But theres this girl who is best friends with one of my like really good friends, and she hates me cause i smoke weed, but it's my life. I dont make other people smoke or anything. She just hates me. Idk what to say to her now, i wanna talk to her but i dont wanna make her hate me even more. What should i do?

You've definitely gotten enough answers, but it never hurts to hear another perspective, eh?

Firstly, I completely disagree with your first sentence. I WILL not do weed and I never have. I have no plans to, and I will never put myself in a situation to. I know you're thinking "Yeah, whatever- you have that goal to, but you'll break it once you get to college." Well really, I cannot smoke ever [not that I want to] because I have asthma, and that would be the stupidest thing ever to do that to myself. So no, I won't ever smoke it.

Anyway- what you should do is, if you honestly care about this person's opinion, well then change yourself, but if you don't, then don't. Health effects aside.

--Jack
(16/m)

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I am doing really good about getting over boys. Because i have been circulating around 3 for as long as i can remember. One is currently engaged, another is the one i was talking about...those two i am over completely. But the third one, well he is really complicated and it ticks me off. Because it is so hard to read his mind. Or his words when he speaks let alone. And i am just stuck at a fork in the road here.

Ok he says things like we should go hang out sometime just you and me, and he gets jealous really easily. One day i was hanging out with him and his friends and one of them said are you our cheerleader and i said "i am not anybodys cheerleader" And he said except mine. And the other boys started asking where i went to school and everything and this guy was just like she goes to southside ok. and i went to sit down on the road curb, and one of the dudes sat next to me and he just comes over there and makes the other dude scoot down and he sits between us. And he blushes when people say oh look there is your girlfriend. And he smiles when he sees me. And if he sees me, (he lives 3 houses down), he will run out with no shoes or shirt and come talk to me.

BUT he talks about how good looking other girls are and he never talks about me.

What is he thinking??

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=506340

There, you will find some things that guys do/say when they like a girl, and it seems like he's doing some of the things on the list I created.

So, although he may not talk about you as much, that is probably just around you. He most likely likes you, and he probably doesn't want you figuring it out. So he talks about other girls so that it doesn't seem like he likes you, but I'm sure he talks about you with his friends and stuff.

Thanks for inboxing, again, and if you have moer questions, I'm always here ;].

--Jack
(16/m)

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Ok last night i was at a block party and started dancing with guys i never met before like ever in my life. And i went to leave and they started saying no no dont leave please! And i was just like wow. And my 3 other friends were dancing with me. And this one guy got right up on me and i found it very disrespectful. And they kept on saying you guys get in the middle of us and we was just like "no..."

So my question. What was going on with these guys and why were they acting like that??

Hmm I'm not sure. Maybe they were just getting into the dancing and such?

If you never have to see them again, I wouldn't worry about it.

Thanks for inboxing!

--Jack
(16/m)

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You have always seemed to help me out. So i am turning to you. I used to like this guy at the beginning of last year. And i got a little crazy, got some guts, and wrote him a love letter. Embarrasing yes, worth it, im not sure yet. But anyways, everyone eventually forgot about it, even him. But my friend found this number and asked me if i knew who it was and i said no but told her i would text them and find out. Turns out it was the same guy. So we started talking and he was telling me about him being at his girlfriends volleyball game. He knows it was me texting him. Ever since then at school he will like look at me more often. And i dont know why.

Hmm well I see two possible reasons here:

1. He is staring at you because he thinks you're weird or something. But then again- why would he keep texting you back?

2. He likes you. But that would make things complicated.


Really the only way to find out is to ask him, and don't be like "Oh MY GOSH WHY ARE YOU STARING AT ME?!", just say something like "I've noticed that when I see you, you're staring at me. Should I be worried?".

Thanks for inboxing.


**EDIT**

Yeah if you have more questions, feel free to inbox me. =]

--Jack
(16/m)

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Growing up I had always thought the slogan for the Sara Lee brand was: "Nobody does it like Sara Lee."

Recently, while my boyfriend and I were out and about, we saw a Sara Lee truck go by. The red writing on the side of the white truck actually read: "Nobody doesn't like Sara Lee."

My boyfriend was just as shocked as I was to read it and we have seen a truck or two since then to confirm it wasn't just a hoax or someone messing with our minds.

Anyway, did the slogan ever change?
Was it always "Nobody doesn't like Sara Lee" and we both misheard it as youngsters?

Thank you for any information you can supply!

Actually I don't believe it ever changed. As kids, we don't really hear everything correctly. I remember wondering this myself, but it definitely has been and always will be "Nobody doesn't like Sara Lee".

--Jack
(16/m)

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how do you pronounce disgusting" disGusting or disCusting?

i hear lotsa ppl say disCusting!?!

It's definitely disGusting, because although people say it fast, and it may sound like "disCusting", usually it's not.

But it's supposed to be disGusting.

--Jack
(16/m)

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I have these two little white heads, or something underneath my eyes, so its in a really sensitive place. How can I get rid of them? I get them a lot, but now there's two and they're right next to eachother. Last time they went away by themselves (One under EACH eye) But it took maybe 3 or 4 months! Anyone know how? They're really noticeable ):

Here's some tips on how to get rid of unwanted acne:

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=507367

--Jack
(16/m)

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so this is the deal.

last year, a freshman in high school, i never stopped at my locker cause i NEVER got time to. we have two levels in my school, upstairs and downstairs, and then the "D" and "B" sections on each level. it's easier to go from the B section downstairs to the D sections downstairs and DIFFICULT to go switch levels. my schedule was all over the place and i never got time to go to my locker.

LUCKILY, this year, most of my classes are downstairs :) and so i can actually stop at my locker which is downstairs.

there is ONE and only ONE thing that i am stressed out for school. because i never stopped at my locker last year, i lacked practice in going fast from class to locker to class.

simply put, i want tips to hurry up!

THINGS I HAVE ALREADY CONSIDERED:
(1) before i stop at my locker, i'll be sure to note which binders and books i need so i don't waste time standing in front of my locker.

(2) and i remember in 8th grade i preset my locker two numbers so that in case i get sidetracked and i can just move it to the next number, grab my books and go. if i have time, i'll preset it again.

(3) WE DO NOT HAVE PM HOMEROOM. it goes from last period straight to dismissal, and i don't want to miss my bus! so i'm gonna try to stop at my locker before my last period, too.

any other tips?! i am pretty organized so i will obviously keep it neat. the only thing i'll need to do between classes when i stop at my locker is drop off my books & pick up my new ones. i don't do my make-up or anything else. i hope i'm not overanalyzing this, but is it easier to take out one binder at a time and say like, "ok i don't need this binder" (take it out, put it into your locker, take the one you need) OR take all your binders out and put them into a small pile in front of you, take out the binders you need and put them into your bag, and THEN put in the binders you don't need? cause like if you need to hurry you can just shove them into your locker, right?

omg i'm so sorry. i just. i don't want to be late to class, or worse, MY BUS! most days one of my parents can pick me up but some days they can't and i don't want to miss my bus :(

Everything you said is fine. But you're acting like you only have 2 minutes passing time! =]

I think it's easier if you have each binder/folder labeled clearly with the class name so that you can see it when you look in your locker. That way nothing has to come out unless you need it.

The more you stress about your locker, the later you will be ;]

--Jack
(16/m)

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In a few days I'll be a freshman and we're required to attend a meeting/speech/whatev thingy called Convocation. It is our "first formal college event." My question is do I have to dress up? What am I supposed to wear? It doesn't say that, but I was just wondering.

I'm not in college, but ask around. If you don't really know anyone, then just wear something you would wear to church. Nothing too special, but nothing awful like sweats.

--Jack
(16/m)

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So i had sex with my boyfriend, we couldn't kiss because he had a cold sore and we didnt want to risk the chances of me getting a cold sore. I went onto the interent and then it says cold sores are actually a type of herpes, like herpes simplex or something!! and we had sex but with a condom, i hear stories that i could get herpes even though he got a cold sore on his mouth and we didnt kiss. apparently herpes can be passed to another person just by the gentials touching! but he had no sores there on his penis! so am i infected?

More than likely you aren't infected.

If you're worried about it, go see your doctor, because I'm sure there are many factors that go into something like this, and really only he or she can tell.


--Jack
(16/m)

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what does it mean when a guy that you have been talking to, your not with him and he invites you along to meet his family to a bbq?

he's obviously interested right?

He definitely could be, or maybe he just wants to be friends.

Either way he wants to get to know you, and that's a good thing =].

--Jack
(16/m)

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I am new to Facebook and just received a lot of friend requests from people I know, but didn't expect to add me. Did they manually choose me or did a request just get sent to me because we went to the same high school? thanks!

Sometimes it says "So and so is new to your school. Would you like to add them?" but not every time. Plus, you could have shown up in the "People You May Know" box.

I add people on Facebook I don't talk to much or really know that well even if they go to my school. Maybe they just want to get to know you better?

--Jack
(16/m)

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HEY GIRLS!
um, i loooove style. i looove being stylish. but i havent been reading my style magazines for quite a while, and im wondering what are the back to school styles i can wear when i GO BACK TO SCHOOL. hahha =]

anything would help.

1 makeup looks.
2 pictures of outfits.
3 desciptions.


i really neeed help lol!
thanks!



p.s. DO YOU THINK WHEN GIRLS WEAR THEIR SHADES AT SCHOOL, people are thinking that their "conceited"? just wondering... thanks again!!

HEY.

I hate to tell you this, but I'm not a girl, and I don't know why you're sending me this inbox question.

--Jack
(16/m)

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how do i delete all my itunes songs at once?

Go to "Music" on the left hand side. Then go to "Edit" or "File" and do "Select All" and then right click the songs, and then you should be able to delete them from there.

--Jack
(16/m)

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I am a 15/M i am ok looking but i am really small in height and weight for my age group. I am horrible about talking to girls that i like and dont know how to approach them in the right way. What are some flirting tips that i can use to get girls to give me a chance.

Here is a list of things you can do to make a girl smile, that I found:

-Tell her she is beautiful (not fine, or sexy)
-Hold her hand at any moment . . . even if its just for a second.
-Kiss her on the forehead.
-Leave her voice messages to wake up to.
-When she is upset, hold her tight and tell her how much she means to you.
-Recognize the small things . . . they usually mean the most.
-Pick her over all the other girls you hang out with.
-Write her notes. (she loves them)
-Introduce her to family and friends . . . as your girlfriend.
-Play with her hair.
-Pick her up, tickle her, and play-wrestle with her.
-Sit in the park and just talk to her.
-Tell her funny jokes, tell her stupid jokes, or just tell her jokes.
-Let her fall asleep in your arms.
-If she's mad at you, kiss her.
-Give her piggyback rides.
-Bring her flowers
-Treat her the same around your friends as you do when your alone.
-Look her in the eyes and smile.
-Let her take as many pictures of you as she wants.
-Kiss her in the rain.
-If your in love with her, tell her.

If you really want to win a girl over- you need to be confident and always smiling. A shy and timid guy, while somewhat attractive to some girls, will not attract the girls you're looking for. A girl also likes to see success in a guy. She probably won't be attracted to you if you're off smoking pot or drinking alcohol. She will like if you're clean and as successful as you can be at your age.

--Jack
(16/m)

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What kind of styles are in because im not into style but people tease me about my style
P.S. make them cheap

You want my HONEST opinion?

Just wear what ever the heck you want- who cares what you look like- people aren't going to remember you by what you wore on the first day anymore than what you wore yesterday or any other day. What people will remember you by is how you acted as a person- not what you decided to wear to impress people. If someone is going to talk to you and hope to be your friend only because you're wearing Hollister- what kind of friend is that? One that only cares about your appearance- not your personality. That isn't someone you should try to be friends with. Wear something that makes you comfortable and something that you like. If you like what you're planning on wearing- then so be it. Don't wear it for the wrong reasons.

Rate me low or whatever- but what I just said is something you needed to hear, whether you'll admit it or not.

--Jack
(16/m)

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