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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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It depends how you wear it. I think in this case, the accessories make the outfit. This is in no way a specific trend because any girl can wear this outfit and make it into something completely different.

So here goes...
I asked a guy out and he said no because he had a girlfriend, and he said he would hit me up when he was single, so he did thatt and we hung outt....long story short...we hung outt for a lil bit and he suggested sex, and I said no for an hour and a half, and then we had sexx. now I don't know what to doo...should I leave it alone until he talkes to me...and do guys lose respect for a girl after he sleeps with him....or whatt? Whats your take on itttt!?!?

I really think that his respect for you is going to go out the window if it hasn't already.

It's really not a good look for a girl when she gives it up so easily - especially to someone she isn't dating. If you really want to refrain from sex, you should've put your foot down and kept on with the no's. If he couldn't understand your decision, then he isn't the one for you.

However, you didn't keep your dignity. You decided he was worth it and completely threw your self respect away for an hour or so of pleasure. I would say that most guys would definitely lose their respect for a girl if she gave it up to him easily & they're not even dating. It just shows them what kind of person you are.

And I'm going to have to say I'm the same way. I think it's trashy for a girl to give it up to someone she isn't dating. Don't get involved sexually if there's no commitment. It makes you look bad.

so me and my boyfriend got together august 10th of last year. he broke up with me april 20th though and then we got back together just this week. so should i get him a 1-year anniversary gift on august 10th? or no? we didn't fight or anything bad in april, we just thought feelings changed, but we were obviously wrong. oh and what should i get him? i don't wanna go too over the top but i want to get him something that shows him i care...no home-made picture frames or any of that please.

oh and were both 17.

No. You weren't together a whole year because the relationship was on and off and you weren't even together for like 3 months. So no, don't get him anything.

i recently heard a spanish version of Scars by Papa Roach. And it sounds like Jacoby is singing it. Does anyone know if he comes from hispanic roots? or did he just pick up spanish growing up?

I've been searching Google for his biography, and while I've found stuff on his life, I've found nothing about whether he has Hispanic roots or anything about him speaking Spanish. :( Sorry.

So, when Jon Gosselin (from Jon and Kate plus 8, obviously) announced that he was seeing someone else or whatever and wanted a divorce from Kate Gosselin I heard that he was dating Deanna Hummel. Then, just weeks later, I heard something about him being ENGAGED to someone named Hailey Glassman! Now, I'm hearing something about a magazine reporter (Kate Major) from Star quitting because she is seeing him! Is he REALLY dating someone or what? I'm curious to find out and was hoping someone had the scoop on Advicenators! :D

Google it. We're not a gossip magazine.

Hey hunn. okay i have a low self esteem probelm..&&a drinking problem&& a lack of confidece problem.. i have os much go on in my life that i just take it out on drugs and alcohol&& shit liek that.. idk what to do like my 2nd cousin sexually abuses me, and my best friend abusses me and my best friend commited suicide last year... and i just need help... aka. not going to therapist. already tried and it didnt work. THNAKS

How many therapists did you see? If you only saw just 1, that could be the problem. You can't see 1 therapist and then say therapy doesn't work at all and then completely rule it out as an option.

Sometimes it takes a lot of time to find the right therapists. You could go through 10 before you find the one who is right for you.

Call the cops on your cousin. Call the cops on your friend, and get yourself a new social circle. You don't need to hang out with people who're abusing you. You can get away, you're just choosing not to. Go seek therapy. Sample a few therapists because I'm sure that the first one isn't always the one for you.

17/F... Well me and my bf (19) have only been dating like 3-4 months and things are great. we get along and we always have fun together. I'm the second girl he's has ever dated and the only one he has had sex with. He doesn't really like to share how he feels about me or other things that often(but what guy does). So anyway the problem is that im a junior and he's graduating this year. The college he wants to go to is in chicago for two years. And we live in kentucky. He wants me to try to stay together but the only time I will ever get to see him is when I get my breaks at my school and stuff because he goes all year to school and they hardly ever get out. Should I take the risk if that he wont find someone else in chicago?

Long distance relationships CAN work, but they take lots of hard work and dedication. You really need to trust the other and believe in them. I think it can work, but you and your boyfriend really need to sit down and talk with each other. See what you're willing to do, and what he's willing to do. The only way you'll know if it works is if you talk to him and try it out.

can using tampons "pop your cherry" and make you not a virgin?

They can pop your cherry, but tampons don't take away virginity. A penis in your vagina takes virginity away.

I want to be a journalist; after I graduate high school I want to work at a major magazine or newspaper. Would it be smart to go to college in California? So much happens there and it's kind of the center for magazines and newspapers. There and New york, but i'm not really fond of new york.

So what is the best, or top two undergraduate journalism programs in California? I want a back up. I have a 3.9 GPA.

This has a list of schools that offer Journalism programs in California.

http://www.edref.com/college-degrees/communications/journalism/california

I'm not sure which is the best, but I'd go to the schools sites and see what they offer.

i have a girlfriend who i'm very dedicated to. but my friend, also my ex, has a beautiful ass. i want to do so many things to it. what can i do to engage in activity with her without it being considered cheating?

if she rubbed it in my face would that count?
or let me sniff it?
any ideas?

Yeah, that would count as cheating.

Doesn't sound like you're dedicated to your girlfriend too much if you're having thoughts about another girl. If you want your ex, just break up with your girlfriend & go out with her. You can't have both though.

I had a stye on my eye last night and i kept a hot towel on it. when i woke up this morning my whole top eye lid was swollen. What happened? what did i do wrong? or could it be something else?

http://www.getridofthings.com/get-rid-of-styes.htm

That site shows how.

I definitely agree with the person below me though. Throw out all of your makeup. By wearing it everyday, you're just getting the germs that cause sties on your makeup, and they'll never go away if you keep using the makeup. I'd wait until the stie goes away and then when it does, buy yourself some new makeup.

I have a friend who is really depressed and suicidal. It really freaks me out when she comes to school with scratches all over her arms. I really care deeply about her, but lately I've wanted to just give up. It hard to keep telling her everyday, "You look great, you have lots of reasons to live" and then see her puke up her lunch and cut herself with razors. Do you have any advice as to what I should do?

Tell an adult.

You don't need to tell your friend she looks amazing everyday. You need to tell an adult because she obviously has problems if she's making herself throw up and if she's cutting herself. Your friend has a lot of issues, and she really needs help.

Tell someone because if you don't it's just going to get worse & something bad will happen to her. Then you'll regret not doing anything to help her when you could've. Don't give up on her. That's the last thing she needs. She needs a friend, and she needs help. So be one, and get her some.

Ok there is this friend were ONE minute...they are so nice...and next they are mean and snotty...i also hear from other people that they are talking bad about me and making fun of me...idk what to do...should i just never talk to them again?..HELP

Stop hanging out with them and definitely stop talking to them. If they're gonna be fake, they don't deserve your friendship.

Ditch them, and find yourself some real friends.

I have liked this one boy for almost 9 months and i'm almost over him. The problem is that my heart doesnt want to let go but my head does. What should I do?

Let your heart listen to your head for once. If you know he's no good for you, and that things with him just won't work, tell your heart that.

I was talking to my exboyfriend on the phone and I mentioned getting back together again,but then this girl "SAMANTHA"showed up and got with her.How can I get him back?

If he's with Samantha or whoever, he obviously isn't interested.

Find someone else.

well...my boyfriend. i've given him many many many chances and recently he told me that he got drunk and almost had sex with a girl but stopped bc of me. i dont know wat to do. i would die if i dumped him i really really like him too much. what should i do about him?? ♥ thankks youu

He got drunk, and almost had sex with another girl. I don't care if he stopped before he went full on. He still did stuff leading up to it and is using alcohol as an excuse.

Dump him. You're probably young, and you can do much better. You shouldn't want an asshole for a boyfriend. You deserve better and should want better for yourself when it comes to guys.

what does it mean to give head ?

My gf and i are thinking about having sex both our first time both 16 im really nervous ive got a small penis and my gf did reassure me that she ok with my size i may be worrying to much but i afraid i wont be any good or i wont satisfy her
can you still please a girl with a small penis?

Sex is not about size, it's about skill. Not everyone can be built like a porn star.

is 6inches long for a penis

5 inches is average. You're about average.

I heard that the Taco Bell chihuahua died today :( I remember that little dog and it's "Yo Quiero Taco Bell" line. It was really cute. Anyway, I was thinking about it and I remember that dog from YEARS ago. I haven't seen it on commercials in forever. (Was it a male, anyway? I think it played the role as a male but wasn't, right?)

Anyway, I was curious how long the dog had lived. What I mean is how old was the Taco Bell chihuahua before it died? It had to be up there...

The dog was 15.

http://latimesblogs.latimes.com/unleashed/2009/07/gidget-taco-bell-chihuahua-dog-dies.html

That's sad. The Taco Bell dog is a huge part of my childhood. I even had a stuffed doggie that said the line! :(

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