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I have liked this one boy for almost 9 months and i'm almost over him. The problem is that my heart doesnt want to let go but my head does. What should I do?
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Have you tried a relationship? Did it not work out? Does he not like you?
If you haven't tried the relationship, I would try it out and see where it goes.
The best way to get over him, well, is to get over him.
Go out and hang out with friends, have fun, go crazy [within reason], and just forget about him, and you'll get over him.
--Jack
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I have found, firsthand, that the best way to get over a guy is to do the following:
Step 1: Have a really good cry.
- When my boyfriend and I broke up, I was super upset (like words cannot describe how bad I felt). But I told myself that I wasn't going to let it flip my entire world upside down. So I let myself have one really good cry, and then I told myself I'm going to start moving on. Which brings me to...
Step 2: Friends = lifesavers.
- Go to the mall and buy yourself something nice (don't over spend, though. Just something small, but nice. Like a new outfit or purse!) Or go see a movie, or out to dinner or something! Don't mope around your house all day doing nothing.
Step 3: Talk about it.
- It feels SO good to let it all out. Sit down with somebody you trust (for me, it was my mom) and just spill your heart out. Again, don't let it ruin your life or impact you too much.
Step 4: Move ON!
- Stop talking to him for a while (you need to give yourself time to get OVER him). Don't stalk his Facebook, spend time with other people, and don't even waste time TALKING about him.
Honestly, it's going to take time, and it's going to be hard, but once you get over him you will feel SO much better. I promise you that this guy is NOT worth wasting all of your time on, and that there are plenty of other fish in the sea. Go out and find a new guy that treats you right and is WORTH your time. Forget about this guy ASAP. You're young and have plenty of time for guys. And, as one of my favorite books puts it: The first boy is always the hardest.
Best of luck! :)
-Laura (17-f)
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Dear " "
Well thats a tricky situation. Why do you need to get over him? Is he bad for you? Did he hurt you? Is he your ex? I honestly don't know, but if you're head is telling you to (and may I assume that you have a good reason for wanting to get over him?) but you're heart is saying something else, well then that's pretty tough... Because lets be honest okay? Everyone knows that you can't control who you like. And let's also be honest. It's not really your heart and your mind conflicting. Your heart isn't the actual body part that makes you love someone. No. It's not. It' a plain old organ that pumps out blood and may beat a little faster and hurt a little bit when your mind is feeling a certain emotion. This is your mind, and only your mind, struggling with internal conflict. So, to put it straight, you like him, but you don't want to like him. Well that sucks. Believe me I, and prolly the rest of the population, knows what that feels like. And you can't just tell yourself or force yourself to get over someone. It doesn't work that way. The only thing you can do is wait. Go out with friends, meet new boys, find diferent hobbies... etc. You know the deal. But you just gotta give it time. Don't rush yourself.
Goodluck!
xoxo
LoLLiPoP
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You need to listen to your head on this one. Once you find another boy you like better, trust me you will, the other person will fade away.
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Let your heart listen to your head for once. If you know he's no good for you, and that things with him just won't work, tell your heart that.
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i had this problem. only it took me 2 or 3 years.. haha. & now i am completely over him! it takes some time, & really, their is no way to get over him completely, only time will do that. just try to meet other boys & talk to them. i did that, but he still always lingered in the back of my mind.. just try to meet other people & stuff.
your heart takes awhile to heal sometimes :)
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