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I really just want to meet some new people and hang out with a new "clique or crowd" Where do you meet people?

Try joining some summer program. Or if you are really friendly, go to a mall ot a park and just make conversation with some people. Good Luck! :)

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There is this guy I like at camp and popular opinion thinks he likes me too,but I've gotten mixed feelings from him lately. Last year, he was dancing with some other girl and this year he locked arms with her. But then again a lot of girls like him and he likes the attention...he hugs them and stuff...I don't know what to think I need a second opinion.

If you like this guy, then go for him. I suggest you do it quick too because by the way you described him, you're probably not the only one with your eyes on him. Good Luck! :)

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hi i am currlie and i am 15 there is this guy that i really like but i dont know what to do. we have so much in common and are really good friends we always hang out to. I am not the kind of girl to ask a guy out so i hape that someone can give me some advice i would really appreciate it

thanks , currlie

Whenever you are hanging around this guy give him hints that you like him. Like always hug him before you say goodbye, give him compliments, and if you see him getting more comfortable with you try and hold his hand. If he doesn't get the point by then he is blind! So then you will have to speak up! But most likely he will get the picture and probably ask you how you feel about you and him and stuff. Then you won't have to ask him out. Good Luck! :)

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hey ok i like this guy alot..i have for a while. he lives next door to me. the other day my friend chelse asked for his sn and gav it to her bff sam. sam took it and started talking to him, sent him her pic and now he likes her and she likes him altho she has a bf. he said that if they break up he'll go out with her. sam and him always talk about eachother to me. like he is so nice/hot w.e im so sick of it. i dont no what to do... :( help!
thanks love youu*

tell this guy how you feel about him. And if he tries to tell you "oh I don't know about us cuz I kinda like Sam" tell him "well think about it, Sam has a boyfriend, and if she is willing to dump him for you, what do you think she will do when the next guy she likes or thinks is better comes along?" This will probably make him think. but point blank: You have to let this guy know you like him and go for the kill before you lose your chance. Good Luck! :)

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okay im 16/f n im a virigin
ive have known ma man for 3 1/2 years and he really wants to do it and so do i.but im so scared b/c its my 1st time and im so scared of gettin pregnant. he told me that we will use a condom and everything but still im not 100% sure.can anyone tell me how can i be 100% sure that i will not get pregnant.

If you want to be 100% sure that you will not get pregnant, then don't have sex, but I do suggest you take some type of birth control besides using just condoms if you want to feel pretty secure. There are pills, patches, shots, ect. Talk to your parents about setting up an appointment to see a gyno. If for some reason you can't talk to a parent about this, there are planned parenthoods and other free clinics that are confidential. but if you pay with your health insurance then there is still a chance your parents will find out if they get a bill or a notice. But if you let them no you are a student, you will probably get the stuff for free or the most they will hcarge you is like $10. But hey $10 a month beats an embarrassing argument with your parents or even worse having to tell them your pregnant. Point blank: if you want to be pretty positive about not getting pregnant, use Birth control.

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I'm 15 and I want a job sooo bad! Does anyone know where I can get one?

Most fast food places and grocery stores/ supper markets hire at age 15. or you could try babysitting. There aren't a number of jobs available at that age. Good Luck! :)

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What do you all think about people posting up a "question" for people to check out their column and ask them questions? I don't really like it, but it's not like there's a rule against it or anything that I remember. Just askn for your opinions...

Personally I think it is a waste of space on this site. I think if someone is wondering how their column is going, he/she should pick one columnist and just ask there oppinions. And the only way to really get people to ask someone questions is if you answer the one that are already on the site, that way if the person likes your points of veiw they will trust in asking you more questions. Point blank I don't like when people post questions about their column.

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my best friend and i were spray painting our bikes. Her father comes out in a rage. He starts hitting her and she was screaming for him to stop. She used a bit of foul language towards him, but he was really hitting her. the mom had to try and calm him down.SHould I get help, tell someone or just leave it alone? I don't want it to seem like i'm in their family's business, then again that is my best friend she was crying histerically but i couldn't see her because he told me to leave.

It seems to me like there is a big problem going on that home. Does her father have any addictions or anger problems? What is happening to your friend is not fair. If you really think she is at risk, to no seem like you are egtting into her famiy's business maybe you should just sit down with her and see how she really feels about her Dad, like does she feel safe? If she doesn't then ask her if she wants to do something about this; maybe not too drastic, if she really doesn't want to get him in trouble, maybe you can tell her to sit and have a logical conversation with her Mom about getting her Dad some help to help channel his anger in a more positive way. Sometimes people don't mean to hurt people, and it really hurts them to, but they can't control it. But it is really important that he does get help especially if she has other brothers or sisters.

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Dear reader,
About a year ago I met the man of my dreams (guy #1) and we love each other dearly, but he lives in Central America and I live in California. The thing is that three months ago I met a wonderful guy (guy #2) that really loves me a lot. And I’m going on a trip to Central America where the other guy (guy #1) is and he’s expecting me to see him. My recent boyfriend (guy #2) has a really bad temper and the other guy (guy #2) is miles away and I love the guy #1 more that than the guy #2 but I know it won’t work out. The question is should I see the other guy and maybe be something again at least for a short while or should I stay with guy (guy#2) and try to deal with his hot temper?

There is no possible way you can truelly love 2 people. You can care for them both, but deep inside you should know who you truelly love. You have to make a choice. I think maybe you and guy #2 should take a break, then you can visit #1 and see where things are. You have to remember #1 lives kinda far and its not always that you get to see him, things may have changed in his life, so maybe you need to check up on that before you make a choice. If sparks do still fly the smae way as in the past, then you need to talk to #1 about this relationship really working? Is it always going to be long distance? If it is, then things probably won't work out, and you should just go home and start on your future with #2. But if things will work with you and #1, then I think you might be better off with him because you seem to care for him more. Good Luck! :)

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hey, i was thinking about getting some posters for my room that are of tv shows i like & movies that i like... does anyone know where i could get them where they aren't too expensive..

You can try getting them anywhere where they sell movies and CDs, like FYE or Sam Goody. Hope I helped. :)

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im 14, and have been with my b/f for about 5 months and today i ACCIDENTLY stuck my hand down the back of his pants. i meant to put my hand in his pocket but i missed! he told me not to be embarrassed but i still kind of am! am i overreacting?

Even if it wasn't an accident there is nothing to be embarressed about. If it didn't bother your b/f then you shouldn't freak out. It is really n big deal. Hope I helped! :)

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im a 14/f and well i dont think im a lezbo or that im Bi but i have kissed girls and guys. with the gurls it was mostly just for fun like for a laugh. but i also find girls sexy and i think women are just beautiful. but im not like really attracted to any girls. but some are really pretty and like i said i dont mind kissing them especially my close friends. and i dance w/ my friends and we get close and stuff. am i bi? i dont know, im not sure??

It sounds like you are 2 young to actually figure out your sexuality. You are probably just being young and having fun. Alot of young females experiment with thier sexuality. Just live your life. You will realize what you prefer once you are older, and whatever you choose to be is up to you. If you're straight nothing is wrong with you, and if you're gay, still nothing is worng with you. So have fun and Good Luck! :)

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ok well my friend and i always have liked the same guyz pritty much and then shes always able to go out and tell them and she ends up going out with them and i get all sad n stuff and then after they brake up i dont like that guy anymore and then we end up liking the same guy again ((cuz we tell eachother who we like)) and she did the same thing again and then now she likes one guy and i like another guy and she flirts with the guy that i like but shes always saying that she doesnt like him and the guy that i like is the guy that ive felt best about so far and then he might like her but im not shur and i really want to be her friend still its just im pissed off about the fact that she keeps stealing the guyz that i like and thats why my friends keep making fun of me that i still dont have a boyfriend yet and i dont know wut to do? wut should i do?

First of all, DON'T TELL YOUR FREIND WHO YOU LIKE. That way she can stop going for your guys. And then you have to get the guts to tell the guy you like how you feel so you can have him. And then when the 2 of you are together, then let your friend know you like him and he's your boyfriend now. I'm sure she won't try to snatch him if he's your boyfriend. Good Luck! :)

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i always cum in my unda wear (im a girl 13). and im still a virgin, idk why. i feel like there must be sumthin rong with me. cuz i heard its hard for a gurl to sum in sex. but i havnt even had sex but i still cum. why do u think so0o.

help me. plz

What is in your underwear is not "cum". Its probably discharge. This is normal, unless it is a yellowish or strange color and smells really bad. This can happen at anytime for any reason, it doesn't necessarily have to do with sex, having sex or thinking about sex. It is just a way of your body releasing some extra moistness. This also usually happens to girls right before thier period is about to come on. but like I said it is normal, so stop panicing. Hope I helped! :)

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ok well theres this girl that i've been inlove with since like 7th grade now im goin into 11th well we r friends now and we've gone through so much 2gether and we almost went out so many times but something always gets in the way she said she liked me a number of times but shes confused and she said she doesnt want to ruin our friendship she has gone out with 2 of my friends n both times i warned her about them and told her she would get hurt but she wouldnt listen and both times she ended up getting hurt i really like her alot and i would do anything 4 her i've tryed everything and im good friends with all of her friends, we always have fun when we hang out and stuff and she invites me over sometimes 4 dinner and stuff and i hang out with her and her family her mom and everyone loves me but still she wont go out with me what can i do i dont uunderstand why she wont go out with me she even said she liked me im so confused

Girls can be so very hard to understand... I know this because I am one! Hehe! Truthfully, she probably is really scared that being with you will ruin the great friendship the 2 of you have. There is no doubt about it this girl does care for you, probably even secretly loves you but won't truelly admit. You are probably at the top of her list of the most important people in her life right now so maybe she thinks if the 2 of you become a couple and things mess up, things won't be the same and you won't treat her so wonderful anymore.
Let me put it to you this way... You CAN NOT spend the rest of your life chasing/waiting for this girl to come around. I Know that you want to be with her though, so maybe all you really need to do to see how thinsg really are is give her some space. Sometimes a person has to see something is gone/missing in order to realize what they really have. And when she calls asking you wheer you've been, you'll know how she truelly feels by the way she reacts. Hopefully she will see how much she needs you, but if not let her know that you love her and want her in your life, you want to give her the world, but you can't do that unless she opens up her heart to you and stops playing these games. Good Luck! :)

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I have a really good mate, but recently he's been really depressed. He's told one of our other friends what's up with him, and he tried to tell me as we were walking home but he just burst into tears and didn't have a chance to say. I'm really worried about him, and need him to tell me what's up with him in order to help him. What should I do? I don't want to upset him anymore but I don't know if he'll actually tell me, or what to do if it's something really bad. HELP!!

Ask the friend that does know what is going to fill you so the both of you can help him. If that person refuses to, tell her he was trying to tell you but was so upset he couldn't do anything but cry, and if they don't say anything and your friend does something bad they are gonna regret it and wish that they told you. Good Luck! :)

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Okay, I have a friend where we could spend a month together and never get tired of eachother. And recently, we've been spending the nights at eachothers house for like weeks in a row. Lol. Well, my friend has another friend whom I hate, and everytime she's around she makes me so mad. (basically i get really upset, and mad at MY friend for letting this other girl be her friend) Well, today after I got home from my friends house, we got online. And the girl I hate was on, so I got really mad. And my friend probably hates me when i get so mad at her for having this other friend, but whatever. I dont know what to do. Please help me, please please.

Stop getting mad that your friend had another friend. Its not fair to your friend. You don't have to like the girl she doesn't have to be your friend but she is your friends friend and you need to respect that. Good Luck! :)

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I am so in love with this boy named Jake. He was EVERYTHING I have ever wanted in a guy. He was so fine and sexy and every girl wanted him. Well, last Friday we went to his house and were making out on his bed when he asked me if I wanted to have sex. I said no, but he wasnt going to take no for an answer. He ripped off my clothes and fucked me and hit me a few times. I guess you can say, I was raped. I need to tell my mom but she will tell me to stay away from Jake and I'm too in love to lose him! Do I tell my mom? How can I stay with Jake forever?

YOU HAVE TO TELL SOMEONE. Even if it is Jake, you have to tell somone how you feel about what happened. Maybe he didn't see it that way or something. Find out why he did it that way and didn't listen to you. If he acts like he doesn't care how you felt about the situation and isn't sorry, then you have no reason to love him and you need to get his ass in trouble. Good Luck! :)

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i bite my nails all the time. somtimes i bet them some much or so hard, they bleed. it really hurts but i cant stop especially when im nervous. what do i do to stop??

Wear a rubberband around your wrist and everyime you go to bite your nails, snap it. Amd to help you remember tell the people in your house and your friends around you, if they catch you biting or about to bite, snap your rubberband. Trust you won't want to bite, you'll be tired of being snapped. Good Luck! :)

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my bff loves to wear pants then a skirt over. its so weird and ugly but she loves it and wont listen when i tell her she shouldnt do that...do you have another option instead of wearing that tacky stuff?

Let her waer what she wants to wear. If you are really her friend, you wouldn't care if she wore a boxers on her head.

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