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I'm a mother of 2 boys who are 13 months apart. Talk about a handful. I'm a wife to the best husband I could have ever dreamed of.
I'm one of the very blessed.


I have Bipolar 1 Disorder. I hate taking all these medications and always going to doctors appointments, but life is too short to let mental illness get the better of me.


Often times life is a challenge, and nobody knows that better than me. I wake up wondering if this is going to be a day my illness overpowers my meds, and either sends me flying like a bat out of hell, or leaves me laying on the couch like a wet dish rag.


Thank all that is good in the world that I have an excellent support system at home.
I'm one of the lucky ones.


I'm honest, and that can either be a perk or s flaw. Depends on how you choose to look at it.
I like to see it as a perk, because it's better to hear the truth than to be told candy coated bullshit.






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ok so theres this guy (Kaleb)that i used to like a while ago so i flirted with him but then i ended up going out with this guy christian.I still kinda liked Kaleb but i couldnt flirt with him anymore. So 1 day Kaleb sked me if i was goin out w/ any1 and i said yes.he just said oh...who?so its been a while since then and christian and i broke up.So today i was sittin on the floor at skool(we were watchin a movie)and Kaleb was sittin in a chair next to me.Then all of a sudden He gets up and puts the chair away.then he sits right next to me.he asked me if the man in the movie fell in love with the tour lady and i laughed and said yeah.then he just looked at me for a couple seconds..then he leaned back and moved his hand RIGHT next to me almost touching me.He asked me if i was still goin out with chris. and i said no.Then he laughed and said that the guy was tryin 2 hit on the lady and w/o lookin i said yeah and he looked at me 4 a long time.i like him alot what should i do??

Ask him when the guy plans to ask the lady out properly. That will catch his attention.
I mean, come on. You already know it's obvious he likes you. You just need to let him know that you are single, available, and interested.

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okay well i have been dating someone for almost 2 years and i really do love him.before me and him got together i was dating another guy for 2 and a half years and right after me and him broke up i got together with my ex. well i always tell myself and everyone around me i do not like my ex and im glad we arent together.. we dont even talk anymore.. but for some reason as soon as something happens between me and my current boyfriend i always think of my ex. and tonight i was out with my family and i saw my ex walk in with his current gf they have been together for a little over a year.. and all of a sudden i was so upset i kept thinking about my ex and the things we did together i think alot of this was because the place we were eating at was a place me and him would always go to. i kept thinking that it was suppose to be me and him there and i think my mom saw that i was getting upset so she mentioned my current boyfriend and i was fine. i am still thinking about what happened at the restaurant and i think what bothers me the most is that i was thinking about my ex when i claim i love my boyfriend now. it may just be that my ex was my "first true love" or maybe i was a little jealous or maybe i do still want to be with him? i dont know i am so confused. what do you think it is and what do you think i should do about it?

thank you,
confused

When someone is a huge part of your life like that, it is hard to just forget they exist.

Keep in mind your ex is obviously an ex for a reason. You don't really want to get back into something that didn't work. You are just thinking of the good times you shared, omitting the bad.

When you get upset or jealous, or get to thinking of the ex, try to remember that you have a boyfriend who you love, and it isn't really fair for you to think of your ex like that.

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I want to be a psychologist when I graduate from college. Does anyone know what kind of classes do you take? And do you need any kind of math. Thanks in advance.

Well, I don't know if the link below helps, but maybe it gives you an idea. Best bet would be to search the requirements for a psychology degree at your particular school of choice.

http://www.usi.edu/libarts/psychology/degree.asp

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If someone joins the Millitary what are the odds of him dieing?

"The death rate of military personnel in Iraq, or odds of dying in Iraq is 3.92 deaths per 1,000 person-years."

Calculated in August. From link:
http://dying.about.com/b/2006/12/28/grim-statistics-military-death-toll-from-iraq-now-greater-than-september-11-2001-deaths.htm

"The similar concept of a man-year or person-year[3], [4] is used on very large projects. It is the amount of work performed by an average worker during one year. Obviously, the number of hours worked by an individual during a year varies greatly according to cultural norm(s) and economics, but a business man year for management purposes seems to hover around 2000 man hours."

From link:
http://www.answers.com/person+years+definition?cat=biz-fin&gwp=11&method=3&ver=2.1.1.521

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im thinking alot about getting a nose job, does it hurt??? please just answer if you've been through it , i'd rather people who are very likely to feel pain with simple things as vaccines or piercings to answer please hahah cause im really scared i know tha through the proccess you might not feel pain but thats because of the anesthesia, but after your done with the surgery??? does it hurt??? please i need to know cause of course you ask someone personally and they said of course it doesnt hurt:P but sometimes they just do it cause they're ashamed of telling that it did hurt hjahahahaha please answer

"Your face will feel puffy,especially the first day after surgery. Pain medication may be required. Your surgeon will advise you to avoid blowing your nose for seven days after surgery. In the immediate days following surgery, you may experience bruising and minor swelling in the eye area. Cold compresses often reduce the bruising and discomfort."

From link:
http://www.aafprs.org/patient/procedures/rhinoplasty.html

I've never had a nose job, but like Vera said, any surgery will cause pain of some degree. Those who say it don't either have a high pain tolerance or are pulling your leg.
If you are going because your nose is too big, they have to remove bone and cartilage. That will be painful for a few days, so they will give you pain medicine and methods to help with the pain and swelling, just as stated above.

During surgery you will feel no pain. Depending on what you decide with the surgeon, you will be put to sleep or the area will be numbed. Either way, they will probably numb the area.

If you want and/or need the surgery bad enough, the pain shouldn't matter. It will only be sore for a few days.

But like Vera said, be sure you are doing it for the right reasons. I tell you, I always thought I had a goofy looking nose, but it sure does look precious on my son's face. ;)

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I've heard stories from several sources about "the evil mother-in law". I happen to have one, also...

Anyone have advice about how to deal with them?

And why does she succeed in making me so angry?

It's like she cares nothing about boundaries, etc.

Grrr...

I wish I could tell you from experience, but sadly, I never got to have a mother or father-in-law. They both deceased before we married. :(

I did, however, find a website that may be helpful to you:

http://www.turnonyourinnerlight.com/MotherInLaw.html

I hope it helps you. All I know is this: the same goes for any person in your life- if they are striving to make you mad, you are giving them satisfaction by doing just that.

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What is the Gifted and Talented??

My Moms getting paperwork in the mail about me joining like a club for smart people. And I get good grades but Im not smart... I donno know.
And like someone said if u stay in it its a good way to get scholarhips for colledge.

I dont even know what it is? And I know people who are in it and there weird people... I dont wanna be a weird person!

Being gifted or talented doesn't make you weird. Yah, some of them are, but not everyone is.

Being gifted or talented means you excel at something, like school. Here is a link that describes it better than I can:

http://www.answers.com/gifted+and+talented+definition?gwp=11&ver=2.1.1.521&method=3

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This is only my view. My dad and I are close. My mom hates it. Anytime my dad does something for me she get mad. My mom drinks and smokes (cigarettes and weed). My dad just drinks beer during sporting events or movies. My mom accuses my dad of cheating when she is the one cheating. She fights him, destroys his stuff and kicks him out. One time she bit him in his sleep and poured bleach on his face. My dad does nothing. He is either a punk or scared. My mom and me is different. She hated me since I was about 8 and decided i didnt wanna be a lawyer but wanted to be in the music industry. I didnt wanna be in a choir but dance and cheerlead. So she would smack me around for no reason. She kicked me out back in August. I been surviving since. Now I want to go home because of the holidays and i miss my dad and brothers. I miss being with my good side of the family. I dont know to get back in the house because my mom dont want me back

Just show up. You can't mend fences without making the effort to do so.
Your parents' problems with their marriage are their problems, not yours, so you need to stop letting yourself worry over things you can't change. That is up to them to change, no matter who is the bad guy, who is right or wrong.

Try to change the things you can, like your relationship with your mother.
Go home and tell your mom that you want to work it out and get along with her again.

Trust me, from experiences with my own family, holding grudges with one another only causes more pain and regrets in the long run. Usually it's too late to change it once the regrets start.
I mean, let's be real here. She isn't going to be around forever. You don't want to wish you could have made your effort to make things better when her funeral arrives.
If you make the effort and she choses not to, well, that's hers to regret.

Go home for the holidays. The worst that can happen is that she doesn't let you in. Yah, that will hurt, but at least you can say you tried.
Then just keep trying.

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my bf is starting to bore me. when ever we hang out or hold hands in the hallway he never says a word. i try to start a conversation and i feel like im talking to myself. also he has no experience bc im his first gf so my friends always tell him to put his arm around me and stuff. also i like the guy to make the first move. i no he might be shy but he doesn't do anything with me. im really not into him at all anymore and when ever he comes near me i think...great hes here now. he totally turning me off now. i like a lot of my guy friends more than i like him. how can i break up with him bc i don't want to hurt his feelings and i will feel really bad. thx in advance♥

There is no way to break up with him without hurting his feelings. You just have to end it, plain and simple.
You are hurting him more by putting it off.

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I don't know if I put this under the right subject or not but

I don't go to church because I'm always busy with school and other things, but I was looking for a church that does prayer by letters, or something like that when they send it to you in the mail.. And you send it back

Maybe this website will be helpful. I don't know if a Christian pen pal is exactly what you are looking for, though:

http://www.christianpenpalz.com/

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Am 20years old. Am still a vrigin but when am playing with my boy friend he cum and pour it on my laps. Am afriad some touch my virginal. Am afriad i might be pregnant. Please tell explain to me.

"If ejaculation does not occur directly in the vagina the chances are lower that a woman will get pregnant, then if the ejaculate is released inside the vagina; nevertheless there is still the possibility that pregnancy can occur. Sperm may find their way into the vaginal canal even if semen were only to get onto the vulva."

From link:
http://www.soc.ucsb.edu/sexinfo/?article=faq&refid=025

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Alright. Very long story short--a girl that has been one of my best friends for about a year has turned extremely sour towards me. I've tried very hard to rectify the situation. It's not going to get fixed. I've accepted this. I'm not looking for advice on how to fix it.

Here's my problem: Not only do we go to a tiny boarding school in the middle of nowhere and live in the same building together, we share one of our really good friends. (In fact, it used to be that the three of us were really good friends.) We'll call the sour friend "Sarah" and the mutual friend "Anna".

Anna and I are roomates. Sarah does this thing where she'll come into the room and start chatting amicably with Anna and making a point of talking to Anna and not me, and inviting Anna to do stuff just so she can make a point of not inviting me. She does this as well as many other passive-aggressive things of the sort in order to try to make me feel excluded/one-upped/etc. I know that this is not going to change. I've come to the conclusion that trying to rectify things with her is a waste of energy. (It will not happen.)

I no longer am upset by this, but rather, I am extremely perturbed at her passive-aggressive behavior and exclusion attempts. I feel that by being this enraged about these little things she does, I'm letting her win. I do not instigate these scenarios, but for once the "ignore it and it wil go away" thing does not work. So, my question is this: How can I make these things NOT get to me? What can I do to ensure that I finally let go of that anger towards these actions? How can I stop letting her get under my skin?

You have to keep reminding yourself that she WANTS you to let it get under your skin. That's why she keeps doing it.
She probably wants you to feel like Anna likes her more since she goes out of her way to do this.
You are very right. By letting it get to you, you are letting her win. You are giving her satisfaction she doesn't deserve.
It's hard to let go of it, but you have to realize you owe it to yourself to do just that. It will probably take some time and effort to let it roll off your back, but it is worth it to work on it.
You know Anna is your friend, and Sarah can't change that. She is Sarah's friend too, you can't change that.
You have to remember that you are above her actions, because you don't use a friend you care about as a pawn to hurt someone you don't.
I don't know if that helps, but hang in there.

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i am taking my road test next week and i am super nervous? I am going to take it with my mom as my sponser, in the car that i've learned to drive in. Does anyone have any suggestions on how i can pass?

Drive the way you should at all times.
Know and obey all traffic laws and be an alert, attentive driver.
Try to avoid being nervous. That will just make it more difficult. Stay calm and relaxed.

You do that, and you will be fine.

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i stopped going to school about 2 years ago i couldnt stand it the food gave me horrible migraine the other kids bullied me the teachers treated me like a idiot because i had dyspraxia it hardly affected ne exept i cant concentrate, my writing is awful and theres nothing i can do about it i was teated like the one outcast who cant do anything because my teachers didnt understand what my disorder was the only knew about dyslexia the admitted so my history teacher demeaned me in front of the whole class by saying i had lazyitits until i developed a powerfull phobia and got diagnsed with clinical depression. anyway before me and my family discovered home learning it was a horrible ordeal of my dad trying to make me go to school and me literally not being able to we fought and argued and screamed and cried until i was diagnosed with depression i lost a year of my life sleeping until 7 pm and falling asleep after crying all night at 6.30 am. i am really worried that my dad and my friendship has been destroyed my dad never seems happy and and i always seem happy but am very depressed i am 15 but i am sure it not my hormones

please help me

horribly lost boy

Your best bet would be to go up to him and have a good father-son chat. Talk to him about what is going on in your life and your head.

There was a time when he was your world, but now you are in a world he isn't apart of so much. It's just something that tends to happen as you leave childhood. He can't be apart of it unless you let him into it. Best way to do that is to talk to him.

I imagine he would like nothing more than for his son to come to him seeking advice on his problems or just needing an ear to listen. Allow him to still be the hero you look up to, now and always.

Your relationship isn't destroyed. Problems can be solved, fences can be mended. You just have to make the effort to do it.


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I currently live on a 3rd shift schedule to be with my husband during his work week. I've been on the same schedule since I moved to my current place of residence. The two year mark has almost gone by and I don't have any friends. It seems impossible to socialize this way. Anyone have any suggestions on how to find 3rd shift pals, or to socialize while living this lifestyle?

My husband works 3rd shift. The only time we have with each other during the work week is the few hours between his waking and going to work.

The weekends are different. He is off Friday and Saturday nights, so when he gets home Friday, he catches a nap then stays up the rest of the day so he can spend the day with our son, me, and his friends.
Basically he lives the 9-5er's weekend in order to have a social life and time to spend with his family.
Since you have moved, it will help you have time to go out and meet people to make friends with.

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I live with my fiancee (we're both students), and I'm sick of always coming home to a mess. Laundry hasn't been done in 3 weeks and our bedroom is a mess!

My program is incredibly demanding. I have over 30 hours of class a week plus a ridiculous amount of homework. He is taking two classes, for a total of 9 hours a week. All he does is stay at home playing video games, but he expects me to do at least half, if not most or all of the cooking and cleaning. He's never actually come out and said it, but it's what keeps happening. I can't just leave stuff, because he'll wear the same clothes for a week without thinking twice about it.

I've tried talking to him about it, and he always intends to help, but video games are far more appealing, apparently.

Any ideas on how to get more help around the house?

Video games are something for fun in your spare time. There isn't time to spare when clothes are dirty, dishes need washed, and you're hungry.

He has to learn that a part of caring about you is caring about himself AND the home you share. Since you work so long with school, and he works so little with school, why, he is the one who needs to be doing most of the home duties. Why? He has less responsibly outside of the home than you do by a large degree.

He needs to realize that if video games are more important than your home, then they are obviously more important than you, too, considering they cause him to not care about the work load he places on your shoulders.

If he is that obsessed with video games, then maybe he needs to consider selling them so he can join the rest of us in the real world.

Don't get me wrong, video games are a good way to step out of things for a while, but it is unhealthy when the consume you to a degree that you avoid your responsibilities.

He intends to help. Well, good intentions are only intentions.

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if you have sex...and like right after or withing 24 hourse take a lot of birth controll pills...what will it do?
i dont just mean 1 i mean a few. can it stop you from being pregnant?

Taking birth control when pregnant can cause the baby birth defects. Birth control is a prevention method, not a cure for pregnancy.

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Wow well, i really dont know where to start. I am 15 and I have been pregnant once before. Yes i know it was a big mistake. For 8 months after that I didnt have sex. The 8th month, i was a party and got drunk, a man who was over age, prett muc took advantage of me at the party and had sex with me. it is now a month later and i think im pregnant again. I really dont know what to do because i cant tell my mom. She'll be soooooo hurt and i cant do that to her again. SO i was wondering.... I live in the state of NJ and abortion laws here need no consent. So i was going to go to the doctor and ask about one. if I do get an abortion do I need paper work, identification and all that, or since i'm just paying for it I wont? Thats all I really want to know please help. and i dont need any rude comments, trust me i beat myself up enough about it. ....

The best way to get the information you need is to go directly into the office.
I would imagine that you need to have some sort of information on yourself to give them.

You can't be beating yourself up about it. Why?
Read below:

"If a person has had too much to drink or is on drugs they can not consent to sex and having sex with them is legally rape."

From link:
http://teenadvice.about.com/od/factsheetsforteens/a/10thingsdrape.htm

I know you don't want to, but you should talk to your mom. It isn't your fault.

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why were pyramids important in ancient egypt?

This article may help:

http://ancienthistory.about.com/library/weekly/aa031098.htm

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can anyone identify the pyramids in this pictue and if they were photoshoped together or actually lined up this way? for a report on egypt

link: http://www.leeabbamonte.com/wp-content/uploads/2007/05/giza-pyramids.bmp

Must be an actual picture. I looked Giza Pyramids up on google images and there were several different pictures of the same pyramids:
http://images.google.com/images?q=giza+pyramids&ie=UTF-8&oe=utf-8&rls=org.mozilla:en-US:official&client=firefox-a&um=1&sa=N&tab=wi

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