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Sick of going it alone!
I live with my fiancee (we're both students), and I'm sick of always coming home to a mess. Laundry hasn't been done in 3 weeks and our bedroom is a mess!
My program is incredibly demanding. I have over 30 hours of class a week plus a ridiculous amount of homework. He is taking two classes, for a total of 9 hours a week. All he does is stay at home playing video games, but he expects me to do at least half, if not most or all of the cooking and cleaning. He's never actually come out and said it, but it's what keeps happening. I can't just leave stuff, because he'll wear the same clothes for a week without thinking twice about it.
I've tried talking to him about it, and he always intends to help, but video games are far more appealing, apparently.
Any ideas on how to get more help around the house?
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Video games are something for fun in your spare time. There isn't time to spare when clothes are dirty, dishes need washed, and you're hungry.
He has to learn that a part of caring about you is caring about himself AND the home you share. Since you work so long with school, and he works so little with school, why, he is the one who needs to be doing most of the home duties. Why? He has less responsibly outside of the home than you do by a large degree.
He needs to realize that if video games are more important than your home, then they are obviously more important than you, too, considering they cause him to not care about the work load he places on your shoulders.
If he is that obsessed with video games, then maybe he needs to consider selling them so he can join the rest of us in the real world.
Don't get me wrong, video games are a good way to step out of things for a while, but it is unhealthy when the consume you to a degree that you avoid your responsibilities.
He intends to help. Well, good intentions are only intentions.
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Have you talked to him about it? Try just cleaning up after yourself, wash your dishes, wash your clothes and cook your own meals. In other words don't do for him. If and when he ask you what's wrong, tell him what's on your mind. Either he'll get the point or he just may not care. Don't fret, doesn't mean he doesn't love you but most guys, including myself care more about games than house work and yes I rather play a game than wash some old dirty dishes too. It maybe hard at first to ignore the mess but you got to play it out to get what you want.
Anyway, good luck!
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