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he ruined my night and didnt even know it
okay well i have been dating someone for almost 2 years and i really do love him.before me and him got together i was dating another guy for 2 and a half years and right after me and him broke up i got together with my ex. well i always tell myself and everyone around me i do not like my ex and im glad we arent together.. we dont even talk anymore.. but for some reason as soon as something happens between me and my current boyfriend i always think of my ex. and tonight i was out with my family and i saw my ex walk in with his current gf they have been together for a little over a year.. and all of a sudden i was so upset i kept thinking about my ex and the things we did together i think alot of this was because the place we were eating at was a place me and him would always go to. i kept thinking that it was suppose to be me and him there and i think my mom saw that i was getting upset so she mentioned my current boyfriend and i was fine. i am still thinking about what happened at the restaurant and i think what bothers me the most is that i was thinking about my ex when i claim i love my boyfriend now. it may just be that my ex was my "first true love" or maybe i was a little jealous or maybe i do still want to be with him? i dont know i am so confused. what do you think it is and what do you think i should do about it?
thank you,
confused
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When someone is a huge part of your life like that, it is hard to just forget they exist.
Keep in mind your ex is obviously an ex for a reason. You don't really want to get back into something that didn't work. You are just thinking of the good times you shared, omitting the bad.
When you get upset or jealous, or get to thinking of the ex, try to remember that you have a boyfriend who you love, and it isn't really fair for you to think of your ex like that.
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well, ive thot about my exes while with other guys before...and learned my lesson.
the fact is that you want what you cant have, end of story. you probably are in love with your current bofriend. but you cant help but recall certain things about your old bofriend. as much as its hard, you hav to stop comparing them tho. chances are, there's dif things you like about each of them. but you're broken up with your ex now, and he also is with someone else. so if you're thinking of breaking up with your current and trying to get back together with your ex, its not gonna be pretty.
plus, you're going to say the same thing about your current bf if you break up with him. but right now you dont feel that way, because,well, you've got him right? nothing more to try for kinda-thing.
also think about: if your ex knocked on your door right now...would you take him back and ditch your current? idk wat you think, but im pretty sure you would not...
the other thing why your probably feeling that way is becaus you never talk. its hard to get closure with someone you never ever talk to. its all open-ended and unsolved feelings flying in all directions. but trust me, you will get over this feeling eventually. just ignore it. the grieving process over your ex will come to an end sooner or later...focus on your current, but if you're feeling like you like your ex more, then maybe its time to be single for awhile to figure out exactly what you need? just a suggestion.
happy christmas by the way!! hope that i helped you out some...
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