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Hi my name is Jen - I am 33 and married; a graphic desinger, a big sister, movie lover, horse rider, and board game nerd.

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i meet guys of the net becaue i am unable to make real friends in person. I meet this last guy on the 5th december for sex . We got to no each other b4 this and got on well. NO i cart help but real used. I have my personal reasons for wanting to meet friends of line butno he says it was just about sex and he likes me but y did he get so close and next min i could b his dream girl what is he playin at? im just so confused i thought he was mr right hes such a great guy

Why are you expecting more from this man. You both met and used eachother for sex. Why would you expect a relationship out of this. You are not going to find Mr. Right on the internet.

There is this kid at my school, I feel so much more than a "crush" I feel a feeling I've never felt before I wrote his name on my hand one night just out of the blue.. I alway see his face, and when I dont see, it comes back.. its like hes haunting me.. I love him so much.. I just dont have the guts to ask him or to tell a friend.. He is is like the oxygen I need to breathe! He is the perfect one I've been looking for... And if I ever got my chance I wouldn't want to lose him!
What does this all mean? What do I do? Im so confused!!

Raven

Ask youself why you really like this guy. Could you see yourself spending time together just you and him? What would you do, and what would you talk about? What do you have in common? If you have answers for these questions, then the best thing to do is just talk to him, and get to know him better before you pursue something more.

This sounds like a crush to me, an infatuation.
Don't let him worry you so much, with time your feelings will pass.

I am a 21 year old female and I have been with my 26 year old boyfriend for 4 years now. We are in love (at least I think he is still in love with me.) In four years he has done more for than anyone would do for just a 'girlfriend'. I love him more than anything in the world but last year I was supposed to move in with him but the day before he told me we shouldn't which left with another year lease at my apartment. Now we are supposed to move in together this fall. Im wondering if he will change his mind again. If he does should I break it off? Another thing is that I am ready to get married and him being 26 should at least start thinking about it. He keeps telling me to be patient. But how long am i supposed to wait? I don't want to be unmarried forever. Please help.

If you have been with this man for 4 years and you still don't know where you stand, it is time for a serious talk. Find out what your boyfriend is looking for in this relationship, and let him know what you want. If you don't share similar ideas, then maybe it is time to break it off. Don't wait around for something that may never happen. You deserve someone who really loves you. Not someone you hope is in love with you.

i like this boy at school but i am in grade school is that to young to start a relatioonship

Yes, your too young for relationships, but there is nothing wrong with being his friend!

How do I tell my my really nice friend that she wears WAAAAY too much makeup? She's pretty underneath it all, but I swear she puts on so much makeup nobody knows what her real face actually looks like anymore. I don't want to hurt her feelings, I just want to help her out.

If your scared to tell her suggest that the two of you go for makeovers at a department store for fun. The makeup consultants would be happy to teach your friend how to properly apply make-up. She might see she can still look good without a painted face.

And from my experience guys prefer a natural look, so that may be something to tell her too!

Good Luck!

I have a friend, Alyssa, who has not had any sex yet. She wants to wait. Thats okay, but she always says that none of it can be fun. Does any one here already had sex and knows how fun everything sex related can be?

Your friend is smart to wait. Sex is not all that it is made up to be. What makes it special and fun is who your are with. Shareing something so intimate should only be done with someone you really love. Wait for that special someone and take it slow before you go all the way, otherwise I think you will be very dissapointed.

hi please can you help me i am 16 and scared that i will get cancer, my mum had cancer she nearly died, my mums sister had cancer she died and then my dad's dad died of cancer do you think that i will get it please help

That is a scary position you are in. Having cancer on both sides of the family gives you a higher probability that you will get cancer as well. But don't live in fear of something that hasn't happend yet. Talk to your doctor to get more informed. And talk to your mother since she has cancer. She can help you with your fear.
I wish you well!

my son is 9 and we live in quite a rough area, hes always enjoyed playing outside with his friends until some of the older boys started jumping out on him and grabbing hold of him as they knew how upset he`d get, i had a word with these boys and they appologised and said they didnt realise they were getting to him as they did. however they still did it for the buzz of it and he`s terrified to go outside the door now, he doesnt play football or anything he loved doing and i really feel for him as i can see hes down about it, what do you think i should do?

These bullies need to be put to a stop. If you know where these boys live try talking to their parents and if the bulling does not stop tell them that you will soon be talking to the police. These boys have no right to be touching your son, it's harassment and against the law. I hope it doesn't have to go that far, but no child should be in fear of playing outside.

Ever since I was little I couldn't talk to people I didn't know. When I became older, I started having the same problem with girls. I had a few girlfriends early in high school, but they asked me. They weren't really my type either. They always wanted to party and do drugs. I didn't. I guess that I am the last of a dying breed. My freshman dance was 2 years ago and I didn't even think about going because I was to shy to ask anyone. I always use the excuse that I have a rejection phobia. I am the person that you see at a party that is hanging out with with his friends because no one likes talks either. I can't just go up to a girl and say, hey do you want to go and see a movie this weekend or something. I used to be fat through elementary school and 7 and 8 grade. Then I went to the gym and I went from 250lbs to 180lbs. I am 6'1 so this weight is better. Even though I look better I still don't have the courage to talk to girls. I always think that if I ask them, after they turn me down that they will go off and blab to their friends and make fun of me. I have asked a couple of girls out and they say that they like me as a friend or that they don't have time for a boyfriend and then a couple days later someone else asks them out and they say yes. This year the prom is fast approaching and I didn't ask anyone. Someone tell me how to get over this. I am 17. I don't play sports, maybe thats why. Girls want sports guys. And I don't hang out with the popular crowd because they are too fake. Help.

There is so much pressure for the need to date in high school which is always uncomfortable and akward. Don't worry about dating so much. Once you graduate things will get better, you won't have that feeling that people are constantly judging you. I didn't date at all in high school nor did I go to my prom. But here I am at 23 and married to a wonderful man. In the next few years you life be changing a lot. Wether you go to college or start a carreer you will find that people are a lot more accepting, you will be more confident in yourself and you won't care at all what happend back in high school.

Hey People it's MiSSc!
I'm playing the PlayStation2 Game called Kingdom Hearts. Ok, this is for the people who have/are playing(ed) it. OK. Right now I'm in Neverland for the second time...and I'm almost done with the game. So Sora found Tink and was like, "I can't understand her" so peter pan talked to her and she said that somethings at the Clock Tower. So Sora went to the Clock Tower and there was a Headless Shadow (not sure what it's called) and so I had to attack it. And it gave Peter Pan, i think 10 seconds and then he died, and then Goofy had 10 seconds and then I had 10 seconds and died.
Then I noticed there was this ball under him and i tried hitting it and put fire and blizzard and thunder and all these spells on him and it still didn't work and i died. Then the next time i tried i pressed R1 which is the Lock On thing and it locked to the clock. And I tried putting spells on that and hitting it and it didn't work. HOW CAN I BEAT THAT HEADLESS DUDE AND THE CLOCK? IS THERE SOMETHING THAT I'M MISSING? HELP! Also if you have NE other advice about Kingdom Hearts feel free to tell me. But I REALLY want you to help me on that Headless Dude and the Clock!
Sincerely MiSSc

Thats a fun game. I played it last year so I don't remember much. You'll find all your questions answerd here:

http://gamefaqs.com

It is the best site I have found for game advice!

long story: i was 16 when i got pregnant i couldnt tell parents cos they were very strict so i hid it for 7 months i was thinking about adopting him but when he was born i couldnt do it he was so lovely and my parents loved him too, when they asked me about the fether i said i didnt want him to know as he wasnt `the father figure`so i brought him up on my own for 6 years then i met someone else who i had 2 more children with he loves my son they get on well, but my son is 10 now and started asking questions like` whos my real father` ive said john but he looks baffled as if hes put 2 and 2 together cos he hasnt been with us 4 10 years, i just dont know what to say for the best, does he deserve the truth but i dont want him to have any relationship with his real father after all this time, help

I think the longer you wait, the harder it will be on your son. He won't be able to trust you if you continue to lie. He deserves to know about his father because he is a part of him. Just talk about his father, there is no need to make him a part of his life. Your son can make that decision when he is older.

my boyfriend wont kiss me because he doesnt know how to kiss. im not a very good kisser either. im afraid to make the first move becuause i think he will pull away b4 i get to his lips and i will look like an idiot. how can i get him to kiss me? should i send him a site about how to kiss on email or what? i really wanna kiss him.

The only way to learn to kiss is through practice. Since you are both new at this you can learn from each other and not feel embarassed. Start with slow, gental kisses. Expirement and talk to each other about what you like and don't like. You'll get the hang of it!

Theres this kid in my school I got to know him and I really like him alot... I mean ALOT, and he talks to me, but we are usually in a group, or he looks at me.. and I like him so much AHHH!
Or he has other people talk to me.. I dont know maybe hes shy? But I reeeally like him, he asked where I got my bracelets lol.. And he said thats where he got his too... Well I duno why doesnt he talk to me face to face.. I think he likes me, but I like him alot too.. and I duno...

What don't you know, you like him, and it seems that he likes you. You say that he doesn't talk to you much, do you talk to him? It sounds to me that you are both shy. One of you needs to break the ice, so go for it. Tell him that you like him!

hey, my best friend well i say we are cousin because i have known her since she was a baby we used to talk about are problems together but know she does not seem bothered so i ring her to try talk to her but she still does not listen she talks to every one else while i am on the phone. i can feel us falling apart like are parents have i tryed talking to her saying it was important and i told what was wrong and she just said no we will not fall out then put the phone down how can i get her to listen me with out her oing that i o not want to fall out with her i love her like a sister please help me

Try talking to her again about how you are feeling and that you are worried you are losing a valuable friendship. If she won't listen try writing a letter (not an email), those always seem to be more personable.

Sadly friendships do fade after time as people get older, they find different interests and grow apart. I hope you will find a way to stay friends.

all my pets have died and my mom says i cant get anymore because she thinks i am not responsible. what do i do?

If all your pets have died your mom probably has a good point. Taking care of a pet is a lot of responsibility, and if your not willing to devote time every day for your pet it's not fair to the animal that you are its owner.

My hair looks good when I first wash and dry it, but over the course of the day it just goes really flat and looses all its sexy waviness and body. I've tried switching shampoos, using mouse or gel, all sorts of things, but nothing seems to work. What's the trick here?

Conditioners can really weigh down your hair, try a volumizing shampoo. I use a volumizing spray (Catwalk I think) on my towled dryed hair, and then blow drying starting with the roots, and working my way down. If your hair dryer has a cool air switch use that when you start drying, going from hot to cold can really help shape you hair.

I got a job at a pizza restaurant. I've worked for the same chain several years ago (a different location). I filled out the application online, made some nice customer comments about that particular location because it's my favorite place, and the owner called me last night! I was feeling really down when he called, so I look at this as a good sign, because it really made me feel better. This may sound totally lame or corny to you, but I'd much rather being doing something, even if it's just making pizzas, or taking orders for them, then sitting around at home being broke. I need to help out my family, but I also feel better about myself when I'm working, like I'm "contributing to society " by having a job. Ok, so I'm not curing cancer, but treating people nice can really make the difference in somebody's day, and I will be working with the public, which I know I can do. It's been a long time since I've worked a cash register, but it didn't look hard, I'm planning to stay there as long as I need to to save money and go back to school to finish my child development credits, but I didn't tell the boss that. I think I conviced this new boss that I can handle it, so why am I so nervous? Any suggestions? I start my training friday.

Starting a new job can make anyone nervous, and maybe you your nerves are just excitment from finally getting out of the house. Be confident in yourself, I am sure you will have no problems working at a pizza restaurant. And don't stress about your boss, job turn over is high in that field. Your boss will not be surpirized if you quit 6 months from now to go back to school. Good luck, I hope you will be able to return to school!

Hello. This is the first time I have looked for help on this subject. Long story short: my mom met a guy, we moved in eith him, I was an asshole before this happened, I saw what he was like to her, we moved out, and I was the perfect son for three years, then something went wrong. This is what my mom said and I agree. We have fought constantly on and off since then. My mom has chronic headaches and a sleeping disease. I usually make light of the situation by making fun of the problem and I started making fun of my mom. She got pissed which I can understand but she knows how I deal with things. We have gotten into fights many times and she has packed up my stuff and taken me to my aunts, said she was going to leave, or said she was going to kill herself. I make fun of her for crying, and for her diseases because everyone else's life seems to be like the brady bunch. I understand I have been ignorant and I need to change. We just had a fight tonight because last friday I told her that the only person that sleeps more than her is a dead person. I guess that and all the names I have called her finally built up again. She has raised me well but insists that she is a bad mother and I deserve better. And that better is for her to leave and for me to live with my aunt and to never see her again. I told her that I don't need all of this confusion along with all of my school work. Then she atarted making fun of me for saying that. I told her that she isn't me, she isn't in my head, and doesn't know what is best for me(by her leaving)I actually think that she is going ot leave this time. Please write back at------slayer512@earthlink.net
I don't know what else to do please help I am a 17 year old guy

It sounds like you mother may have depression and should see a counsler, especially if she has mentioned killing herself. I see that you really do care about your mother because you don't want her to leave you. Tell her that you care and want her to get better instead of teasing her all the time. She needs your support and love, not hurtful words. It is unfair you have to endure this sort of stress at this time in your life, you need your mothers love and support as well. You may also want to speak to a school counsler to help get you through this. You and your mother are both under a lot of stess, talk with her and disscuss and understand eachothers needs rather than fight. I wish you luck.

I am a 25 year old female, and the other night my boyfriend accidentally (he says) called me his ex-girlfriends (mother of his childs) name, while giving me a compliment. Is this a big deal, I can't help but be bothered by it. He says it was an accident, and that it's me he loves, and he doesn't know why he said it. What should I do?

I wouldn't let it worry you. When I first was married I callled my husband a friends name multipule times. I don't know why I did it, I guess I was just use to adressing my friend by name and I accidently blurted out his name without thinking when talking to my husband. It didn't mean anything of course, and I haven't done it since. Your boyfriend obviously loves you if he is paying you compliments. If you love him, trust him that it was an accident, which I am sure it was.

I need help. There is this guy that I have liked for the pass eleven months. We used to be friends and today I talked to him for the first time in a month and he told me to never call him again. he sounded like he was on drugs but one of my friends told me that he is not. If something doesn't happen soon, my best friend will kick his ass. He used to be really nice, but he is being a bitch to me. Ask me a question if you would like
Lizzy

Forget him and move on. If he told you not to call him it is a very clear indicator he does not want a relationship with you. He sounds like a jerk anyway. Don't waste you time with him anymore.

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