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My mom wants to leave.
Hello. This is the first time I have looked for help on this subject. Long story short: my mom met a guy, we moved in eith him, I was an asshole before this happened, I saw what he was like to her, we moved out, and I was the perfect son for three years, then something went wrong. This is what my mom said and I agree. We have fought constantly on and off since then. My mom has chronic headaches and a sleeping disease. I usually make light of the situation by making fun of the problem and I started making fun of my mom. She got pissed which I can understand but she knows how I deal with things. We have gotten into fights many times and she has packed up my stuff and taken me to my aunts, said she was going to leave, or said she was going to kill herself. I make fun of her for crying, and for her diseases because everyone else's life seems to be like the brady bunch. I understand I have been ignorant and I need to change. We just had a fight tonight because last friday I told her that the only person that sleeps more than her is a dead person. I guess that and all the names I have called her finally built up again. She has raised me well but insists that she is a bad mother and I deserve better. And that better is for her to leave and for me to live with my aunt and to never see her again. I told her that I don't need all of this confusion along with all of my school work. Then she atarted making fun of me for saying that. I told her that she isn't me, she isn't in my head, and doesn't know what is best for me(by her leaving)I actually think that she is going ot leave this time. Please write back at------slayer512@earthlink.net
I don't know what else to do please help I am a 17 year old guy
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Handling the problems you and your mother have together,and as separate individuals is TOO MUCH for either of you to handle without outside help,at ANY AGE. And, you are not expected to be the adult. You DON'T need the confusion-You DO need an outside professional to help unravel the knots though. You are unable to solve this together. They say "the sick mind that created the problem is NOT the mind that can solve it"-GET HELP. A good solution is for YOU to set up an appointment with the school counselor or a minister or therapist and ask your mom to join you. If she refuses,tell her that's fine and that you're going to go anyway...AND GO!!! Get the help YOU need!!! This is one of the ways we grow and a good step towards a healthy adulthood FOR YOU!! And, stop the chiding. It just makes both of you more upset-that YOU can control. Her behavior,and anyone else's for that matter is up to them to change. Thus, another important life lesson to help you on your way. Then,and in the meantime-enjoy your teen years 'cause the rest is adulthood(:!!- Please keep me posted-Insight2020(formerly tommytony)
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It sounds like you mother may have depression and should see a counsler, especially if she has mentioned killing herself. I see that you really do care about your mother because you don't want her to leave you. Tell her that you care and want her to get better instead of teasing her all the time. She needs your support and love, not hurtful words. It is unfair you have to endure this sort of stress at this time in your life, you need your mothers love and support as well. You may also want to speak to a school counsler to help get you through this. You and your mother are both under a lot of stess, talk with her and disscuss and understand eachothers needs rather than fight. I wish you luck.
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hi there i dont know your situation at the moment but from some one suffers with depresson and chronic headaches ,i also have a sleeplng disoreder and i can say it the most horible experiance i have had to handle, ive said some of the most horrible things to my familly ,i dont mean them,but chronic pain is the most intense pain you can have i have a son who is 16,and stands by me all the time it never used to be like that but we talk alot ,about different things try and talk to your mom somewere ,were you wont be interupted and ask her how she is feeling about you and life in general take an interest in her,she needs you and you need her,try and not fight be a man and walk away to cool of,my son felt just like you and i coulnt see it for a long time but we are on track for having mom and son time ,ask her to go to the drs and you will go with her ,ive felt like killing my self loads of times beacause i had no one to turn to who understood what i was going through try and love each other and be there for each other the best you can ,you sound like you really love your mom which is good ,and im sure she loves you ,good luck if you want to email me privatly you can on kerry,morton1@ntl world .com, good luck my freind
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that is always sad when a family member says their going to kill themsalf. wow this sounds tough, i dont know what to say. i just think you and your mom should get counseling. that might help.
~*coco*~
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Ir sounds like your mom has depression. This is a very difficult disease to understand and deal with, especially as a 17 year old son of a depressed person. I hope she is seeing a doctor, because she needs to if she hasn't.
Here is a website where you can find some information and support:
www.nami.org
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well for one thing you can make things better so your mother won't leave you.you have to be caring of your mother's feelings.and you have to understand that she has been a single parent and trying to do the best she can to make a life for you.but you have to give her some respect to.start by telling her that that you thank her for everything she has done for you and always being there when no one else was.tell you love her very much and that you are going to be better and more caring of her feelings.
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