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my son is afraid
my son is 9 and we live in quite a rough area, hes always enjoyed playing outside with his friends until some of the older boys started jumping out on him and grabbing hold of him as they knew how upset he`d get, i had a word with these boys and they appologised and said they didnt realise they were getting to him as they did. however they still did it for the buzz of it and he`s terrified to go outside the door now, he doesnt play football or anything he loved doing and i really feel for him as i can see hes down about it, what do you think i should do?
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Well personally i think that you should talk to your son, tell him there is nothing to be afraid of. Talk to these boys, tell these boys AGAIN, that he is just a child, trying to play in a simple manner, and that he has done nothing to them. Boys like this deserve some punishment, if they continue to bother your or your son, tell the police, or someone you might know that can help. I really hope this helps you, and im sorry for your son.
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have you considered entering your child into a karate class or something similar? The fear he feels stems from the fact that he's insecure about his ability to protect himself or his esteem which makes him believe that they have every reason, albeit wrong, to pick with him. e.g. " I'm too fat, I'm too nerdy, I'm too etc. etc., no WONDER they pick on me". I suggest the class because it will help in both without relegating him to having to feel that physical retaliation is the only solution. Karate will build his self esteem, as he takes confidence in his progress, thus himself, and also teach him that although he COULD handle himself physically, there are other options that are just as effective. Actually, I think they'll leave him alone once they find out he's involved in such a class, but in reality, if they don't, then he'll be able to defend himself ( and I bet he'll only have to do that once). talk it over with him and see what his take is on the idea. Drop me a line and let me know what course you both choose. Tell him that I'd be glad to converse with him via e mail if he has any problems or just simply wants to vent to someone other than "mom". No offense, but I'm less of threat to him :) The offer is extended to you, as well. If you don;t feel you want to post them in the forum for the public to read, simply e mail me and I'll respond.
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I think you should get in touch with thier parents,or thier guardian.
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I don't think you have to be terribly concerned. This sort of thing happens often, and although he's probably pretty bothered by it now, I bet in a few days he'll be right back to his normal self. Kids are always getting rough and getting mad at one another, but they bounce back from stuff 500% faster than us adults do.
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Do you know the parents of the boys who were jumping him? If you did you could go talk to them. Hopefullt their parents are really strict and will teach them a lesson. To get him back into sports I would ALWAYS be there when he wants to play outside, this way if those boys do come up they will see you and leave. Try getting him involved in organized sports with supervisors.
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Speak to the older boys' parents, and if that doesn't work, notify the police. Bullying is unfair and scarring, and it does not have to continue.
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These bullies need to be put to a stop. If you know where these boys live try talking to their parents and if the bulling does not stop tell them that you will soon be talking to the police. These boys have no right to be touching your son, it's harassment and against the law. I hope it doesn't have to go that far, but no child should be in fear of playing outside.
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