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fun or not
I have a friend, Alyssa, who has not had any sex yet. She wants to wait. Thats okay, but she always says that none of it can be fun. Does any one here already had sex and knows how fun everything sex related can be?
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Everyone makes up their own mind on what they think sex related anything is like.
You shouldnt try to convince her of anything because when she is ready - she'll be the one making the decision, not you or whether its 'fun' or not.
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"Everything sex related" is not necessarily fun. The first time can be very uncomfortable for a girl.
How fun sex is for a girl depends on how she feels about the person she is with, and how attentive and caring they are.
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If your talking about kissing thats cool. But if your talking about sexual activities your limited, to sex, oral sex, or touching
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Firstly, it sounds like your friend is on the right track with wanting to wait for the right person. Secondly, I think she should be able to discover for herself whether she thinks sex is fun or not. Everyone is different, and discovering for yourself is better than being told by someone else. She might hate sex when she actually does it, but so what? Someone I know had sex when they were far too young for it, and hated it for years. Let your friend discover sex for herself, try not to push anyone else's ideas about it into her head because, as i said, everyone's different.
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I am too young to have sex, but in my opinion, if she wants to wait, she wants to wait, and that's her decision. If you're really her friend, you'll respect that, and when she's ready, she'll do it. It's a big thing, to have sex, and she probably wants to make sure that she's ready. And she obviously isn't. So just pull back, calm down, and she'll go for it with SOMEONE when she's ready. Which may be never. But it is HER choice, not yours.
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your friend isnt ready yet and she sounds fairly mature about it too, yes sex is meant to be enjoying thats the purpose of it, when two people feel comfortable with each other, dont try to push her into it or she`ll regret it and feel worse and have bad doubts altogether, let her make her own mind up.
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Meh, its ok. The moment is good, but when it's over I find its very sort of meh. I think it should only really be doen with some one you love as it makes your connection with them stronger emotionaly and physicaly. Of course it is a very different thing to different people, so maybe she'll find she doesn't enjoy it, maybe she will find she will.
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Your friend is smart to wait. Sex is not all that it is made up to be. What makes it special and fun is who your are with. Shareing something so intimate should only be done with someone you really love. Wait for that special someone and take it slow before you go all the way, otherwise I think you will be very dissapointed.
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