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okay, [18f] ive never had sex and ive been dating the same guy for almost 2 years, hes not been rushing me about anything. but i really want to have sex with him. i have no idea what to do or anything. i read alot of questions on here that says something about the girl being on top or botton or whatever, i dont get it. who goes on top? and what do all the guys want to do when you have sex? i need tips and answers please. please dont tell me that im not ready because i think i am and i really want to so if your gonna say that then please dont answer my question(: (link)
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- Do not have sex without a condom. Period. Bring them, if you both forget, go out and buy some. You're teenagers, you can manage to stay horny long enough to go out and get rubbers.
- Get on birth control. ASAP. If you don't have a gyno, get one, and ask about low dose hormonal contraceptives. My wife pays 9 bucks a month for a generic prescription, anyone can afford that. There is nothing like peace of mind when a condom breaks.
- Sex is a skill. Everyone sucks when they start out and those who pay attention get better as they go along. In plainer terms, theres a good chance that one of you will knee or elbow the other in the head at some point, laugh it off.
- Google is a wealth of information at your fingertips. You can use it to find just about anything, for instance, searching for "________ instructions" can find instructions for any number of things from building a computer to bee hive cultivation to the subjects you're more interested in. And we can't tell you how to give a good blowjob here, for reasons like the fact that your "about the questioner" window says that you're an underage 16 while your question says you're a legal 18.
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Hi, I'm a 22 year old girl.
I just broke up with my emotionally abusive (now ex) boyfriend of about four years...over four years? Literally, about an hour ago. Right now, I'm feeling pretty free and good about it, but I know it's been an addictive relationship, and I'm worried that I'll second-guess myself and talk to him if he tries to contact me, and wind up stuck again.
I got my key back to my car and apartment, so he can't get in. I don't think he has any malicious intent...but I also don't think he believes that I'm serious about the breakup.
So...
When it sets in for both of us, I'm pretty sure we'll both be really upset, and I know I'll miss him and want him back at some point.
You guys have any suggestions to avoid that?
I appreciate any ideas you can give me. =) (link)
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First, stay busy. Idle time is time to rethink and reagonize. You're making a good, thought out decision that won't mean shit to you three months from now on a cold lonely Friday, so make sure you're occupied for that Friday. New hobbies, friends, family, school, work, anything.
Second, tell everyone you know about this (if they don't already know). Community morale support helps alot.
Third, an idea that an acquaintance used in a similar situation. Genders were reversed, but otherwise the same, and he kept coming back for more. After he ended it for the last time, he wrote himself a letter and gave it to his best friend, to be handed back to him if he was ever stupid enough to get back with the girl.
Four months later, he got handed the letter when he brought her to hang out with his friends, walked, and has been better for it since. Something to consider, as few people can reason with you the way you can.
As far as the rest, cut off contact. Expect to be enticed and then expect anger. When he realizes you're gone, he's going to try to wheedle you back with promises of change, and he's going to get angry and belittle you and try to make you feel small.
Both are dangerous, especially for someone who was in a relationship like this as long as you. He'll try to use whatever's worked before against you, escalating into tantrums, threats, maybe property damage when he doesn't get what he want. Just always remind yourself that no matter what he says, you've seen who he is, the choices he makes. Thats a part of him you don't like, and is the reason you're moving on. Its not a question of "can he change", its a matter of him not wanting to.
When you're at your loneliest remind yourself that you know him, and you know its all bull shit. Then get off your ass and do something to occupy yourself.
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Uhm, this is weird... but what are some song about drugs?
Like, for example.
"We are all on drugs" -Weezer
"Smoke it" -The Dandy Warhols
"I Take Drugs" -Murderdolls
"Bucket Bong" -Frenzal Rhomb.
Yeah, don't ask why.
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Lucy in the Sky - The Beatles.
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During the summer, I met this guy. And for months we have been hanging out, and our relationship is growing very strong. The problem is, I'm 14, and he's 17.. And he's leaving for university next year, so we've decided that we're not going to become boyfriend and girlfriend, just be a couple.. Well, the thing is, he wants to go all the way with me.. And I don't know if i'm ready! I'm still a virgin and I don't know how I can be sure that I trust him enough, to know he's not just using me for a piece of "skin" please help!! (link)
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You're only 14, he's going college next year, and you've got alot of questions.
There is no reason to have sex with this guy. Honestly, I'd break it off now, if its going places you aren't comfy yet and he's going to be gone soon anyway.
Sex is probably his highest priority. Sorry, but he's 17 and probably not a virgin, its not as big a deal to him as it is to you, and you've both accepted that he's leaving soon and that this won't work once he's gone.
So, if you're not together to start and maintain a serious relationship, you're together for sex. Whats more, its November. He's not leaving until the beginning or end of next summer. Thats alot of time to talk your pants off.
Bottom lining it, you like him more than he likes you. Its not a question of whether or not he's "using" you. He probably likes you, but that doesn't mean sex isn't pretty high on his priority list.
He wants a fuck buddy, and he likes you, but he doesn't plan on sticking around and neither do you. At 14, you should be dating a guy who's open ended, who's not looking for a FWB to fill time until he goes to college. Any sex you have with him is going to be casual, and you are going to get attached after it happens, which will just make all of this ten times harder on you in the long run. When he goes, you'll be trying to keep him. If you walk now, you've got years to fill with finding someone who's actually a decent match.
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Okay so im flirting with this guy and i have a strict rule on smoking/tobacco and all that. Well he does dip sometimes and i think thats the grossest out of all of them. I dont want to have a long relationship with this guy i kind of just want to go out with him for a week or two so other guys notice me. You all know how once you cant have them you want them more. Well that happened a couple years ago and i want guys to notice me more. Im not ugly though. Im 15; Cheer captain; Skinny; Long blonde hair and Blue eyes. Im not gonna makeout with this guy cuz that just grosses me out knowing i could have some kind of tobacco disease from him. Anyways do you think this is wrong; should go out with him at all? (link)
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::Mr. Skittles Said::
But you should also have remembered that using someone in a relationship leads to those around you rejecting you completely for being a disillusioned, narcissistic bitch.
::/Quote::
It really can't be said any clearer than this, you're being incredibly selfish and shitty. You know, in a couple of years high school will be over, and you won't be able to "date" one guy and "not make out so you don't get tobacco disease" (what's a tobacco disease, by the way? Can you name one for me?)
No, you'll be in college, where you either put out or get blown off. So you'll be a complete slut with no self respect to get this attention you crave so much.
Or you can grow up and start dating because you meet someone you want to be around more, rather than for some pathetically small bit of social standing you could probably exceed by being a nice person and talking to people.
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I'm a 14 year old girl and i weigh 131 ibs, im also 5'1. I'm not fat, i'm just a bit chunky and i also have an athletic body. I just want to how many pounds would I lose if i dont eat for 2 whole weeks while jogging 1-2 miles everyday. (link)
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You wont lost a pound that says off.
If you want to lose weight, do the following.
- Cut out any form of sugar. Soda, candy, etc
- Cut down severely on starches (potatoes, pasta, bread, corn, etc)
- Drink a 64-80 oz of water per day (get a water bottle, water is essential to the fat burning process)
- Eat three meals per day, every day.
- Consider asking your parents about multivitamins
- Limit calories wherever possible
- Limit dairy intake (has high calorie/fat content)
The bottom line is, your body will keep whatever weight it can if it thinks it needs it. The best way to lose weight is to put your body in non-storage mode by meeting all of its needs and cutting down the calories. Avoid fast food, avoid severely fatty things, and find a vinigrette dressing you like so you can munch on some salad. Start feeding yourself alot more on lean meats and vegetables.
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Is anyone here sure about that? Has anyone actually done this or knows a girl who did this? can you definately pop your cherry by masterbating or is someone just telling me this because...?
Thank you! (link)
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Its possible. Girls often break hymen playing sports and the like, it depends on your body and what you do with it. Even if you don't actually touch the hymen, its possible that an orgasm could cause enough muscle contraction to break it anyway. Its not overly likely, but its definitely not all that uncommon either.
And yes, you're still a virgin if you haven't had sex.
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Yep I have one. :( Is it possible that a yeast infection go away on its own or do I need to go to the doctor and get something to cure it?
Anyone from experience? (link)
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They do go away on their own, but the poster below has some good ideas that might help get rid of it faster.
My wife gets them occasionally, her birth control doesn't always play nice. She's had them last as short as three days and as long as a few weeks. Something to keep in mind, it won't stop hurting until well after the infection is gone. You'll be a bit irritated downstairs, so go easy on yourself and let that heal.
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So im going to sound very naiive, but im 20/f and hes 24/m. He is my boyfriend of over a year and i lost my virginity to him a couple of months ago. But, sex takes less than 25 minutes. usually less, bc foreplay is for liek 5-8 minutes, so then sex is only like 15 minutes long. Im pretty sure somethings wrong. he stops, not me. so he comes and stops, but i cant really orgasm yet because i feel like its really short. can other people tell me how long sex takes, because idk if he has a problem or if i just want him to keep going haha. thank you! (link)
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Why do you say you're 20 and your question says you're 14?
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My dad watches porn.... I know, like how creepy right? he is like old. what do old people want porn for? he is like 35!!
I found his porn and i have been looking at my dads porn. i think it is so gross that he watches porn when he is soooo old why is that? why is it ok for me but not for him?
17/f (link)
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This viewpoint is kinda sad, you know, your father has had to or is going to have to learn to accept that his little girl, his special little whoever you are, is going to have sex someday.
The least you could do in return is recognize that your father is a human being just like you, and that you don't stop being horny when you have your first kid.
Don't invade his privacy, he watches porn because he's horny, men pretty much never lose sex drive. 15, 25, 45, 75, we're all still getting laid or wanting to. And 35 really isn't "old".
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last night i was in my room after school and I started to masterbate. I don't masturbate too often so I guess I didn't think about locking my door. Well, my mom walked in on me! She left pretty quickly but I don't want to just leave it at that. At dinner she was pretty quiet and didn't seem too happy. I know I should say something to her, right? What do I say? Or do I just let this blow over? (link)
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The down side is your mother is probably going to be very uncomfortable for a while. The up side is she will probably knock from now on.
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I am an eighteen year old male. My girlfriend wrote me a note this morning and it said,"I hate to tell you this but you have to know, York and Palmer kissed me today(yesterday). You have every tight to be mad but I feel horrible cuz I don't like cheating and I basically cheated on you.:( I am so sorry. I understand if you want to break up with me and never talk to me but again I am sorry. I am also sorry that this is so short but I have to go.
P.S. I understand if you don't want to but I at least still want to be friends." When I received this, I was heartbroken to no extent. I honestly think that I may have loved this girl. I have never told a woman besides my mom that I love her. A week ago we broke up because she was hanging all over one of the people listed above and we talked about it a few days later and laid out some ground rules. We have been together for three more days and on the fourth day she gave me this note. I haven't broken up with her yet, but I am pretty sure that I am. I have just put up with so much drama about her that I don't know if I can let her go. Please tell me what to do. I understand that you are going to tell me to break up with her but I need further assistance than that. Thank you in advance! (link)
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You're young. There will be others. Better others. Cut and run before you become any more invested.
Sidenote: Kissing someone else might be forgivable, but the way she cut and run afterwards and left a note tells you alot. She creates messes and runs from them. Shit like this will happen again, she does stupid shit and then tells herself that you're an insensitive asshole who "just doesn't understand her" so she can minimize the choices she makes.
Walk. Now. It will hurt. You can't change that. It will be worse if you don't walk now, so sack up.
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By walk, I mean give her a call and tell her you're done, have a nice life, etc. And do not contact her again. She will suck you back in if she can, rather than be alone.
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hey. i dont know if you remember helping me out a couple of weeks ago about this situation, but i hope you reading this will help you remember.
WittyUsernameHere answered Tuesday October 20 2009, 7:38 am:
Welcome to your first adult decision. Don't take it lightly.
A lesson in guys and girls. You're biologically pre-programed to form emotional bonds around sex. Its pretty much automatic for 90% of women, and while age and experience can work towards combating that, you have neither at your disposal.
Guys, on the other hand, have much more ability to separate sex and emotion.
I cannot for the life of me think of any reason you'd still be talking to this guy, and yet at the same time I understand. He was you first, you feel connected, even if the connection isn't really there or is one sided. The problem with this idea is its incredibly unhealthy.
A little harsh reality wake up time. This guy finds you annoying. He finds you annoying because he doesn't give a shit outside of sex, and yet he comes around because the fact is that teen guys don't pass up on free easy sex of any kind. Thats why you get no attention except to come over and get head.
The bottom line of this is that nothing you can do will make you anything but a sex toy to him. Nothing.
Its time to stop. Completely. There won't be a turn-around, there won't be a magic moment where he realizes he loves you. This is the real world, you will continue to trade sexual favors for attention until you are too disgusted with yourself to continue.
This isn't what relationships are. Why are you settling for this? You know, anyone is better than this. Everyone is better than being used. The trick is, its sometimes hard to feel that way. Hard to feel likable, desirable.
If you don't feel it, fake it. You need standards, and you need them fast.
I want you to make a list for yourself. Ten things that are important to you in how a guy would treat you. What do you WANT out of a relationship? Now, not later. Go get a pen.
Hopefully thats done. Read your list. Does this guy do any of them? Probably not. I'm hoping you can't reason your way around to thinking he does something for you other than exist.
Those are your new standards. Find a guy who meets some or all of your criteria. When you go on a date, go out, look for those signs. Look for a guy to show interest in what you say. Look for a guy who likes to do things that AREN'T sex with you. Look for a guy who shows genuine care for what you think and feel. If he doesn't measure up, he isn't worth your time. Better to be alone than be used.
If you decide to write back, I've got a tiny bit of homework for you.
I want to know why you still talk to this guy. A list of reasons. Why you don't look for someone else. And I want your list of things you look for in how you're treated.
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alright since you asked me these questions towards the end of our response, ill answer them
well number one, ive decided that im not texting him anymore, i will only respond if HE texts ME first. which..hasnt happened in a week so..i dont think its going to happen for a while. at least not until hes done with the new girl hes moved onto. yup. wanna hear the whole story? its a little lengthy buttt..for you to understand why im so frustrated lately youll need to read this first.
SO- first day of school. he came over my house right when i got home. hes in college but he goes to county. anyways, ive been sneaking around my moms back the whole summer with boys and not once did i get caught. until now. yepp she came home and walked into my room and saw him on my bed and she start screaming her brains out at him and he just got up, walked past her and said, "..im..sorry..?" and walked out. i got grounded for a month, i should have been the one who was pissed about my mom coming home but guess what..he was. he wouldnt talk to me for a few days and he said to make it up to him i need to have a three some with him. i said what if i cant find someone to do it with..he said, then your screwed. which is bullshit..but anyways i offered to let him fuck me as hard as he wants, to make it up to him. i knew i didnt do anything wrong but..i wanted him to be happy. the next night he was supposed to come pick me up and i was going to sneak out, but things didnt work. whatever.
things stayed the same for a while after that, until one day i left my phone at home. my mother went thru my texts and found the naked pictures he was making me send him, she also found his number. she called him while i was at school [i didnt know until i got home] and threatened to break his legs if he went near me again. i got home later that day and freeeakedd outttt. i was having a melt down. i even cancelled my plans that night because i was so worked up. i texted him asking what was going on [i didnt know yet] and he responded with dont talk to mee. so i kept trying to ask him what was happening and i kept getting the same response. dont talk to me im done dont text me again GOODBYE
of course this killeddd me. for weeks i couldnt forget about it.
one day i was on facebook and he randomly IMed me saying he was sorry about what happened and that he was scared. he said he could get into a lot of trouble. i told him he didnt do anything illegal so technically..he cant get in trouble. we agreed to talk again. i was so happy, that made my entire WEEK. until later that night. he started asking me for pictures again and of course i gave in. then after i said to him, why did you start talking to me again and he said, i dont know to have things back to normal and i said yeahh it was weird not talking to you since weve been talking like everyday since the begining of the summer and just when i thought everything was going great he decided to say, yeahh but i like someone soo.. and as soon as i read that my heart stopped beating for a second. and i just started bawling. i was crushed. why the fuck was he asking me for pictures if he liked someone? he said they were going to out soon. i couldnt bear to listen to anymore and thankfully he decided to go to bed after that. the next day he asked me for another picture..i said what about your girlfriend? he told me that they werent going out yet so it didnt matter. ...bullshit, but whatever.
now, here is another thing i need to tell you before continuing my story. so, theres this boy..his name is matt. i started talking to matt a little after i started talking to that guy. me and matt hooked up the whole summer, he really really liked me. i could tell. and hes said it before, so. but during the times that i was hooking up with matt..i was fooling around with the other guy. and matt didnt know. now, i know thats bad. and i feel like shit because of it. but we werent going out..but then again its still a terrible thing since matt thought i liked him too. and i did..just..not as much as he liked me.
anyways, i didnt find this out until about a week ago, but, matt found out about me and that guy. because that guy and matt are both voulenteet firefighters in the same fire house. the day that the guy started talking to me again, he told me that he met matt. and then i got it out of him that he told matt that me and him had sex and i sent the guy pictures. i tried making the guy feel like shit but obviously he didnt care. i was devistated. i then realized that THAT was the reason matt had been ignoring me for a week. and THAT was the reason all of his friends were looking at me funny.
i miss matt so much. although he did get on my nerves and i wasnt really sure if i liked him as a friend or more, i still miss him. last week, i texted him a really long nice text [this was after trying to confront him like twice in one week but he just told me not to worry about it and walked away] so i sent a text saying, look. i know you dont wanna talk to me. but i just dont think its fair that you stopped talking to me after something that was left unsaid and i just really dont think its fair after all weve been through. and after 5 hours, he decided to text back saying, "send pics and we can." ...alright. matt is NOTT that kinda guy. example: i once said to him that he could do whatever he wanted to me and he said, but are you sure..? i dont wanna do that, ill feel bad. he isnt that kind of guy. trust me. hes very sweet and sensitive. so, when he sent me that..i realized that it was monday night. and monday nights they have meetings at the fire house. i then realized that matt and that guy and all of there friends were probobly all togethor talking about it. as soon as i said no to matt, that guy texted me asking for a pic. i immediatley knew he was with matt but he denied it, obviously.
so now..i dont know what to do. my friend thinks the reason matt is ignoring me and not wanting anything to do with me is because hes probobly really upset and my friend is saying i hurt him. i agree...but why isnt he getting mad at me for it? instead hes acting like we never met and pushing me out of his life. i dont think its fair. i miss him so much and theres nothing i can do about it. nothing. he wont talk to me, he wont respond to my texts. i feel powerless about this..i really wish i could change this..me and him even had a freindsgip. we hung out like everyday in the summer. i need him you dont understand. and i dont wanna keep going back to him, hes probobly getting fed up and annoyed with me at this point. and who knows if he even likes me anymore..he said he didnt when he first started ignoring me, but i dont believe that. i think he still likes me, because he was practically like in love with me the whole summer, he reaaally liked me. you cant just stop liking someone because they cheat on you. you still like them, your just hurt. but i know he still likes me..righht? what do you think...and do you think i can get him back??
please please help me. im desperate at this point. (link)
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I can't help you. I said alot, and I can tell that none of it penetrated. You offered some guy named Matt "do anything you want to me"
What is that? Why are you so starved for attention that you'll send pictures to a guy who obviously doesn't like you? You come off as pretty desperate when you do shit like that.
When you feel the need to use sex to make people like you, there is a problem. You need to speak to someone professional, because none of my advice is going to work. Start with a school counselor if you need to, theres really just no way I can untangle what you've got going right now.
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i'm just going to come straigh out with this. i'm 19 years old. i've never "opened kissed" a guy before if thats what you want to call it. i've madeout with guys before and i HATE it. i'm definately straight, i just dont like the feeling. never been in a real relationship either and ive been told that im very attractive and alot of guys have tried getting to know me but i push them away because i dont want that awkward kiss to come. if i told a guy i didnt like french kissing, he'd probably think i was crazy and stop talking to me. and how exactly do you open kiss? do you bascially kind of suck on the persons lip a little? uggghh. this kissing this is whats keeping me from having a relationship because i'm so embarassed. everyone expects me to be experienced because what i look like.. but im not. at all. still a virgin:) and will be for awhile but the kissing thing... ADVICE!? (link)
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If you hate french kissing, someone's doing it wrong.
You aren't supposed to eat each other's faces or shove tongues down each other's throats. As retarded as this probably sounds, its a dance. One person can't dance for two, but usually someone's got to lead, and you can't expect to pull off a perfect tango your first trip around the floor.
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My dog bit me..well, not so much a bite as a sharp snapping at me. I went to pick him up tonight to bring him upstairs for bed, and he growled (which he always does because he was already half-asleep), but then he totally freaked out and yapped at scratched and bit my ear. And he snapped pretty hard that it drew blood.
My mom didn't notice the blood though, though she checked my ear she just looked at the back.
It just freaked me out a little because my sweet little dog flipped out. Both my parents came in and yelled at him and I had screamed when he bit me so now he won't come near me. =\
My question is this: Should I be worried about the bite? It just drew a little blood. And also, if I do get it checked out will the doctor ask and then my dog will have to be put down? He's not usually like this, he's been feeling a little sick for a few days, not quite himself. =\
I want to make sure my health is okay, but I don't want to put my dog at risk in the process...
And also, is there something I can do to let him know I'm not mad at him? He knows he screwed up, I can tell, and so he's very nervous around me. Any suggestions on how I can show him I'm not upset and that I think he's a good boy?
You might find me crazy, but hey, I love the little guy like a person. (link)
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Just pretend it didn't happen. Dogs don't understand "sorry". They just note the change in how you behave around them and your mood, and if you're happy around him again, he'll come back around.
They don't put down family dogs for biting people. When a dog is put down for attacking someone, its usually pretty severe. They aren't going to seek to have a dog put down unless it causes enough damage to require medical treatment.
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Okay, I'm 17/f and I am for abstinence until I think I'm ready and I know I'm not ready to have sex. But why do all the guys I have dated or date always talk about sex and having it. It makes me really uncomfortable, it seems like they're trying to pressure me into something I don't want. Like, I won't fall for it, but it just irritates me that they still tell me about they're sex life and stuff. Does it mean they want me just for sex? Or are they just talking about it because they're guys? (link)
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You can't generalize about a specific groups motivation. Five different guys could talk about their sex life extensively for five different reasons. Ego, lack of tact and knowledge of social graces, feeling you out for your opinions, trying to get laid, desire to entertain with stories, it could be any of these or none.
Theres no real answer to your question. If you feel pressured, say so, so that the guy in question can make his own judgements on his side and you can both do whatever it is you want to do knowing what the other is thinking.
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Okay so I'm to the point where I just wanna go crazy because I'm SO SICK of people mainly very catty girls hating on other girls just because of how they look. Like I'm a pretty girl and I know it and everyone's all like oh Lexie your so pretty blah blah guys dig you like 24/7 and blah blah all this other crap. I'm like aw you guys are sweet thanks! So I liked this guy and I still do like him and what not but it didn't work out because everyone was like "Dude don't go out with her she seems like a slut" "Dude bang her and then drop off a 100 bucks at the end table when your finished" and you know comments LIKE THAT just piss me off! I'm such a nice person WHO by the way is the least shadiest person at my school seriously. I get called SLUT and all of these other horrible names by girls, guys never take me seriously (like they just think I like to **** and them dump them) which IS NOT TRUE. I've only been in about 3 relationships and I'm 17 ha. So my question is why DO YOU THINK pretty girls ALWAYS get judged before the person judging them gets to know them at least? (link)
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People tear down what threatens them. There is no part of life where this is more prevalent than high school. You aren't alone, everyone gets judged, what they say just changes from person to person.
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alright soo when we first started dating my boyfriend used to wear alot of this amazingg cologne and i really liked it...like i would alwayss want to be pretty much on top of him cause of it haha.. now he wears this new cologne that i don't like at all...how do i tell him this without hurting his feelings? should i buy him cologne i like for the holidays and tell him i'm in love with it or something? decembers pretty far though so idk what to do. help pleasee. (link)
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Guys aren't sensitive about this stuff like girls are. We don't really care what cologne we wear, as long as we smell good.
Be up front, tell him you liked the last one and want him to keep using it. Guys are used to hearing stuff like this. Hell, my wife bitches at me constantly when I shave because she hates me without facial hair and hates kissing stubble even more. I don't care, though I never tell her when I'm going to shave so that I don't catch shit for it until after its done.
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so i have been with my boyfriend for 2 years. he's 19 about to be 20 and turning 17 in december...well i can't decide if i want to be with him anymore. he's my first love but it feels like the flame is slowing dying and there's nothing i can do about it. plus he's going into the navy soon and i don't know if i'll be able to handle that. and i'm starting to develope feelings for another guy. and this guy flirts with me all the time. i just feel like i'm only with my boyfriend to make him happy and not myself. he wants to get married right after i graduate from high school but i want to go to college and have a steady job before i think about getting married. i love him i really do i just don't want to regret not seeing if there is anyone else out there for me. i will never regret being with him. it seems like we are always fighting and i think a relationship should be effortless and it's not. i just don't know what to do anymore... (link)
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Break it off. Now.
If you stay with him, you will be married soon. You really, really don't want to be a navy wife living on base with the rest of the women stupid enough to marry a sub-21 year old sailor.
Plus, when he gets deployed, he will cheat. It is an absolute inevitability. Deployments start at 6 months and grow from there, and he wil get deployed. Did you know theres a date on ship where you are not supposed to sleep with anyone, and that date is set so that theres enough time for pennicilin to get rid of whatever STDs you picked up before you get home to your wife. One of my best friends is a Navy vet, and yes, he cheated his ass off.
You will get over this if you leave him, you will have a chance to have your own life and be your own person. If you don't leave him, I can guarantee with almost 100% certainty that you will regret it. Don't fuck up your life over someone who's peak worth at 20 is navy enlistee.
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so there is this guy, he only wants me because i almost grinded on him. I'm only seventeen, and I know that i'm not supposed to take any relationships at this age too seriously or anything like that....its just basically about dating a lot of guys and getting to know what i really like and don't like, and just having fun. He is hot, but he is a player. Should i let him in? or should i not? or should i just let him in and just have fun without taking anything too seriously? (link)
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Having fun and not taking things too seriously doesn't mean dating worthless assholes.
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