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Girlfriend problems
I am an eighteen year old male. My girlfriend wrote me a note this morning and it said,"I hate to tell you this but you have to know, York and Palmer kissed me today(yesterday). You have every tight to be mad but I feel horrible cuz I don't like cheating and I basically cheated on you.:( I am so sorry. I understand if you want to break up with me and never talk to me but again I am sorry. I am also sorry that this is so short but I have to go.
P.S. I understand if you don't want to but I at least still want to be friends." When I received this, I was heartbroken to no extent. I honestly think that I may have loved this girl. I have never told a woman besides my mom that I love her. A week ago we broke up because she was hanging all over one of the people listed above and we talked about it a few days later and laid out some ground rules. We have been together for three more days and on the fourth day she gave me this note. I haven't broken up with her yet, but I am pretty sure that I am. I have just put up with so much drama about her that I don't know if I can let her go. Please tell me what to do. I understand that you are going to tell me to break up with her but I need further assistance than that. Thank you in advance!
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You're young. There will be others. Better others. Cut and run before you become any more invested.
Sidenote: Kissing someone else might be forgivable, but the way she cut and run afterwards and left a note tells you alot. She creates messes and runs from them. Shit like this will happen again, she does stupid shit and then tells herself that you're an insensitive asshole who "just doesn't understand her" so she can minimize the choices she makes.
Walk. Now. It will hurt. You can't change that. It will be worse if you don't walk now, so sack up.
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By walk, I mean give her a call and tell her you're done, have a nice life, etc. And do not contact her again. She will suck you back in if she can, rather than be alone.
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i personally dont think you should break up with her, everybody deserves a second chance and if this girl respected you enough to tell you about it then she obviously cares about you.
mayb you should talk to her and explain that you cant trust her the same but you still wan to be with her and hopefully she can gain your trust.
also these people that kissed her if they are your friends you need to speak to them, if they are not your friends i would be warnign them to stay away from your girl.
i hope she doesnt hurt you agen if you give her another chance, you sound nice and you dont deserve to be treated like rubbish.
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Just dump her. Calmly as you can, and directly as you can. Say "You are right. We can't be togeather like this. Goodbye."
She doesn't want to be with you.
She's practically begging you to dump her. So I wouldn't worry too much about her feelings.
Sorry to be so harsh, but there it is. A girl who misbehaves, then agrees to not do it agian, and then DOES do it agian, doesn't want to be with you.
I know you are hurting, but don't take it personally. Sounds like she doesn't want to be with anyone, she wants to mess around. It's her fault for not realzing that and being honest with you before now. That's her immaturity and disrespect. The only thing you can do is hold your head high, act with maturity and respect, and end it swiftly and clearly.
Just don't feel too bad about dumping her. Just do it as firmly and gently as you can, and don't agree to be friends agian until you feel you are ready. Let her know you'll contact her when you are ready for friendship, and leave it at that.
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