Well, you seem some-what confused about the idea of whether you want to move or not. Moving to new schools and practically having a new life is scary, my parents would never move me out of my neighborhood because they basically know that we would miss it and hate it, and it would just be devastating. But, I understand why your parents want to move, close friends and family, but you should talk to her about it, just say, "Mom, I have a lot of fun when I go to Ireland, but I don't know if its fun enough to actually move there, I need help, can you please try to help me decide whether its better or not?" And tell her about your school, and how you feel about it, and maybe she will assure you. I hope that whichever school you end up in that its ok for you.


-TheTeenGirl

Well, think about this with your friend, you tell her that you like this guy, and she goes right after him. That hurt you, though you say you don't want to hurt her by telling her to stop, you need to catch her in the act of flirting again, and ask if you can talk to her alone-get her alone and say, "So ever since I told you I like this guy, you decided to flirt with him?" At this point she will try to deny it, and you need to put her in her place by saying, "fine, if you're going to lie in my face, then I'll just take you right out of my life." And just leave. About the guy, I know you like him, and crushes are painful when you can't see or have them to yourself or at all, but I think you should try to get over him, because inviting him over and hanging out with him will just make her mad, and you'll just end up in a huge fight, and just ending the frienship will hurt enough. So, I think you need to get over him to help yourself.


-TheTeenGirl

Well, thank you. I am hoping that its not just a guy, and it is your boyfriend, but its not about what he likes, its about what you like and what is comfortable for you, but there are some guys who prefer things, but are still satisfied with the way their ladies do it, some guys like a little hair, which is hard to do, and some guys like none, some like hairy, its not really only one focus, its just different opinions. But, I hope you don't ask him and do it the way he wants it, you can do it if it feels ok to you. So, what I am saying is that it doesn't matter, your guy better like the way you shave your body.



-TheTeenGirl

Think about this, in your mind, or out loud alone.



"Do I try to get in others' business?"

If you do, its ok, because you can admit this to yourself, self admitting truly is a very natural and good thing. I think youyr friends shouldn't have a problem telling them everything you hear, except if its from another friend and wanted it kept a secret, now ask:


"Do I keep my promises about keeping secrets?"


If you answer no to these questions, keep asking, because sometimes people don't know it when they are doing it.

If you answered YES:

If you answered yes, then you need to ask them to help you get back to your normal self instead of ignoring you, and if they don't look like they are willing to help, drop them.

If you answered NO:

if you say you didn't do these things, then drop them, they ditched you, and won't even hardly talk to you.



-TheTeenGirl

I don't know the answer to your question, but I will say that it is not a bad thing to be considered the good girl. Letting people know about your life is only asking for pitty, and you shouldn't let things like this get to you, I loved being called the goody two-shoes, and there are lots of girls out there called worse, like the school slut, and you definetly don't want to be carrying that kind of reputation. But, yes, I'm sure after school or in college, people will stop trying to label people, and start acting their age.


-TheTeenGirl

I use to have this problem, but it was solved because eventually I got really frustrated with the mess I was living in, I didn't want to clean my room, but I got myself up and started to think about how messy I hated it, and just kept cleaning, I didn't stop for a break, I just kept a big cold drink in my room, and had the TV on, and every once in a while I'd watch it, while picking trash up, but you need to ask your mom to buy you a trash can, not one of those little bucket sized ones, I mean the ones in classrooms, because the little ones fill up too easy, and I always eat snacks in my room, so its important that I have that trashcan. Really good tips would be:

*When you're in your room, and laying down, and you are reading books, don't allow yourself to just lay the books on the floor, put it where it belongs.

*This applies for trash too, if you throw trash and it misses the trash can, go put it in the trash, don't let it stay on the floor, especially if its food, it will attract nats.

*For dishes too, if you are laying in bed and having a drink, make sure you take it to the kitchen before going to sleep, and get a glass of water wih ice in it, so that if you wake up in the middle of the night, you'll have water instead of old soda.

*Dishes with food too, if you have a bowl of salsa for chips and dip, make sure you get rid of it as soon as you are done, salsa attracts MILLIONS of nats. I had salsa in my room, it was not pretty after leaving it in my room overnight, so what I did was put it in a glass cup and put a lid over it when I wasn't dipping at the time, because it attracts fast, and when I didn't feel like taking it down, I put the lid over it for overnight, (it was a fit lid, it came with the glass, so don't try over sized lids, or get really good wrapping foil for it.


Small rooms can be hard to deal with, but it won't be as much as a hassle to clean a small room up, good luck.


-TheTeenGirl

Yes, you need it. It is even important that you go if you want it. You should definetly go, and try getting yourself a female counselor to help you. I really really recommend it.


-TheTeenGirl

I think this is probably just an over exaggeration. But, I think its safe to try doing something about it, because you won't do it to please others. If your stomach problem is that its not flat, then sit-ups will help it, about 25 sit-ups a day. You can go on ahead and try eating healthy, but don't go and say, "I want a hamburger, but I will make myself eat a salad." Try to please yourself, you're a skinny young girl, the ages where you can pig out without getting fat! Plus, you definetly won't gain weight, because you play 2-3 sports! I don't play any sports and I eat what I want and I'm still skinny.


-TheTeenGirl

This must be hurting you, they've just decided to drop you and leave, and they aren't even going to take you back, they are just going to go and not feel bad. You should call her, and tell her, "I'm sorry I'm not what you want me to be, I know that you feel like I'm not listening, but I am here to tell you that I have always listened, I am thinking that maybe you want me to give you advice, but I'm not good at that. What is it that you need me to do? You don't want me at the concert with you guys, so I guess I'm not going, what more are you asking for? Because, I think that you guys want me out of the picture, and knowing that this has happened previously, I think I should just decide for myself and get out of your lives." Don't let them stomp all over you like that, you need to get them to tell the truth, maybe its not just, "you don't listen" its probably more than that, and you should do whateve it takes to know, or just ditch them by not hanging out with them.


-TheTeenGirl

NO WAY. Do not drop out, that is no solution. You need to just take school more seriously and try. You can't just drop out, its not the way to the real world, you are more than close to finishing the year, finish it!!

-TheTeenGirl

My advice is to tell her parents. They need to know, but you pobably can't get some sense into her, so her parents would be the best solution.



-TheTeenGirl

You pick none. You don't need to pick sides, you need to talk to your parents and say, "mom and dad, I know you aren't happy with my sister, but please don't bad mouth her, because I love her." And say to your sister, "Hey sis, I know that you aren't happy with mom and dad, but please don't talk about them, because I love them, and it is sad enough that you guys are apart." But don't ever pick sides, that makes it much much worse, if you pick your parents side, then your sister would be hurt and pobably quit talking to you, conclusion: no more best friend bond with sister. If you took your parents side, your parents would be extremely angry and make things worse for you, because they are your parents. Conclusion: No more parent bond, and being able to talk to them about anything. That is why its important to not pick sides.



-TheTeenGirl

Nobody knows why anyone likes anyone, it just happens, theres no particular reason. If something does happen between you and your current guy, it is possible to be friends, but you need to know that if you break this guys' heart, he won't want to be your friend at first, he will need time to heal. Obviously you may not think you're pretty, but these boys just might think you are, and you should get to like the way you look too, and not because other guys do, but because you only hurt yourself when you put yourself down like that, and you're lucky you have guys that tell you that you're pretty or want to go out with you, at least you have a hint, lots of girls are having trouble with their looks because they have nobody to tell them. Stay with the guy that treats you better, who has never put you down in anyway on purpose. But, you need to have your boyfriend tell you what is so beautiful about you, so that it will help you.


-TheTeenGirl

I'm trying to decide between 2 things here:



*Are you upset because hes with a girl you hate?

*Or are you upset because hes just with another girl, and you are jealous?


Now, it is ok to get feelings for your best friend, even one you've just thought of as a brother. This happens, but if its just the fact that it sucks that hes with someone you hate, maybe you need to remember why it is that you hate her, if she has ever done something to you, like hit you, hurt you, made fun of you, then maybe you need to share these reasons with your friend, because he could be upset about you guys not being friends. But, at this point, I think communication is the way to go.


-TheTeenGirl

First of all, you aren't nasty, everyone gets weird feelings about sex, and second, I truly don't think you are quite ready, I can see it. I think you are having weird ups and downs about sex, which is common, if you keep saying you are ready, and you feel sure, then later you feel scared, then you're probably aren't ready. But, now that you have my opinion, I have a link to a test you can take, there are about 45 questions, and it will tell you if you are ready or you aren't. Also, about him always coming over on your period, I think you need to tell him before you go about doing it, or if he doesn't even know, tell him, its important for him to know that.


[Link: http://teenadvice.about.com/library/blsextest1.htm] Just copy the code, and paste it into your search box and scroll right down and the quiz is there for you.



-TheTeenGirl

A lot of girls make the common mistake of staying with guys even though you aren't in love with him because you are afraid of his reaction to it, listen, you need to get rid of this guy if you are clearly over him. And as for dating his friends, do not do it. I am telling you, don't, when you dump him, hes going to need someone to turn to, and he won't have his friend, so please don't date his friend, you need to find someone else, or wait until hes over you and is ok with his friend dating you.

-TheTeenGirl

Well, I think even just a month is too early, it hasn't even been one month, so I think you need to wait a lot more. Yes, I'm sure you are close, but I am sure that you can get closer to the point of telling each other anything at all, like embarresing moments, so I think you should wait, and you need to tell him, (if you do decide to wait.) That you want to take more time to get closer, so he won't start to get down your pants and you let it happen.

-TheTeenGirl

You need to instant message her, or go to her, and say, "This is not my fault, you are not being fair towards me, you are taking this too hard, my mom sent you home because you keep doing things she makes clear for you not to do, I am not the one who made you go home, my mom told you to go home because of what you did, so you need to acknowledge the fact that it is your fault you ended up going home."


-TheTeenGirl

I don't think you should take this seriously, honestly, all guys have this, even just a brush of someone they don't even know or like. Don't freak out, yes it seems scary, but he is a normal, healthy boy. So, I say to just keep going with your friendship, don't decide whether you like him or not, just go with this.


-TheTeenGirl

Ok, here is why this guy is not worth your time, lips, or body:


*"he came to my house and we madeout on newyears, and he just recently had a girlfrend"

[Hes a cheater for making out with you while dating another girl, this may not be wrong to you because you wanted him and he gave himself to you, but you will think its wrong when this guys' reputation with girls continues, and you won't be the only one making out with him]


*"he just sayd i dont know"

[This guy makes out with you, and cuddles with you, and says "I don't know" when asked if he wants to date you, this guy is obviously leading you on, soon after he'll be cuddling with someone else.]

*"hes like. well maybe it doesnt have to be a dream"

[Ok, he also has the idea that you guys can have sex without him having to date you. This is wrong, this guy has one thing on his mind, and we both know what it is.]

*"he like got mad at me for no reason.."

[No explaination of why hes feeling angry towards you, then all of a sudden, he likes you again.]


I think I've given enough examples, this guy is a jerk, no, yo are not stupid for still liking him, if that guy even wacked you over the head, you'd still love him, you don't want this guy in your life, get him out, he is using you, and if you think otherwise, then read my examples again, the guy will have sex with you but he won't date you! In the mean time, heres an example that needs fixed immediatly.


*"i swear i am in love with him. and i cutt over him"

Even the smartest, most beautiful, trusting, all of the qualities you've wanted in a man, there is no man on this earth worth self injuring over. This is not going to be easy, but you need to tell your parents, it is better that you keep occupied with helping yourself, instead of helping this guy be impressed of you.


-TheTeenGirl

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