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Kirsten
Ok, theres this guy i like, hes a really shy guy till he gets to know you and stuff but anyways, theres this pretty girl that knows him pretty well cuz she has known him longer but she ask me if i thought he was cute and if i liked him and i told her i do and she started flirting with him a couple minutes later. like hitting him and giggling and picking on him and stuff. she was so flirting but...
she KNOWS i like him, and i thought she was my friend. how could she do that? what should i do..i dont have the courage to say anything. that and i dont wanna mess up our friendship but i have been trying to get him to like me and it was working so well, he did like me and then she started that and now i dont know. how can i get him to like me over her and get the point across to her that I like him and shes needs to back off without making her mad?
he is shy and so am I so im not sure about just talking to him cuz he like, never ever talks. but if she flirts with him again this wensday what should i do?
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omg this has happend to me be4. Since the guy i liked was shy and i was shy around guys i liked then ,, i told my friend i liked him and then he started to like me !!! Then that friend started flirting with him and what not and he didnt like me nemore.
Some friends just dont like to see you suceed . you need to tell her or he will forget !!
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Hey, what you should do is be hang out with him alot and try to act yourself and he'll probably start liking you again. You could also tell some shit ass crap that girl did to make him get mad at her, but bring it up every once and a while and casually. DON'T OVER DO IT.
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That girl is no "friend" if she's willing to disrespect your feelings and betray you like that. My suggestion is to come up to her and confront her about her behavior. Either that, or my favorite, just tell her to fuck off and find another friend cuz her ass isn't worth your trouble. I know you're shy, but this girl needs to be told what's up. Don't let her step all over you like that.
I don't know if it's just me, but I highly DESPISE flirty people. Too obnoxious and show-offish for my taste if you ask me. I mean, what exactly are they trying to prove...? That they're easy?
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It sounds like he likes flirty girls! I know you're shy though so that won't work.
I don't think there is much you can do to get him to like you more than her.You can keep up what you were doing though. I doubt that he dislikes you all of a sudden just because this girl is flirting with him. You did say that he liked you right? Well thats probably not changed.
Don't worry about making her mad.She did the wrong thing not you.I'd ask her why she did it and see what she says.If you don't like her answer then you'll have to decide if you still want to be friends.
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Well, think about this with your friend, you tell her that you like this guy, and she goes right after him. That hurt you, though you say you don't want to hurt her by telling her to stop, you need to catch her in the act of flirting again, and ask if you can talk to her alone-get her alone and say, "So ever since I told you I like this guy, you decided to flirt with him?" At this point she will try to deny it, and you need to put her in her place by saying, "fine, if you're going to lie in my face, then I'll just take you right out of my life." And just leave. About the guy, I know you like him, and crushes are painful when you can't see or have them to yourself or at all, but I think you should try to get over him, because inviting him over and hanging out with him will just make her mad, and you'll just end up in a huge fight, and just ending the frienship will hurt enough. So, I think you need to get over him to help yourself.
-TheTeenGirl
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Dear Kirsten,
It sounds like you were off to a great start with this guy! But...... Okay, here's the deal. First of all, your friend asked you if you thought he was cute. Second, after you told her that you thought he was and that you liked him, she began to flirt with him. It sounds to me like there's a lot of insecurity there on her part. She may have been wanting your approval and then when she got it, she thought she would see what his reaction to her would be. The good news is that she feels like you may have a chance with him. The bad news is she was trying to divert attention away from you and onto herself. A true friend would not have done that...however, you have to realize she is coming from a place of deep insecurity and you should not judge her harshly on that. Try to talk to this guy away from her. Ask him about himself, get to know him a little bit better so you can determine if this is really a guy you would like to get to know better. But if you happen to be with your friend when you are around him and she starts flirting with him, just laugh it off and remember where she is coming from. Don't let her get to you and don't let him see that her behavior bothers you. Rather than focus the attention on yourself, try to focus the attention on him. Everybody loves nice, playful attention and that includes the guy you like. I think you'll do great!
Linda
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Okay what freindship do you have that you are scared to brake? She is such a backstabber for flirtting with him when she knows you like him. She can easily back off of him but no. Just ignore her and do what you were doing before.
Always there..
Donna
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