Dear Readers:
I think my life experience is what qualifies me to write this column. I made every mistake imaginable. But have learned from them. Most important I still remember what it was like to be 12, 13, 14, 15, and so on. Currently I am a single mom, I have two wonderful boys. One in college. We are all happy emotionally. We love life, and know that you can too. I try to be the kind of parent that understands. I know that I can help you to understand where you parents are coming from, and help you get over the difficulties of being young. You can even have your parents write to me and I will help them to get over their fears and at least respect you and your feelings. I have been married and divorced twice, so I have experience in that field also. But now I own my own home, and my own business and am successful. Lots of luck to you! Hope to hear from you.
Website: Ask Michele
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i had unprotected sex with my boy friend 3 months ago, ive had mild cramps in my tummy ever since i've taken 4 preg tests 2 possative then negative (early miscarrige)then today i was told to take another because it didnt add up it was negative.. they still think i had the miscarrige but now they think i've got Chlamydia!!!!! im so f**king scared im only 14 and cant take losing the baby and now maybe having this, they took swobs (spelling), i cryed the hole time, but i knew it was for the best i just dont know what to do, what will they do if they find out i have got it?? what are the symtoms anyways?? will i have to tell my mum and dad???
im so s**t scared?? has anyone here had it??
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Actually clamydia has no symptoms, but it is an infection that has to be dealt with. Most likely they will give you anti-biotics. maybe a shot to get you started, and then pills. That should clear it up. How is it that you went though all this and your parents don't know any of it. Who is testing you? You won't have to tell your parents if you have Chlamydia unless you need someone to pay for the prescription for the anti-biotics. Don't put it through your parents insurance, because they will get the bill, and they will question you on what you needed the script for. In fact, if these procedures you had done were put on through your parents insurance, they are going to find out. They are going to see the charges on the paperwork that they get from the insurance company. I suppose you could tell them that you were being treated for a YEAST INFECTION. Girls get them all the time, and not from having sex. I hope this helps and good luck to you. and NO MORE SEX WITHOUT CONDOMS< OK????!!!?!?!?\
Michele
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what does a damp hot rag do for your face?
I have a open pour, is that going to always be there or is there a way to get rid of it? (link)
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DO you have just one open pore, or lots of open pores? Cold cloth would do better than hot. Hot OPENS pore. COLD closes them. Witch Hazel is a very inexpensive toner that can minimize pores and freshen skin. That is the cheapest way to go. The best, (cost about $30.00) is Manual Microdermbrasion Cream. L'Oreal makes one, so does Mary Kay, Clinique. If you use that regularly, it will minimize your pores over time. Your skin changes every 28 days. do not expect to see results from anything you use until four weeks have passsed.
Michele
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i have a really bad blister on my foot/back ankle from my work shoes and i dont have money to get new ones, is there something i can put on my ankle to make the blister better, i have a bandaid on it but it still hurts. also, the place it gave me a blisterright above my heel were the top, back of the shoe usually rubs. is there anything i can put there to keep from getting the blisters because i have to wear short socks and i walk all day so a lot of time they fall or i just dont have time to make sure my sock is over the area....is there anything i can do? I know is a weird question but i walk all day at work and these are very bad blisters!!
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Well this should work, but I am not sure for how long. You know how a new pack of cigaretts has a clear cellophane wrapper. You need something like this. Something that is TWO layers of cellophane. Put it in your show where the blister is. One side of the cellphane will rub on the shoe and work up and down with it. The other side of the cellophane goes against the blister,( and leave the band aid on. ) The two sides of the cellophane rub against each other, and not you or the shoe. It HAS to be cellophane, no saran wrap or alluminum foil. So a pack of cigaretts or box of candy. I don't know what else may have cellopane on it. It hope you have some so you can try this
Michele
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Hey! Im only 13 yr's old..my mom messed up in the past and its taking college classes to get a good job, and my dad has a disease and so he cant work that often. My parents are also divorced...so My family doesnt have to much money. It sux having to much money..so I was wondering, are there ne jobs out there for 13 yr olds ( I am mature ) besides babysitting?
I do rate very high and send feedback..but i rly need help!!!
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Well it is a good thing that you mom is going to college She is trying her best. She is setting a good example for you, make sure that you go to college to. Or you'll be stuck like your parents are. They can give you money for the things you want, because they have to pay for the things you need like food, clothing and shelter, and utility bills. But it is good that you want your own job and want to earn some money.
I know a girl you age who did a good job, and made some real money walking other peoples pets. and pet sitting. It is less stressful than babysitting. You canmake up some flyers and pass them out. The flyer should say that you are willing to walk peoples dogs every day, and that you are responsbile, and reliable and trustworthy.
Put your phone number on it, and pass them out in your neighbor hood. All people who own dogs, KNOW that their pets should be walked. it is needed for good health. You could remind them of that in your flyer. Also you have to be very reliable about showing up, even when it rains, and even if you have other plans. You can't make other plans when it is time to walk the dogs because people will be counting on you and that is what having a job is all about. I hope this helps.
Michele
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This guy rlly liked me and we hung out alot and held hands at a dance i had... then he asked me out but i didnt rlly noe him soo i said no i lik u but i wanna get to noe u more!! so after the dance me and a few friends went to his house and we cuddled on the couch and we kissed!! Then i had to leave..... so when i left he asked my so called friend to sit with him and she did and they held hands and kissed, she did stuff to him too!! What am i suppose to do i still like him?? and idn why?? he keeps saying sorry too?? help please (link)
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He has already shown you that he thinks about no one but himself. I can't believe he did that to you and you still like him. why not say, hey just come over here and use me, because I am not worth being treated with respect. This boy, (and most young boys are the same) is only interested in having sex, getting aroused, and using girls who are willing to "cuddle". The girls are thinking "oh, I think I am falling in love" the boyis thinking. "I wonder how I can get in her pants". It is a fact of life. Take you time and be careful. You were right to say that you want to get to know him better, that was good. And now you do. he is a creep. with only one thing on his mind. So don't go there. Unless you want to be hurt more than you are now.
Michele
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Hello there! I loved your answer!! But can you please still tell me more that i ask you??? I am a science student of 12th grade and this is my career foundation year and for this year i have to learn physics biology and chemistry . And i will show you my abilities as a student that i can understand things without any doubt or even without even taught at my school. But like how others do read and then write things perfectly in exams i cannot because i think i have some wrong techniques to study and lose my marks . Please even ask your son and everyone who have been good students how to study as for this whole year i have to study hard and have to give my entrance exams for medical. Please give very good and hopeful techniques to study at home. Please help!!! Give some helpful things also give some feng shui things that help in gaining good luck. Do take my question seriously and answer me taking time but give very helping one!!! (link)
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Well, hello, I am glad that you wrote back, and I will try to help. I am glad that you are very enthusiastic about your education and your future. That is the first and most important step. I know that you will do well. I'll bet you are very smart, but just need more confidence. I found this website that gives instructions in great study habits, and guess what. It can be translated into any language. I get the impression that english is not your first language. Although you do have to improve your english to do well in medical school. It is nice that this site will help you in english and most likely your native tongue. Here are the links. After you look at these links. Hit the HOME or HOME PAGE button, there, I think you will be able to choose a different language if you want to. I just know that you are going to do great, and I guess you will do better than most just because you are nervous about it. In time you will have more confidence. It comes with age. But as long as you work really hard, you will do great, and you will be a great doctor some day.
Here are the links.
http://www.studygs.net/attmot4.htm
http://www.studygs.net/concen.htm
http://www.studygs.net/memory.htm
http://www.studygs.net/murder.htm
Now copy and paste them into your internet browser, and you will find alot of info on good study habits. Step by Step INstructions.
I am sorry but I cannot help you with feng shui, I have never studied it. But I am sure that there is lots of info on the internet about it.
I hope this helps. Good luck to you. You will make your own good luck by just going your best.
Take care
Michele
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me and my mom dont have a very good relationship! i am 13! i want to tell her so many things but i am usually too embarrassed to tell her! there isnt really anybody else to talk to about stuff! i want to be able to tell her what happens at school and who i am going out with! i would also like to get her to let me go to the movies on friday nights! dont say jsut talk to her about it bc i cant! its not that easy! thanx! (link)
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Well you did get some good advice here, so let me add this. To kind of "break the ice" why not say. YOu know my friend (friend's name here)? she has such a great relationship with her mom. They talk about everything!" And stop there. See what your mom says. I suspect that she will say, "oH really, well is there something that you would like to talk to me about?"
And there you go. But listen, the timing is very important. Don't ask her when she is in the middle of something and doesn't have the time to talk. And you make sure you are ready with something to talk about, no matter how insignificant. You can start with a 5 or 10 minute conversation. Just to get started. Don't expect to spend hours and hours talking the firts time. But that will come in time. It is a good thing that you are attempting to accomplish. I think you will do OK. Your mom is a very important person in your life. She may feel uncomfortable too, about how to start a conversation. Good luck to you.
Michele
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i live in pennsylvania and my cousin lives in arizona. she introduced me to her friend online and we have been talking to each other for a half a year now and he asked me out 4 months ago and we talk online everyday and on the phone once a week. things are getting pretty serious...but i have never seen him in person! he is really hott and has a six pack and stuff...why would he want me who he never sees instead of all these other girls who he can? all these girls IM me all the time calling me names and saying to dump him cause our relationship is stupid and that they deserve him because they see him everyday. what should i do? do you think he is being true? (link)
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There is more to love that how a person looks. Some of the stongest relationships and people very much in love, have to be apart. And they remain true to each other. NOw that is no guarantee that he is true to you. But if you have asked, and he says he is, then until you are confronted with some evidence that he actually is, I would give him the benefit of the doubt. The question is, how do you feel about him. Are you willing to wait, are you not cheating, are you satisfied with a long distance relationship. It is not easy. Even for adults. Do you two have plans for the future? Do you have plans to meet and get together? If you do, and that is what you want, then I would plan accordingly. Remember this, however, there are no guarantees in love, especially at your ages. If you are happy with the online long distance relationship than keep it, if you meet someone in your town that you grow to like, well, that is life. What can you do. Just be honest, and hopefully he will be honest too.
Michele
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Ok, I'm 17/f and I just had a baby. He's 3 weeks now and I'm having a hard time supporting him. His dad won't do anything. He says that he's not sure if it's even his which is a completely false because I gave my virginity to him. He said he won't pay a time until he knows that it's his so he wants a paternity test. So I arranged for the test and he never showed up. He gave me a bogus excuse but I said fine and scheduled another one. We've gone through this process 5 times and he still won't help me or even get the test done. I dropped out of school and I'm working 2 jobs to try and support him because I have no family to help me. My best friend has been an angel she's been taking him to the school and putting him in the day care center so that I can work. She's also been watching him after school for me. I've tried paying her but she refuses the money. She's only one that I have helping me. I need his help. I just don't have enough money. I don't want to put her in foster care because I grew up in different foster homes and I refuse to put her threw that. I think that things would be fine if I could just get him to pay even a little child support. How do I go about taking him to court for child support? Do I need to hire a lawyer for this or can I do it on my own? If he needs to have a paternity test done is there anyway that I can make sure that he will actually show up?? Please help me I'm really confused. I will rate 5's to anyone who tries.
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Honey go on welfare. I hate to put that way, but when you go an apply for assistance, they will want to know who the dad is, tell them. tell them how to find him. If you have his social security number all the better. THey will make him pay child support until HE PROVES that he is NOT the father, And I think he will have to pay for the test. Don't be ashamed and don't be embarassed. I don't know what serves as welfare in your state. It might be social services, it might be Dept. of children and families. I think you will find it in the blue pages of your phone book, under state government. Tell them about your finances, and your expenses, rent and stuff. Bring the paperwork with you to speed up the process. They will make that boy pay you. They will attach his pay, they will take money from him weekley and send it to you. With that money and your two jobs, you may not have to actually get welfare money, but maybe food stamps would help. In this state we have WIC, women, infants and children, where a mom can get milk, orange juice, and cereals for free. It helps out a little. They may even be able to help with day care expenses. ANd I don't think you'll be able to stay on welfare for more than two years. And don't worry if he doesn't have a job, they will throw him in jail if he doesn;t pay. Funny how they manage to come up with the money when they are threatened with jail.
Don't get cold feet, and start to worry about him, you have to take care of that baby and yourself. That is the most important thing in your life now You are trying your best .Most girls would have had an abortion. The baby deserves to have food, clothing and shelter, and he has to pay.
Now, getting a lawyer is always an option, but you will have to pay, you will have to pay up front, and in this case it starts at $2,500.
Welfare will do all the work for you because they don't want to pay you, so they will make sure that he pays. Now don't tell them that you KNOW this, just play dumb when you go there. Say that you are broke, you don't have enough money to make ends meet, and you need help, or you and the baby will soon be on the street.
If he left you, you would have to do this. I think you said he is still living with you. Throw him out and go to social services. I don't know what they will do or if they will help if he is living with you. YOu have to leave him or through him out. I hope this helps honey. Please hang in there. You are young and you and the baby have to come first. Now don't hook up with the first guy that comes along either. Take your time and find someone who will love you AND the baby. It won't be the first guy that comes along. Be choosy. Investigate. Pay attention to their actions and behaviors, not what they say.
Please write again if you want to, or if you have more questions.
Michele
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okay here is the thing i am completeley in love with a close family friend he is my age and io love him but i am not skinny and i am ugly and he doesnt know i like him i really want to tell him but i chicken out all the time. my friend told me to do what your heart tells you to do but sometimes that is hard, becasue i want to tell him but if he doesnt like me things could get very weird, his sibling told me to tell him but i am very nervous becasue i have never felt this way before about anyone i mean all i want to do i ssee him and spend time wiht him even though he told me i am annoying and an unbenifical part of his life and he tells me he hates me all the time but i just want to get it out adn tell him i mean i am usually not nervous when telling guys i like them but ughh he so so amazing and i care for him a lot and i just want to be loved. I NEED ADVICE ASAP AND I NEED TO KNOW HOW I CAN MAKE MYSELF MORE ATTRACTIVE AND LOVABLE AND IF I SHOULD TELL HIM OR NOT HELP ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (link)
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He tells you he hates you and you want to tell him that you love him? You are just asking for a broken heart, and to be abused and demeaned by him. Here is what I suggest. Well first I think you are both too young, and I know that you will find love one day, but not soon enough I am sure, but this advice will work for you later in life also.
What you would call fat and ugly girls get married all the time. If you look in the wedding announcement part of the daily newspaper, look at the picturs, you will see that women who are not exactly skinny, do find love. The best thing you can do is work on your personality. Become smart, become interesting, become alluring. Become hard to get. Hard to figure out, and hard to find. But facinating! HOw do you become facinating. You have to work on the inside, on your heart and your brain. At your age, LOOKS are everything, and I guess that is the way it is supposed to be. But inthe grown up world, (and you will be there some day) it is character, brains, sincererity, and values that count. Men soon get sick of "pretty" or beautiful" girls who just want to get their nails done and go shopping (spend their money) They know the person they marry has to be willing to raise kids, change diapers, wipe runny noses, do laundry, cook, clean up after hiim and the kids, etc, etc, etc. So work on becoming a facinating and intelligent young lady, and you will find that when the time is right, the right man will come along. And it if turns out to be this boy, and it may very well be. He is too young to appreciate you for who you are now. He is only looking at the outside. In time that will change. Please be patient, and don't make a fool of yourself. You'll be glad that you did. Time goes slowly but you can't stop it. You will be loved one day, by someone wonderful. I know it won't happen soon enough for you but it will happen. Stay out of trouble, and don't get yourself a reputation. You will look back on this advice some day, and be glad that you took it Good luck to you dear.
Michele
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awhike ago i had a question about my mom having a yeast infection and she went to the doctor and they told her she had cervical cancer, thats what she told me on the phone. she was also really messed up on tranquilizers and i couldnt understand what she was saying..what does cervical cancer do, and is she going to die? What do i do? (link)
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Well it is a very very serious issue. I am surprised that the doctor told her so soon. Usually they have to do a test, and then tell you when they get the test results. it takes a week or so. Anyway, it is not fatal, if she follows the doctors orders. Depending on how advanced it is. She may have to have surgery and have her uterus removed. The cervix is the opening of the uterus. she will no longer be able to have children, but maybe that won't be a problem. If they remove all of the cancer by removing her uterus, she will be OK. She may have to have chemotherapy. Her attitude is going to be a major factor in her recovery. Staying zoned out on tranquilizers is not going to help. Be kind, be helpful, be thoughtful and be supportive. But if she decides that her life is over, then you have to let her know that that is not true. She can join a cancer support group. And also pray.
I hope your mom will be OK. women survive cervical cancer all the time. So be hopeful.
Michele
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This may sound like a stupid question but... What does the expression "having something stuck in your craw" mean? And what are other ways of wording it? (link)
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I think it means that you have something you want to say, but are afraid to say it. I think another way to say it is Cat got your tongue?
SO it like the sentence is stuck in your mouth. You know what I mean, not really stuck, but you may want to say the words, but your brain is telling you that if you do, you'll be sorry.
Michele
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I am constantly insulted by my sister. Before, she would make fun of me, which I would just shrug off, but lately, its been getting to a point where I just feel like there is no point to anything. I cant even cry when she says things to me, I just shut down, and let her go on and on.
Like tonight, I walked into the living room, and she began to swear at me. She said that I am a psycho, and that she cannot wait for me to leave for school (college in the fall) because I am worthless. I have not even said anything to her at all at this point, I really don't know what I did.
What I really dont understand is how she will talk to me one night insultingly, and then the next day she wants me to go shopping with her.
I really dont understand it-if anyone has any advice I would really appreciate it
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Your sister has some personality problems. She only feels good about herself when she can put other people down. you are an easy target. Why don't your parents intervene on your behalf. I have two boys, and when the older one picks on the younger one, I am there to remind the older one,that he used to act, think, behave the same way. Anyway. It is not OK for your sister to talk to you that way. It is disrespecful, and since no one is coming to your aid, then I guess it is up to you. You may have to put up with her because you live in the same house. But you DON'T have to go to the mall with her. You have to be polite (to everyone in life,even those who are not) but you don't have to be nice. Or go out of your way. I finally convinced my youngest son to stop accepting his brother's nice behavior until he started to behave nice all the time towards him. Don't go to the mall with her, don't be her friend and confidant when she can't find anyone else, and don't share with her. Don't be mean, just say "sorry, don't have time, Sorry, have other plans." And don't give her any more info than that. Her attitude will change and by the time you do leave for college, she won't want you to go.
I am mostly concerned about you. If you accept this kind of behavior from people because they are "family" will you also accept it from your boyfriend, husband or lover inthe future. Don't ever let people treat you that way. And you resolve the problem not by getting back at them, but by avoiding them. Because you can't change anyone, they have to change themselves. Just keep yourself out of harms way. And only be friends and intimate with people who treat you with respect. You deserve it.
Michele
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I am a student and find things to remember difficult while studying as i think i have very less confidence in myself . Please help of what do i do ? I constantly feel that i wont remember studied things in my exams. What do i do? (link)
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Let me put things in perspective. I don't agree, I think you remember things just fine. Though we have have fears that we will forget something important. DO you like music? Do you have favorite songs? How about two years ago? DId you have favorite songs then, ones that you don't like so much now. Do you STILL know the words? I believe that you do. I still remember the words to songs from my high school days. And if you remember your favorite songs also, then you don't have a problem remembering.....you have a problem worrying. Too much. Relax. What method do you use to learn the words to your favorite songs....hearing it/reading it over and over.Do the same with your homework.
GOod luck. I am glad that you are in school and trying to do your best. YOu will be wonderful!
Michele
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Where do all you advicenators get all your answers? (link)
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Years of life and experience, and making my own mistakes and having to learn from them. If it helps someone else out, then it was worth it.
Michele
PS I am not a teenager, no surprise there!
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Hey! My bf has this "Good Friend" who just happens to be my ex bff( ih8 her now and she h8s me!)!! She was friends with him b4 we went out but ever since she is constantly flirting with him lyk no 2marrow(sumtimes he flirts back!)!!!im sick of it and its really annoying because she is such a hypacrit! She h8s this one grl for doing the same thing with her bf as she does w/ mine!
-h8herw/apassion
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When people go out of their way to annoy us, like she does by flirting with your boyfriend, and you get annoyed. She wins! Yes you give her control over your emotions. Secretly she loves it when she pisses you off. As you would if you pissed her off, but it is a contest that could never end, and someone is going to get more frustrated than the other, and since you are writing, looking for advice, then I would say that you are the one who is the most frustrated right now. Don't let her get to you. Don't let her win. It will annoy her even more. Invite her to flirt with your boyfriend. Give her every opportunity. She will be surprised and won't know what to do. Always SMILE and LOOK CONFIDENT. Like you don't have a care in the world, and that she is NO THREAT to you. If you are convincing, then she will stop. She is only doing it to piss you off. These are the kinds of things that young girls do to each other. It is awful, but it does change. Young women are not like that. We all grow up and mature at some point.
The best thing you can do to both of them is act like you don't care. I know it's hard, but just try it, and pay attention to HOW SHE ACTS, not what she says. BUT NOW SHE ACTS. That is your clue that it is working. Kids, especially girls, get real upset when they can't annoy someone they are trying hard to annoy.
Good luck
THanks for writing.
Michele
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Hi my name is John I asked a question on this site and someone told me that you would probably be able to give the best answer. So I would like to ask you it.
Ok well recently my father died. He was the only one taking care of me and my sister Sarah(6). Well since he died I've been taking care of her. My guidence counselor at my school has been very supportive and has helped me any way he could. He told me that because things have been getting harder I should try giving the state custody of her. He said that she could end up in a really nice foster home that will eventually adopt her. I don't know much about how that works or anything about it so I've been asking people what they think about it. I love my sister more than anything and I just want to do what's best for her. I've been trying so hard and I will continue to scrape up any money I can if that will keep her safer than going to a foster home. I just want to know what would give her a better life. What do you think about foster homes? Would she be safe or is she better off with me?
John...oh yeah I'm 16 if that helps at all. (link)
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Dear John,
I am very sorry for your loss. You and your sister must be under a lot of pressure. I know that it is hard. But I don't recommend foster care. Yes there are good foster homes, but once you turn her over to the state, you have very little say on what foster home she goes into. And some of them are just awful. And some kids get shuffled around from home to home. And I would never believe anything the state told me. After all they are the one who put kids in bad foster homes, Too many people are just in it for the money. Is there any way you can continue to take care of her. I know it's hard but what doesn't kill us, makes us stronger. I have no idea where you live or what state. But could you maybe put an add in the paper for a live in nanny. Someone who would help out in exchange for room and board. Then she could work while you guys are in school so she could make money for ther other things she may need. How are you managing for money. What are you guys living on. If money is a problem, meaning there isn't any, or enough to pay the bills, then you may have to put your sister in foster care, but then what heppens to you. Where do would you go. There is no in in that town willing to take the two of you in? DId your father own the home that you live in? There are so many things that have to be taken into consideration. John, I want to help, but I need a little more information. Can you at least tell me what state you live in and what is your financial situation. It is important that you finish school, and that your sister attend school also. But I also think it is important that you two stay together. She lost her dad, it would be devastating to her to loose you to. There may be a perfect solution out there, a really good foster home, nearby, where by you can still see her, and maybe they will adopt her. But how do you make sure that you have some say in the matter. How do you make sure that you get to interview the family. I don't know if that is possible. You know, Catholic Charities helps put children in to adoptive homes. I know here in Connecticut they have waiting lists for young kids to adopt. Is there a catholic charities in your city? Look in the phone book, or call the closest catholic church. Ask them how to get in touch with catholic charities. When you talk to them,you can tell them what happened without revealing who you are, get some info first. LIke will you be able to interview the family. And when you do, find out if the family will let you stay in touch with your sister. I hope this will help you. The more I think about it, unless your father left you guys a lot of money, I don't see how you can continue to take care of your sister and yourself. Two cannot live a cheaply as one. Not when only one can work, and then only part time, and for not very much money. The main thing is to have some say in where your sister goes. Don't just hand her over to the state. Those State agencies loose kids all the time. Some of the kids who write to me on this site have been in foster care, and they have horror stories to tell. Please let me know what goes on I will do all that I can to help and advise you.
Michele
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I think that i'm pregnant because last month I lost my virginity to a guy and I have a strange craving for egg-McMuffins and I gained 3 pounds. Is this the early sign of pregnancy??
By the way:
-I haven't ever started my period and I didn't use a condom
Do all of these signs mean that I'm pregnant?? (link)
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You could very well be pregnant young lady. So why not find out for sure. Go to the drug store and get a prenatal test kit, and use your urine from first thing in the morning. Thank your lucky stars if you are not, AND DON"T DO THAT AGAIN. You are much to young to be having sex. Don't tell me you can't afford a pregnancy test kit....if you don't have $10.00 for that, how are you going to support a baby. Please stop having sex. Don't you read some of the questions on this site, from kids whose parents don't want them. They are cutting themselves, abusing drugs, and having thoughts of suicide. Do you want to do that to your kid. Please stop having sexual relations until you are old enough to go to the gynecologist and be examined and obtain birth control, and then still, to avoid disease, use a condum
Michele
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I got a really bad hair-cut today, & its really short, I normally have very long hair, but now its really short... how can I grow out my hair as fast as possibul? & how long will it take? it dosen't have to be a day or something, but I'm going to some kind of beach thing in 2 weeks & I'm seeing a cosin in California a week after that, so I want to look good
14/M (link)
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If you can get to a health food store, or a nutrition store like GNC, get some herbal capsuls called Horse Tail, also known as Silica Complex. Anything with the herb Horse Tail. It will make your hair grow faster. But Don't expect miracles in two weeks.
Michele
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Okay, I'm not totally sure what I want to do when I get out of high school. I have interests in many different things and its hard to pick one career. Lately I've been interested in serving time in the Navy and studying journalism/film. I'll probably serve time for about 4 years and then when I get out, go into that field and possibly get a job at a movie studio. But I also have an interest in acting. I've been told I'm really good, and I know a lot about it (I've been to many studios, watched MANY things be filmed and I've been an extra in a few things). Do you think that I would make it (well, you've never seen me act or whatever, but with a good background and a back up career do you think I could make it?). I don't believe that, in order to make it into show biz, you have to study theatre. Maybe take a few classes (which I've done and plan on taking more in the future) here and there. I know I won't be a star and be known over night, I enjoy commercial acting (aka in front of cameras) rather than theatre acting. But do you think I would be respected after serving 4 years in the Navy (when I get out, I'll only be 21-22)? I'm just wondering if this plan sounds stable or does it sound too wacky (I know anything is possible, etc.). Would you be interested in a good, talented actress (who'll be fit, btw) who served in the Navy? Please tell me what you think of this career plan. I'm 16/f (link)
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WEll, it is not that I think the Navy would prevent you from being a great actress, or getting work. But, and I could be wrong, in Hollywood, isn't 22 already old. Oh not real old, but aren't a lot of actresses established by then. Many of them start young, because they can be made to look older with make up. And while I think it is better for your person, your emotional and physical well being to start later, you may regret it. Why not go on to some drama college web sites and see what they have to offer, see what they say about the drama and acting field There are lots of drama colleges, but I'll bet most are in NY or CAL. I am not trying to discourage you, I am just helping you to be realistic. Joining the Navy, well....(don't get me started) besides all the political reasons NOT TO...(like WAR) If you are doing it to help pay for college that is one thing. But you'll get so caught up in what you are doing, and jobs, even interesting ones, and ones that pay well will come you way because of your experience in the Navy, and who knows you may fall in love, (how can you avoid it with the male to femal ratio) and your lover will not want you to leave for the west coast to start an acting career. Well, in my opinion, if you really have a burning desire to ACT then ACT is what you should do. It sounds like you have some experience. Find out what it would take to get into acting college. That is 4 years also, but then you will be prepared for an acting career. There are scholarhips and student loans and student work programs, and internships. ANd it is all fun, and studying. But most great actors and actresses will tell you that that is how they started. I hope this helps. Good luck to you what ever you decide. I think it is wonderful that you are thinking ahead, and not just at who is going to be your next boyfriend.....
Michele
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