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~15 female~
me and my best friend are really close...i was w/ her when she lost *it* and the sad thing is she didn't even know the guy..she only new him for a lil bit! and then she had sex w/ this other dude but shes kind of dating him...and i told her she shouldn't be doing that bC shes always going out to have sex w/ some other dude...and then i was staying the nite w/ her one nite and we snuck out and she had sex w/ these 2guys that she hardly even knew...and she still talks to one of them she goes overto his house and stuff...but she doesn't need to hang out w/ him either cuz his a lil man whore! well then she had sex w/ this other dude...and then another (but she knew the last one really well)...well last nite me and her sunk out again w/ my boyfriend and one of his friends...and she had sex w/ him...i mean i haven't even had sex w/ my boyfriend yet...and i didn't even have sex w/ him that nite...well my freind has had sex w/ at lest 7guys...how do i get her to stop...i want her to wait till shes dating a guy before she starts haveing sex again!...?? what do i do?

You're friend is really disrespecting herself. You need to tell her to chill out before she gets pregnant or gets an STD or HIV/AIDS. And personally I wouldn't hang around her anymore because when you hang out with trash people thin you are trash too even if you are being a good girl.

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I started to like someone.. that has hurt me manny times in the past.. and i dont know wat to do. Its not a big problem. but im soo confused. BEfore he lied to me, and went out with my friend. HELP

No matter how you feel about this guy, you have to let him go. If he hurt you once, then he will probably do it again. And you don't deserve to be with anyone who lies to you and plays with your heart and mind. Trust me it is not worth the heartache. Find someone who will have respect for you because that is what you deserve. Hope I helped and Good Luck! :)

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I am 13 years old. I just recently broke up with my girl friend. It sucks, but i'll live. the problem is I had sex with that girl, and everyone knows. I now for a fact that a girl i've had a crush on since 4th grade likes me, do u think the fact that I had sex will push her away from wanting to date me

13 is too young to be having sex anyway, but since you are remember to use protection. You wouldn't wanna get some little pregnant. but as for your question... It may push her a way because she may think you are too advance for her and probably wnat to have sex with all of your girl friends now.

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Hi I am 16 f and i was raped and the guy who did it told me not to tell anyone.so i havent said a word to anyone until now but the thing is my bf wants me to have sex with him but im not ready cuz it was just recently that i was raped. should i tell someone what happend or just not say a thing and try having sex with my bf? I rate.

Screw what that guy told you to do. He raped you! Does that seem like the type of person who you keep secrets for. You need to tell your parents or someone and get his ass in trouble! And let your boyfriend know what happened to you so he can understand that it is not him who is turning you off, it is the fact that you have been through a tramatizing situation. he will understand. But go tell someone! That guy took advantage of you, don't let him get away with it.

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my doctor does check-ups on me, im a 13 female, and he's a male. he always checks my breasts for things so he knows nothings wrong--like for lumps or something .. none of my other friends have their doctor do this .. my doctor practically squeezes me, and he always unzips my pants and looks down them and feels around. like i said, none of my friend's doctor's do this, and some of them have the same doctor as me. what do you think is going on? is he doing this sexually, or just being a doctor?

Okay, go tell your mom that he is doing this and make sure you let her know that you're friends who ahve the same doctor said he never does that to them. Let her know you feel uncomfortable and you want a new doctor because you should never feel uncomfortable around your doctor. He is supposed to be a trusted person. You should also report him, because he may be doing this to ther girls who have not spoken up. You might even be able to get him prosecuted.

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Hey everyone! Me and my boyfriend recently broke up. He asked me if I still wanted to go out. I had been meaning to break up with him because I was starting to feel uncomfortable. He was trying to make me do stuff I didn't want to do. There is also a 3 year difference between us and I think that is one of the main reasons why I was starting to feel uncomfortable. Anyway, I work with him and even though he was the one who suggested breaking up, he ignores me when I try to strike up a conversation. I understand that he might be feeling hurt, I don't understand why he is acting like everything was my fault. I still think he's cool, but I think we make better friends than boyfriend and girlfriend. I really value his friendship. How can I make him feel better about this whole situation and help him realize than even though it didn't work between us, he still is a great person?
Thanks!
Jenn

You have to tell him exactly how you feel. Let him know that the break up was really no ones fault. You just felt uncomfortable about the age difference and you weren't ready to do some things. Let him know he is a great guy and co worker and you still want to be his friend because you still like him as a friend just not as a boyfriend.

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I just recently got dumped by my ex. we were going fine then all of the sudden she dumped me, i still like her, and i want her to go out with me again. I am about90% sure she still likes me.
wat should i do?

tell her you miss her alot and ask her if she still has feelings for you. If she does then ask her if she wants to give it another try. Good Luck! :)

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15 female

theres this guy i like alot and he asked me out today (like 1 in the morning type deal)...he already meet the parents but my mom and dad said his to old...he jst turned 18 today...and ill be 16 in dec...my parents don't know where dating i haven't told them yet...and i kind of don't want to right know bC they told me a couple days agao that he was to old...and i wanna know wat can i do to get my parents to apporve of him so me and him can go out together...w/ out me haveing to sneak behind my parents back bout it!??

They are probably just worried that because tyler is 18 he will try to pressure you to have sex or something like that. Just let them know that you are 16, and you are not stupid, you would never let a guy take advantage of you, and you now right from wrong.

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Ok..volleyballl tryouts are almost over and the first day was really hard. Our coach yells alot and if we drop a ball without goin after or something we run or do pushups. But shes still a good coach. Well i take alot of things personally. I feel like its all my fault. also im super nervous wen i get out there and mess up. Wat should i do? HELP

Stop stressing out. It is just a game. If you take it to serious, you will get all nervous and mess up. just relax.

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hey how do u like let a guy know u wanna getta know him better

by telling him just that

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Okay I have a guy friend tyler who is really cool to hang out with but i would never date him. but my boyfriend andrew doesnt like him. so i like to hang out with tyler and my boyfriend kind of minds but he is my friend. i hang out with his friends and i am nice to his friends even though there are some that i don't like! well my friend chris knew that tyler was like obsessed with me and he told me but i didnt say anything to my boyfriend because i didnt want him to get mad and like tell me i cant hang out with him or something. so here i am at chris' house with andrew and chris blurts it out well andrew starts to yell at me and say no wounder you didnt tell me and crap and then he tried to come up to me and kiss me but i wouldnt so then then him and chris started saying dont talk to me then so i was liek whatever and cussed chris out. what the heck do i do?!?!?!?!?!

tell your boyfriend you dont want tyler and tell tyler to get over you cuz he is supposed to be your friend and is ruining your relationship. If your boyfriend can not get over this tyler thing then ditch him because it means he does not trust you.

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15 female

me and my boyfriend(Tyler) started dateing really early this morning like 1 something

well i was talking to Laruin and Ashley(Tyler's ex) iMed her and was like hey this is Ashley Tyler's girlfriend....well laurin was like are u still going out w/ Tyler and Ashley was like yay y! welll Laurin told me bout this...so me and her 3ways Tyler at wrk and asked him about it and he said that he wasn't going out w/ her so i told him he better go str8en things out w/ her before i decided to get crunk on him!

what should i do?

Well see if he gets things straight, but if all this causes a bunch of drama then ditch him. he's not worth it if he wants to play ping pong with you and some other girl, you are better than that. Good Luck! :)

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Is it ok to go out with someone two years younger than you?

Well it depends what your ages are.

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I RATE.

Hi. I have been going out with girl for about 2 weeks now and she is coming over to my house tommorw. We have not kissed or made out yet, and I was wondering if anyone had any advice to get her to want to do it. Such as things to do, etc. I got a pool, TV, dvd player, computer, anything, lol

okay well 1st off you dont need a pool, tv,dvd player or computer or any of that stuff to kiss a girl. All you have to do is just lean in and kiss her! Just do it! Don't think about it! Just do it! You will proud of yourself afterwards. Good Luck! :)

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I'm friends with this one guy and I like him alot. I've heard that he used to like me too, but I'm not exactly sure if it's true. he is the only guy I've ever felt this way about, and I know it sounds stupid of me to say that because we are only 14. In the past, he has hurt me bad emotionally and once physically. But now, everything between us it great we talk all the time I just don't know if I should tell him how I feel, just forget about him, or keep it a secret. Me and him are like best friends.. I don't want to screw up our friendship..

xOx* kandiie

Maybe he has changed for the good now. Try telling how you feel and that you would like to try things out again, but you don't want to ruin your friendship. You'll never know how he really feels too until you speak up. Good Luck! :)

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15 female

i got my 1st GOOD hicky from my best friend (which is a girl) but we are really close...we were on the way to someones house w/ her and her boyfriend and she was showing me the hickys' that her boyfriend gave her and i was like hey i want a hicky!! and she gave me one...is that wrong for ur best friend to give u a hicky!!??

*I AM NO BI!*

It is not wrong, but it is a little strange that your female friend did it.

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15 female

i got my 1st GOOD hicky from my best friend (which is a girl) but we are really close...we were on the way to someones house w/ her and her boyfriend and she was showing me the hickys' that her boyfriend gave her and i was like hey i want a hicky!! and she gave me one...is that wrong for ur best friend to give u a hicky!!??

*I AM NO BI!*

It is not wrong, but it is a little strange that your female friend did it.

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hey everyone, I am 15 and I need some advice...my boyfriend of 9 months is leavin and movin to Oregon in a few weeks. I live in Florida and I wanna try to do the whole long distance thingy but I dont think that he wants to. I love him soooo much and want to be with him. Does it really work? Should couples that are in love try it? Please Help ME!!! xo0x ~manda [ aka confused]~

You can try it, but I honestly think it will not work because you are so young. And your boyfriend is probably acting like he doesn't wanna do the whole long distance thing because he probably feels it won't work anyway. All I can tell you is that if it doesn't work out, don't feel so bad. I mean I know it will hurt, but like I said you are young, and atleast you have some good memories about a really great guy. Hope I helped and Good Luck! :)

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Hi I'm 14 and I'm 5'2ish. I weigh 110. I wear a C cup and I think around a 3 in jeans. (Not sure maybe a 5) But the problem is, I look at everyone else and I feel that I should weigh 100 or 105. I was going to do chrunches and things to loose weight. But I'm always too lazy. (lol) I used to dance and do gymnastics ever since i could walk. (not gymnastics, I just started that) But I quit. Um..what's your advice on, if I should not worry about it, since I'm still growing or be more cautious because I seriously don't want to gain too much weight. I want to be considered skinny, not in the middle, which I am now? Also, I love to eat! (lol) I think it's kind of an emotional thing for me. I'm definitely not fat or anything like that but I don't think that I could give up food. Thanks for your help!

If you went to your doctor and saw one of those charts, you would find out that you are actually a little bit under weight for 5'2 with a size C chest. Considering that alot of weight comes from your chest (which is a good thing). If you had a small chest you would probably weigh only like 90lbs. As long as you exercise, even if it just alot of walking, you will maintain your weight, and still be able to eat all the stuff you like. Good Luck! :)

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OK
every1 always tells me that impopular just becuz i have lots of friends well all summer my bestfriends and i have been hangin out and im kinda getting sick of them and now im going into middleschool and i kina wanna hang out wit other people but i dono wut to do. i have lots of other friends but i dont wanna abandin my bestfriends.

Wut Should I Do?

Okay, well just because you want to chill with other people doesn't mean you have to "abandon" your bestfriends. You can hang out with new people, but just still make sure you make time for them every now and then. You and your friends are getting older, and things like making new friends around this time in your life happens. I'm sure your bestfriends want to make some new friends too. Yeah, so don't feel bad, but just don't forget about them either, like always stay posted with what is going on in thier lives, that way if anything crazy or like depressing happens to one of them you can still be there for them. Hope I helped and Good Luck! :)

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