HI!!im caramella,id love to give advice for those who need it.You might not always like my answers but i dont care about ratings,cuz if i tell you something you want to hear all the time,and i get rated high and you end up making a big mistake,rating aint gonna solve the problem then.I want to tell you guys to think before you act and look before you leap in order not to make misttakes,if you have made mistakes NEVER regret it,regrets are a waste of time and happiness and wont change what happened,BUT it will give you expereince and teach you not to do it again and refine your future^_^regret over wasted time is more wasted time.
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I've been in love with the same guy for about 2 years. I've "went out" with him about 6 times, and 4 of the times he has cheated on me. He tells me all the time that he loves me (when he's with another girl) but then when we go out, he completely ignores me. So, I basically still love him and I don't want to. What would be a good way to keep him off my mind forever and stop loving him? (link)
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imma talk honestly and i dont mean to be rude so dont get mad but.....how could you be so blinde?? hes playing you like hell!!hes arrogante and happy with all the girls that are around him hes probably doing the same to the other girl hes with.cmon 2 YEARS!youve wasted 2 years of your life over a guy thats not even worth your time!just go out and flirt with a lot of guys and youll eventually fall for one of them just stop loving the other dude because he dont love you. if he did he woulda been dedicated to you.arent you bored of him already its been 2 years!
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I was in a relationship notice i said "was" it seems like that now, he came across as sweet and caring in the beginning, then after awhile he became demanding, manipulative, controlling and then finally he just stayed around for the sake of torment. I got out of it by the only means I knew how and he wanted to sit there and watch as I took a knife to my wrist and sliced away, do you know what it felt like? Numb.It was far better to do that to myself then to constantly listen to the verbal abuse everyday,i shut myself away and figured hurting myself for getting myself into this situation in the first place was my own punishment for me to constantly remember how overpowering someone can be on you.Guilt at first was mine for not having the strength to walk away and tell him to go to hell...now i hear that he still verbally abuses about me to anyone who will take time out to listen to his sorry ass. am i glad i am not talking to him anymore? i guess i shud be glad im still breathing and he has no knowledge where i am. im safe for now but i dont know what to think anymore about people. (link)
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honey how can you do that to yourself?hes a totall ass and do you hate yourself that much to a point that you can cut yourself for some sorry ass loser?just because he has a frikin thingy doesnt mean he can rule the world with it and control you and tell you what to do and what not to do.you need to stand your ground and be strong whats he gonna do hurt you with some gay words hes about to say??what he says shouldnt affect you at all hes frikin gay....he probably never will have a long term realationship because of the way he treats you.you need to realize that cutting yourself will get you noowhere itll only scar your skin and...ew!hes not worth you scaring your pretty skin.dont ever think about this guy ever again hes abnormal hes totallly mental...im serious by the way he is i mean why eles would he do that?if you feel angry take it out on anything but yourself buy a punching bag and hang his picture on it and punch it and say to yourself while punching it your gay im not gonna bother feeling depresssed because of you....ok
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OK, well, my two best friends will call me out if they think I'm "flirting" with a guy. It doesn't even matter what guy, they will just give me a look and act all mad. They don't even like the guy, since they both have boyfriends. But the problem is that our ideas of flirting are WAY different. Like, they think that striking a conversation up with an ex or playing soccer with a good guy friend is flirting, but I say not really. I need help! I need to know what to do? Should I laugh it off, or just not talk to my guy friends?
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nobody can tell you who to not talk to tell your friends that they have BOYFREINDS and you dont bug them and tell them not to flirt with them.but try not to loose your freinds mabey they are worried about you in a way.talk to them and ask them honestly what pisses them off about it.good luck
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I just found out that there is going to be a ten year highschool reunion for my grad class this august. I said I was going to go and already sent the check in the mail. Well I looked at the website for who is already signed up to go and this guy that was really popular who I was madly in love with is going to be there. He knew I liked him and treated me like dirt. I still get nightmares sometimes. I've changed alot since school. My question is how can I be less nervous when I go and have to see him? Also how should I act around him? (link)
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you said it yourself " who I was madly in love with " WAS ....it was a long time ago and youve changed since then just chill keep it cool hes not gonna BITE you.Just act totally normal and if he brings it up and says anything like HA REMEMBER WHEN YOU USED TO LIKE ME say HAHAHAH YA I KNOW I WAS TOTALLY BLINDE to make him feel bad IF he makes you feel bad FIRST but other than that just chill and remember that this is the past u talkin bout here
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Question no. 1: Do any of you guys tend to compare your looks to your friends around you?
I do and I hate that. Because whenever I'm near a pretty friend, i'd start to feel like I'm very ugly because I dun look better than her. We have to admit that we do tend to compare people we see on the streets like for eg, this guy looks better than his friend beside him, etc.
OK case 2, there are 2 girls, one very good looking(A) and the other not so good looking(B). And the wierd thing is, there are cases in which people will not compare A and B and will actually see them as each having their own beauty, and both as pretty as the other.
Question no. 2: How do I get to the stage whereby people will not compare me and my friend and see me and my friend as each having our own form of beauty? Meaning to say, see both of us as equally attractive individuals?
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what you need is to be more self confident and believe that youve got something pretty about you that your friend dosent and vice versa.you need to be confident to feel that ppl see you both as equally attractive individuals...mabey they do but you dont feel it due to the lack of self confidence you have.and try to be satisfied with your looks and know that you look a lot better than alot of other ppl
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so a guy from work (we are just friends) asked me to the movies tonight and i talked to my stepmom and she automatically said no because hes too old for me and she doesnt know anything about him, and i told her she could meet him and everything
im going to be 17 in september hes turning 19 tomaro...whats wrong with that?
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i see absolutley nothing wrong with that.so what hes 2 years older.you know its actually better that hes older than you cuz the older he is the more mature he is and the more hell be able to treat you better
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Okay soo I'm a 15 year old female. I've been going out with my boyfriend for just over a month now. I love spending time with him! but i see him more as a friend than anything else. When we kiss there just arent any sparks. I'm afraid of hurting him, but i think if i stay with him ill just hurt him more later on... any ideas? (link)
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hes going to think youre using him like this....sit down alone by yourself and think it all out how do you REALLY feel towards this dude?cuz theres a big difference between love and like.if you "love" him then stay with him if you love him as a FREIND then i think you should just tell him the nice way that hes just a freind or you can just stop what youre doing to the poor guy....you wouldnt like it if that happened to ya
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I'm an 18 year old female, living on the East Coast. My friend Jake is 22, living in Oregon. He is suicidal. Is there anything I can do to help?
I've known him for about 4 years. He has been suicidal since he was 10, apparently - that's 12 whole years of "depression". He just came back from the Jop Corps last week for his summer vacation, so yesterday was my first time speaking to him in 10 months. ALLL he would talk about is getting his hands on some tough drugs and then going to the "train tracks", if you know what I mean.
How do I help him? His complaints are pretty much the usual stuff. His family hates him, no one loves him, he doesn't have a girlfriend and now that he is 22 he will never have kids. For years, I've been trying to help him, trying to comfort him, trying to make points where I feel I can. But oh no, nothing works, because.... "no one loves me". When he says that, it actually insults me. What, have four years of my time meant nothing to him? Isn't there only so much a person can do?
I almost blame myself for not being able to help him. I can not contact his friends or family, because I have zero connection to them. He doesn't live with his parents, so there's no address I can find. He only has a cell phone, so that says that. And I don't even know his parents names, or friends, for that matter. I have zero way to get him help.
I know this isn't about me, but I'm losing my patience here. He is seriously stressing me out. I try and try and try, but I am never good enough. What, does he like being this way, or something? Could he secretly enjoy his lifestyle? Could I have a major attention whore on my hands, rather than a suicidal man?
He is also compulsive liar, which doesn't help anything. I'm thinking his other friends (the ones he doesn't have, according to him), probably assume that if he hasn't done away with himself in 12 years, he will never have the guts. That may be true, but I am not willing to write something like a death threat off, I'm sorry... because I know there is always a breaking point.
I consulted a few of my friends, and of course I heard the same thing every time, "Why do you bother talking to him? Oh, I wouldn't talk to him. Screw that guy."
Only, I know that wouldn't contribute anything to his well-being. Right?
I guess what I'm trying to ask is, at what point should I disconcern myself, if ever? And what more can I do to help him? Trying to help somebody who doesn't want to help themselves, is usually a failure before the process even commences... (link)
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hes always been sayin that hes gonna kill himself but he never did.....i think hes just tryin to get your attention,tryin to feel that someone cares about him...tell him that youre his best friend and that you like him(as a freind)and that him sayin all that shit is an insult to you and it makes you feel like your not an important person to him....tell him that whoever hates you or wants to hate you can go to hell and that he can start over with a new lifestyle and forget about suicide or best of all tell him to go to a therapist cuz this way hes gonna drive you into commiting suicide with all of the complaints hes tellin ya
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I've only kissed one guy b4, IT WAS A TOTAL DISASTER! SO, Im really nervous about kissing my b/f. I want to kiss him but I don't know how to make-out. I'll mess up for sure.
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THANX IN ADVANCE!
~Kayla~ (link)
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go to wwww.myjellybean.com or google.com and write down "how do you french kiss"
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i hate math...me and math will never understand each other...i always get c's on my report card...i was in tutoring but that did'nt help much....my parents give me a hard time on it all the time..and all my friends are really good at it...my parents are always saying look at my friends there doing perfect in it...wat do i do??? (link)
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i HATE math just as much as you do or even more....anyways this is what you do....just sit down and relax and free your mind in math class try understanding it bit by bit then when you come to a part where you dont get it or loose your concentration ask the teacher to repeat it again....and practice a lot
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my boyfriend (24)and I(20) have lived together for over a year we live with a roomate who happens to be my friend . just recently last friday actually we got in a big fight and he shoved me into the closet door, our roomate heard it all and said something to him and he got in her face screaming and pointing his finger in her face so i ran flailing my fists aqnd i caught him in the nose , i didn't punch him but i did hit him though and his nose started bleeding which i instantly started bawling and trying to clean away the blood , i knew what i did was wrong and felt horrible anyway we both agreed to forgive each other but then this past tuesday i had to get all 4 of my wisdom teeth out and he was the one with me getting all the post-op insturctions and then after we got home we got into a dumb fight and he said "i can't take getting beaten anymore" and he left me i havn't heard from him since tuesday and now he is at his parents house I don't know what i should do because i am stuck here with all the memories and i am crying everyday I just want him to come home but at the same time i don't know if i should let him come home i need help!!!! (link)
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he dessereves what he got!how dare he lock you in a closet!dont apologize to him cuz he got what he desserves but i think you should try calling him and telling him that he started it and all and work your way outta it...if he doesnt want to then i dont see any reasons why you should still cry about him....hes not worth it and hes not the last guy on earth....its gonna be his loss not yours
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Oook, I know I sound like a foolish idiot by asking this but what does "fo shizzle my nizzle" mean? People say it all the time and I say it too, and I know people say it to "try" to act gangster but thats about it. Help ? (link)
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lol it means for sure my ni**er
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im taking arabic lessons and i was just wondering how do you say my love in arabic... thns in advance!
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hey!!15 year old egyptian chick here (lol) my love means HABEEBY(if your saying it to a guy) and HABIBTY (if your saying it to a girl)
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okay, so i'm 14/m and she's 14/f and i really like her but i don't know where i should take her on our first date (if she'll go out with me) if you live in st. louis area, (or anyware) got any advice? (link)
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askin her to go with ya to the movies means theres a chance yall might make out thats a nice place or take her on a boat cruise and get her some flowers!
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My best friend is everything to me, but sometimes we make plans and she ends up ditchin me. And she always says that SHE'LL BE THERE, and then I ask her if she if going and she says "no", and when I ask "why" she says "I made plans before" and that absolutly ticks me off. And I get sooooo mad at her that I end up calling her a name or something. I always think that she talks about me because we kinda fight when we're not together. What do I do? Not be her friend? or... tell her to screw herself? or just ignore it and keep being her "friend"? (link)
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you cant keep quiet about this....itll just grow bigger and bigger and bigger till ya find yourself hating her guts!!!you have to tell her that it pisses you the hell off and that you want her to stop if she dont stop then tell her "why should i hang out with someone that knows something pisses me off and keeps doing it?your not a true freind!!!" and you can also try doing what she did to you by telling her to meet you at a place then you dont show up and then you say(when she calls you up askin why you didnt show up) oh lol SORRY i had plans
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Okay i'm 12/f about to turn 13 in 2 weeks =] ! I really like this boy and yesterday i went to his house to hang out and i d k if this is slutty or what ? Well we was over there watching the Grudge and i was just laying by him, then we like moved to the floor and all the sudden he leaned over and we started making out. I like got on top of him and we like started having dry sex with are clothes on. Well he knew my turn on spot is my neck so he was kissing my neck and i just got really in the mood so he rolled over on top of me and we kept on doin it. Well then we stopped cause we heared someone upstairs so we were just laying there. And i let him finger me. And i was giving him a hand job all night !! Like every minute. Then hes like how bout you suck it for meee ? and i was like omg i never sucked one before soo yeah.. but we went downstairs but then we came back up after we did some more stuff.. okay now heres where it gets bad. We were laying on the couch and i like sucked his dick about 3 times and he wanted moreee. but we didn't have a condom . Well he fingered me again and left a huuuge hickey on my neck. Wow thats alot of stuf. Do you think thats slutty and just give me some advice on what i just told you . I feel slutty and guilty and i feel like hes useing me. (link)
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well you came on this website askin for advice and im a 15 year old chick thats NEVER done half of what you just did....um how old did you say you were again...????12 turnin 13 is HELL TO YOUNG omg i cant believe you did all of that shit OFCOURSE he using you !!!he sees you as a slut and decides that"hey this girls gonna do anything i ask her to do so why not ask?"ew i cant belive you....sucked him at such a young age when i was 12 i woulda puked if i heard something like that!!girls like you is what gives us good girls the name "sluts and hoes" well its good that you feel guilty about it and never do that again at this age...at your age you should be running around like a retart and having water fights with your girls.do you know that you can get STDs from that???(sexually transmitted diseases)
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I've been going out with my boyfriend for over a month. And for the past three weeks, it has been great. We both get on really well and we both have been enjoying eachother's company. But now I feel like he doesn't want to make the effort. Nearly half the time I have to get in touch with him first. He comments other girls on a website called bebo instead of me. I dont want to sound obsessive so I have left this minor detail out from the conovsations i have with him. Many of my friend's say he doesn't realise he's doing it but I dont know. It feels like he doesn't like me as much as he used to. He always wanted to see me everyother day and now its reduced to a week where he hasnt mentioned seeing me at all. A while ago, It felt like he was ashamed of me and so I asked him, and he came back with positive comments saying he's not. I want us to stay in a relationship because I really like him. But I don't how to overcome these insercurities? I've spoken to several of my close friends and they said it's all natural to feel this way. Am I getting too attached to him? Is this the end of our relationship? (link)
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listen up guys do this when they realize girls are obsessed with them .you were always the one that made the first move so he got used to that....you shouldnt be the one whos always callin him if he dont call you DONT CALL HIM give him a taste of his own medicine and let HIM be the one whos always callin you for a while then you can start callin him again but not too much or hell get used to it again...so till then just ....chill...you were always followin him around now hes probably bored of u doin that so he chekin out other girls....you have to play hard to get
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My friend met this guy and he is the sweetest guy ever and stuff, and im wicked jealous of her, and this guy talks to me about her because they like eachother and they know it and he told her he loved her and stuff and she said it back but idk what to do because im always talking to him about her..like im her best friend so he asks me for advice about what she likes & stuff, but idk...this whole thing is getting to me and getting me WICKED jealous like, its not right to feel this jealous about anything...so what should i do? Should i stop talking to him? should i stop talking about him with my best friend, or should i keep helping them? because this is like tearing me apart...anything helps thanks (link)
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oh cmon let your "best freind" be happy yourr gonna fall in love one day too!! how would you like it if your friend was feeling like you are now? youve got something she dont and vice versa so if you claim youre her best freind you should act like one and be happy for her cuz what goes around comes around
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hey im jackie and im 14. and this question is for my friend. she just turned 15 and her ex boyfriend is 14 and they've been going out since october,(8 months) and they have gone pretty far. hes gotten her to give him a hand job and let him finger her, for the first time. before she went out with him, she hadnt even had her first kiss. anyway, he broke upw ith her 2 days ago and she is miserable! he siad it was b/c he wanted to move on. I ;d like to know how to help her get over him. help pleasee
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um tell your friend to get a hold of herself and that he aint the last man on earth!shes only 15 and um shes still goin to grades 10,11,12 and college um i think shes gonna meet a LOT of guys by then dont ya think??she has to let go of the past if she wants to have a future and realize that noones worth it.
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I'm 13. I have a MAJOR crush. But, according to my friends, he's not just a crush anymore. Well, I really like him. When I got ahold of his email, we started chatting online all the time. Finally some of my friends dilivered his message. He liked me too. One day while we were chatting he asked me out to the movies. I couldn't believe that I wasn't able to go. Anyways, now, according to my friends, he's my officail boyfriend. That the part I'm not so sure about. I mean, a boyfreind when you're only 13? I feel too young for that... Is he my officail boyfriend or am I really too young for that kind of thing? (link)
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well i kinda think you are a lil too young...at your age you should be out with your friends partying and having a good time not havin to think about some guy all day wait till YOU feel you are mature enough and if your not ready tell him! what is he gonna do beat you up?
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