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How can I stop loving him?
I've been in love with the same guy for about 2 years. I've "went out" with him about 6 times, and 4 of the times he has cheated on me. He tells me all the time that he loves me (when he's with another girl) but then when we go out, he completely ignores me. So, I basically still love him and I don't want to. What would be a good way to keep him off my mind forever and stop loving him?
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imma talk honestly and i dont mean to be rude so dont get mad but.....how could you be so blinde?? hes playing you like hell!!hes arrogante and happy with all the girls that are around him hes probably doing the same to the other girl hes with.cmon 2 YEARS!youve wasted 2 years of your life over a guy thats not even worth your time!just go out and flirt with a lot of guys and youll eventually fall for one of them just stop loving the other dude because he dont love you. if he did he woulda been dedicated to you.arent you bored of him already its been 2 years!
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I think the key to lightening your load is to understand people like him. Some people want what they can't have, then when they have it they don't appreciate it. He's a player, and it's good that you know that. When he's with you he feels some sort of satisfaction because you are forbidden territory due to his commitment to the other girl. However, once he is with you the challenge is gone, so his behavior no longer gives him a thrill (so he ignores you)
Now I am not discounting your feelings, but love is easily confused with an addiction. He is fueling the addiction by telling you that he loves you. It's really hard to break this pattern, but with time you will be able to move on. No matter how hard it is, do not ever see or talk to this guy again. If he calls, hang up. If he comes over, slam the door in his face. If you allow him any contact, such as even a phone conversation it will be much harder to get your mind off of him. Time and distance is the only solution...and remember we can't live our life in the past by reciting "what if". Don't look back and take it one day at a time.
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He's not worth your emotions, and it's good that you realize this. I don't think you really do love him. You love it when he tells you he loves you, and you want to be with him. But loving someone isn't wanting to be with them--it's what you would do for them. All he's doing for you is playing with your heart, and all you're doing for him is falling into the trap. Just don't listen! No matter how hard it is, don't go back to him. Don't even speak to him--nothing says you have to. Repeat to yourself constantly, "He's scum, he's a waste of my time, I don't love him." You could write a list--a private one--about all his bad traits. Cry if you have to, it helps. Think of it as a road that you have to walk. You'll probably always feel something for him, since he was so involved in your life. But realize that that is in your past, and just keep walking.
-Lea
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I've been in the same situation and what you need to do is basically find another guy, tell all your friends that you like this new guy and just keep telling ur self that your over (who ever this guy is) and soon it will set in and you will believe that you really are over him
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dump his ass because he cheated on you and you should be with someone that truly love, and care about you and a man that won't cheat on you
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This is really hard but you are doing the right thing by wanting to end it with him once and for all. No one deserves to be treated like that.. espcially 4 times. What I do in order to stop liking a guy is just hang out with a bunch of my girlfriends. Have a girls day/nigt out. Go out to the mall and scope out some new hotties and chat with them. Follow that up by a nice dinner with your girls and then maybe a movie and sleepover. Your girlfriends will know how your feeling and should be understanding so they'll know not to bring up that whole subject.
You could also pamper yourself. Give yourself a makeover and pedicure/manicure. You'll feel much better and will probably gain more conifdence in yourself giving you a higher chance to score with some more guys. Give it time and it will go away. It may hurt for a while but try your hardest to do stuff with people who do love you and treat you with the respect you deserve.
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I would keep yourself busy get into a sport or take up a hobby to keep your mind off of him and eventually you will find a new bf and he will no longer b in ur mind.
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