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Hes Abusive
I was in a relationship notice i said "was" it seems like that now, he came across as sweet and caring in the beginning, then after awhile he became demanding, manipulative, controlling and then finally he just stayed around for the sake of torment. I got out of it by the only means I knew how and he wanted to sit there and watch as I took a knife to my wrist and sliced away, do you know what it felt like? Numb.It was far better to do that to myself then to constantly listen to the verbal abuse everyday,i shut myself away and figured hurting myself for getting myself into this situation in the first place was my own punishment for me to constantly remember how overpowering someone can be on you.Guilt at first was mine for not having the strength to walk away and tell him to go to hell...now i hear that he still verbally abuses about me to anyone who will take time out to listen to his sorry ass. am i glad i am not talking to him anymore? i guess i shud be glad im still breathing and he has no knowledge where i am. im safe for now but i dont know what to think anymore about people.
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honey how can you do that to yourself?hes a totall ass and do you hate yourself that much to a point that you can cut yourself for some sorry ass loser?just because he has a frikin thingy doesnt mean he can rule the world with it and control you and tell you what to do and what not to do.you need to stand your ground and be strong whats he gonna do hurt you with some gay words hes about to say??what he says shouldnt affect you at all hes frikin gay....he probably never will have a long term realationship because of the way he treats you.you need to realize that cutting yourself will get you noowhere itll only scar your skin and...ew!hes not worth you scaring your pretty skin.dont ever think about this guy ever again hes abnormal hes totallly mental...im serious by the way he is i mean why eles would he do that?if you feel angry take it out on anything but yourself buy a punching bag and hang his picture on it and punch it and say to yourself while punching it your gay im not gonna bother feeling depresssed because of you....ok
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im sorry that the only way that you felt that you had to cut but plese dont do that anymore its not the way
abusive people dont deserve the light of day
im just happy that youre safe now
but i agree w/that other columnist you should see someone professional i dont want to be wrong
goes to show you cant trust everyone
keep safe
and thanx for acctually making the time that i answered this question meaningfull
theese kinds of questions are what convinced me to join advicenators
luv*lots
hope everything works out
zen*pshyco
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You want to know what my brilliant answer is? Go talk to someone professional. I'm not saying you are crazy & need a shrink. I'm saying you need advice & need a counselor. I go to one just for the plain sake of having someone to talk to. I could sit here & yab about my opinions on the subject & what I think you should do, but i'm not going to do that. I'm going to let you get the professional advice you need & not the biased opinions I have.
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My brilliant answer:
i'm sorry you felt the need to take a knife to your own wrist. it may be hard to trust people now, but you will have to sometime. dating violence is very real and is happening more than you will know, so you are not alone. planned parenthood, not only does birth control and helps people with their sexuality, but helps with dating violence. they can and will help you to protect yourself from him and others who abuse. someone like that may seem very powerful now, but in the long run, he will not lead a happy life at all. don't completely shut yourself out from people. you can and most definitly will now, but they're people (professionals) who can help. good luck!
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I am so sorry that you got so desperate that you took a knife to your own wrist. He sounds to me as if the only person he cares about is himself. It is quite a surreal act to actually take a knife to the wrist because all the pain and hurt falls away for just that second and it feels as if there is no other way out. There is and you are much better off without him.
It took you a great deal of courage not to go through with ending your life and actually moving on. Have faith in yourself, in your abilities to cope with life and you will meet someone you can trust one day. You are strong and you will get through this because nothing lasts forever.
Hold your head up as you go about your daily business and people will see someone they want to get to know. It is not easy rebuilding a new life after an abusive one so you must keep on repeating that you are a very worthy person. The good people far outnumber the bad people. I wish you a very happy and successful life and future.
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