I have mine pierced; it'll be fine. Even the water shouldn't irritate it.


Jess

It is your hormones, you're not a pervert.
And it's normal doll, nothing's wrong with you.



Jess

When you actually buy music off of Bearshare, it's legal. When you don't pay, it's pretty much illegal. When I used it, I thought it absolutely sucked; not only was the quality bad, it was confusing, slow, but it crashed my computer. I, personally, wouldn't suggest using/downloading it; it's a waste of your computer space, your computer's system, and your time.



Jess

Talk to her about it. But honestly, as much as you probably wouldn't like to do this, get help, before the cutting goes too far. (suicide, etc). I myself am a recovering cutting addict, and let me tell you: if no one ever had gotten me any help, I'd most likely be dead right now. Talk to someone you trust-her parents, your parents, a doctor, anything. And here's some helpful websites.

http://kidshealth.org/teen/your_mind/feeling_sad/cutting.html
http://kidshealth.org/teen/your_mind/problems/friend_cuts.html
http://health.discovery.com/centers/teen/cutters/cutters.html







Good luck, and keep her safe.
Jess

This is not a dating site. It's cool you're looking for a boyfriend, but go somewhere else to look.

Try:
ecrush.com
myyearbook.com
OR
myspace.


Jess

You're fine, there's nothing wrong with you. It's also pretty normal [to want to have sex], so it's nothing to worry about. Usually, when it's your first time, sex isn't always what it's cracked up to be. It may be a tiny bit pleasurable, but it's different for every girl/woman. Normally there's blood, and pain, because you're stretching your hymen (basically skin). But, just make sure you're ready when you do lose your virginity, because it really is very and completely special.



Jess

This is gonna be straight up forward:
guide him to where you want him ro go.
To make it seem like you're not being too funny about it, like in a standoffish way, be seductive about it.



Jess

Not necessarily. You could just get turned on by it, it's normal, for both sexes, whether you're straight, bi, or gay/lesbian.

Now, if you like kissing/having sex with/dating another girl, that could make you a lesbian.

But if you like doing that with a guy, you could be bisexual.

If you just like doing those things with a guy only, then you're straight.

If anything, you'd have to experiment and see for yourself.


Jess

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Jess

It most likely will hurt the first few times.
But if you go through with him doing it, tell him to be gentle and tell him to stop if it's really excruciating pain. Also: depending on how hard or deep he does finger you, you may bleed; so expect that, too.



Jess

He's saying shit to you just to really, in fact, get in your pants.

Stop being naive, and just cut the relationship with him. Because in the end, you'll be the one getting hurt anyway. He's seriously an IDIOT. If you wanna be friends with him, fine. But stop with the physical relationship.

It'll be to your advantage anyway, and when you look back on it, you'll be proud of yourself.

So just stop, period.
You need to find someone (if you're looking) who actually loves you for you and that WON'T cheat on you. (Like he's doing) Besides, it's obvious you're not ready; Wait til you are.


Jess

People who cheat normally aren't happy in the relationship that they're in.

The only time I cheated, I was like-10.

But I've heard of people cheating just to get revenge. Which is stupid, but there are people out there who do it. Sometimes they do it because in the heat of the moment, they just do it because they can. Some people do it on purpose to get rid of their partner, some do it because they really just aren't happy. Or if they're in a long-distance relationship and need someone to kiss, hug, and do other stuff with.



Jess

He's a douche.
I'm sorry ):

Right now though, I'd just be worrying about you, and getting the std taken care of. If it's one that's incurable, then in the future, you tell your [future] partners.





Jess

I agree with the person below me. Everytime they do that, just get up, walk away, and be like, 'aight guys, see ya later'.

If they don't get the hint after a couple of times, then they're way too into their relationship, and very not into including you.

I personally think that it's rude, and it's happened to me before, too.

But if I was you, I'd just be straight up and be like, 'hey, i know you guys little to get all cozy, but it makes me uncomfortable when I'm around. Maybe we can start doing things that involve all of us?'

You don't need to be aggressive or mean or anything, just say it in an assertive way.


Jess

I'd say that you don't necessarily need to lose weight, but maybe tone up ?

But, if you wanna lose weight, go for it.
I'd say you'd have to exercise at least 5 days a week, for 20-60 minutes (don't overdo it!), and to help keep up with the schedule, switch routines. Like, don't jog/run/walk all the time; jump rope, swim, anything that burns calories!

www.seventeen.com has alot of good workouts, or even the magazine, of course.

But all in all, more than loving weight loss, you're gonna need to learn to love yourself. If not, you may lose weight, but still not be happy.




Good Luck, hun
♥
mzzKiTTy**

Well, I'm definitely not a psychiatrist, so I would suggest that you go see one. But it sounds like you're stressed. If you go in and talk to one, not only can they evaluate you, help you find ways to cope and deal with your anger/emotions, but there may be medicine to help you. (I'm not saying you need it, you sound stable enough to me, but just saying).








Good luck, hun
Jess

ow owww !
you go girl !
totally add him :]]










Jess

No, not at all.
It's normal, and probably more common than you think.





Jess

I dated a guy once who had those.



I think they're fine, personally.
I guess it depends on the type of guys you go for.




Jess

Because this is coming from me, screw her.
It's your prom night, not just hers.
She'll have to get over it.

If she says one word, I'd ignore her.
Like another advicenator said, it would make her look bad, not you.

Now if I were you, I'd be a bitch about it.
But that would just be adding fuel to the fire.
Let her know that the prom isn't just about her,
there's nothing that says she can only let certain people be at "her table".



Just be the bigger person, ignore her, which should send the message across that you don't really give a frick about her.

She'll get over it.
It's a free country.



Jess

Heyyyy, I'm jess. I love to help other people, no matter what. I've been through enough bs to know when to just stop and walk away. I don't judge; feel free to ask me anything. I have quite the temper. But, what makes me a good advice-giver is that for the most part, I'm genuinely empathetic and willing to help.
(:

I've had a lot of experiences with piercings, bullying, family problems, and even sexual issues (no std's)- but with the emotional part of it. I love music, so I give good, basic advice about that, too. Also, I deal with severe anxiety and depression, and have been in treatment numerous times. On top of that, I have OCD (Obsessive Complulsive Disorder), and because I've been around people addicted to drugs, or cutting, I can help! Just give me the chance.

add me on myspace!
www.myspace.com/itskittybitchx

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