Hey!

I really don't think you should just STOP being friends in all because you have been close and have known each other since KINDERGARTEN! You can't just throw friendships like that away! That just doesn't happen! You are in tenth grade and have known this girl since kindergarten!

It may be that you and her are drifting apart. You need to try to be her friend again, without telling her what's on your mind. See if, maybe, she can take a hint that you want to be closer to her. Ask her if she can do things on the weekend and hang out with you, more. Ask if she can go to the movies, double-date, go to an amusement park, ANYTHING! Act like you were never her friend and you are trying to start a BRAND NEW friendship. Don't throw it away over this!

She is going to get new firends and it is PERFECTLY normal for YOU to get jealous. That's life! It's happened in my life, it's happened in my sister's life, it happens in EVERYONE'S life at some point. There is nothing to worry about, though. This is normal for a person to make new friends and drift away from their old ones but you have to remind her that you guys are close and you love her, as a friend and you want that closness back.

You need to talk to her if she still pushes you away. Tell her that you guys have been in each other's lives forever, been through fights but survived, and have been close through the ups and downs. Tell her that you are not JEALOUS but you want to be close and you feel like she is not wanting that to happen. Tell her that you want the friendship that you had with her a long time ago to still go on and you don't want to throw this away because you have a VERY GOOD chance of being firneds with her until the day you die and that DOES happen to people.

You shouldn't give up on the people that you care about and love dearly. You should keep trying and not feel jealous every time she gets (a) new friend(s). It IS O.K to get insecure when you feel like she doesn't care about you but she does. She HAS to because you have been a part of her when she is sad, happy, excited, and everything else. You are now in high school and have been through a lot with her.

Yes, friends fight and have insecurities but you know what? You can do it if you try. Try to be close with her again, like I said.

You know you can email me anytime you want! My email address is x_pink_x109@yahoo.com or you can drop one in my inbox if you have any more questions!

I'm here to take in ANY questions and ANY private questions, I do not delete. I answer ALL of them! I'm on every day so you can email me in my inbox anytime you like! :-)

Best of luck!

Hope I helped!

♥ Kayla

O.K... usually, I would say, "It's because they love you and care about you and they don't want anything bad to happen." But I have to admit... this IS getting rediculous. Following you on a date with guns at hand? I mean, COME ON!

If it makes you feel any better, I have been in this situation before. But it wasn't with my parents... it was with my grandma. She wouldn't even let me go out front and sit on the bench, even though she knew EVERYONE on her street and LIKED everyone on her street. She made me study her phone number in case of an emergency and she didn't just tell it to me and make me say it to her... she made me WRITE it 200 times before I could finally go outside. It was CRAZY and I felt the same way as you.

I proved to her that I was old enough to do my own thing, and she had nothing to worry about. I told her that I know how to defend myself if someone tries to kidnap me. I proved to her that I know what to do. What really helped was I invited a friend over and told her I was going on a walk with my friend. She was uneasy, I could see it. Even though she said O.K, I knew she wanted to say "No!" but me and my friend told her we would be back in thirty minutes. We walked around the block a couple times and we even returned to her house earlier than what she expected. Then, she trusted me outside and I proved to her that I was O.K.

Really, though... you're parents just want to protect you from the sick people in the world, these days. And believe me, there are WAY MORE murderers, rapists, and sex offenders now, than there ever were and these days, it IS dangerous to even step out your front door. You could get snatched right one the spot. Your parents care about you a LOT... enough to restrict you from everything in the cold world! You may not think this and you may not like the advice that I'm giving you, but it's the truth. You can ASK for your freedom and tell the that you are DEFINITLY old enough to walk around out front, even by yourself.

Tell them that you know everything... the defenses and stuff. They don't have to reat you this way. Tell them how you feel and with passion. Say you are 14 and should be able to ACT like a 14 year old girl, not some lonely prisoner trapped! You should be able to see the world and meet new friends and no matter what, you're parents cannot restrict you from your social life.

Sometimes, parents can mess up their kids by cooking them up in a house all day, not letting them play, talk, or socialize. They get mad and some of those people are killers today!
You just have to know these things and you have to tell your parents them! They should understand! If they don't, try explaining to them and pleading them to TRUST you a least bit!

If you need to talk to me, feel free to email me a x_pink_x109@yahoo.com anytime you want! You know I'm here for you if you want more advice!
You can also drop one in my inbox, if you want!

I can help you! Just don't be afraid to ask me anything!

You know you can!

Best of luck!

Hope I helped!

♥ Kayla

Hey...
you need to go to the cops. Tell them who this woman is and HAVE HER ARRESTED. She WILL go to jail for sexing a minor.

That's sick! She NEEDS to be SEVERELY SEVEERELY SEVERELY SEVERELY punished for what she did.

Best of luck!

Hope I helped!

♥ Kayla

Just be yourself and you'll make it through life JUST fine!

The only way you can get better is to ask your parents or family member or even a friend for help! Make sure you ask someone who actually KNOWS! LOL.

Best of luck!

Hope I helped!

♥ Kayla

People like her usually turn into little brats and they think that JUST because they get anything they want, they can ACT anyway they want. But you know what? If it makes you feel any better, you will have a LOT more friends than her because you were raised right and she wasn't! She is SPOILED which causes her to treat people like CRAP and think she can do ANYTHING or get ANYTHING they want!

The answer to your question is...

there are more things you can do other than things around the house but here are a few things you can do around the house!
1. Washing dishes
2. Doing laundry (for the entire family)
3. Dusting
4. Washing any family cars/trucks
5. Mopping floors
6. Cleaning your own room
7. Cleaning sibling (if any) room
8. Cleaning parent(s) room
9. Washing windows
10. Emptying dishwasher/loading dishwasher

There are some more things you can do. If you know a lot of people with children under 11 or 12, you can babysit. Charge $2 an hour, PER child.

You can also do yards, if you don't mind being outside mowing lawns.

I don't know what type of person you are but some people LIKE to be outside, some people like to be inside, and some people like to be ANYWHERE but their own house. Those are some ideas for ALL three types of people! LOL.

Best of luck!

Hope I helped!

♥ Kayla

I got mine at a hair salon called "TNT Hair Salon". It was about $200 but it works GREAT! My mom used it and her hair, which is natually VERY VERY curly, is now straight and it STAYS that way the entire way. It has ceramic plates and some have about 25 settings and little combs and stuff.

They work really good. If you want one a lot cheaper, you can go to Target and they have good ones for about $10-50. Some have ceramic plates and some have metal so be careful! I hope I was of assistance to you!

Best of luck!

Hope I helped!

♥ Kayla

Guy friends ALWAYS understand if you have feelings for them. They don't pull away... even if they don't like you, like you. They always understand your feelings for them. I think you should invite him over for like... a snack or a movie or something... invite him to your house or somewhere quiet where you can talk.

Tell him how nice he is and how wonderful you think he is... and tell him that you have been thinking and... you kinda... like him... more than a friend. Say it like you mean it and DON'T be shy. If you get shy, just fight through it. Tell yourself that this is your BEST GUY FRIEND and he is SO nice and he is WONDERFUL about this kind of thing and he shouldn't do anything. As a matter of fact, he'll MOST LIKELY like you back. Best guy friends can become the BEST boyfriends!
It'll be O.K.

The trick is... CONFIDENCE. If you believe you can express yourself to him, you can do it. You can do this if you put your heart in it.

Email me at x_pink_x109@yahoo.com if you want to talk or need more advice.

You can also drop one in my inbox!
Tell me if it works!
Best of luck!

Hope I helped!

♥ Kayla

I have BEEN there!

Try calling her. Press *67, then dial her number and it'll block it so she won't see your number on caller ID. Tell her that you're her BEST FRIEND and that's how you love her. You love her like a sister, but you love guys. You're not a lesbian. She's like your sister and you would practically die for her.

Then, maybe she'll get the point!

I tell my friend that I love her all the time! She tells me the same. That's because we have known each other for years and we love each other like sisters! I still have boyfriends and stuff. I love her the same way you love her. She's one of my BEST friends!

Your friend has to know the same. Tell her that you know her really well and you have always thought of her as a really cool sister and you love her IN THAT WAY! Not asin the way SHE thinks!

If she doesn't believe you, and she thinks you're trying to "cover it up", ignore her for a while and she'll start missing you, if you and her were really close.

Also, if you see her a lot, you can just tell her how you feel in person!

That would probably be better so she can actually SEE your facial expression!

Well, tell me how it goes. Email me at x_pink_x109@yahoo.com to tell me if it works and if she understands. If it doesn't work, I'll tell you what else you could do.

Or you can drop one in my inbox!

Best of luck!

Hope I helped!

♥ Kayla

Of course!

You may not find the right guy RIGHT away but it takes time! You have to trust each other a whole lot and you have to respect each other a whole lot. Once you find someone who has ALL the things you want in a guy, you have found HIM!

It takes a little time but there is a speacial someone out for EVERYONE! You can't go shopping for a guy. If something is meant to be, it;s meant to be.

You want a guy that's nice, cool, sweet, hot, funny, trustworthy, confident about himself, and loving. You want him to care about EVERYTHING you do. You don't want a lazy boy.

You want him to be your dream guy. You want him to tell you you're beautiful every second that you're in his life. You want him to look you STRAIGHT in the eyes when he talks to you. You want him to love you no matter what. You want to be able to say something stupid and not feel like you shouldn't have said it.

That's when you know you have found HIM because a lot of people THINK they have found "THE ONE" but they end up breaking up in two weeks.

But the answer to your question in "Yes!" Everyone finds someone, unless they don't WANT to find someone and they feel like staying single for the rest of their lives.

Trust me. If this has anything to do with you, you WILL find someone that you think are only in fairy tales. You'll find that guy and he'll just sweep you off your feet and take your breath away everytime you see him. You'll KNOW. You'll know by the way you feel around him that he's the one you want. You'll just know and you'll be surprised by the way it feels when someone loves you as much as he does.

Trust me!

There are plenty of fish in the sea! Don't rush into anything. You have your whole life to find the one... O.K not your whole life but a LOT of time!

If you need anything or want to talk to me privately, email me at x_pink_x109@yahoo.com or drop one in my inbox!!!

Do not worry!

Best of luck!

Hope I helped!

♥ Kayla

Oh my gosh! I have been in this situation before. The BEST answer you can give him is a BIG LONG KISS right on the lips! I do that when my boyfriend tells me I'm beautiful. Sometimes, you can't really SAY anything because if you say "Thanks." You'll sound like someone just complimented your shoes. If you say, "I know.", you'll sound concieted so the best thing you do is give him the kiss of his life!

Best of luck!

Hope I helped!

♥ Kayla

Well,
just in your tone, I can tell you don't want to dump her and personally, I don't think you should. A kiss is a kiss but I mean... she said sorry and sometimes that's all can do.

I really think you should give her one more chance and take another chance to trust her like you did before. She loves you, obviously and I KNOW you love HER. I don't think you should throw away 2 AND A HALF YEARS of memories down the drain over a stupid, meaningless kiss. That would be dumb.

You would feel terrible and so would she. You would still have feelings for HER, and she would still have feelings for YOU.

You know in your heart what's right and what you want to do with this. Don't let people on this website confuse you with a bunch of different oppinions. You need to have your OWN thoughts and feelings.

You love her so don't throw away 2 and half great years on something this little. It won't happen again, or so she says but I say... if it DOES happen again, dump her because there's a little saying that goes, "Burn me once, shame on you. Burn me twice, shame on me."

Remember, you can talk to me whenever you want! Drop a question in my inbox OR you can email me at x_pink_x109@yahoo.com O.K?

Best of luck!

Hope I helped!

♥ Kayla

Awww~!
You're a really good friend...

Some girls your age go through these... phases. She wants to be... HOT! She wants guys to like her, so she thinks that if she does anything a guy wants with him, she's easy!

People like her end up on the street corner, either prosituting or begging for food or money. You're a really good friend for being concerned. Some people would just leave this alone and you didn't. That's a very good sign.

Tell her that you don't think what she's doing is right and what she does in high school reflects off the whole rest of her life. If she has sex in 8th-9th grade, chances are she's going to get pregnant and be known as a slut. Tell her you would HATE to see her like that so you thought you would want to catch it before it got too big. You know?

Tell her she's NOT a slut but if she keeps trying to get popular in that kind of way, people will THINK she is. You don't want your friend to be like that. She would be depressed all the time and stuff.

Tell her how you feel about the whole situation. Tell her (like you told everyone here on Advicenators) that you miss the OLD HER! You want your "FRIEND" back! And this is NOT your friend. This isn't the same one who talked to you and made you feel better when you were sad.

Tell her that! Don't be scared for her to be mad at you. If she does get mad at you, she'll learn from her mistake later on. And besides, it's HER loss... NOT YOURS. If there were more people like you in the world, there would be NO KILLING, RAPING, MURDERING, STRANGLING, OR PROSTITUTION. And you are very generous. Just know that you know what could happen and stick with it!

I'm sorry this is so long! :-( But, hey! I have a LOT to say! :-)

Remember, I'm here for you if you want to talk or something. My email address is x_pink_x109@yahoo.com if you want to email me there. Or you can drop one in my inbox! Either one... OR BOTH! LOL.

DON'T GIVE UP TRYING!

Best of luck!

Hope I helped!

♥ Kayla

I'm going to tell you what my older sister did for HER 16th birthday party. She rented a hotel room and got a bunch of friends together. About 5, at the most.

They had a party in there.

If you don't want to do that, pool parties are ALWAYS great!

You could have chips and refreshments and stuff.

Then, later, throw him a HUGE bash with like... dancing and stuff. Something fun.

If you don't like any of THOSE ideas, you can drop a message in my inbox and I'll list more for you.

I have a LOT of great party ideas. I'm always planning parties for my friends!

Best of luck!

Hope I helped!

♥ Kayla

On the sidebar of the website, it says "Miscellaneous". Down there, there is a link that says "Page Backgrounds". Go there, choose a background that you want. On that, there is a little code. Highlight it, and copy it. Then, go to "Column Settings" and where it says "Page Background URL", paste the code there. Click submit, and you got yourself a background.

Best of luck!

Hope I helped!

♥ Kayla

Well...
you need to cool your temper because it's hot. You have a hot temper and one day, you COULD get SO mad that you hurt someone really badly.

Talking to Kenzee probably won't work so if you hate her, just avoid her. She seems pretty conceited if you ask me and people like that don't DESERVE to be in your life.

Did Abby TELL you she gave Kenzee your password? Because if she didn't, you have no reason to be angry... unless she really did it and you have proof that she did.

Just count to ten and hold your breath. Wait until SHE starts crap before you get all mad. That way, Abby won't get mad at YOU for staring stuff with her "friend".

Try that. It should work!

Best of luck!

Hope I helped!

♥ Kayla ♥

Awww...
I really think you should NOT give up on this. Keep trying. Talk to him EVERY DAY and tell him how much you care about him... you can't just let go of someone like that.

You think of him a lot and I'm sure he thinks of you, too.

Talk to him. Tell him how much he has chnged your life... forever. Tell him that you care about him and no matter what, you always will. Tell him that you don't think you'll ever be happy again if he's not in your life. Tell him it's not easy to be someone like you, with a lot of feelings that go unnoticed. Just tell him how you feel.

If he has a heart, he'll listen and hang on to your every word.

Remember, you can talk to me anytime, if you need to.

Best of luck!

Hope I helped!

♥ Kayla ♥

The answer to your question is to tell her EXACTLY what you told everyone here on advicenators... how you feel.

You need to tell her that you're her friend... why would you do that for ABSOLUTELY no reason?

Explain to her that it's not worth fighting over and you don't want to lose a friend over something like this. This is a stupid reason to fight.

Tell her these things. If she won't listen to you, try telling her the same words in different words... does that make any sense? LOL.

It means try telling her what you've been trying to tell her, but use different words.

Same concept, different words.

Do this and it is sure to work. She'll understand if you tell her that a friendship is more important than something on a website.

If you need more advice or need to talk, email me at x_pink_x109@yahoo.com or email me in my advicenators inbox! :-)

Best of luck!

Hope I helped!

♥ Kayla ♥

Hey!
I have been in your situation. I'm going into 8th grade and the same thing happened to me in 7th grade.

I think you should just tell him straight up that you like him. You're probably pretty and OBVIOUSLY a sweet girl and that guy is lucky to have you like him. He wouldn't know what he was missing if he didn't go out with you.

If you are the shy type, you can write a note. Thatc works too.

Another way is by telling someone that you like them by getting a friend to do it for you.
(Make sure that friend doesn't like that boy either. Once, I asked a friend to tell a HOT boy that I liked him but she asked him out and he said YES! It sucked. I still hate her to this day.)

Remember, if you need anymore advice, you can come to me anytime!

You can also email me at x_pink_x109!
O.K?

♥ Kayla

You shouldn't use the foundations/powder or anything because that's what causes pimples. They clog your pores. You should buy "Clean&Clear". It's not the CHEAPEST stuff in the world but it works like a DREAM!

Also, that stuff is made for sensitive or easily itchy skin so it won't hurt/harm you in any way.

You should go one to two days without putting foundation on. Let your skin breathe so it can heal.

If you need to talk or need more advice, you can email me at x_pink_x109@yahoo.com or just email me in my advicenators inbox!

♥ Kayla

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