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I'm writing my boyfriend of 7 months a note, I really want it to have an impact on him. He's amazing and honest and wonderful and I don't know what I'd be without him, and I've expressed that alot through the letter. Last week, I screwed up majorly and that's why i'm writing this note to him.
-- Last week I went snowboarding and I met this guy, before an hour had passed he had asked me to make out with him, since I have a loving and caring boyfriend I didn't make out with him because it's wrong, right? Like always, NO never works on a guy, so naturally he kept on harassing me. Insted of making out, we agreed on hugging. I told my boyfriend this, and to some people this might seem "over protective" or "obsessed", but he got really upset with me.
Everything is wrong now, so I told him I didn't hug him, i just dont' want to lose him. I know i should have confessed and stayed that way, but you've got to see it from my point of veiw. What I'm trying to say is, is there anything more to put in the letter to make an impact on him... I also need to have advice on what to say to my boyfriend about the other guy.
Please help, I'm desparate. (link)
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Writing your boyfriend a love letter is a great idea. Be personal, be specific (say WHY you love him, WHAT it is that makes him great, HOW he makes you feel special, etc.)
However, confessing your actions with this other snowboard guy is probably something you should do in person, not in a letter. Make these two separate things.
In private, in person- talk to your boyfriend, and tell him the truth about what happened with the snowboard guy. Explain why you did what you did, explain that it didn't mean anything, and that you DO love him, and listen to him. Tell him you want to fix it, since it seems he's hurt. Listen to him- let him explain how he feels. Hopefully you'll work it out.
Do the letter seperately, and when you write it and give it to him, let it be for no other reason than the fact that you love him. (or perhaps "love" is too strong of word... but you know how you feel, not me)
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Hi, Advicenators. Normally I make up my own mind, but I need a little help. If you're going to be sarcastic or rude, don't bother.
Gender: female
Grade: Eighth
I have a problem with my Sunday School teacher. You see, I honestly believe that I have more Biblical knowledge than her. I know that sounds conceited.. but it just seems like it! Yesterday (Easter Sunday) our "lesson" was on miracles. This is what the conversation was like:
Teacher:Who can preform miracles?
Teacher:Only Jesus can preform miracles! No one else can!
Me:*raises hand*
Teacher:yes?
Me:But Jesus isn't the only one who can preform miracles.. Paul, Elija, Elisha, the Devil, the Twelve Disciples.. they all preformed miracles..
Teacher:No, no, no. That's not what I said..
Me:You said "Only Jesus can preform miracles".
Teacher:Anyway, girls, as you see.. blah, blah, blah.
At this time, I'm feeling pretty screwed over since she just blew me off. All of that conversation is an exact quote. This was the third time that I was able to correct her (and the third time I got blown off) yesterday alone! It happens every Sunday.. she doesn't know the lesson, she doesn't know what she's talking about.. It makes me mad!
I know that I am much, much more mature Spiritually, mentally, emotionally, and in my knowledge of the Bible and Christ.. (not trying to sound conceited..) but the lessons are never fufilling! I could gather more from my eight-year old sister's Sunday School lesson. Get this: I was the only girl in my class of seventh and eighth grade girls that knew what the Rapture was! Oh my gosh! How dumb?!
So, I was considering talking to my youth pastor about this. I'm naturally shy, and I don't like to put myself in that position.. but this is so annoying.. and a waste of my Sunday morning! So.. do you think I should speak to my youth pastor about this?
PS - I don't really get along with my teacher, I'm nice to her... but we don't get along. :\
PPS - Sorry it's so long! Thanks in advance.. (link)
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If you're feeling discouraged, by all means, talk to your youth pastor about this. Sunday School should encourage you to grow in your faith, not make you think it's a waste of time and make you not want to be there.
But one thing I'd like to bring up... maybe in the future, instead of correcting your teacher in front of the entire class, talk to her aside. It's annoying as a teacher to have students demean your authority and interrupt your lesson. Yes, she's making mistakes. But you have to remember, she's only human. So instead of telling her she's wrong, be satisfyed with the knowledge that you DO know what the Bible says, and just don't let her wrong information affect your beliefs.
I only say this because I've had experience as a teacher. I teach swim lessons, and last summer I had one kid who seemed to think that the way I ran the "rainbow jump in" game was wrong. Now, his refusal to play by my rules interrupted the class, and made the other kids less likely to want to listen to me, too. I know it's not the same thing as blasphemy, but do keep in mind that your teacher probably isn't trying to lead you the wrong way, and even if it's not new book learning, you are benefitting from these sunday school classes on some spiritual level.
A note to end this long (probably not all useful) advice, Jesus was ALWAYS humble, a lesson we can all learn from. And God DOES work in mysterious ways- ways we don't and can't always understand.
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hey. my best friend moved last year, well during the summer of 8th grafe to high school, and well we haven't talked much. i text-ed her yesterday and we just texted each other back and forth for a little bit. i wanna ask her to come over and maybe hang out cause its spring break and all but i don't know what to do. can anyone give me any ideas? she's really preppy and her dad is the president of the school board and she's very riche she moved very far away and i want her visit to mean something! i rate well! :) Thanks in advance! (link)
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Since you guys were best friends, I'm sure you shouldn't have a problem finding fun stuff to do. Don't worry too much about her "preppy" status, etc... it didn't prevent you being friends with her before, did it?
Anyways, I do understand that hanging out with long-distance friends IS different than hanging with friends you see every day at school, but it's really not that different. But for a few ideas...
-Shopping is fun.
-go to a fun coffee/bagel/ice cream/whatever place and spend 2 hours gabbing as you eat/drink.
-do the stuff you used to do in elementary school but haven't done for years (like swings at the park, sidewalk chalk, basketball, board games, disney movies, hair braiding, etc.)
-go see a movie, or rent movies to watch at home
Since you haven't talked in a while, you'll either find that you've both changed and the friendship isn't the same, OR you'll find that you've both got so much to tell each other about your lives that you'll spend the whole time talking.
I've almost always found the 2nd option to be true... I moved in 9th grade, and now I'm away at college, so I now have long-distance friends in many locations. One of my best friends, Molly, and I only see each other about once every 6 months (for the past 5 years now) and we don't talk or email often inbetween, yet when we're together, it's like nothing has changed. A couple days ago, I visited her and we spent the entire Saturday together, went out for lunch, watched movies at her house, but most of the time we just talked- about everything and anything.
Do you have other friends that your best friend was friends with before she moved? Maybe you could arrange to meet up with some of them when she visits. My friends sometimes did this for me after I moved- I'd be back for a weekend, and spend the night at Molly's, but then Molly and I would go out for coffee with 2 other friends.
Anyways, good luck. Send me a message in my inbox if you want more of my stories on the whole friends-after-moving thing- I've got many more encouraging stories I could share, if you want.
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I was thinking about dumping my boyfriend, but I don't know if I want to now. One of my "friends" found out and told him and one of his best friends! He thinks I'm mad at him and stuff, but I'm not! I keep telling him that I'm not! BUt he still says I'm sorry! Some of my other friends were telling him that I was made at him because he didn't kiss me or anything at the movies over the weekend, and I don't really care. His best friend sent me a message that said that he was shy and he was sorry he didn't hold my hand or anything at the movies so he was gonna ask me to go to the movies this weekend to make it up to me. Now I don't know what to do, because if I do break up with him he's gonna think it is because of that. And I don't want him to think that, because it's not! And I don't know what to do! Someone please help me!!! (link)
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Why are you thinking about dumping him? You need to ask yourself that. Once you have a clear answer... then you need to talk to him. Explain that you're not mad at him, he hasn't done anything wrong, etc. but that [insert reason for ending relationship]. Talk to him in private and in person, if possible.
Take note that shy guys are often the ones who are the most noticably sensitive, so be gentle in whatever you do.
And perhaps it's time to change how much you tell your "friends". Gossip can cause a lot of problems and drama that you don't need. In the future, keep sensitive information to yourself, only telling those who really need to know, or those you really know you can trust to keep it to themselves.
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I'm 16, i get told i'm pretty, 5'3, 120lbs, brown hair and eyes, sophmore, friendly, funny, and i love just about everyone... ok well thats the 411 on me but theres a huge problem with it: I'm sick of being single! Ive been single for waaaayyyy too long now. I want a real relationship that lasts! I used to like this one guy who just got out of a really long relationship, so that obviously didnt work out so well... then i started liking this other guy who goes to another school (i still kinda like him now too but things are confusing) and i THINK he likes me too. He's let me drive his car w/o my permit, he's taken me to this romantic park that i really wanted to go to so i metioned it to him and he surprized me, he didnt smoke for a week because i dont like it, he's spontaneously stopped by my house to pick me up, he takes pics of me on his camera and he left a message on my phone last week saying that he was looking through them and seeing me made him happy so he thought he'd call me... basically hes done adorable things like that! but the problem his he has a gf that he got after i started having a thing for him... i heard about it before he talked to me about it and he said "do you think i was sober when i asked her out?? no.." and "youre better than her, thats why i'm more worried about you being mad right now than even being with her" but yet like 3 weeks later he's STILL going out with her. I have a feeling he likes me, but since i'm not a skank i wont do all the things that his "gf" will do with him (i wont do them especially because he has the gf now). I think that he's falling for me and my personality but he's still with her because he wants some.. but i dont want that at all! I want a boyfriend who will love me for me.. i dont want to get played!!! what should I do?? PLEASE (link)
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If you want a decent relationship... you need to only consider decent guys. Set your standards high.
A guy who flirts with another girl and leads her on while he has a girlfriend does not sound like a decent guy to me. If you don't like smoking, don't date a smoker (it takes more than 1 week to quit). If you want a guy who's romantic, that's awesome- but make sure it's GENUINE romance, not just pick-up lines and romantic gestures to impress you.
Hang in there- the right guy is out there, really.
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I ave this "condition" called lumbar lordosis where your lower back curves out so your butt really sticks out. I went to physical therapy and got kick butt abs to control it and now its a lot better. You can barely tell. But I have trouble fitting into jeans (i have to get a few sizes larger), skirts (the sideseam curves), and shorts and capris. I'm skinny and i know i have a good body to fit into this stuff, but it's the back-curving-out-slightly problem that won't let me wear anything but long shorts and huge jeans. Can i have some help or stores where i can get some good clothes?? 13/f SHOULD wear size 16 slim (link)
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Juniors clothes are designed to fit curves better than girls clothes. I know that when I was 11, I switched to shopping in the juniors department, and it changed what I could wear.
I'm no where near tiny, so the problem of finding jeans to fit a big butt has always been a problem for me- I find that when I find a pair to fit in the hips, the waist is way too big and there's a gap in the back. The best solution I've found for this is to wear stretch jeans. They have the flexibility to fit your curves better than regular jeans.
For brands, I like Unionbay shorts and Levi jeans. I also like Old Navy.
Also, wearing a belt helps cinch the waist of too-big pants or shorts.
Another thing I look for is shorts or capri's with a drawstring. Then you can get them to fit your hips, but it won't look too big in the waist.
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Over the past few weeks my boyfriend has seemed [for lack of better words] wilted. He isn't happy, around me that is. He just came over so we could study for a test, and he was TOTALLY uniterested in me.. like over and over I asked him if I was that uninteresting, and if I was that unatractive and he said no to both, but that didn't change his mood.. I'm getting mixed singals here. Yes I have talked to him about this but what else can I do? (link)
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It might not be you. Have you asked him what else is going on in his life? Maybe it's a family issuse, or something with school/grades, or friends... you have to realize that you're not the only person in your boyfriend's life. Be supportive, but not prying. Tell him you're here for him if he wants to talk, or just needs a shoulder to cry on.
I've dealt with the same thing with my boyfriend. Sometimes he's argued with his mom, other times there's another reason for his bad mood. He's quiet and withdrawn, and sometimes just needs to be alone. When it happens, I just give him a hug and tell him that I'm here, and do my best to cheer him up and take his mind off things.
Of course, if it gets to be too much, and you're finding that you don't like being around a crabby, depressing guy, then maybe it's time to move on from this relationship. It's up to you.
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i thought i should ask a guy for their opinion .. ok there is this guy name josh and we went out over the summer then broke up a day before school started. I still like him. we havent tlaked in a while but the other day we did a little bit. Last week my friend asked him would he ever go back out with me, and he just smiled. but he has a girlfriend. Also, alst week someone asked him would he ever go out wth this girl name brooke nad he said nnooo .. but he didnt say yes or no when someone asked about me. Then wed. at church, he sat near me but not right next to me .. it went me, his friend murphy(murphy likes me) and then josh and we talked in a group for a little bit. Do you think he still likes me? what should i do? im 14 and female and i need the truth .. please dont just tell me what i want to hear .. i need to hear the truth! (link)
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First of all, I'm not a guy. So you won't get that opinion from me.
However, to answer your question anyways...
There's a simple truth my friends and I have discovered: Boys are stupid, and girls are confusing. Us girls tend to overanalyze stuff. Boys usually say and do what they mean, and they don't pick up on hints from girls.
So in your case... there's a good chance that this guy Josh likes you. HOWEVER, he has a girlfriend. So I hope that he still likes her. If he breaks up with her soon, then it's very likely that a relationship between you and him would work. But if he stays with his girlfriend, then I recommend you forget about Josh and find another guy to like.
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i dated this guy but the timming wasn't right .. anyways we have been talking and we are going out on friday.. actually i'm going over to his house .. my question is even though we have been through that and we have done stuff physically ..its like our 1st date since like 6 months ..are we supposed to catch up were we left of or start again? i mean physically (link)
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Do what feels comfortable. Start slow, but if the chemistry is happening, and you feel like going further when you're making out (or whatever) then it might be okay to progress to where you were before.
I'm currently in a long distance relationship, and it is a little wierd to see my boyfriend less than once a month. When I was home for Christmas break, at first I only wanted to kiss and stuff, but after a few evenings together, I was okay to go a little further.
Basically, I'm just saying that you probably won't want to jump him the moment he walks in the door, but as the night goes on, if you're comfortable, it's okay to go further than you would on a normal first date with a guy.
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This is for all you lovely ladies out there.
- What types of things do you like to hear.
Example. "You're beautiful"
What other things do you like being told.
Thanks!
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Genuine compliments are the key.
Be specific- tell her exactly what you like about her. "You have a cute laugh" "I love looking into your eyes" "Your smile is so bright" "You have a tight ass"
Be spontaneous- compliment her when she's not necessarily expecting it.
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i want to decorate my bedroom for my sweet sixteen! i am up for any ideas but i have to stay cheap. can any one give me ideas or good websites? (link)
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pbteen IS awesome, but it's also not cheap. However, I'd agree that it's a great starting point for ideas... ideas that you can create by buying stuff at target/walmart/other and recycling what you have.
A new coat of paint and a fresh bedspread are great ways to give your room a fresh look and clean start.
Get crafty! Do you like flowers? Buy silk ones and glue to lampshades, curtain rings, etc. Like furry fun stuff? Buy yards of faux fur in bright colors and glue around wastepaper baskets, mirrors.
Make a collage out of magazine pictures and put them in simple frames. Make your own art- invite some friends over, give them paint (or markers and crayons- it's up to you) and some large pieces of paper- let them create masterpieces for you!
Google is your friend for finding more ideas. Or go to your local library and look through magazines.
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I am 13/f, 14 in july, but i took a baby-stting class for 2 days at a saint francis hospital...well now that i have done that, i dont know what to do! i mean theres like nobody i can babysit! anybody know a site that i can go to thats like a teen babysitting line or soemthing haha!?!? (link)
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I don't think soliciting babysitting jobs over the internet is a very good idea. It's not very safe- you don't know who you're dealing with over the internet, and just like they say about chatrooms, there are a lot of perverts out there.
A better option would be to go around your neighborhood. Talk to any of your neighbors that you already know who have little kids- let them know that you've taken this class, and that you're available as a babysitter.
You could make fliers and give them to your neighbors, too.
Another place to look for babysitting clients is at church, if you go to a church. Corner parents as they pick up their little tykes after nursery. Put a flier on a bulletin board where people can see.
Do your parents have any friends with little kids? Ask them to spread the word that you're looking for babysitting jobs.
If you have younger siblings, let the parents of their friends know that you babysit.
I'm sure there are lots of parents in your community looking for a great babysitter. You just have to know how to find them. Good luck!
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I want to make a pie for my friends on pi day, because it's funny and dorky and this monday (3/14!) but I've never made a pie before. What's the easiest pie to make? (link)
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The crust is the hardest part of making pie.
So, I'd reccomend making a pie with a no-bake crust. You can buy pre-made graham cracker crusts at the grocery store.
Then fill it with some sort of pudding or fruity jello filling. I think you'd be able to find some easy recipes online from either Jello, Cool-whip, or Phillidelphia cream cheese.
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every1- i have a huggeeeee prob with my school dress code. for gradutiation and confirmation were expected to dress up. as for the dress, it has to cover shoulders! ive looked EVERYWHERE for a semi-formal dress with some kind of sleeves...plz tell me where to find one! 14/8th grade/f (link)
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If you can't find a dress with sleeves, another option would be to wear a sweater with a sleeveless dress.
Try a light cotton sweater with 3/4 length sleeves in white or some pastel color that matches your dress.
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ok. So I met this girl on the internet, shes really nice, my age, lives near me etc.. but just a little while ago, I rang her up.. and she sounded like a guy.. I mean, I'm not shallow or anything, but it kinda just freaks me out, And now I don't know what to do.. should I give her a chance, or not bother?
BTW I have another girl I aslo likes.. she is also really nice, 15, fun, and yeah...
signed, Confused 17/m (link)
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She might sound like a guy on the phone, but be a total hottie in person.
If you want to pursue a relationship with this internet girl, arrange to meet in a public place. Bring a friend along, be safe.
If, when you suggest meeting, she doesn't like the idea, it just might be that "she" has been lying to you, and actually is a guy (or she's just paranoid about meeting some guy she only met over the internet, but then again, she did already give you her number)
If she agrees to meet you, but when you get there you find that you're not attracted to her, it's like any blind date. Be nice, but at the end of the date say you'd just like to be friends.
About the 15 year old that you already know... that sounds promising, though two years can be a bit too much of an age gap. Pursue this relationship with caution, should the other one not work out.
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to those of you who go to college: is 18 hours a semester a little too much? i'm a highschool senior, graduating early, and i also want to get through college as fast as possible too. i also want to work while i'm there... does this mean that i'd have no social life whatsoever? i don't want to kill myself with schoolwork like i have been this whole year but i also want to get out of there asap, i have my reasons. (link)
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It really depends on the school, what type of classes they are, and your own personal work ethic.
I had 17 credits last semester, and did just fine. But because of the type of classes I had (education, developmental psych., history) I was constantly writing papers. This semester I've got 15 credits and I'm often bored, and have much less homework but more studying (this semester I've got math and education classes).
The recommended number of credits at my school is 15. That's supposedly 15 hours in class, and 30 hours of work outside of class per week.
Is there an academic advisor you can talk to? She/he should be able to give you some relevant advice. (though I recommend taking everything an advisor says with a grain of salt- sometimes they've been known to give bad advice)
One guy I know is graduating this year, after only 3 years here. He entered with credits from high school, and took at least 18 credits a semester, plus about 6 every summer. He DID have to work his butt off, but it was worth it to him- he was able to get married at age 20 and will be done with school this may.
As a general rule, math and science classes (or any big lecture class) have a lot of studying. English, history, and other humanities type classes have more papers to write. So the best way to balance your schedule is to take a mix of these type of classes if possible. Don't take 18 credits worth of science, you'll end up with all your exams at the same time and go crazy trying to study. At the same time, if you take 18 credits of humanities courses, you'll probably have at least 6 different classes to get homework from, and that workload would be insane.
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hey Im 13/f and im in the 8th grade lately I have been thinking about college and I plan to go. I just dont know whats the best college to apply to in or around NY or not to far away I need to know things about it and like top 10 best thnx (link)
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There is no "best" college. You should choose a college to fit your skills, personality, major preferences, etc... not just go to a school because it's known as the best.
You're just in 8th grade. While it's great that you're starting to think about this, you've got a long time until you really need to start looking at colleges. For now, focus on making the most out of high school. Do the extracurricular activities you enjoy, try to get involved in your community, take classes that interest you and work hard to get the best grades you can. Most people don't start to seriously think about colleges until their junior year. Personally, I waited until the summer before my senior year to narrow down my choices to a list of about 8-10 prospective schools to research.
To learn more about different colleges, check out websites like www.collegeboard.com or www.princetonreview.com. This sort of site will tell you statistics about each school- how many students, student/faculty ratios, majors offered, availability of on-campus housing, etc.
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Ok i really realy really really really love this guy............ but he lives kinda far away! And the other day this guy that i've had a crush on since i was 8 asked me out .... i told him i dunno but i dunno! lol i mean im so confused! i love them both and i cant decide ............. im so confused! I wanna be with em both but we all know that's not possible! i just wanna be able to know ..... but i also dont wanna hurt ANYONES feelings! i mean .... do i really have to do what i think i have to do? and if so i just cant! it'll break his heart and i think im the only one that's here for him ..... i love him but there's just a few miles keeping us apart........ also my mom says if he comes down here she'll kill him! (and i dont doubt my mom) And the other guy she's known since i've known him and she likes him and (dur) so do i but what am i supposed to do? I cant hurt anyone i just cant but what if that's what i have to do? even if i dont want to? Which guy should i be with? and (also the guy that lives miles away lives in a whole another state away and he's ugly but the sweetest ever) thanks!
LOSTdazedANDconfuzzled
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Okay, so there's one guy who lives miles away that your mom doesn't like.
And there's the other guy, who's right here, your mom likes him, AND he likes you.
In my mind, it's pretty cut and dry. Date the guy who's here. Long distance relationships suck ass, and it's always easier when the parents approve.
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Well, My friend is REALLY into this one guy. She told him she liked him on a class trip. They aren't going out but are really close. I found out a couple of days ago that he KISSED her in the copy room..*cough*. Anyway, He isn't really into her and says he likes her as a friend. But, He's touched her in places, called her hot and now kissed her. What's up with him? He says he wants to just be friends but...doesn't seem that way. It seems like either that's incorrect or..He's using her.
By the way, He's had tons of gfs before and isn't a virgin. I'm worried about my friend. He's that kind of guy that..could rape. I'm really worried about her.
Any idea of what's up?
-En Garde' (link)
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Beat him up.
No, seriously... it sounds like you're right... this guy is using your friend, and it needs to stop before she gets hurt.
She won't want to hear it, because she likes him, but as her friend, YOU can and need to do something.
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I want to make my hair look sort of touseled, sexy, curly. People tell me to use gel to scrunch it but it just makes it look chunky and wet...anything else I can do to make it look dry yet touseled? (link)
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It only works to just scrunch with gel if your hair has at least some wave to it. If your hair is completely straight, then you'll have to resort to curlers, curling iron, etc. to get curly hair.
Also, I like mousse better than gel for getting curls.
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