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~A little Advice for the broken hearts~
You are afraid and hurt and you dont know what to do. You feel empty and alone, like the whole world has just ended. You have a hole in your heart one that feels like it can never be repaired, but just know that in time that hole will be gone. Getting your heart broken is like getting a deep cut. It hurts really bad, and no matter what you do you cant stop thinking about it because you know its there and its hurting, but with a few stitches and a little tlc (friends and family helping you through) and some antibiotic ointment (ice cream) soon that cut will only be a scar (a memory) it will always be there but it wont hurt anymore, you are strong and you can make it through this!!
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There is this boy i like, he is also one of my close friends but he is not the same guy as the guy i was talkin about in my other question 'I have a crush on my best friends major crush',i have taken that advice and have gave up on his crazy signs and fighting with my friend for it.
I have liked this guy for a while now,even when i liked the other guy.
He is really sweet and nice to me, we hang out a lot and talk to each other on social networking.
i think he likes me and have been giving lots of signs, i am not sure if askin for his number would be awkward and will make it obvious that i like him or if it would seem like a friendship thing.
We are great friends and dont keep secrets from each other, all of his friends thinks he likes me and my friends think we would make a great couple.
I dont know if i should tell him how i feel or how he would react.
i really like him and am not sure what to do.
if you really like him, then just go up to him and tell him, the worst he can say is he doesnt like you back.... if he doesnt share the same feelings then dont worry.... you will find someone who will love you just the way you are
Hi.I just want to ask you a question as regards the ''sex before marriage'' thing.Where in the Bible is it forbidden?Who defined fornication as being sexual intercourse before tying(tieing) the marriage ''knot''? And..if one can not wait,then he should marry,according to what Paul said in Corinthians.Ok.But..what if one can not marry at the moment because his parents think he has to get married at 30?or even later?So...does that mean that he has to 'burn'' until the time his parents or other people deem ''right'' for him to get married?If i'm not commanded to ''burn'',why should i?And...masturbation.Is it natural?I have masturbated too,and i,by GOD'S GRACE,have tried to stop it,not doing it now.But,what is the way out?If GOD created human beings and made sexual desire part of the physiology of both married and unmarried people.When married people have the desire for sex,they just do it.When unmarried people(because of certain circumstances) have the desire for the same..what should they do?why does one principle apply to a group of people and does not apply to the other?Where in the BIBLE does that come into play?
I went to my best friend for the answer to your question he is a pastor... here is what he had to say....
First of all, the word fornication it self means sex before marriage. It wasn't the design of the early church just to stifle your desires. It seems as if you are looking for an escape clause to free you from sin. If you want to believe the tennants of the Bible then you have to believe all of its precepts. Jesus said to even look on a woman to lust after her you have already commited adultery in your heart. The Apostle Paul wrote that No fornicators or adulterers will have any place in the Kingdom of God. These are not conepts that are up for interpretation. you have clearly already decided you want sex and now you want God to give you a free pass. It isn't the way. You even went as far to say that it isn't fair that married people can have sex when they want to. Well that my friend is a poor example because God joins husband and wife together. Finally yes the Bible does say it is better to marry than to burn. But if you get married just to have sex it will undboubtedly end in divorce. Seek God for what you are needing and stop looking for loopholes I have listed just a few scriptures on fornication and adultery. You will see there is no gray area
Matthew 15:19, 1 Corinthians 6:18, 1 Corinthians 6:9-10, 1 Corinthians 5:9-11, Revelation 17:1-5. (adultery scriptures) Exodus 20:14, Matthew 5:28, Galatians 5:19,
Hi, I am 33.My ovulations dates are July 21 22 and 23. I had sex intercourse with my husband on July 21 at 8am and 10pm. On July 22 I had sex with condom with my ex around 8pm. I didnt saw that it broke, but to be sure I took an afterpil onJuly 25 at 6pm.(exactly 68 hours after the unprotected sex). Can this protect me of getting pregnant of my ex and still get pregnant of my husband?
You cant just take a pill and knock off the ex's sperm and keep the husbands sorry but it doesnt work that way... If you want to have a baby by your hubby stop having sex with your ex boyfriend thats about the only way you are going to know 100% if its your husbands
Id like to hear yalls opinions about tongue rings on girls 18+. Ive always wanted one because I loveee piercings/tattoos, I like the way they look, and I always like to have something in my mouth like straws, pens, cigarettes (i really want to quit). I wouldn be that girl whos always showing it off and would want it far back enough where its not terribly noticable.
Do you think its trashy when a girl has a tongue ring? (Like i said, not showing if off but if you just noticed when she was lauging or something)
Thanks!
no I have a tongue ring and I am not trashy. Its not a peircing that makes a girl trashy its they way she acts
hi, me and my boyfriend been dating for 11 months now and we love each other a lot. i've recently moved in with him although that was his idea for me to move in with him but i'm happy to be move in with him. i just think it's too soon as well. i love him so much and he loves me loads as well. he says he wants to have a long relationship with me and also he says he is ''serious'' about me. we both are in early 30's. so my question is, what does he mean by ''serious'' and ''long relationship''? more thoughts and answers, please. thank you all for answering. cheers.
Your boyfriend is in love with you and when he says long relationship he means that he wants to be with you for the rest of his life and when he says serious he means that he loves you and he never wants to lose you
I am a senior in college and 21 years old. I had dated my ex boyfriend for a year and a half. I thought he could have been my husband, everything about him seemed so right. i loved his family, and he fit perfectly in with mine. his parents had told him that they saw us being married. this was all until he cheated on me. we had some rough times when we were on and off when we were both very busy with school and our sports that we both play in college. i think we both were very stressed. how do you know if its right? even after everything i can not be mad at him. i love him so much and saw myself having a family with him...i just need thoughts on this.
Your ex boyfriend is not going to change. once a cheater always a cheater if you go back with him that would be like giving him permission to do it again my advice drop the guy like bad habbit and go find yourself a good man who would never hurt you like that good luck and best wishes
Hii I'm Elizabeth
Im havin issues with the relationship my boyfriend assael and my bestfriend esmeralda have. Iv know my boyfriend since we wer in kinder and my bff since the 7th grade. We all hang out sometimes but it's changed resently. My boyfriend and her are now "brother sister" and they talk ALL the time. They txt, go out, party...and idk what to do now. Should I be concerned? Iv ask him before if he likes her and he says no, he just cares for her as a sister. I don't know what to do anymore. can you please help me???
If you are really concerned about it maybe you should sit down with both of them together and talk to them. Tell them how you feel about the two of them spending so much time alone. And try to get them to agree to not be alone together without you. If they really care about you then they will understand why you are feeling like this. If they dont agree then maybe its because they do in fact have something to hide and you should just move on and find someone new that wont betray you like that good luck and best wishes
im 19/female and muy boyfriend is 20
we are so close,we were alone the other day we cuddle,kiss,make out,rubing each other except our parts(my pussy and his penis),he liked and kissed and toched my boobs and my tummy
it lasted about 4-5 hours but he didnt get a boner,is it normal?
we both are virgins
and he is so in love with me
He might be nervous. He really likes you and doesnt want to do something wrong. That maybe stopping him from getting an erection
im 14 and i get stressed out a lot i get stressed because i have an aunt who is 17 DAYS older then me and always saying shes the boss beating me up and i have tons of bruising from her and we always fight. i also want to know if there is a way for her to leave me alone? oh and she always had to be right if shes not she will hit me even when she knows she is wrong. and when she stresses me out i want to walk around so i dont have to be in the house with her. but my mom says no. i do live in a safe town too so nothing will happen i will always have my cell phone on me too. so can any one help me with my 2 questions.
1. how do i get my anut to leave me alone?
2. how to convince my mom to let me walk so i can walk the stress off rather then other things?
Tell someone what she is doing to you this is abuse and its not right. Also you dont want to walk alone but you can try going out with a responisble friend maybe your mom will allow that good luck
i have a guy who sayd we are friends all his friends and mine say there is something more. should i make the first move or wait to see how he feels?
im 15 and i need to know before i embarrass myself
If you like him then let him know. He might feel the same about you and may not want to tell you because he thinks that you might reject him. Just go right up to him and tell him how you are feeling good luck
Hai iam a indian girl, 23 year old. I love a guy. He nd his loves me too. But my family hates his family bcoz his mother stays with her second husband. My family thinks he is also a worst guy like his mother, but he is a gem. I unable to tell my parents about my relationship nd his goodness. I want to marry that guy with my family permission. Hey guys pls give me suggestions about my problem quickly.
You just have to go to them and tell them look I am marrying this man weather you like it or not but he is a nice guy and I love him and I want your blessing. Tell them he is everything to you and he treats you great and that you want to live your life with him. If they dont understand then oh well dont sacrifice your happiness over their selfishness
Hey guys,
I just turned 20 and my boyfriend is 19. We broke up 2 days ago and barely talk. My issue is this. He has a girl friend, a hot girl friend. It never bothered me before actually. But over the Fourth of July weekend I was going to spend the night at his house. He kind of got all shady and said he wasn’t positive if I could spend the night anymore. I was fine with that. Until I got on Facebook and that hot girl posted on his wall that she was so excited for the coming up weekend because they were going to hang out now that she was single and they were going to get high and whatever. This bothered me for multiple reasons. Number one: He swears up and down that he doesn’t do drugs anymore. And number 2: He says he’s unsure if I can come over but now this chick is saying they’re going to get high together? Ugh. I don’t know why she says these things; she knows he has a girlfriend. Anyways I got all upset and stopped talking to my boyfriend for a while. Well he said he talked to the hot girl and told her that she can’t say things like that because I get mad. Then he said he would stop talking to her. So a few weeks went by and he and I got close again. But now all over again he’s friending her on Facebook. I mean I know it’s stupid because I’m kind of getting mad over Facebook. But now he tells me that he’s been lying and that they do talk & that they’re super close and whatever. I mean, I know I shouldn’t be mad but it upsets me. Also the hot chick is best friends/cousins with my boyfriend’s ex. So my boyfriend sees his ex a lot. Maybe I am indeed being overly paranoid but he knows how I feel about all this and finds a way to make it seem like it’s my entire fault. Because then he goes on to talk about how the only reason they’re friends is because they used to do drugs together. Yet, my jealousy makes no sense to him. So, am I wrong for breaking up with him?
No I honestly think youre right to leave him. He had another girl comming over to his house but you couldnt be there. And he is getting high with her, My mind says that if he wants to be alone with a girl and get high most likely he is doing more than that... Also he lied to you about doing drugs thats messed up... And then the third thing he knows how you feel about everything but continues to do it anyway because he didnt care at all how you felt. Stick to your chioce that boy was a waste of time you can do so much better
i'm 19/f, and i've been dating my boyfriend joe for 9 months. my boyfriend and i met at work and we still work at the same place together.
i've never had a problem with our relationship until i met nick. he also works with us and just got hired about 2 months ago. i hate to admit this, but.. for the past month, i've been having feelings for this new guy nick, even though i've been dating joe the whole time.
ever since i met nick, i've been really confused about my relationship with joe. i've seriously considered breaking up with him and i almost did, but i reconsidered at the last minute. i decided that i want to keep dating joe because i still have feelings for him and i love spending time with him...but at the same time i'm starting to realize that i truly want freedom in my life, and i just can't have that if i have a boyfriend, no matter how good of a boyfriend joe is. that's another reason why i feel like i should break up with him - i feel like i'm taking him for granted. he treats me like a princess, and i don't think i deserve to be spoiled like that, especially when my mind is wandering elsewhere.
i don't know what nick wants from me. i have a feeling he's just a player, but i can't tell. i realize that he's not the most eligible bachelor: he has a one-year-old son with his girlfriend, and i haven't heard much about her, except he's remarked that he doesn't want to marry her, and that he wants to take her to court to get custody of his son. but she also lives with him and his parents, so i mean obviously she's in his life for good, whether he wants her there or not.
nick started flirting with me at work about a month ago. he asked me for my number (in a joking way at first) and in response i said, "no, joe's my man!" and gave joe a hug right in front of him. (which joe loved.) that was the moment when nick found out that joe and i were dating.
but since then, nick continues to flirt with me at work. for example, he pokes me in passing and has hugged me, and after a few weeks of that stuff he asked me to hang out one day, so we exchanged numbers. i didn't know what he intended for us to do when we hung out, (i didn't want to put myself in a position where i could cheat on joe. i wouldn't EVER cheat on him, but i didn't want to be put in that position.) so i invited nick's cousin chris (who also works with us) to hang out with us. i tried to make it a friend thing. chris agreed, and nick&chris decided that we should go to chris's house and go swimming.
so nick called me that night like he said he would, and i walked to meet up with him..and me and him drove in his truck to his chris's house.
it was kind of an awkward hang out: i show up with nick at his aunt and uncle's house..and then we all go swimming in their pool: me, nick, his aunt and uncle and his cousin... very weird for the first time hanging out with two teenage guys outside of work..but i lived.
when we got out of the pool i suggested we have a bonfire, and they liked that idea. so nick's aunt and uncle went inside and the guys made a fire. i sat there while they got some beers and smoked a bowl. i don't really drink or smoke, so that was kind of awkward once again, but thought it was fine. i don't know what nick was thinking.
at this point, joe is texting me asking what i'm doing, so i told him i was hanging out with nick and his cousin. joe flipped out, because he has seen nick flirting with me at work and obviously wasn't happy that i decided to hang out with him outside of work. so, i told joe that the hang out was no big deal and that their parents were even joining us for some of it, and that nick wasn't even flirting with me or anything. (which was true.)
joe was still upset though, so i told nick and chris that joe was upset, and they said "hey why don't you invite him over? we never said he couldn't come." so i texted joe their address and then he came over.
once joe got there, we just sat around the fire for another hour or so. by then, it was around 11 P.M. nick said he was hungry and wanted to go to burger king. i was kinda hungry too but i didn't want joe to think i was going to run off with nick so i said nothing and we continued to sit there for another half hour.
another girl from work called chris and asked if he wanted to hang out, so she was invited over and came over. but it was getting late and i needed a ride home (since nick had brought me there.) nick continuously offered to drive me home since he had brought me to his cousin's house in the first place, but joe said he would drive me home too, and i obviously couldn't take a ride from another guy right in front of my boyfriend. so joe took me home that night and that was the end of that.
i haven't seen nick or chris outside of work since then. i'm really confused as to what nick wants from me, because even though he has a girlfriend, he flirts with me.
what do you think nick wants from me? do you think he wants me in his life as a friend, or something more? i feel like if we were both single, we would have hooked up or would have talked about liking each other by now, but maybe nick just treats every girl this way - i can't tell.
i've been a good girl my whole life, and i've always done the right thing. i can't forgive myself for having feelings for another guy while having a boyfriend. i feel so guilty about it, but i would never take it any further than the emotions in my head - i'd never cheat on joe.
what should i do about my relationship with joe? the less i analyze my relationship (or lack thereof) with nick, the easier it is for me to ease back into my relationship with joe, but i don't know if i'm in a relationship for the right reasons. i know nick is probably not the right guy for me - i mean, he comes with a lot of baggage for one thing, and he's also not even single - but i can't stop thinking about him. and i know i shouldn't, because i already have a good boyfriend.
does having feelings for another guy mean i should break up with my boyfriend? does it mean that i subconsciously don't really like my boyfriend that much? i'm so lost.
Having a small crush on another guy doesnt make you a bad person. We cant just be attracted to one person, just as long as we dont cheat its fine. Look but dont touch...
Stay with your boyfriend, you obviously love him and this other guy has a girlfriend. If he is trying to get with you then he definatly is a player and you dont need that.
Not only that but if you get with him, you have to lose your boyfriend, and gain all the baby mama drama and trust me you dont want that either.
Dont put yourself in positions where you can grow closer or cheat on him. Keep your friendship just at work dont meet up after and maybe get your number changed... this will only lead to temptations and you dont want to make a huge mistake and ruin the love you share with your boyfirend..
Stay with the boyfriend and drop the other guy like a bad habit :)
So this is about a past crush, who I will admit..I was obsessed with. I liked him 2 years ago..but I'm just confused on the way he acted. I have no means on being with this guy, he's cocky and stuck up..I shouldn't have even liked him.
He always did these things:
1.Stared at me, sometimes before I looked at him.
2. At dances he'd be watching my friends and I.
3.My friends told me he looks at me, and he looked
at my chest, bottom etc.
4. This year, the first time we seen each other he looked right at me, with his mouth hanging open -.-
What does this mean? Or I'm I thinking way to much into it. That's probably it. xD
Thanks anyway!
Maybe he does like you but you will never know if you dont ask him and I dont see the point of asking him if you have no intention of being with him. Just forget about it... If you dont like him then just go find someone you do like and let this boy stay in your past
21 female
I've known this guy whose 18 for a long time. I haven't always been close with him. Just recently we've started "talking"
But now it freaks me out. I'm the kind of girl that when someone likes you, you run away. But he treats me sooo good. I still live with my parents but they went out of town last weekend and so he came and stayed with me because I don't like being alone. Well he made the bed, he did the dishes and took out the trash even when I told him not to. He bought me dinner. He doesn't try to hook up with me, he knows that's not what I want. He respects me. He's everything a girl could ever want.
But why is it that I am losing feelings for him now? Is he too nice to me? He tells me I'm beautiful at least 20 times a day and for some reason that freaks me out. He tells me all the time he likes me. So why am I suddenly feeling annoyed by him? And now I seem to start thinking he's not even cute anymore. What's wrong with me!!! I couldn't ask for a better guy, so why am I so afraid?
I don't know what to do. I know if I told him I wasn't interested and let him go, I'd miss him to death and probably wouldn't come across another guy who treats me like he does. I'd be letting go of a great thing. But if I continue to be with him, I don't want to hurt him if things don't work out and my feelings for him go away.
Any advice? :\
Talk to him and let him know how you are feeling. You dont want to lose him but you are afraid. You are so use to doing things on your own and just having to worry about you and being by yourself, and this relationship means you arent alone, its not just worrying about you anymore its him too... Youre right he is a great guy and you dont want to just throw it away unless you are truely unhappy, but keeping everything bottled up is going to make things worse so let him in good luck and best wishes
No matter which girl I date, Once I have met their father, I feel as if they are going to rape them. It's an odd fear I've developed and I don't know why. I've never been raped. Nor have I dated a girl whose father raped them.(That I know of) But I feel like I have to watch their fathers and be sure that he doesn't get fresh and doesn't do anything sexual with them. Yet I don't mind her having male friends or hanging around other guys without me. Just their father.
Maybe something happened in your past that you cant remember like when you werer little maybe a girl you knew got raped... also you know how horrid people in this world can be and you just get over protective... I can get parinoid sometimes too I dont like to be left alone with any man except my hubby, also I dont let my kids alone with anyone except me or their dad because i dont want anything to happen to them... you are just being protective but if it worries you maybe try going to see a councellor and try to find out why you feel this way good luck
I am losing so much hair and i don't know why! I have been battling a yeast infection for a bit, it's pretty bad. I had an awful experience with monistat 1 and it gave me an allergic reaction. i also slept over my cousin's house with a cat and i'm highly allergic. could that cause hair loss? in the bath tub there's so much hair and a chunk of eyelashes are missing... is this because of my infection?
I dont think that you could lose your hair from a yeast infection... Here is a link to a page with info on why your hair could be falling out
http://www.webmd.com/skin-problems-and-treatments/hair-loss/features/women-hair-loss-causes?page=2
I suggest you go to your doctor and find out what is going on good luck
When my stomach is full, why do I get pains in my back, throat, & stomach when I breathebin? (only happens sometimes) do you think it's just my anxiety making me think there's something wrong?? Please help!
maybe youre just getting too full. I know when my hubby and I go to places like old country buffet he eats so much his stomach hurts and he feels sick maybe you are having the same problem
when i was 18, i got my belly button pierced. i did my best to clean it, but it ended up getting infected anyway. i immediately took it out, and i thought it healed. then i noticed this reddish bump above my bellybutton, it looks pretty small, but when i touch it, i can tell it's bigger than it seems (it feels like a small rock under my skin, if that makes sense). also, it hurts just a bit if i touch it too hard. i just want to know what it is! thanks in advance!
Sounds like it is just scar tissue... if you are worried you can go to the doctor but I dont think its anything other than scar tissue
Why do I feel soo full after I eat or drink the littlest things?? Also, why so I get so bloated looking like I'm pregnant?!
maybe you just have a small stomach.. thats good though that way you will eat less and not gainweight too fast :)