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Odd feeeling no matter whom I date.
No matter which girl I date, Once I have met their father, I feel as if they are going to rape them. It's an odd fear I've developed and I don't know why. I've never been raped. Nor have I dated a girl whose father raped them.(That I know of) But I feel like I have to watch their fathers and be sure that he doesn't get fresh and doesn't do anything sexual with them. Yet I don't mind her having male friends or hanging around other guys without me. Just their father.
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Maybe give some free advice about: Mental health?
How is your relationship with YOUR father? While you may not have been subjected to any type of sexual abuse, other types of abuse (physical/verbal/mental) as well as neglect or abandonment may be contributing to your trust issues.
If it makes you feel any better... I'm a heterosexual female and I have never been sexually abused. However, when I was younger, I remember feeling the same way while visiting some of my friend's houses. For example, I had a friend named Samantha that I spent a lot of time with. Her step-father never did or said anything that could be considered inappropriate to my knowledge, but whenever he was around I would get a serious case of the creepies. (Honestly, her whole family kind of struck me as odd.)
I believe I felt this way because I was abandoned by my natural father and was never able to really bond with my step-father. Bonding with and trusting men has always been difficult for me. It required a concentrated effort on my part to overcome this particular obstacle in my romantic relationships.
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Maybe something happened in your past that you cant remember like when you werer little maybe a girl you knew got raped... also you know how horrid people in this world can be and you just get over protective... I can get parinoid sometimes too I dont like to be left alone with any man except my hubby, also I dont let my kids alone with anyone except me or their dad because i dont want anything to happen to them... you are just being protective but if it worries you maybe try going to see a councellor and try to find out why you feel this way good luck
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