Allow me to introduce myself, I am the Knight Owl. Or, as my friends know me, Sean. I can't guarantee that I can solve your problems. But the majority of the people I know seem to come to me for advice. I listen to people very well, and I assess. Sometimes I can offer suggestions, other times there are no suggestions. But I promise to try my best. Remember, everyone has problems, I know I do. All you need to do is ask. I invite you, to talk to me on AIM or Yahoo, if you want to ask me privately for some advice.
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i had went out with my boyfriend "Andrew" for 6 months, almost 7. For the first couple of months, he was so sweet. he would always talk to me online and go out with me. Then he changed. he started not talking to me. Now, I'm not exactly popular in school, but still. It was like I didn't exist. He let his asshole of a friend make fun of me. There were rumors he was going out with another girl, which turned out not to be true. I broke up with him, because I knew i deserved better than what he was treating me. But i can't stop thinking about him. How am I supposed to get over him and stop thinking about him? (link)
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Really, the best way to stop thinking of one priority, is to get a new priority. Either a new boyfriend or some sort of activity. Sports, extracurriculars. What ever. But I wouldn't let this guy get to you. You're right you do deserve better than him. Take up a hobby if you don't want a relationship. Or, this sometimes helps, if you like to write, or have a creative mind, write a series of stories and make this Andrew guy the basis for the antagonist. It will relieve so much stress. Well good luck.
-The Knight Owl
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Okay,me and my bf had been going out for like a month now..I love him somuch and i think he feels the same..well he definetely said he did.And like today i was just like "do you think maybe we should just be friends since school is starting in like 2 weeks?" cuz he lives like 25-30 min. away so i only see him like twice a week :( and he was like "i don't know :( what do you think?" and i was just like "idk either cuz i think ur gonna like other girls at ur school" and like i just wanted to see if he would wanna do that and I dont know...we did break up and now i feel horrible..everyone that talks to him about it says that he is really heartbroken and he loves me a lot...but i dont know!We live far away and I think just maybe hes hiding his feelings :/ but I just dont know..help plz.. I MISS HIM! (link)
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Your answer is simple, and yet complicated. You too love each other, we've gathered that much. So be with him. Who cares about distance, the thought that you belong to him and he belongs to you should be enough, you have the phone, you have the internet. Its not like he's being launched into space with no means of contact. Love conquers all. PLEASE! Don't make the same mistake I did. I screwed up my one true chance at happiness with my ex, and I've never forgiven myself. She was still in high school, and I was getting ready to start college. We lived right down the street, and yet we had no time for each other. But we were happy when we were able to get together. But I was an idiot, I told her that we weren't spending enough time together, and that it was going to be even harder when she graduated. I miss her more than anything. And I screwed it up, I've never forgiven myself for that. So please don't make that mistake, love will find a way. As John Lennon put it, "All you need is love.... love is all you need." Smart man, so take a lesson from the book of Beatles Rock and Roll, and a lesson from the History Book of The Knight Owl. Be patient. I hope my advice helped. Good luck.
-The Knight Owl
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Okay I am in love with this guy. We are friends but he doesn't know I like him. He is a year older than me but in the grade behind me.. ya not the smartest person and he is coming to my school next year. So, he thinks i'm hot but he doesn't like me. But I really like him do you know any way I could tell him and keep our friendship the way it is like not change it and do you know anyway i could maybe make him like me a little bit more (link)
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Heh, good god you're in a tight spot. Well, if you want to break the news to him, I suggest not springing it on him, guys hate the, "Surprise I'm in love with you." thing. Trust me, we hate it. You gotta ask him questions, prepare him for it, ask him, "Do you ever think we could be more than friends?" That's a good way to start the conversation, if he asks you why, then he's interested. That's when you give him the "I have a little confession..." speech. My advice? Make sure you do it, when its just the two of you hanging out together, he won't like being cornered, and you will make him feel that way if you ask him in public. That's the number one wrong move I've seen people make. I hope this has helped you in some way. Good luck, I'm rooting for you.
-The Knight Owl
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okay so there is this guy (grant) who is 16 (and im 15)that i have been talking to for about 3 n a half months and before school got out he told my best friend that he wanted to wait until summer to get with me that way he has more time to spend on me since hes busy w. school and now..its like he doesnt have enough time for me. i like him sOo much and he knows it but it seems like hes even more busy now that school is over. i dont know if i should wait for him or find somebody else but everytime i look at another guy i compare him to grant and there is just no 2nd place. some of my friends tell me that i should give up and my other friends tell me that i should wait but grant is everything that i ever wanted in a guy..HELP! (link)
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Well, if Grant is everything you ever wanted.... perhaps the best things in life are worth waiting for. Love, if that's what this is, is a game of patience. Let me cite to you an example, my friend, (we'll call her S) is in love with this guy, (let's call him P) Well, P has just joined the navy, five year term of service. S is absolutely broken up about this, but knows that she can't stop P from doing what he has to do. S loves P so much, that she is going to wait for him to finish up those five years. Now here's my advice, sit down and really think about Grant, if you think that something as serious as what my friend S has is possible with Grant, then go for it. Otherwise, you're just going to get hurt. I don't mean to sound so rough, but that's life. You only get one, so choose your long term interests carefully. I know you'll make the right decision. Good luck.
-The Knight Owl
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i cut myself a lot just to make the pain go away and i told one person and they told me to tell my parent but i dont want to i wanna stop but i cant its just hard i need help can someone tell me wat to do please (link)
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I don't see how cutting yourself will make the pain go away. All it does is create more problems, think about it. You cut yourself, people start thinking you're suicidal, people start paying more attention to you, only this is the back kind of attention. So, you do it again, people start suspecting their might be something wrong with you mentally, you get thrown in the mental hospital. You lose people's trust, and when you get out, people are still giving you that negative attention. So you become tempted to do it again. I've seen too many friends go down this road, just stop. Its the best thing, just stop. Take your mind away from the pain by doing other things, sports, some type of recreational activity I'm sure that you're going through a tough time. If you don't keep a journal, start, write down all of the bad things that happen in your life. Get them down on paper, atleast it will help you vent. I'm rooting for you, good luck.
-The Knight Owl
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ok well first of all i am 13 years old.
i dont see my boyfriend much at all, but i love him...and i guess im just afraid he's going to break up with me eventually if we continue not seeing eachother often...but i know he loves me, i just dont know what to do. (link)
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Well, try to spend more time with him, I know right now its hard especially in the summer, neither of you are old enough to drive so you can't just get up and go see each other. If you're in the same school, then come fall you'll be seeing a lot more of each other, but try to keep in contact with him. Call him, IM him, you know the usual. Good luck.
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Okay yeah i know i give advice all the time but this time i just need some...i have this friend and we use to be really close and everything but then she started to down grade my bf and yatta yatta so i still stayed friends with her and everything but then she just stopped talking to me and everything shes said one thing to me since her bday and everything and i mean i miss her friendship but is it worth going back to if all shes does is diss me and my bf and everything else? I dont know what to do Help please
Cassi (link)
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This is something I've seen many times, and while I've only been here a few days, I may be able to help you. Really, there is no easy way out. She's going to make you choose between her and your boyfriend. Perhaps she sees something in him you don't, who knows? But you need to talk to her, tell her that you miss being friends with her. Appeal to her sympathetic side and find out why she disses your boyfriend. But remember, keep your cool. Good luck.
The Knight Owl
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I want to get a pet SOOOO bad but i cant convince my parents ive done the research i have all the money i have threee of the best dogs to choose from but they still wont let me (link)
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Nothing you can do really, except keep nagging them. As long as you live under their roof its their rules. But keep asking, eventually they'll crack, they always crack. No parent can resist the torture, "Can we get a dog? Can we get a dog? Can we get a dog?" Repeated one million times. Muahahahahahahahaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa! Anyhoo, good luck.
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k i have this guy friend who im really close with named "JoE".."joe" tells me ALOT of his personal shit, and if he ever cheated on a girl, id be tha only person he would tell..but im starting to like him more than a friend and his other best guy friend told my other best guy friend that he liked me too. the problem is he seriously is SUCH a HUGE FLIRT..like hes all over every girl he knows even if he doesnt like them..but hes not like that with me ofcourse cause we are 2 close for that and i dont fall for that shit..he has a reputation of being a player, etc..im scared ill be his next "victim"..what should i dO (link)
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Stay clear. This is a major bomb shell. I wouldn't pursue this relationship unless you're not the jealous type. If you're the knid of person who is quick to jealousy then this isn't the guy for you. You'll be miserable, because he's going to keep flirting. But that's all it is, and you're not the jealous type then you're good to go. But be careful, because if you're so close to each other, you may not want to jeopardize that. You're still in high school, and high school relationships rarely last. And if you're planning on going to college, chances are, that if your relationship last until graduation it will die by second semester of college. Good luck, I hope my advice helped you.
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hey.i need help.im going out with my best friends brother.im not a bad person its just that if she eva found out she would kill me and our friendship would be ova wich means mine and my boyfriends relationship will be ova too cuz i wont be able to c him much.she is always tellin me that he isnt good enough for me but he really is.he is the sweetest peron.i hate hidding or relationship from her and keepin it a secret but i dont know what to do.i love both of them so much and i dont wanna loose them.Please i need some advice..anyone can help me.thanx so much. (link)
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You're between a rock and a hard place. The time may come when you'll have to choose, your best friend, or your boyfriend. There may be a way to circumvent this mess though. Be honest with her, sit her down, make sure she's comfortable, maybe over lunch or whatever. And then tell her, that you've been seeing her brother, and that you think it will get serious, but you want her approval first. Nine times out of ten, they will stop to think. Decide that this is really important to you, and its been really doing a number on your conscience. She may give you the okay, but I would try this. And remember, be sincere about it. If she sees that you're sincere she'll give it even more thought.
The Knight Owl
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okay ive liked this guy for like a year and i cant stop liking him...hes like perfect...and i want to stop liking him because I dont think I have any classes with him and I dont think I will see him a lot but ive been trying to not like him...and i just keep thinking about him all the time and how i like him so much...please give me advice on what to do... (link)
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Listen, if you don't stop thinking about him when you're 19 its gonna be REALLY hard. I've been IN LOVE with this one girl for years, I know its never gonna happen, but I can't seem to forget. If you want some advice, here it is find a boyfriend when school starts, someone you think you'll be happy with, I mean you're still young, and as you get older the seeing him out of school thing will get easier. But definately, try finding a boyfriend. Or, if you don't want a boyfriend, try doing some recreational activities, that's what I did. I took up fencing (sword fighting) and Martial arts. Now I'm a nationally ranked fencer and a black belt. The point is, it doesn't matter what you do, as long as you keep yourself busy. Soon, you'll be so caught up with school work and activities you won't have time for thinking about this guy. I hope I could impart some words of wisdom. Good Luck.
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ever since june two of my friends told me they didnt want to hang out with me anymore and wouldnt tell me why....now they tell everyone else not to talk to me for no reason and make up all these lies and tell people them....they tell me i wont let it go yet they're the ones who tell me to committ suicide and spread lies...they wont let it go...what should i do? (link)
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Personally, I'd fight fire with fire. But since they obviously have spread enough lies about you, people may see this as you just getting revenge. Just ignore it, you know they're not true, and your real friends will know that too. People are just idiots some times, don't let them get to you. You let them win that way. Be strong, good luck
-The Knight Owl
HOO!
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I am 15, about 5' 8" and only weigh 105lbs. I know that is really skinny or w/e and it's kinda scaring me. In a 1 year time period (from when I was 14 until 15.) I gained about 20 pounds. I went from being 95lbs to about 115lbs. I'm a dancer and didn't like that 115lbs, so I tried 2 lose just a lil weight 2 get down to 110lbs. I got 2 my goal and then stopped trying 2 lose weight, the only thing is, since then I seem 2 keep losing weight and now I'm @ 105lbs. Does any1 know wut's going on? (link)
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Your body is still burning fat. You're a dancer so you're burning some serious calories. Continue eating right, and stay active. Aside from that its perfectly normal. Trust me, I'm an athlete, and I've done my homework.
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ok i have this friend we are best of buds but he has this friend and she's cute i mean once i saw her at his party i was like "Hello, my name is..." well we hook up that night a couple of days later we are chillin at his house she's on my lap and his to my side while the other two were on the other couch...well, that night he told her that he loved her always has but was too shy to tell her...so i backed off because they've known each other for a long time while i've only just meet her...(they aren't dating offically yet)...so a week later me and her hung out and i'm so into her but i told my friend that i wouldn't do anything with her, becuase well he loves her...so this saturday which is tomorrow...me and her are hanging out and well i don't know if i can hold myself back, do you have any tips or suggestions for me? (link)
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Actually, yes. Keep your hands off for now, if it turns out that she likes you more than she likes him, she'll tell you. If its going to happen, its going to happen. Unless you know you're friend is going to hate you for going out with her then let it happen. But if he is going to hate you, then I suggest backing off. Not to be crude but my friend has a saying that he's always throwing out in jest, "Bros before hoes." Not that this girl is a hoe, but basically it means don't let a girl break up a friendship, its just poor ethics. Good luck man. I'm rooting for ya
-The Knight Owl
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Boyfriend/ Parents problems.. :/
Posted Sunday August 01 2004, 2:02 am
Hey, i've been going out with my boyfriend for about 8 months now and we both are 17. I don't really know his parents that well and i always just see them past and go. Like when we go to church and stuff. That's about the only time i ever see his parents and he's all the time hangin out with my family and going out to dinner and all. I've never once hung out with him and his family together sense we've been going out. The deal is.. when we started going out his parents said that he was changing like acting diff, his attitude *in a bad way* :/ and he didn't want to do anything around the house anymore. Well, his parents are really.. strict okay. So they called my parents up not even knowing me or my parents! And said there son was changing and all and they didn't want him to have a gf until he was 18! :-/ Well, this was like at the beginning of the year well everying has been fine sense then but just this past month they have been saying it again and they are telling him to break up with me.. :/? Is it me or what!? They don't even know me. We Love each other so much and we both are old enough to date and all.. but his parents are so freakin weird! I don't know what to do anymore. I've delt with so much sense i've been with him. I feel like an old married couple fighting with his parents about stupid stuff! :/ Maybe i should just be friends with him and see how things go on later.. i don't know. Can some one help me please! :( (link)
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Well this is difficult situation, you are between a rock and a hard place. Clearly, they can't force him to break up with you. And if you love each other as much as you say you do then you'll stay together through thick and thin. If he breaks up with you, because his parents told him to then how strong do you think your bond was? I don't mean to be so harsh, but a lot of people have fantasies about their high school sweet hearts, you're still young, but if and only if you can get through this together, then you have a great gift. Good luck and don't let the parents get to you. Don't break up with him unless you know he's starting to crack under the iron will of his parents. Good luck!
The Knight Owl
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My boyfriend and I are going to become sexually active soon and I just have one problem. I told him I'm a virgin and I'm really not. No one knows that I've had sex once before and I cannot tell him or anyone because of specific reasons. He's not a virgin either, but will he be able to tell I'm not? (link)
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Depends really on how much you were able to take the first time. If your hymen was broken, then yes. Other than that you'll all set. But I would tell him, but swear him to secrecy.
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hey umm...yeah I dated this girl and we broke up but afterwards we became friends really close friends the greatest of...i mean we were everywhere together...people thought we still went out, or i was stalking her...well anyways she's dating this guy, i don't know...they seem to doing good i hope that works out...I love her and she loves me but only as friends...well i scared her last night because i snapped at her nothing pysichal just you know, verbal, it was only a sentence but she saw my eyes and it was bad...i never wanted to scare her or hurt her in anyway but she's afraid of me and frankly i don't blame her we are patching things up but it's going to take a long time before she trusts me and won't be afraid....my question is this...how long do you think it's going to take? because this is horrible...thanks...(GL) ~H. Jordan (link)
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Well H. Jordan, trust is funny thing its hard to earn, easy to break, and once its broken it takes a long time to get it back. I'd be patient if I were you, let her know that you really feel bad about snapping at her. Constantly remind her even. I'd also send her some apology flowers. You are a gentleman after all. I'd say it will take about a month, maybe two before you're back to that level of trust, it may even be longer depending on what kind of person she is. Thanks for writing, I hope it works out for you.
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SORRY IT'S SO LONG, BUT I HAD TO SAY IT!!!!
STUFF SOME OF THE MODERATORS ARE SICK OF DEALING WITH (actually im speaking for myself, and i'm not sure but maybe a few others)
the people that ask to be rated, I usually rate them LOW, just because it seems like all they care about are ratings, and they aren't in it for the advice
the people who say I Rate, it's like they're so desperate, that they tell people that they rate, just so they can get better answers, WTF¿?
And what bugs me, are either the non-advice questions, like asking for a screen name(thats what you have friends for)
And, the people who ask the following, I like a guy, I'm Not sure if he likes me, What Should I Do? Uh Hello obvious, TELL HIM!!!
And people who say, My boy Friend wants to have sex, I'm not sure, I almost feel like I'm to young, what should I do? well thats easy, if u have to ask, then the answer's NO
The one thing that gets me is people who say admin please don't delete, HELLO that just makes the admin know that it's a Dumb question
All these repeats, and stupid I Rate, Rate me questions are SO ANNOYING, i just wanted to state that
sorry i know that it wasn't asking for advice, but i just felt like posting that, it just really gets on my nerves, i mean i have done that before, but i've realized how stupid it was!
by the way, if u wanna leave something in my inbox, like a rude reply to this, or just any question, then my name is SoUtHeRn_ChIcKeTy
i don't care if this gets deleted, i just HAD to post it!! (link)
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ugh, I haven't been here a long time, but some of those are actually advice questions to me. Something like my boyfriend wants to have sex, I think I'm too young. Perhaps they just want assurance. I do agree the I rate and rate me bullshit is just that. And the crap about screen names. Ugh, so dumb. But I think if someone is confused about the right age to start sexual exploration then they have a right to ask. And the I like this guy questions, some people don't know how to go about it the right way. That's the real reason they ask. Aside from that I agree with you.
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how do u deal with your parents judge your friends but they go to far with it.like i have a friend who has gone thru some problems but they are gone now but yet they dont let me even see her or talk to her or nething i dont understand n they are like ruining my life cuz she is the only one i have EVER been able to talk to u or hang wit what do i do they judge my friends n go way to far with it (link)
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Tell them, this is your friend, I mean, they really can't control your life. Tell them this, "If you really trust me, then trust me to make the right decisions in choosing my friends." As long as you haven't done anything to lose their trust you should be fine.
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I like this guy and he found i like him and but then told me he likes me! so i was really happy but then he didnt tlak to me for like 4 days and just like left me and then my friend tried calling him and he wasnt home but then he went online but he hasnt even asked me out yet! like we've both had a signifigant other before so its not like either or us arent allowed to date if he knows ill say yes why wont he just ask? we talk for like a long time! but he never mentioned our conversation of liking eachother agian? your a guy, do you understand this at all? please help!
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Its may be that he's shy, or he's waiting for you to ask him out. I couldn't tell you for sure, but if he's like me at all, then he's not sure if you were serious when you said that you liked him. I would confront him on it next time you talk to him. But he's probably not sure you'll say yes. I know that in the past there have been girls who say they like me, but if I asked them out they have someone else that they're waiting on. That may even be his case, but you won't know for sure until you confront him about it. Good luck, and thanks for writing.
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