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this one guy (my ex) got really annoying after we broke up and he broke up with me but he wont leave me alone. he is so annoying he tells me that he hates me all the time, he has even punched me many times and he doesnt get in trouble for it. my parents know that he is bothering me, but they dont know how much. there are so many problems in my life right now i just wanna cry some plz help me

First of all, you dont deserved to be hit no matter what the situation is. You should definately tell someone what he is doing to you. Maybe you could try talking to him on the phone or something and asking him why he says he hates you and what exactly he has against you. Either way, you SHOULDNT let this go on. You need to tell someone, whether it be your mom, or one of your friends. Please let me know if I helped!
~*Emily Ann*~

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im 13f n ive been going out with my boyfriend for almost three weeks now and we still havent kissed. he kisses me on the cheek all the time but thats it. is this going too slow?

Your only 13!! Maybe he just doesnt want to kiss you yet. Maybe hes just not comfortable with that. All i can tell you is maybe you should ask him if something is wrong or maybe you should just make the first move. Maybe he's waitin on you! Go ahead and try. Couldnt hurt!
*Emily*

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what does it mean when a guy says "he can't have a gf right now?" is that a way to let the girl down easy or is it the truth?!

I guess guys can use this in a lot of different ways. Yea, some guys use that because they arent really into you, but a lot of times, they really arent ready for a girlfriend. Maybe the guy is just getting over his old girlfriend, or maybe he just doesnt want to be tied down with another girlfriend right now. It could be a lot of different personal things. Maybe the guy is just not in a position to have a relationship with a girl.
*emily*

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I have a friend and his really special for me, his a guy. And I want to help him , cause I care for him. He smoke weed. I keep telling him to stop but he wont. what should I tell him to stop. Please help me.

Sometimes it can be hard to convince someone that smoking weed is dangerous. Honestly, there is no way to MAKE him stop. He just has to decide to do that on his own. All I can tell you to do would be to tell him about the dangerous things that could happen to him if he keeps doing it. If you really care about this guy, then you should try really hard to convice him~ not just let it go.
!*Emily*!

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Can any one tell me how to shut little sisters up and also i keep a diary and it's impossible to have any privesy in my house does any one have any good ideas to stop little brats getting their hands on my diary! Thanks for any suggestions Joolz (plus i rate high)

Ok~ i know exactly how you feel on this one. My little sister isnt as bad as she used to be, now that we have gotten older, but she used to snoop through my things all the time. I think it's just part of being a little sister or something. The first thing I learned to do was lock my door whenever I left~ you might try doing that. Oh, and if you have a diary, hide it somewhere thats absolutely impossible to find (not somewhere obvious). Try somewhere in your closet, like under some shoes or something. (Just make sure you put it there after you write in it every single time). Oh, and when you find out the answer as to how to shut up a little sister, please LET ME know on that one. lol!
*Emily*

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dear all males and any girl that has an idea,

what do guys like getting for valantines day?

Well, I am currently looking for something for my boyfriend. Guys always like homeade cards for Valentines Day. Another cute idea is getting a cute picture frame with a heart or something on it, and putting a picture of you and him in it. Or you could always cook him a cute little dinner and invite him over to eat~ that would be fun!
*Emily*

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i am like madly in love with my best friend. we've been friends for about 5 1/2 years. he's the coolest person ever and he is so nice and so cute and just generally amazing. pretty much everyone says he likes me too but i'm sort of afraid to say anything or make the first move. and if something does happen, then im afraid to loose the great relationship that we already have. help?

If your "madly in love with him" you need ask him how he feels about you. You need to ask him if he thinks it would mess up the friend relationship you are currently in if you two got involved in a boyfriend/girlfriend thing. He may feel the same way about you as you feel about him. Its really hard to say; My boyfriend and I were really good friends before we started going out, and it has only been better since we have been together. We have been together for 3 years, and rarely have problems. He is still my best friend and I love him to death. You just need to tell him how you feel about him and see what direction he thinks it should go! You gotta keep me updated on this one!
*Emily*

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do you believe in soul mates?

Yep! I think theres someone out there for everyone, who has just the same interests, thoughts, and feelings as you do. Some people spend a lot of time looking for one, and some are mislead and think that they have found theres, when in actuality it turns out to be something very different. I think it really just depends on your definition of a soul mate. I think everyone is capable of finding someone for themselves! So if you THINK you have found yours, you probably havent, because when you do find your soulmate, you will know it!
~*Emily*~

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do you think it is weird that a 17 year old is going out with a 13 year old, even if they love eachother more than anything in the world?

Definately not. I think that you can love anyone, no matter the age! It may be a little strange to others, but 13 and 17 really isnt that big of a difference. I mean, thats only four years. My boyfriend is a year younger than me, but I love him more than anything! So basically, age aint nothin but a number! lol!
~*Emily*~

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I have a boyfriend and we've been going out for 2 months and 1 week. I really like him and all..but sometime he bugs me so much!! I kind of miss being single and I dont know what to do..
and i dont want to break up with him...ugh..i'm sucha mess...please tell me your answer

Alright. We all know that having a boyfriend isnt as easy as being single. Theres a lot of things that change. You dont get as many freedoms, and you always have a guy worrying about where you are and what your doing.. Lets face it.. its nothing like being single. If the guy is bugging you, maybe you should just let him know that you need some space and he would back up a little bit. But, if you really think that you dont wanna be with the guy, then there is no reason for you to stay with him and be unhappy. You should just think about what would make you the happiest and go for it gurl!
*Emily*

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my top lip is bigger than my bottom lip. i dont know what to do about it and idont want to get surgery done because im only 14 years old. and im sorry but i am not going to the doctors either. so any advice on making my top lip a little bit smaller? thanks

Dont be so worried about it because chances are, your more paranoid about it than anything. What you think may seem like a huge deal really isnt. Others might not even notice it. Dont worry about it~some girls would kill to have full lips! Just be thankful gurlie!
*Emily*

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Im 13/f. I went out with this guy last summer but then we broke up. Recently I think that i made a mistake by breaking up with him. And i do want to go back out with him but he has a girlfriend now, but he told one of my friends that he likes me. What should I do?! Should I tell him how I feel? plz help!

Well, you cant believe everything you hear. Of course he may still like you, but you really shouldnt interfere with this guys relationship with this other girl. You should just give it time. If he truly likes you, he will break up with her and try to tell you how he feels. Just wait around for a little while and see what happens. Dont get too anxious! Let me know what happens!
!*Emily*!

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okay...well thier is this guy i that i really like. alot of people like him too! should i go for it or just forget about it?

You shouldn't just forget about it because someone else likes him. You have just a good a chance as anyone else. You shouldnt stop liking someone you like just because of someone else. I say go for it.. good luck! $*Emily*$

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well i have a lots of great friends, but they are all shit talkers, and so i just found out that my "best" friend was talking crap about me, and it was things that were so harsh that she even had a hard time saying time, now what do i do, should i confront her, or keep it until i need to use it?
help

Ok honey~ The first thing you have to learn when your a teenage girl is that no matter who you think your best friends are~ girls are girls~ and the majority of them are going to talk shit about everyone! The thing is, most girls dont have the nerve to say it to the person they are talking about. So why even say it in the first place? Anyway, I think you should definately confront her about all this. Ask her why she is talking shit and why she couldnt come up to you and say it to your face instead of being immature and saying it to other people behind your back! If they were really harsh things that were being said~ then shes not really a great friend. Most girls say stuff behind your back because they are bored with themselves or because they are just jealous, but they wont confront you about it. And when you ask them about it they wuss out! Trust me its happened to me, but this person didnt have the nerve to call me and say it to me (they called my sister) cough cough! I find it hillarious~~ I swear some girls never grow up! Take it from me there are some crazy bitches out there~ Just be yourself and thats all that matters! Hope I helped!
Emily

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ok, does any oen know any good ways to get rid of hiccups? and fast? and is it bad if i get hiccups on an almost daily basis? please help me out

Lol! I hate those damn things. I used to get them all the time just out of the middle of nowhere! They are caused by different breathing patterns~ so no, theres nothing wrong with you. They are really normal. This sounds crazy but it works..! Go get a glass of water, and put a paper towl over the top and drink the water through the paper towl! Drink the whole half glass without stopping and I swear your hiccups will be cured. You can also try eating a spoon of peanut butter; everyone says that works- but im not real sure about that! Hope I could help! Let me know!!
$*eMiLy*$

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i need help, there's this guy i met online and he keeps stalking me and im getting scared. it all started out when he asked me to invite him to my webcam and im like sorry no bye, then hes like im gonna hack into ur computer, and hes sending me messages saying i know where u live, ill send ppl to ur house and thell rape u, well get it on tape and im starting to get scared. is that possible? could he have hacked into my computer from yahoo messenger? can someone help please

Woah! Omg! Im sure its not anything to worry about because some people are dumb and just talk a lot of stuff, but then again there are a lot of sexual predators out there on the net. My advice to you is to tell your parents about it. Tell them everything he has said to you and make sure they check it out. Also, you need to be more careful and watch who you talk to~ there are some wierdos out there! ~*emily*~

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I got my first kiss wednesday and I want to be able to tell my mom and I want to be able to talk to her about things like that and I don't know what to do. Like what can i do so that my moms and mines relationship is stronger? and so i can tell her and talk to her about things like this.

Well, me and my mom have a pretty good relationship. It will be kinda wierd to just talk to her about some things at first, but it will get easier, and eventually you wont mind it. You think its going to freak you out to tell your mama that you have kissed a guy, but what you need to realize is that your mama was once your age, too and she had the same feelings you have right now. She will understand everything you have to say to her, because she was once in that position. And kissing someone isnt that big of a deal. Im sure she wont get mad or anything. I think you can make your relationship stronger with your mama by just talking to her on a personal level and considering her more as a friend than as your mom. Tell her whats bothering you and the situations that your in! Good Luck! Lemme Know! $*Emily*$

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me and my bf recently slept together and now i fink i mite be pregnant but im wondering can somebody under 16 have an abortion whitout their parents knowind thanx

Ok listen.. being pregnant is nothing to mess with. You shouldnt have an abortion just because your scared or you dont want your parents to know, because trust me, your parents would rather you tell them. You shouldnt kill a life just because of your stupidity! You need to stop and think about what your doing and not just look for the easiest way out. If you are grown up enough to do it, then your grown up enough to deal with the consequences.. And no, you cant do it yourself.. your not eighteen! gah $*emily*$

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My room is always messy and when I clean it up it just gets messy again! Im try to keep organized but it just never seems to work! What are some tips or things I can put in my room that will help me?

My rooms gets like that all the time. I clean it up and vaccum and dust it and everything and before the next day it will be a mess.. With clothes strown everywhere. If you try to make it a point to pick up your clothes and shoes and everything thats out of place at night, when you get home or before you go to bed, it wont get in such a mess as quickly. If you really wanted to keep it really clean, you could take a day to go through it and get rid of all the junk that you dont ever use, or that you dont want. That would help get rid of some of the excess stuff that compiles in there. But I know how you feel.. its really hard and takes a lot of time to clean your room, but it is so easy and doesnt take any time at all to mess it up. Just try to pick up as you go, when you use things.. just put them where they belong and that will keep you from having to do it later! Hope I could help! Lemme know if this works!! *$eM$*

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well, im turning 14 in february and i wanna go somewhere special with three of my friends... i live in miami(it might help if u knew that) any ideas where i can go???? thanxxxxxxxxx

Well~ Florida is awesome and I wished I lived there soo bad. I think you should just go to another place in Florida! Try Panama City Beach! Theres always something to do there and it never gets boring! Its so much fun! Theres all these different nightclubs, places to eat, and the beach is gorgeous there! Me my sister and some friends are about to leave to go up there Wednesday! Its awesome! Yall would have so much fun! $*!eMiLy!*$

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