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do you think it is weird that a 17 year old is going out with a 13 year old, even if they love eachother more than anything in the world?
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well here's the thing dude, am i right in thinking your from america. (seeing as your going on about all this illegal shit and going to colege and what not) anyway well im from england and its my brithday in 2 weeks, ill be 17 and my gf is thirteen at presant and will only turn 14 in march so theres basically only 3 years between us. i see no problem with the relationship as she's very mature for her age and we've been going out for lyk 6 months. the only real advice i can give you (speeking from experience here) is keep it slow thats what ive been doing coz if you really love this girl as i love my gf you will want to do anything to make her happy, kiss her, hold her. nothing more man i think if you complicate things it will die. as i said I see no problem with it but i swear everyone else will no one will accept that you could possibly love her but i know what its like so just turn the other cheek to all those people who do not have a heart and enjoy the time you spend together because if your like me then nothing can beat being with her. have fun and keep it alive. (i was asuming your a guy but i supose it would work the same way round if your not lol)
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yeah kinda
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i dont think its wierd. and i dont think that other people have the right to say that you cant love someone just because your young, you dont have to be 25 or up to be in love, not at all, but do think that both of you are young and you prob. wont stay together, 4 years isnt that far apart, but what about when the one goes to college and the other is just a young high schooler and when you are young you prob. do want to be dating a little closer to your age because of the things like school and all the other stuff thats gonna be happening in your life soon
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Yeah that`s pretty weird- sorry
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no ..nothings wrong with that at all.
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i don thnk so i mean if you realy realy luv each other and all, but some people might think its 2 big a age difference or a lil werd. Plus itll be illegal when u turen 18. ALso, i mean im 13 and all but du u htink its rly true itstru luv i mean 13 yr. olds, im one and all, sum rnt rly all da mature, but whatever you decide that
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I'm sorry but next year it's going to be illegal for you two to go out. Maybe even this year. There's only a 4 year difference so if you can wait a few years it can work out. My parents have a nine year difference. Just wait it out maybe life will be on your side. ♥ good luck
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You don't love eachother more than anything in the world. 13 year olds are nowhere near being able to do that, and even for a 17 year old you are stretching it.
It's just that simple.
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No. But then, I'm probably not the best person to answer that one....
However - in my opinion - it'll never last. You'll have to leave for college, or one of you will find someone else, or... whatever. You're both too young to have a lasting relationship. Not like it's impossible, but I'd put the odds at thousands to one against. Just make sure you get used to the idea, and that he/she knows too.
As a sidenote to those of you who say that 13 year olds don't know what love is, or who think for some reason that 13 year olds shouldn't be in a romantic relationship... you obviously don't remember being 13.
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just a little. for one not only is it almost illegal but at thirteen, most ppl dont know what love is. i think it is lust more then anything.
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Definately not. I think that you can love anyone, no matter the age! It may be a little strange to others, but 13 and 17 really isnt that big of a difference. I mean, thats only four years. My boyfriend is a year younger than me, but I love him more than anything! So basically, age aint nothin but a number! lol!
~*Emily*~
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yae cuz at 13 you really dont know what love is
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yea .. most 13 year olds dont even kno wat love is ..
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Yes. This is against the law in many states.
J
And in the states where it is legal, it is still creepy.
S
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Well if your a guy going wit a 13 year old girl its kinda sick.. but if your a 17 year old girl i dont exactly know wha you'd see in a lil boy but ok.. well if they mature and what not then i guess its okay.. you cant go to jail yet for it.. so i hope i helped ~*DEZ*~ thuggirl041790
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If these two people love each other more than anything in the world, then no, it's not weird that they are going out. Love is different for everyone. Yes, a 4 year age gap is quite big but it's not weird that they are going out. Hope I helped :)
-Karen
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I don't think it's weird, I think it's dangerous. In many places, it's also illegal for any normal romantic relationship activity to take place. The legal aspect alone puts a stress on the relationship and limits the avenues for support for both people. Everyone needs a support network - even in the best of all relationships people need friends they can talk about the relationship to.
Not to mention the lifestyle aspects. At 17, one is just entering the age that Western culture sets aside for exploration of the world and one's place within it. A 13 year old cannot participate in this exploration - s/he has neither the experiences of being a teenager, nor the freedom from oversight required. (If somehow the 13 year old does have the freedom from oversight required to participate in activities appropriate for a 17 year old, the child is a victim of neglect, and needs a parent, not an SO.)
An exclusive, long term (by the 17 year olds standards) relationship at 13 will stunt social and emotional growth. On this site for instance, we see young teens saying "I've been with him for a month already" as if that's a long time. For a 17 year old, a month isn't a long time - the relationship is still in it's beginning phase. For a 23 year old, a month of seeing someone nearly every day is about how long it takes to starting thinking about making it an official relationship, and at 27, you're still at wondering if a third date is worth the bother of getting dressed up.
There is almost nothing about a person that stays the same between the ages of 13 and 23. If the 17 year old really loves the 13 year old, s/he would do what's best for the child. That does not include an exclusive romantic relationship with a 17 year old.
The rest of this is based on the comment below that implies you have said elsewhere that the two of you are "soulmates".
It's possible that the two of you do love each other very much, and will make good mates for each other after you both finish growing up. Love is not enough to make a stable, functional relationship. The two of you need to grow as individuals before you can grow together as a couple.
When the two of you are 23 and 27, I will wholeheartedly support a decision for an exclusive romantic relationship. The most important part of a lasting relationship is that it's based on a firm friendship. If you really care about each other, stay friends, and support each other's age-appropriate growth.
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yah.
how can a 13 year old know what love is?
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hmmm..... make sure he doesnt pressure you into having sex too early. Be careful take care xxx
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I do not think it's weird for a 13 year old and a 17 year old to be going out. i think that if you really really love each other, go ahead, show our love! don't be afraid to ask him out or if ur already going out, then don't hold back on anything. My advice may not be the best, but it's all i could come uop with, sorry!
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no nothings really wrong with it it's just age but you guys will have alot of different point of views about everything and that can lead t oa fight or fights witch could lead to a break up.
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okay it all depends r u a guy going out with the 13 year old or a girl going out with the 13 year old?
But anyways...Age doesnt reeally matter. As long as its okay with the parents.
If u 2 are inlove ..... i saw hell yeah its ok. Gooood luck and have fun with eachother.
Hope i helped...
Christine
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umm....yes it is sort-of strange but if u love him i guess its okay
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umm yeah...it's okay if your older and you are 4 yrs apart no big deal..but im mean honstly..think it over
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Honestly - yes. The maturity differences between a 17 year old and a 13 year old are often very, very large. 4 years during the teenage years is a huge differnce. 4 years later in life is insignificant, but when that young, that is indeed a very big difference and people will question the relationship.
Dear moron - you quote to me about soul mates. At the age of 13 and 17, there is NO WAY IN HELL you'll know if you are soul mates or not. I'm sorry you didn't like what I had to say, but the thing is, I'm not wrong. You've got a hell of a lot yet to learn in life, you're going to find many things out, and your entire view of the world changes from the age of 13 to the time you get through college years at around 22/23. You'll be a totally different person.
I met the woman I married when I was 18. The thought of us spending our lives together forever didn't really finalize until we got engaged a few YEARS later.
I do not appreciate being berated for my advice when you clearly aren't willing to listen to what I had to say.
p.s. - Learn to spell.
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