It sounds like you, your friend and him are very, very confused. Not only did you and your friend allow a guy to come between the two of you, but both of you allowed this guy to play each of you more then once. This guy doesn't like you or your friend, he just likes drama. He is playing games with your emotions as well as with your friendship, and you sit back and allow him. He told you that everything he said to was just a joke, so why do you feel the need to be with someone who can play with your emotions and not even care? You need to get over this looser and try to repair your friendship with your friend.

Well, it is not always easy to break up with someone. No matter how nice you let your boyfriend down, he is still going to be hurt. I doubt seriously that you and him will maintain a friendship afterwards, because if you don't tell him that you broke up with him for someone else, then someone else is going to tell him for you. Hence, afterwards, he might really dispise you. I suggest that you be upfront with him. Tell him that you have tried, but you don't see him as anything more then a friend. Explain to him that you don't want to hurt his feelings anymore then what you have already done by stringing him along, and that if it was all right with him, you would like to still be friends with him.

I think it is a healthy choice and very mature of you to stick to your diet during a holiday. I always seem to break my diet on Thanksgiving and New Years. Tell your mom instead of giving you a lot of candy this year, to also add a stuffed animal and a CD. Then, the candy that you do get, you can give it to your younger siblings. Two positives here: You stick to your diet and you share with your siblings.

Whenever you are in any relationship, there is always a chance that you could get hurt. That is a risk that you have to take. Regardless of whether or not you tell him that you love him right now you still feel it, he could still break up with you and it will still hurt. Depending on how long you and him have been together, and how strong this feeling of love is, depends on when you should say it to him. Love is a funny thing. For some it comes really fast, and for others it can take weeks even months. You will know when the time is right to express your love for him. The perfect moment will come along, and you will feel that that moment is the right time. You will just have to risk getting hurt. It is better to love and be hurt, then never to have loved at all.

You should definitely say something to your snooty cousin. Family is family, and she has no right to act the way she does. Talk to your mother and/or other cousins about it, and ask them if they noticed the way she was acting. Pull her aside today before the party starts and let her know how you feel about the way she acted last night towards your family members. Let her know that she was being rude and really mean and made other people around her uncomfortable. Ask her why she feels the need to brag about everything and feel the need to be rude. It could be that your cousin is insecure about herself and her insecurity is coming off as snottiness. If she continues to be mean and/or rude to you, then avoid her as much as possible for the rest of her visit. Just because she wants to be nasty, doesn't mean that she has to ruin your time with the rest of your family.

There is nothing that you can do to get him back. It would be wrong of you to steal him from his current girlfriend, even if you could. You could get a reputation as a boyfriend stealer, and that will make other girls not like you. Remember that he dumped you and then chose to go out with someone else. The only thing that you can do is to remain his friend. If it was meant to be, he will come back to you.

From what you have told me here, it sounds like this guy really does like you. You can tell by the subtle hints that he keeps throwing you. For one, he takes he time to show you extra attention at school. Secondly, he does little weird things to get your attention. Third, he offers to do polite things for you. It seems that his statement in the beginning, 'I don't really know you.', is changing to 'I want to get to know you.' I suggest that you remain friends with him for a few more weeks, and ask him for his phonenumber so you can get to know him even better. Then once you are really comfortable with him, just asks him how he feels about you. Tell him that you feel that you and him are connecting besides just being friends and you want to know if he feels the same way about you. Let him know that you are willing to give him more time to get to know you if that is what he needs. There is a lot of flirting going on, and I think that a relationship here could be possible.

The best thing to do in this situation is to ask your friend straightforwardly what is up with her new attitude towards her. Maybe you did something to her that offended her in some way, and you just don't know about it. Don't beat around the bush with her. If you want to stay friends with her, ask her now.

Noone online can tell you if you have an STD or not, that should be left up to the doctor to determine. Seeing as you are only 15, your parents probably don't know that you are having sex. You have one of two options.

01. Tell your parents that you had sex, and you think that you need to see a doctor. OR
02. Go to your local health clinic and be tested for STD's. A health clinic is free, and it keeps all of your information private. Meaning your parents will not be able to find out anything.

And from now on, when you decide to engage in sex, make sure that you use a condom and that you know your partner very well. A lot of guys carry STD's and don't know about them because there are no real visible symptoms for males.

The only way to stop the fire is to put out the flame. You heart your ex-bestfriend a lot by dating her ex, so therefor she is trying to make you feel like she feels. The only thing to do in this situation is to go to the source of the problem, you ex-BF, and talk to her. Ask her why she feels the need to spread nasty and untrue rumors about you. Explain to her that her efforts of breaking you and him up are not working, and that if she wants to go around making herself look childish and jealous, then that is fine with you. You can't stop someone from spreading rumors about you, but you can get back your dignity by letting them know that their words don't hurt you. If the people you are talking to are you and her's mutual friends, then they already know that these rumors are untrue and that she is just being spiteful. Your reputation is fine, and there is nothing here that will haunt you. You know how you are, your boyfriend knows how you aer, and your true friends know how you are, and that should be all that matters.

This sounds like a sticky situation. And what I am about to say may not make much sense, but this is exactly how guys think. (I asked a male friend about this not too long ago.) Guys don't mind when they talk to another girl, because they know that they don't want to be with them because of who they have in their life right now. (Meaning you.) But guys do get jealous when a guy talks to their girlfriend because they know how a single guys mind works. He is insecure that whatever guy you are talking to might impress you more, therefor changing your feelings towards him. (See, I told you that would be confusing.)

You need to sit down with your boyfriend face-to-face and have a talk with him. Reassure him that the only person that you want to be with is him, but there is nothing wrong with you having guy friends. Let him know how you feel when you see him talking to another girl. Tell him if he wants you to show him respect by not talking to guys that tried to break ya'll up, then he should be willing to show you respect and not talk to other girls that tried to break ya'll up.

You should never feel like another girl is above you in your relationship. Explain this to him also. Tell him that you realizes that he loves you, but you don't like his jealousy. Tell him what you need from him, (affection, love, etc...). If after this talk, he still doesn't change, then leave him alone where he needs to be, and find a guy that will show you all of the affection you need.

Yes, it is a chat room where you talk, and the number in parenthesis is the number of people in the chatroom.

You shouldn't believe what comes out of his friends mouth. If this guy hasn't told you directly that he isn't looking for a relationship, then I suggest that you continue to go with the flow. You have no reason to be confused, just keep enjoying his company like you are doing now. He obviously has feelings for you if he wants to spend a lot of his time with you. Not to mention that he kissed you too. It looks like this guy wants to take things slow, and you should follow his lead. It never hurts to ask him how he feels about you though, and whether or not he sees the two of you as being a couple. Just ask him openly and honestly how he feels about you.

There is nothing that you can do to feel unguilty. What you did was disrespectful to your boyfriend and very disrespectful to yourself. You shouldn't be pressured into doing anything sexual because everyone else is doing it. And IF your boyfriend was there, what kind of person is he to let you do that? Your feelings of grossness might go away with time, but for now you have to deal with the consequences of what you did. I guess tasting the "rainbow" wasn't so fun afterall.

I think that he definitely wants to kiss you. Some guys are shy when it comes to things like that, and he could be one of those shy guys. He already threw you a hint when he said I wonder how well I can kiss. So, on your date tonight, when you feel the mood is right, tell him I wonder how good you can kiss, want to show me? It is okay for the girl to make the first move.

I say that you keep your walls white, and add a lot of black and white posters, artwork, and photos to your wall. I have seen a lot of bedrooms that are red, black and white, and they look awesome. To make your bed go with your walls, throw some zebra print or black & white pillows on the bed. Add a black and white throw rug on the floor. Take off the red lampshade and replace it with a black and/or white one. You can use black photo frames on your black and white pictures to make it stand out even more. But your mom is right, pink would clash with your entire decore.

I am so sorry to be blunt with you hun, but you sound really desperate. You have done everything you can possibly think of to get your ex to like you, and he still rejects you. He doesn't have any intentions involving you other then to be your friend. You can't throw yourself all over a guy, and expect him to want you when he has no interest in you. He has told you out right that he doesn't want to like you again, so why do you still pursue him? I suggest that you stop talking on the phone with him for hours, and find another guy that is interested in you to talk on the phone with. It is best that you leave him alone, and find someone who is more deserving of your time.

Saying he cares and acting like he cares are two different things. Your boyfriend sounds like a jerk. You can't make someone say sweet things to you if it is not in them. You said so yourself that he treats you badly. Well, if he treats you so bad, then why do you want to remain in a relationship with him? It looks like you and him need to break up for good, and you need to find yourself a new boyfriend, someone who will love you and show you that he loves you. How dare he allow another girl to do to him what he won't let you, his girlfriend, do to him. There is nothing that you can do to make him appreciate you better. Your best bet is to leave him alone and open up the doorway for someone more deserving to come in.

I did some research on the internet, and here is what I found out:

On condoms in water...
Condoms are processed and tested in aqueous environments, and at temperatures in excess of comfort level for human contact, without damage. If the condom remains on the penis, it will be as safe and effective in the water as in more conventional situations. If for some reason being under water makes the condom come off, or water seep in, of course it cannot do its job. It is important to remember also that some bath oils or similar substances may be harmful to latex.
www.justrubbers.com

Condoms are perfectly safe to use in water, whether in the shower or submerged (though I would suggest putting them on before you get in the shower, pool, ocean, submarine ... or whatever). The bigger issue is that having sex in water can be a little tricky because the lubrication (whether natural or synthetic) tends to get rinsed away. If you don't have enough lubrication, the friction can wear down the condom and cause it to break. So what I would recommend is that you explore lubricants that are silicone-based. These lubricants do not rinse away easily from just water, yet are perfectly safe when used with latex.
www.mypleasure.com

Condoms made just for water...
No, from my research I found out that there are not condoms made just for water, but that if used properly, regular condoms can be used in water.

I hope this helped you.

I feel your pain hon, and I am so sorry that you are going through a really emotional time right now with someone you love. I think, for now, that it is better that the two of you do take a break from each other. It seems like there is a lot of emotional strain in this relationship, and it would do wonders for both of you if you all just cooled down for a bit. And as hard as this next bit of advice might be, you should consider doing it. I think that you should also cut out the amount of time that you and him spend together, either in person or on the phone. He sounds really confused about how he feels for you, hence his frequent need to contradict himself. Give him space to figure out what he wants and how he feels, and in the mean time, you do the same.

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